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12 Easy Ways To Boost Your Confidence

12 Easy Ways To Boost Your Confidence

We all have had days in which our confidence has decreased steadily. Regardless of the day, it is vivid in our imagination because we felt a sense of loss of control over something.

Listen to the little voice inside your head telling you to do something about that lack of that self-confidence. Before it gets too difficult to handle, it’s up to you to do something about it.

Luckily there are 12 simple things that will help you in your everyday life and give you the tools you need to regain that confidence, or boost.

1. Believe In Yourself

The old adage proves itself yet again. When you believe in yourself and hold your head up high, things automatically start falling in their respective place. If you believe internally, things will work out externally at the same given token.

If you lose confidence, maneuver in the category of self-doubt, you set yourself up for failure. You are perfect, and do not need to change for anyone else.

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    2. Exercise And Stay Active

    As the saying goes, “a healthy mind stays in a healthy body.” Make the most of your spare time by staying active. You have time to kill – use it to improve your health by going to the gym.

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    The gym has an excellent environment to help you kill off those extra calories that you added at lunch time. If the gym is not an option, stretch or do a bit of yoga, which is beneficial to the body, soul and mind.

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      3. Remain Positive To Stay Happier Longer

      As a human being, it is easy to lose track of time, and wander in the direction of negative flow. Break free, and initiate positive thinking instead. Not only will you feel lighter, but you will achieve a greater sense of happiness.

      If you sense that you are thinking negatively give yourself a pep talk – a one on one self-talk. Defeat “I can’t do this” by saying “I can and will do this.”

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        4. Take Good Care Of Yourself

        Grooming is an integral part of daily life. Never feel awkward; on the contrary, paying attention to appearance has shown to lead to a major boost in overall confidence, motivation, and personal satisfaction. Next time, take the extra hour to straighten your hair or put on a fragrance.

        You will surely feel your confidence rise sky high!

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          5. Remember That Perfection Is A Big Myth

          Remind yourself imperfection is allowed because we are all imperfect people. While one person may be able to sing well, another person may dance really well. That does not mean you are at fault or inferior in any way.

          It just goes to show that all of us are different and rightly so. Creativity at its’ best in other terms is what makes the world go around.

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            6. Eat Nutritiously And Healthy

            If you start taking care of nutrition, food intake, and calorie-intake, you will start to notice that you feel better about yourself. The more responsibility you show towards yourself, a greater sense of achievement will arise.

            Make sure to eat a large breakfast, light lunch and dinner. If you get hungry between the designated meal times, eat healthy snacks like almonds or cashews.

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              7. Negativity Shall Be Far Away In A Distant Land

              Negativity is something none of us like nor want to be around. If you have negative people in the family, start hanging around them less, and take time out for meaningful people who share similar values.

              This will definitely trigger and boost self-confidence in you!

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                8. Speak Out For What You Believe In

                If you are shy, and hold back thoughts and feelings, stop doing so. Studies show those that hold back their true opinions are less confidence than people opting to speak out and tell others what they believe in. Be confident, be strong, and respect your opinions because they count.

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                  9. Never Lose Hope

                  Everything does not happen in one day, rather it takes a lot of time for progress to take place. A change a day can make the big difference when it comes to overcoming that lack of confidence. Never feel as if you are not going to achieve the target because small efforts take time to culminate into something much more larger.

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                    10. Keep A Journal Of Progress

                    If you feel you did something significant to have added to your sense of self-confidence, jot it down in a journal or notebook. This way you can track the progress you have made, and see what else needs to be done to further it.

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                      11. Expect Days Of Losing Confidence

                      We are not perfect people and were never meant to be. So, instead of saying that everyday has to be bright and shiny with a chance of 100% confidence, keep it down to moments of displaying such confidence. In this way, you will never have pressure hovering around you.

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                        12. Commit Yourself

                        The hardest part is committing yourself to this hard task. No one said it was easy, but in the long run, you will thank yourself. Confidence is key to winning life’s toughest battles. You make it your next target, and you will be much happier, and content.

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                          How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

                          How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

                          They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

                          In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

                          How to Spot Fake People?

                          When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

                          Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

                          1. Full of Themselves

                          Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

                          Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

                          2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

                          Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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                          It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

                          3. Zero Self-Reflection

                          To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

                          Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

                          4. Unrealistic Perceptions

                          Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

                          A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

                          5. Love Attention

                          As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

                          6. People Pleaser

                          Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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                          Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

                          7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

                          Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

                          8. Crappy friend

                          Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

                          It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

                          The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

                          How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

                          It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

                          There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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                          1. Boundaries

                          Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

                          2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

                          Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

                          3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

                          If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

                          4. Ask for Advice

                          If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

                          Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

                          5. Dig Deeper

                          Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

                          Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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                          6. Practice Self-Care!

                          Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

                          Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

                          Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

                          Final Thoughts

                          Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

                          We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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