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10 Ways To Instantly Have Confidence

10 Ways To Instantly Have Confidence

“Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.”
― Mahatma Gandhi

Fear exists at the heart of every unfulfilled dream.  If there is something in our life that we want, we are going to have to confront some fears in order to get it.  Having confidence in our ability to achieve goals, to move forward in the face of fear, and to accomplish our desires, is critical if we are going to live a life that is personally fulfilling and meaningful. Not everyone is born with natural confidence.  Some people struggle, and for many people, difficult circumstances in their own lives can really impact their self confidence.

 

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So what can be done?  Anyone can develop more self confidence if they take some simple actions and, more importantly, build these actions into habits.

Here are 10 ways to instantly have confidence.

1.  Put a Little Effort Into Our Appearance

Sounds simple, but it really works.  When we put effort into our appearance, our dress, and our grooming, we feel better about ourselves.  Does this mean that we have to be savvy to all the latest fashions and spend a large chunk of our savings on wardrobe upgrades?  Not likely.  The most important thing is that we build a habit of doing the best with what we have, and small simple improvements in the ways we present ourselves will have a positive impact on how we feel and our confidence.  A secret weapon when it comes to our appearance:  shoes.  Take good care of our shoes.  Upgrade them if necessary.  Good looking shoes go a long way for a good feeling person.

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2.  Do An Act Of Service For Someone Else

This is critical.  We can be our own worst enemy when it comes to our emotions.  Many times, we feel bad about ourselves simply because we are focused too much on “our self”.  Getting outside of the self can be truly refreshing, empowering and goes a long way to building your self confidence.  Where to start?  Look around, there are people everywhere.  Find someone and do something nice for them. Then find someone else and do something nice for them.  After a while, you’ll be amazed at how great you feel.

3.  Be Prepared

Sometimes a lack of confidence is as simple as a lack of preparation.  Nervous about that job interview?  How well did we prepare?  Nervous about that upcoming exam?  How well did we study? Nervous about not making those sales targets?  What was our preparation like?  How effectively did we work?  Action is the best antidote to anxiety and fear. Being perfectly prepared for whatever we are about to do will give us confidence.  When we know that we have made the best possible preparations for what we are about to do, we will be more confident.

4.  Take A Look At Our Posture

Seems funny, but it actually works.  How do  you stand?  Do you slouch?  What is your posture like when you are sitting?  When you stand up straight, and sit with correct posture in your chair, you feel better about yourself.  You’re able to breath easier and this oxygen supply does wonders for your brain and our body.  You need oxygen to feel good and sometimes your lack of oxygen can be traced to poor posture.

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5.  Set a “Micro-Goal” And Achieve It

Confidence is based on a belief that we are capable of achieving things, therefore we don’t need to be scared.  Sometimes we get into a rut where we don’t feel like we are capable of achieving anything.  When this happens it can be hard to start, and big goals seem almost out of the question.  So what you need to do in this instance is to set a “micro-goal” and then achieve it.  A “micro-goal” is a very small goal that is in your power.  For instance, if you have a sales based career, simply make a goal of picking up the phone and calling 5 people.  Don’t even focus on making a sale.  Just achieve the goal of calling.  Why does this work? Because it gives you momentum and it signals the brain that you can achieve things. If you do it over and over and over again – set a small goal and then achieve it –  you’ll will be pleasantly surprised at how you feel.

7.  Change One Tiny Habit

When we get stuck in a “confidence rut” it can be very hard to change major habits.  We just don’t believe that we are capable of change, and we don’t have the momentum to support our desire.  So I’m not talking about changing big habits here, like “stop smoking”.  I’m talking about tiny habits, like making a bed, or waking up 10 minutes earlier, or choosing a salad instead of fries.  Tiny habits work because, like setting micro-goals, they give us momentum.  Once you change one thing, you’ll want to change others, and best of all, you develop confidence from your past victories.  Since you have changed one thing, you know you are capable of changing others.

8. Smile

Sounds trite, but it really works.  When we smile we are happier.  When we are happier we have more self-confidence.  It’s also contagious.  Think about you day-to-day life.  When you go for a coffee break and the server gives you a warm smile, does it make you upset?  Does it make you angry and really depressed?  Not at all.  Sometimes that little gesture is exactly what you need to make you feel better about what is otherwise a difficult day.  When you smile, and when others smile at you, we all feel better. When you feel better, you have more confidence.

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9.  Make A List of 10 Things That We Are Grateful For

Gratitude is one of the most powerful tools against depression and lack of confidence.  What is one of the quickest ways to feel grateful?  Simply make a list.  Make a list of 10 things that you are grateful for.  When the list is done, read it.  By the time you’ve done that, you’re sure to feel better about yourself.  You realize that life isn’t that bad and that there are many good things in your life, right now.  This attitude of gratitude helps you feel more confident about moving forward and making new things happen.

10.  Get Active and Start Exercising

As Tony Robbins has said, “emotion is created by motion”.  If we want to feel good, we need to move and breathe.  Moving increases our oxygen intake which increases our happiness and general sense of well being.  Exercising cuts fat, builds muscle and improves our skin tone and appearance.  We will instantly feel better because of the oxygen intake, but if we make this step a lasting habit, we will also soon reap the benefits of looking into the mirror and being pleased with the results that we see – results that we have created through our actions. This will increase our confidence.

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Last Updated on November 5, 2018

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

We’ve all got our enemies; people who take pleasure in causing us pain and misery. Sometimes, the development of an enemy is due to certain differences in your characters and events have led to that. Other times, some people end up hating you for apparently no reason at all.

Regardless of how you got this enemy, as opposed to the paradigm of fighting fire with fire, consider the following reasons and see why you should actually appreciate your enemies. This article will show you not only how to not be bothered by your enemies, but how to actually foster love for them.

Read on to learn the secret.

1. It’s a practical lesson in anger management

To be honest, your enemies are the best people to help you understand your sense of anger management. When it might be true that your enemies have a way of bringing out the worst in you as regards anger, it is also true that they can help you in your quest to have that anger managed. You can’t get truly angry at someone you love and it is only in that time when you get truly annoyed that you learn how to manage it.

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Anger management is more effective when it is in practice and not in theory

Your enemies are like the therapists who you need, but actually don’t want. Inasmuch as you might want to hate them, they provide you an opportunity to control the anger impulse that you have.

2. It’s an opportunity for healthy competition

You might not know it, but your enemies make for great rivals as they help harness the competitor in you (sometimes, you might not even know or bee conversant with this competitive side until you come across an adversary). You get the right motivation to compete and this can go a long way to spur you to victory.

However, while doing so, it is also essential that you remember not to become a worse version of yourself while competing. Working against an adversary is tricky, and you need to ensure that you don’t cause harm to yourself or your morals in the process. Healthy competition is all you need to get out of this.

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3. Their negative comments can help you make a breakthrough

It is true that your enemies never really have much good to say about you. However, in as much as they might be talking out of a place of hate, there might be some truth to what they’re saying.

To wit, whenever you hear something mean or nasty from an enemy, you might want to take a step back and evaluate yourself. There is a chance that what this enemy is saying is true and coming to face that fact is a major step in helping you to become a better person overall. This is another testament to the fact that enemies can be therapists in their own way.

4. Enemies can also be powerful allies

Loving your enemies can also mean making an effort to interact and make peace with them. In the end, if you are able to establish some common ground and patch things up, you’ll have succeeded in making another friend. And who doesn’t need friends?

This can also help you in working with people in the long run. You get to hone your inter-personal skills, and that can be a big plus to your ledger.

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5. It gives you the ability to realize positivity

In a multitude of negativity, a speck of positivity always seems to find its way through.

Sometimes, a knowledge of the fact that you have enemies will also help you to focus on the many positives and good things that are in your life. A lot of times, we neglect what really matters in life. This can be due to being overly concerned with the enemies we have.

However, it is also possible for this acknowledgement to spur you to take a step back and appreciate the goo things (and people who surround you).

6. There might just be a misunderstanding

Sometimes, the reason why you have an enemy might be something very innocuous. You might not have known the cause of this fractured relationship and your enemy will help complete the picture.

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Simply approaching them will help you to understand the reason for the fracture. This, in turn, can help you to work towards healing your relationship moving forward. Misunderstandings happen, and you need to be able to work around them.

7. You learn to appreciate love as well

A constant reminder of the fact that there are enemies will also help you not to take those who love you for granted. Love and hate are two opposing emotions and it is possible for one to momentarily overshadow the other.

However, while you’ll always have enemies, there will also always be people who love you. These people need to be appreciated for what they do for you. Never let the hate projected to you from your enemies take the place of that.

8. Do you really need the hate?

The truth is that enemies bring only toxic emotions and generate bad reactions from you. If you’re truly to live a prosperous life, you can’t really be carrying all this baggage around.

Hate is bad and you should try all you can to get rid of it. It is a well-known fact that nobody can get really far in life while carrying a lot of emotional baggage. Well, hate is the biggest form of emotional baggage there is.

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