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10 Ways To Instantly Have Confidence

10 Ways To Instantly Have Confidence

“Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.”
― Mahatma Gandhi

Fear exists at the heart of every unfulfilled dream.  If there is something in our life that we want, we are going to have to confront some fears in order to get it.  Having confidence in our ability to achieve goals, to move forward in the face of fear, and to accomplish our desires, is critical if we are going to live a life that is personally fulfilling and meaningful. Not everyone is born with natural confidence.  Some people struggle, and for many people, difficult circumstances in their own lives can really impact their self confidence.

 

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So what can be done?  Anyone can develop more self confidence if they take some simple actions and, more importantly, build these actions into habits.

Here are 10 ways to instantly have confidence.

1.  Put a Little Effort Into Our Appearance

Sounds simple, but it really works.  When we put effort into our appearance, our dress, and our grooming, we feel better about ourselves.  Does this mean that we have to be savvy to all the latest fashions and spend a large chunk of our savings on wardrobe upgrades?  Not likely.  The most important thing is that we build a habit of doing the best with what we have, and small simple improvements in the ways we present ourselves will have a positive impact on how we feel and our confidence.  A secret weapon when it comes to our appearance:  shoes.  Take good care of our shoes.  Upgrade them if necessary.  Good looking shoes go a long way for a good feeling person.

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2.  Do An Act Of Service For Someone Else

This is critical.  We can be our own worst enemy when it comes to our emotions.  Many times, we feel bad about ourselves simply because we are focused too much on “our self”.  Getting outside of the self can be truly refreshing, empowering and goes a long way to building your self confidence.  Where to start?  Look around, there are people everywhere.  Find someone and do something nice for them. Then find someone else and do something nice for them.  After a while, you’ll be amazed at how great you feel.

3.  Be Prepared

Sometimes a lack of confidence is as simple as a lack of preparation.  Nervous about that job interview?  How well did we prepare?  Nervous about that upcoming exam?  How well did we study? Nervous about not making those sales targets?  What was our preparation like?  How effectively did we work?  Action is the best antidote to anxiety and fear. Being perfectly prepared for whatever we are about to do will give us confidence.  When we know that we have made the best possible preparations for what we are about to do, we will be more confident.

4.  Take A Look At Our Posture

Seems funny, but it actually works.  How do  you stand?  Do you slouch?  What is your posture like when you are sitting?  When you stand up straight, and sit with correct posture in your chair, you feel better about yourself.  You’re able to breath easier and this oxygen supply does wonders for your brain and our body.  You need oxygen to feel good and sometimes your lack of oxygen can be traced to poor posture.

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5.  Set a “Micro-Goal” And Achieve It

Confidence is based on a belief that we are capable of achieving things, therefore we don’t need to be scared.  Sometimes we get into a rut where we don’t feel like we are capable of achieving anything.  When this happens it can be hard to start, and big goals seem almost out of the question.  So what you need to do in this instance is to set a “micro-goal” and then achieve it.  A “micro-goal” is a very small goal that is in your power.  For instance, if you have a sales based career, simply make a goal of picking up the phone and calling 5 people.  Don’t even focus on making a sale.  Just achieve the goal of calling.  Why does this work? Because it gives you momentum and it signals the brain that you can achieve things. If you do it over and over and over again – set a small goal and then achieve it –  you’ll will be pleasantly surprised at how you feel.

7.  Change One Tiny Habit

When we get stuck in a “confidence rut” it can be very hard to change major habits.  We just don’t believe that we are capable of change, and we don’t have the momentum to support our desire.  So I’m not talking about changing big habits here, like “stop smoking”.  I’m talking about tiny habits, like making a bed, or waking up 10 minutes earlier, or choosing a salad instead of fries.  Tiny habits work because, like setting micro-goals, they give us momentum.  Once you change one thing, you’ll want to change others, and best of all, you develop confidence from your past victories.  Since you have changed one thing, you know you are capable of changing others.

8. Smile

Sounds trite, but it really works.  When we smile we are happier.  When we are happier we have more self-confidence.  It’s also contagious.  Think about you day-to-day life.  When you go for a coffee break and the server gives you a warm smile, does it make you upset?  Does it make you angry and really depressed?  Not at all.  Sometimes that little gesture is exactly what you need to make you feel better about what is otherwise a difficult day.  When you smile, and when others smile at you, we all feel better. When you feel better, you have more confidence.

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9.  Make A List of 10 Things That We Are Grateful For

Gratitude is one of the most powerful tools against depression and lack of confidence.  What is one of the quickest ways to feel grateful?  Simply make a list.  Make a list of 10 things that you are grateful for.  When the list is done, read it.  By the time you’ve done that, you’re sure to feel better about yourself.  You realize that life isn’t that bad and that there are many good things in your life, right now.  This attitude of gratitude helps you feel more confident about moving forward and making new things happen.

10.  Get Active and Start Exercising

As Tony Robbins has said, “emotion is created by motion”.  If we want to feel good, we need to move and breathe.  Moving increases our oxygen intake which increases our happiness and general sense of well being.  Exercising cuts fat, builds muscle and improves our skin tone and appearance.  We will instantly feel better because of the oxygen intake, but if we make this step a lasting habit, we will also soon reap the benefits of looking into the mirror and being pleased with the results that we see – results that we have created through our actions. This will increase our confidence.

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Last Updated on July 10, 2020

How to Reinvent Yourself and Change Your Life

How to Reinvent Yourself and Change Your Life

There will always be times in your life when you may need to learn how to reinvent yourself. This could come when you experience a big change, such as leaving your job, moving on from a relationship, transferring to a new home, or losing a loved one. If you are going through a major shift in your life, you may have to find new ways of thinking or doing things, or risk failing to reach your full potential.

“When something bad happens, you have three choices. You can let it define you, let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you.”

Many people who dared to leave their old unhappy lives enabled themselves to pursue their passions and find a renewed zest for living. You can also achieve the same if you take a leap of faith and make things happen for yourself.

To help you always be at your best wherever you may be in your life, here are some practical tips on how to reinvent yourself.

The Reinvention Checklist

Before embarking on a journey of self-reinvention, you need to make sure that you have everything that you need to make the trip bump-proof. These things include:

Resilience

Problems and obstacles are guaranteed to happen. Some of them will be difficult and may knock you off course; the important thing, however, is that you learn from these difficulties, never lose focus, and always get back up. This requires building resilience to get through the tough times.

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Support

Humans are social beings. Although it is important that you learn to rely on yourself when facing any challenge, it is also important to have a support team that you can lean on to give you a boost when things get too tough and to correct you when you’re making mistakes.

The key is to find the right balance between independence and dependence. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable and share the difficulties you’re facing. When you open up, you’ll find the people who are really going to be there for you.

Self-Care

During the process of learning how to reinvent yourself, you will have to pull yourself away from your old comfort zones, habits, roles, and self-perceptions. This can be difficult and cause you to question your self-worth, so it’s important to engage in self-care to maintain a positive outlook and keep your mind and body healthy as you face the challenges that await you. Self-care can include:

  • Participating in a hobby you enjoy
  • Spending time with your support system
  • Taking some time to walk in nature
  • Practicing loving-kindness meditation

Find what works for you and what helps you feel like your true self as you seek a reinvented version of you.

How to Reinvent Yourself

Once you’re sure that you’re equipped with all the tools in the self-reinvention checklist, you can begin your journey of learning how to reinvent yourself.

1. Discover Your Strengths

This step provides valuable information on how you deal with certain situations. If you have this information, you will be able to manage difficulties more efficiently.

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To find out what your strengths are, you can ask your friends and colleagues for feedback, engage in self-reflection, or try these 10 Ways to Find Your Own Personal Strengths.

2. Plan

This step calls for a thorough assessment of your current emotional, psychological, and financial status so that you can develop plans that are realistic and practical.

It’s okay to have ambitious dreams, but your plans have to be realistic. Making use of SMART goals can help you plan your life better.

You can also consult your mentor or life coach for practical tips and advice.

Ultimately, you’ll want to create specific long-term and short-term goals that you can create milestones for. By doing this, you’ll lay out a specific roadmap to your reinvented self.

3. Try Things Out

Sometimes, we don’t know if solutions actually work until we try them out. This is why it is important to experiment whenever possible, especially if you’re dealing with a career change. You may need to simply experiment in order to find the things you like. This can be the same with hobbies. If you’re not sure what you would like doing, accept invitations from friends to join them in their favorite sport or take a class, like pottery or photography.

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By seeing what’s out there in any area of your life, you’ll have a better chance of finding the things you enjoy and the goals you want to create.

4. Manage Your Finances Well

Changes may require a bit of money. If you’re shifting to a new career, you may have to pay for training. If you’re going through a tough divorce or having a hard time dealing with the death of a loved one, you may have to pay for therapy. If you’re moving to a new home, you’ll definitely have to pay a whole lot of expenses.

All of these things are possible, but it will require a bit of money savviness as you learn how to reinvent yourself. If you have that cushion, you’ll feel more comfortable straying from your current path to try new things.

5. Muster Your Courage

Fears and self-doubt may arise when you encounter difficulties and setbacks. Sometimes, they may also come when you’re taking risks. You have to manage these negative emotions well and not allow them to discourage you. Tap into your courage and try doing at least one new thing each week to develop it.

Learn how to deal with your self-doubts to move forward in this article: How Self Doubt Keeps You Stuck (And How to Overcome It)

6. Use Your Support Group

As stated above, you need to build a strong support group before you even start the process of reinventing yourself. Your group will keep you from taking wrong turns and encourage you when you get too weighed down by problems. Don’t be afraid to call them, or even ask them out for coffee if you need to vent about the current difficulties you’re facing.

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7. Remind Yourself Every Day of Your Commitment

Write your goals on different-sized cards and scatter them at home and at work in places where you can easily see them. This way, you will constantly be reminded of where you want to be. Remember, writing down your goals helps them stick[1].

8. Accept Failure, Learn, and Resume Your Journey

Failing is normal, especially when we’re trying out something new. When you fail, simply recognize it, learn from it, and move on. Failure, in the end, is the best way to learn what does and doesn’t work, and you simply won’t be able to learn how to reinvent yourself if you don’t accept the inevitable failures that await you.

Final Thoughts

If you truly want to learn how to reinvent yourself and live the life you desire, take the advice above and start taking action. It will take time, patience, and plenty of effort to make the change you want happen, but it will be all worth it.

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