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12 Indicators You’re Emotionally Intelligent

12 Indicators You’re Emotionally Intelligent

Emotional intelligence is a significant quality in most successful people as it helps you build interpersonal and social relationships. When probed it was discovered that high achievers have high emotional intelligence. While some may not be aware of these indicators that can prove how emotionally intelligent they are, it is important to know that these elements could be what determines how successful you can become.

1. You are able to give and expect nothing in return

Emotionally intelligent people are able to connect with others because they can offer a piece of their time, energy or resources without expecting returns. Acting this way tends to make a powerful impression on others and help them gain powerful connections.

2. You don’t hold grudges

The desire to seek revenge and get back at someone who has wronged you can be powerful enough to create a negative effect on your health and emotions. Emotionally intelligent people are aware of this fact and they understand that it yields no benefit to hold grudges when the other person poses no imminent threats.

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3. You can be grateful for what you have

By being grateful you improve your mood and you are more positive to take on new goals and challenges. Showing such appreciation for what they have helps them to be more beneficial to their environment.

4. You don’t take yourself or others too seriously

You understand your limitations and you also understand the limitations of others. You are not a perfectionist and you don’t expect others to be. Rather blaming others or firing back at them for their mistakes, they roll up their sleeves and try to fix the problems before them.

5. You can disconnect

You understand how to create a balance between work and life. You understand that to become more productive and reach more goals you have to take breaks and avoid any stresses that will put a dent on your mental and emotional health.

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6. You are curious

You are always in search for answers and knowledge. You believe that you are not good enough and for everything around you an improvement can be made. This makes others to be attracted to your positive energy as they see possibilities rather than impossibilities with you.

7. You can adapt

You don’t claim to be the victim of change rather you are always adjusting to meet with change. You understand that change is a certainty and you only have to be part of this wheel that keeps on moving.

8. You take care of your physical and mental well being

You appreciate the vehicle to your success, which is your body. Thus you can take care of it by getting enough rest, eating right and maintaining healthy relationships.

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9. You can avoid toxic people

You understand that it takes a lot of effort to manage the problems or situations caused by toxic people. You know that it can be frustrating to approach whatever they put forward rationally, so you improve on your skill on not allowing them to have any hold on you.

10. You are self aware

You know your strengths and your weaknesses. You know the environment or situation that can improve your success and those that won’t. Having such knowledge helps you in taking full advantage of those things that will boost your success.

11. You are either committed or not

Emotionally intelligent people don’t sit on the fence. It is either you are into something or out of it. By sitting on the fence or creating such an impression you are unable to commit yourself to purposeful tasks. This leads to a large amount of stress and doesn’t help you channel your energy properly.

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12. You can delay gratification

You are disciplined enough to say no to those things that really don’t fit into your priorities. You delay gratification and avoid rash and impulsive actions. This keeps you in the clear and makes you more purpose driven.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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