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12 Easy Ways To Boost Your Confidence

12 Easy Ways To Boost Your Confidence
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We all have had days in which our confidence has decreased steadily. Regardless of the day, it is vivid in our imagination because we felt a sense of loss of control over something.

Listen to the little voice inside your head telling you to do something about that lack of that self-confidence. Before it gets too difficult to handle, it’s up to you to do something about it.

Luckily there are 12 simple things that will help you in your everyday life and give you the tools you need to regain that confidence, or boost.

1. Believe In Yourself

The old adage proves itself yet again. When you believe in yourself and hold your head up high, things automatically start falling in their respective place. If you believe internally, things will work out externally at the same given token.

If you lose confidence, maneuver in the category of self-doubt, you set yourself up for failure. You are perfect, and do not need to change for anyone else.

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    2. Exercise And Stay Active

    As the saying goes, “a healthy mind stays in a healthy body.” Make the most of your spare time by staying active. You have time to kill – use it to improve your health by going to the gym.

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    The gym has an excellent environment to help you kill off those extra calories that you added at lunch time. If the gym is not an option, stretch or do a bit of yoga, which is beneficial to the body, soul and mind.

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      3. Remain Positive To Stay Happier Longer

      As a human being, it is easy to lose track of time, and wander in the direction of negative flow. Break free, and initiate positive thinking instead. Not only will you feel lighter, but you will achieve a greater sense of happiness.

      If you sense that you are thinking negatively give yourself a pep talk – a one on one self-talk. Defeat “I can’t do this” by saying “I can and will do this.”

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        4. Take Good Care Of Yourself

        Grooming is an integral part of daily life. Never feel awkward; on the contrary, paying attention to appearance has shown to lead to a major boost in overall confidence, motivation, and personal satisfaction. Next time, take the extra hour to straighten your hair or put on a fragrance.

        You will surely feel your confidence rise sky high!

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          5. Remember That Perfection Is A Big Myth

          Remind yourself imperfection is allowed because we are all imperfect people. While one person may be able to sing well, another person may dance really well. That does not mean you are at fault or inferior in any way.

          It just goes to show that all of us are different and rightly so. Creativity at its’ best in other terms is what makes the world go around.

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            6. Eat Nutritiously And Healthy

            If you start taking care of nutrition, food intake, and calorie-intake, you will start to notice that you feel better about yourself. The more responsibility you show towards yourself, a greater sense of achievement will arise.

            Make sure to eat a large breakfast, light lunch and dinner. If you get hungry between the designated meal times, eat healthy snacks like almonds or cashews.

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              7. Negativity Shall Be Far Away In A Distant Land

              Negativity is something none of us like nor want to be around. If you have negative people in the family, start hanging around them less, and take time out for meaningful people who share similar values.

              This will definitely trigger and boost self-confidence in you!

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                8. Speak Out For What You Believe In

                If you are shy, and hold back thoughts and feelings, stop doing so. Studies show those that hold back their true opinions are less confidence than people opting to speak out and tell others what they believe in. Be confident, be strong, and respect your opinions because they count.

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                  9. Never Lose Hope

                  Everything does not happen in one day, rather it takes a lot of time for progress to take place. A change a day can make the big difference when it comes to overcoming that lack of confidence. Never feel as if you are not going to achieve the target because small efforts take time to culminate into something much more larger.

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                    10. Keep A Journal Of Progress

                    If you feel you did something significant to have added to your sense of self-confidence, jot it down in a journal or notebook. This way you can track the progress you have made, and see what else needs to be done to further it.

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                      11. Expect Days Of Losing Confidence

                      We are not perfect people and were never meant to be. So, instead of saying that everyday has to be bright and shiny with a chance of 100% confidence, keep it down to moments of displaying such confidence. In this way, you will never have pressure hovering around you.

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                        12. Commit Yourself

                        The hardest part is committing yourself to this hard task. No one said it was easy, but in the long run, you will thank yourself. Confidence is key to winning life’s toughest battles. You make it your next target, and you will be much happier, and content.

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                          How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

                          How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)
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                          You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

                          Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

                          Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

                          Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

                          1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

                          According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

                          “Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

                          Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

                          Warming up

                          If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

                          If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

                          Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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                          1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
                          2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
                          3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

                          Stay hydrated

                          Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

                          To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

                          Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

                          Meditate

                          Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

                          Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

                          Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

                          Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

                          2. Focus on your goal

                          One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

                          Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

                          Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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                          Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

                          If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

                          3. Convert negativity to positivity

                          There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

                          ‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

                          It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

                          Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

                          Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

                          Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

                          4. Understand your content

                          Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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                          However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

                          “No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

                          Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

                          Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

                          One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

                          5. Practice makes perfect

                          Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

                          In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

                          Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

                          6. Be authentic

                          There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

                          Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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                          Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

                          To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

                          With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

                          Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

                          7. Post speech evaluation

                          Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

                          Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

                          We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

                          You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

                          Improve your next speech

                          As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

                          Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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                          • How did I do?
                          • Are there any areas for improvement?
                          • Did I sound or look stressed?
                          • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
                          • Was I saying “um” too often?
                          • How was the flow of the speech?

                          Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

                          If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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