If you value first impressions and strive to always put forth your best image, make sure you take the right approach by doing the right things. Whether it is meeting a future boss or attending an important occasion, do not make the wrong assumptions about how to appear your best. Below are some great tips to land a good first impression.
1. Don’t use too much cologne or perfume
Studies show that nice-smelling people are generally considered more likable, but only if the person making that judgement call is not actually aware of a smell. So don’t go overboard if you are the kind of person who prefers a special scent.
2. Use inviting body language
Closed arms send a message that differs quite substantially from open arms. If you want to appear inviting and personable, experts suggest keeping your arms open. Resist the urge to fold or cross them.
3. Stop with the stories
As much as you might enjoy reliving your favorite experiences by telling other people about them, try not to “one-up” the person you are talking to. It’s called reciprocal self-disclosure, and it is a surefire way to fail in the first impression department.
4. Don’t get in their personal space
Want to give the person you are trying to impress the feeling of impending violence? Simply invade their personal space by a few inches. Researchers found that the length between your elbow and fingertip is close enough.
5. Bring your pet
… assuming it’s at an appropriate location! Pets make you seem more relaxed, but be aware that hyperactive breeds might need to be checked on more often.
6. Be friendly to strangers
People notice. Purdue University researchers found that it makes people feel connected. Besides, you never know who you may run into!
7. Check your hands
They are the easiest thing to take care of while being very easy to forget about. Don’t make that mistake. Unkempt nails can send a nasty message next time you go for the handshake. After all, you only have 100 milliseconds to make the first impression count.
8. Be happy
It turns out that if you are down on yourself, that can actually manifest in ways that make you less likable to other people. Don’t let those negative thoughts turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy!
The Journal of Cross-Cultural Psychology, found that folks who smile tend to make other people think they are smart. This is probably the easiest thing anyone can do to add some extra I.Q. points to their appearance.
10. Don’t wear sunglasses
Nonverbal communications consultant Marc Salem, Ph.D. stated that sunglasses can make you seem less approachable due to the effect it has on creating a barrier. Use them for the right occasions.
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