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10 Ways To Instantly Have Confidence

10 Ways To Instantly Have Confidence

“Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.”
― Mahatma Gandhi

Fear exists at the heart of every unfulfilled dream.  If there is something in our life that we want, we are going to have to confront some fears in order to get it.  Having confidence in our ability to achieve goals, to move forward in the face of fear, and to accomplish our desires, is critical if we are going to live a life that is personally fulfilling and meaningful. Not everyone is born with natural confidence.  Some people struggle, and for many people, difficult circumstances in their own lives can really impact their self confidence.

 

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So what can be done?  Anyone can develop more self confidence if they take some simple actions and, more importantly, build these actions into habits.

Here are 10 ways to instantly have confidence.

1.  Put a Little Effort Into Our Appearance

Sounds simple, but it really works.  When we put effort into our appearance, our dress, and our grooming, we feel better about ourselves.  Does this mean that we have to be savvy to all the latest fashions and spend a large chunk of our savings on wardrobe upgrades?  Not likely.  The most important thing is that we build a habit of doing the best with what we have, and small simple improvements in the ways we present ourselves will have a positive impact on how we feel and our confidence.  A secret weapon when it comes to our appearance:  shoes.  Take good care of our shoes.  Upgrade them if necessary.  Good looking shoes go a long way for a good feeling person.

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2.  Do An Act Of Service For Someone Else

This is critical.  We can be our own worst enemy when it comes to our emotions.  Many times, we feel bad about ourselves simply because we are focused too much on “our self”.  Getting outside of the self can be truly refreshing, empowering and goes a long way to building your self confidence.  Where to start?  Look around, there are people everywhere.  Find someone and do something nice for them. Then find someone else and do something nice for them.  After a while, you’ll be amazed at how great you feel.

3.  Be Prepared

Sometimes a lack of confidence is as simple as a lack of preparation.  Nervous about that job interview?  How well did we prepare?  Nervous about that upcoming exam?  How well did we study? Nervous about not making those sales targets?  What was our preparation like?  How effectively did we work?  Action is the best antidote to anxiety and fear. Being perfectly prepared for whatever we are about to do will give us confidence.  When we know that we have made the best possible preparations for what we are about to do, we will be more confident.

4.  Take A Look At Our Posture

Seems funny, but it actually works.  How do  you stand?  Do you slouch?  What is your posture like when you are sitting?  When you stand up straight, and sit with correct posture in your chair, you feel better about yourself.  You’re able to breath easier and this oxygen supply does wonders for your brain and our body.  You need oxygen to feel good and sometimes your lack of oxygen can be traced to poor posture.

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5.  Set a “Micro-Goal” And Achieve It

Confidence is based on a belief that we are capable of achieving things, therefore we don’t need to be scared.  Sometimes we get into a rut where we don’t feel like we are capable of achieving anything.  When this happens it can be hard to start, and big goals seem almost out of the question.  So what you need to do in this instance is to set a “micro-goal” and then achieve it.  A “micro-goal” is a very small goal that is in your power.  For instance, if you have a sales based career, simply make a goal of picking up the phone and calling 5 people.  Don’t even focus on making a sale.  Just achieve the goal of calling.  Why does this work? Because it gives you momentum and it signals the brain that you can achieve things. If you do it over and over and over again – set a small goal and then achieve it –  you’ll will be pleasantly surprised at how you feel.

7.  Change One Tiny Habit

When we get stuck in a “confidence rut” it can be very hard to change major habits.  We just don’t believe that we are capable of change, and we don’t have the momentum to support our desire.  So I’m not talking about changing big habits here, like “stop smoking”.  I’m talking about tiny habits, like making a bed, or waking up 10 minutes earlier, or choosing a salad instead of fries.  Tiny habits work because, like setting micro-goals, they give us momentum.  Once you change one thing, you’ll want to change others, and best of all, you develop confidence from your past victories.  Since you have changed one thing, you know you are capable of changing others.

8. Smile

Sounds trite, but it really works.  When we smile we are happier.  When we are happier we have more self-confidence.  It’s also contagious.  Think about you day-to-day life.  When you go for a coffee break and the server gives you a warm smile, does it make you upset?  Does it make you angry and really depressed?  Not at all.  Sometimes that little gesture is exactly what you need to make you feel better about what is otherwise a difficult day.  When you smile, and when others smile at you, we all feel better. When you feel better, you have more confidence.

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9.  Make A List of 10 Things That We Are Grateful For

Gratitude is one of the most powerful tools against depression and lack of confidence.  What is one of the quickest ways to feel grateful?  Simply make a list.  Make a list of 10 things that you are grateful for.  When the list is done, read it.  By the time you’ve done that, you’re sure to feel better about yourself.  You realize that life isn’t that bad and that there are many good things in your life, right now.  This attitude of gratitude helps you feel more confident about moving forward and making new things happen.

10.  Get Active and Start Exercising

As Tony Robbins has said, “emotion is created by motion”.  If we want to feel good, we need to move and breathe.  Moving increases our oxygen intake which increases our happiness and general sense of well being.  Exercising cuts fat, builds muscle and improves our skin tone and appearance.  We will instantly feel better because of the oxygen intake, but if we make this step a lasting habit, we will also soon reap the benefits of looking into the mirror and being pleased with the results that we see – results that we have created through our actions. This will increase our confidence.

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7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

Recruiters might hold thousands of interviews in their careers and a lot of them are reporting the same thing—that most candidates play it safe with the questions they ask, or have no questions to ask in a job interview at all.

For job applicants, this approach is crazy! This is a job that you’re going to dedicate a lot of hours to and that might have a huge impact on your future career. Don’t throw away the chance to figure out if the position is perfect for you.

Here are 7 killer questions to ask in a job interview that will both impress your counterpart and give you some really useful insights into whether this job will be a dream … or a nightmare.

1. What are some challenges I might come up against this role?

A lesser candidate might ask, “what does a typical day look like in this role?” While this is a perfectly reasonable question to ask in an interview, focusing on potential challenges takes you much further because it indicates that you already are visualizing yourself in the role.

It’s impressive because it shows that you are not afraid of challenges, and you are prepared to strategize a game plan upfront to make sure you succeed if you get the job.

It can also open up a conversation about how you’ve solved problems in the past which can be a reassuring exercise for both you and the hiring manager.

How it helps you:

If you ask the interviewer to describe a typical day, you may get a vibrant picture of all the lovely things you’ll get to do in this job and all the lovely people you’ll get to do them with.

Asking about potential roadblocks means you hear the other side of the story—dysfunctional teams, internal politics, difficult clients, bootstrap budgets and so on. This can help you decide if you’re up for the challenge or whether, for the sake of your sanity, you should respectfully decline the job offer.

2. What are the qualities of really successful people in this role?

Employers don’t want to hire someone who goes through the motions; they want to hire someone who will excel.

Asking this question shows that you care about success, too. How could they not hire you with a dragon-slayer attitude like that?

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How it helps you:

Interviewers hire people who are great people to work with, but the definition of “great people” differs from person to person.

Does this company hire and promote people with a specific attitude, approach, worth ethic or communication style? Are the most successful people in this role strong extroverts who love to talk and socialize when you are studious and reserved? Does the company reward those who work insane hours when you’re happiest in a more relaxed environment?

If so, then this may not be the right match for you.

Whatever the answer is, you can decide whether you have what it takes for the manager to be happy with your performance in this role. And if the interviewer has no idea what success looks like for this position, this is a sign to proceed with extreme caution.

3. From the research I did on your company, I noticed the culture really supports XYZ. Can you tell me more about that element of the culture and how it impacts this job role?

Of course, you could just ask “what is the culture like here? ” but then you would miss a great opportunity to show that you’ve done your research!

Interviewers give BIG bonus point to those who read up and pay attention, and you’ve just pointed out that (a) you’re diligent in your research (b) you care about the company culture and (c) you’re committed to finding a great cultural fit.

How it helps you:

This question is so useful because it lets you pick an element of the culture that you really care about and that will have the most impact on whether you are happy with the organization.

For example, if training and development is important to you, then you need to know what’s on offer so you don’t end up in a dead-end job with no learning opportunities.

Companies often talk a good talk, and their press releases may be full of shiny CSR initiatives and all the headline-grabbing diversity programs they’re putting in place. This is your opportunity to look under the hood and see if the company lives its values on the ground.

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A company that says it is committed to doing the right thing by customers should not judge success by the number of up-sells an employee makes, for instance. Look for consistency, so you aren’t in for a culture shock after you start.

4. What is the promotion path for this role, and how would my performance on that path be measured?

To be clear, you are not asking when you will get promoted. Don’t go there—it’s presumptuous, and it indicates that you think you are better than the role you have applied for.

A career-minded candidate, on the other hand, usually has a plan that she’s working towards. This question shows you have a great drive toward growth and advancement and an intention to stick with the company beyond your current state.

How it helps you:

One word: hierarchy.

All organizations have levels of work and authority—executives, upper managers, line managers, the workforce, and so on. Understanding the hierarchical structure gives you power, because you can decide if you can work within it and are capable of climbing through its ranks, or whether it will be endlessly frustrating to you.

In a traditional pyramid hierarchy, for example, the people at the bottom tend to have very little autonomy to make decisions. This gets better as you rise up through the pyramid, but even middle managers have little power to create policy; they are more concerned with enforcing the rules the top leaders make.

If having a high degree of autonomy and accountability is important to you, you may do better in a flat hierarchy where work teams can design their own way of achieving the corporate goals.

5. What’s the most important thing the successful candidate could accomplish in their first 3 months/6 months/year?

Of all the questions to ask in a job interview, this one is impressive because it shows that you identify with and want to be a successful performer, and not just an average one.

Here, you’re drilling down into what the company needs, and needs quite urgently, proving that you’re all about adding value to the organization and not just about what’s in it for you.

How it helps you:

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Most job descriptions come with 8, 10 or 12 different job responsibilities and a lot of them with be boilerplate or responsibilities that someone in HR thinks are associated with this role. This question gives you a better sense of which responsibilities are the most important—and they may not be what initially attracted you to the role.

If you like the idea of training juniors, for example, but success is judged purely on your sales figures, then is this really the job you thought you were applying for?

This question will also give you an idea of what kind of learning curve you’re expected to have and whether you’ll get any ramp-up time before getting down to business. If you’re the type of person who likes to jump right in and get things done, for instance, you may not be thrilled to hear that you’re going to spend the first three months shadowing a peer.

6. What do you like about working here?

This simple question is all about building rapport with the interviewer. People like to talk about themselves, and the interviewer will be flattered that you’re interested in her opinions.

Hopefully, you’ll find some great connection points that the two of you share. What similar things drive you head into the office each day? How will you fit into the culture?

How it helps you:

You can learn a lot from this question. Someone who genuinely enjoys his job will be able to list several things they like, and their answers will sound passionate and sincere. If not….well, you might consider that a red flag.

Since you potentially can learn a lot about the company culture from this question, it’s a good idea to figure out upfront what’s important to you. Maybe you’re looking for a hands-off boss who values independent thought and creativity? Maybe you work better in environments that move at a rapid, exciting pace?

Whatever’s important to you, listen carefully and see if you can find any common ground.

7. Based on this interview, do you have any questions or concerns about my qualifications for the role?

What a great closing question to ask in a job interview! It shows that you’re not afraid of feedback—in fact, you are inviting it. Not being able to take criticism is a red flag for employers, who need to know that you’ll act on any “coaching moments” with a good heart.

As a bonus, asking this question shows that you are really interested in the position and wish to clear up anything that may be holding the company back from hiring you.

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How it helps you:

What a devious beast this question is! On the surface, it looks straightforward, but it’s actually giving you four key pieces of information.

First, is the manager capable of giving you feedback when put on the spot like this? Some managers are scared of giving feedback, or don’t think it’s important enough to bother outside of a formal performance appraisal. Do you want to work for a boss like that? How will you improve if no one is telling you what you did wrong?

Second, can the manager give feedback in a constructive way without being too pillowy or too confrontational? It’s unfair to expect the interviewer to have figured out your preferred way of receiving feedback in the space of an interview, but if she come back with a machine-gun fire of shortcomings or one of those corporate feedback “sandwiches” (the doozy slipped between two slices of compliment), then you need to ask yourself, can you work with someone who gives feedback like that?

Third, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about before you leave the interview. This gives you the chance to make a final, tailored sales pitch so you can convince the interviewer that she should not be worried about those things.

Fourth, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about period. If turnover is keeping him up at night, then your frequent job hopping might get a lot of additional scrutiny. If he’s facing some issues with conflict or communication, then he might raise concerns regarding your performance in this area.

Listen carefully: the concerns that are being raised about you might actually be a proxy for problems in the wider organization.

Making Your Interview Work for You

Interviews are a two-way street. While it is important to differentiate yourself from every other candidate, understand that convincing the interviewer you’re the right person for the role goes hand-in-hand with figuring out if the job is the right fit for you.

Would you feel happy in a work environment where the people, priorities, culture and management style were completely at odds with the way you work? Didn’t think so!

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