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12 Indicators You’re Emotionally Intelligent

12 Indicators You’re Emotionally Intelligent

Emotional intelligence is a significant quality in most successful people as it helps you build interpersonal and social relationships. When probed it was discovered that high achievers have high emotional intelligence. While some may not be aware of these indicators that can prove how emotionally intelligent they are, it is important to know that these elements could be what determines how successful you can become.

1. You are able to give and expect nothing in return

Emotionally intelligent people are able to connect with others because they can offer a piece of their time, energy or resources without expecting returns. Acting this way tends to make a powerful impression on others and help them gain powerful connections.

2. You don’t hold grudges

The desire to seek revenge and get back at someone who has wronged you can be powerful enough to create a negative effect on your health and emotions. Emotionally intelligent people are aware of this fact and they understand that it yields no benefit to hold grudges when the other person poses no imminent threats.

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3. You can be grateful for what you have

By being grateful you improve your mood and you are more positive to take on new goals and challenges. Showing such appreciation for what they have helps them to be more beneficial to their environment.

4. You don’t take yourself or others too seriously

You understand your limitations and you also understand the limitations of others. You are not a perfectionist and you don’t expect others to be. Rather blaming others or firing back at them for their mistakes, they roll up their sleeves and try to fix the problems before them.

5. You can disconnect

You understand how to create a balance between work and life. You understand that to become more productive and reach more goals you have to take breaks and avoid any stresses that will put a dent on your mental and emotional health.

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6. You are curious

You are always in search for answers and knowledge. You believe that you are not good enough and for everything around you an improvement can be made. This makes others to be attracted to your positive energy as they see possibilities rather than impossibilities with you.

7. You can adapt

You don’t claim to be the victim of change rather you are always adjusting to meet with change. You understand that change is a certainty and you only have to be part of this wheel that keeps on moving.

8. You take care of your physical and mental well being

You appreciate the vehicle to your success, which is your body. Thus you can take care of it by getting enough rest, eating right and maintaining healthy relationships.

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9. You can avoid toxic people

You understand that it takes a lot of effort to manage the problems or situations caused by toxic people. You know that it can be frustrating to approach whatever they put forward rationally, so you improve on your skill on not allowing them to have any hold on you.

10. You are self aware

You know your strengths and your weaknesses. You know the environment or situation that can improve your success and those that won’t. Having such knowledge helps you in taking full advantage of those things that will boost your success.

11. You are either committed or not

Emotionally intelligent people don’t sit on the fence. It is either you are into something or out of it. By sitting on the fence or creating such an impression you are unable to commit yourself to purposeful tasks. This leads to a large amount of stress and doesn’t help you channel your energy properly.

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12. You can delay gratification

You are disciplined enough to say no to those things that really don’t fit into your priorities. You delay gratification and avoid rash and impulsive actions. This keeps you in the clear and makes you more purpose driven.

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Last Updated on February 19, 2020

15 Positive Thinking Books You Need for a Happy Life

15 Positive Thinking Books You Need for a Happy Life

Books give us the opportunity to live vicariously through the lives of people with greater wisdom than ourselves. They stimulate our brains and help us not only solve the problems we struggle with, but also motivate and inspire us with new ideas.

One of the great things about people who think positively and live happy lives is that they love to help others do the same. There are countless positive-thinking books and these 15 are a great way to help you start living a happy life.

1. Man’s Search For Meaning by Victor E. Frankl

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    This book goes through the horrific struggle of Viktor Frankl who survived holocaust concentration camps. The only thing that kept him going was his idea that everything, even the worst of human suffering, had to have meaning. If you’re struggling through anything in your life, I guarantee the words of Viktor will give you courage to press on and find happiness.

    2. Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom

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      What is life’s greatest lesson? Morrie, a retired professor with a fatal disease, opts to use his predicament to share that message as opposed to just giving up and dying. Following the last few months of Morrie’s life will help you realize what is truly important in life.

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      3. The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch

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        Similar to Tuesdays with Morrie, Randy is a college professor who finds he has a fatal disease with only a few months to live. It is customary for professors at his university (Carnegie Mellon) to give a final lecture with the basis of ‘what wisdom would you impart to a large group of people if it was your last chance?’ Randy stays incredibly positive throughout and even keeps the lecture humorous and entertaining. Amidst it all, his wisdom is a powerful reminder about how to live a happy, full life.

        4. Earning Freedom by Michael Santos

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          Michael Santos was sentenced to 45 years is prison for selling drugs. During his term he fought hard to earn a masters degree and half of a doctorate (halted by the warden) while writing numerous books educating students about the criminal justice system. This book provides a fascinating window into his entire sentence (released in 2012) and how a positive attitude and strong work ethic got him through it. If he found happiness in prison through positive thinking, we can do it anywhere.

          If you don’t have the attention span to finish a long book, the following quick reads are shorter but just as powerful.

          5. The Little Engine That Could by Watty Piper

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            This book has shaped childrens’ minds for years. It illustrates the undeniable fact that when you think positively and believe in yourself, you can accomplish extraordinary things.

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            6. The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein

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              Happiness is found in giving. What does it mean to love someone? What would you sacrifice for someone you love? This children’s book teaches a valuable lesson about unconditional love and what it truly means to be happy.

              7. The Dash by Linda Ellis and Mac Anderson

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                “When your life is over, everything you did will be represented by a single dash between two dates—what will that dash mean for the people you have known and loved?” (Linda Ellis) We don’t choose a lot of things about our life – parents, birthplace, etc. – but we can choose what that dash between those two dates means. This short book will give you a great perspective on making your life worthwhile.

                8. As a Man Thinketh by James Allen

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                  “The outer conditions of a person’s life will always be found to be harmoniously related to his inner state… Men do not attract that which they want, but that which they are.” (James Allen) This book might be short, but it is jam-packed with statements that will make you stop and think. We truly become what we think we are. Negative thoughts affect us more than we know. Positive thinking = happy life.

                  9. A Million Miles in a Thousand Years by Donald  Miller

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                    You are the author of your story. No matter how boring or dull your life has been, you can always turn it around. Donald was in a rut in his life. He had no desire to get out of bed and found himself questioning the meaning of life. Eventually he realized he wasn’t a slave to a pre-written script. He used that mindset to turn around his thoughts, actions, and life. When the closing credits roll on the story of your life, what will people say? Never forget that you have the power to push your limits and live an interesting, happy life.

                    10. The Traveler’s Gift by Andy Andrews

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                      The Traveler’s Gift is a fictional story about a man who is overwhelmed with life and finds himself thrown into numerous true events from history – including Abraham Lincoln’s Gettysburg Address. He interacts and learns important life lessons from seven different experiences. The book is full of ways to think more positively and find more success in life.

                      11. David and Goliath by Malcolm Gladwell

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                        Malcolm Gladwell motivates you to challenge your preconceptions of underdogs and misfits in this thought-provoking book. When you break down the facts in the story of David and Goliath from the Bible, you find that David really wasn’t an underdog at all – he was the one with the advantage. This book outlines story after story after story of people who were at a disadvantage and learned to find the strength in their weakness.

                        12. How Will You Measure Your Life by Clayton M. Christensen

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                          How would you feel if you got to the end of your life only to realize you had been measuring success wrong? Clayton provides a mass amount of wisdom and advice on how to live a life you won’t regret.

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                          13. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff by Richard Carlson

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                            The small things we worry about every day may not seem like a big deal, but they wear us down slowly and stop us from living up to our full potential. Learn how to get rid of those worries and negative thoughts and live a happier life.

                            14. Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

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                              C.S. Lewis, who used to be an Atheist, explains how he came to find meaning in life through Christianity. He breaks down all the reasons we doubt and falter in life and how living the principles of Christianity fixes our weaknesses. Lewis is famous for his deep, thought-provoking quotes and this book is no exception.

                              15. Bushido: The Way of the Samurai by Tsunetomo Yamamoto

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                                Bushido is based on the Hagakure, a document that served as the basis for samurai warrior behavior. The document’s purpose was to shape the mind and the spirit of the samurai warrior.

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