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12 Indicators You’re Emotionally Intelligent

12 Indicators You’re Emotionally Intelligent

Emotional intelligence is a significant quality in most successful people as it helps you build interpersonal and social relationships. When probed it was discovered that high achievers have high emotional intelligence. While some may not be aware of these indicators that can prove how emotionally intelligent they are, it is important to know that these elements could be what determines how successful you can become.

1. You are able to give and expect nothing in return

Emotionally intelligent people are able to connect with others because they can offer a piece of their time, energy or resources without expecting returns. Acting this way tends to make a powerful impression on others and help them gain powerful connections.

2. You don’t hold grudges

The desire to seek revenge and get back at someone who has wronged you can be powerful enough to create a negative effect on your health and emotions. Emotionally intelligent people are aware of this fact and they understand that it yields no benefit to hold grudges when the other person poses no imminent threats.

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3. You can be grateful for what you have

By being grateful you improve your mood and you are more positive to take on new goals and challenges. Showing such appreciation for what they have helps them to be more beneficial to their environment.

4. You don’t take yourself or others too seriously

You understand your limitations and you also understand the limitations of others. You are not a perfectionist and you don’t expect others to be. Rather blaming others or firing back at them for their mistakes, they roll up their sleeves and try to fix the problems before them.

5. You can disconnect

You understand how to create a balance between work and life. You understand that to become more productive and reach more goals you have to take breaks and avoid any stresses that will put a dent on your mental and emotional health.

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6. You are curious

You are always in search for answers and knowledge. You believe that you are not good enough and for everything around you an improvement can be made. This makes others to be attracted to your positive energy as they see possibilities rather than impossibilities with you.

7. You can adapt

You don’t claim to be the victim of change rather you are always adjusting to meet with change. You understand that change is a certainty and you only have to be part of this wheel that keeps on moving.

8. You take care of your physical and mental well being

You appreciate the vehicle to your success, which is your body. Thus you can take care of it by getting enough rest, eating right and maintaining healthy relationships.

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9. You can avoid toxic people

You understand that it takes a lot of effort to manage the problems or situations caused by toxic people. You know that it can be frustrating to approach whatever they put forward rationally, so you improve on your skill on not allowing them to have any hold on you.

10. You are self aware

You know your strengths and your weaknesses. You know the environment or situation that can improve your success and those that won’t. Having such knowledge helps you in taking full advantage of those things that will boost your success.

11. You are either committed or not

Emotionally intelligent people don’t sit on the fence. It is either you are into something or out of it. By sitting on the fence or creating such an impression you are unable to commit yourself to purposeful tasks. This leads to a large amount of stress and doesn’t help you channel your energy properly.

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12. You can delay gratification

You are disciplined enough to say no to those things that really don’t fit into your priorities. You delay gratification and avoid rash and impulsive actions. This keeps you in the clear and makes you more purpose driven.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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