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10 Tips To Help You Get Through The Day When Experiencing A Loss

10 Tips To Help You Get Through The Day When Experiencing A Loss

All human beings at some point in our lives reach a stage where situations seem to be out of our control. Be it a personal loss, relationship breakup, financial misfortune or job loss, these lead to stress affecting us emotionally, physically or mentally resulting in depression, anger, anxiety and health issues. How can we cope with it?

1. Connect

Do not isolate yourself. Reach out to your loved ones, family, friends especially those who are empathetic and positive. Unburdening your feelings will make you feel more at peace and sharing it with someone will bring faster healing.

2. Consider age-old wisdom

If you have lost a loved one, cherish his or her memory and know he or she is in a better place. This is fate but his or her love will remain with you forever. He or she may have wanted you to move on.

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If you have suffered a financial loss, know gains and losses are a part of life. You were happy before you had what you think you have lost. You still have the ability to get back and even double that. So look at what you have left and make the most of it. According to Holy scripture the Bhagvad Gita says,

“You came into this world with nothing and will leave this world empty-handed. Whatever is yours today belonged to somebody else yesterday and will belong to someone else tomorrow. Whatever happened in the past was for your good, whatever is happening now is for your good and whatever will happen tomorrow will also be for your good.”

If you had a relationship breakup or lost your job, learn from what went wrong so going forward you can have a successful second inning. You may have invested your emotions, time and energy wholeheartedly but things did not turn out as expected. High expectations bring frustration so do your part next time but keep your expectations low. The only thing permanent in life is change and all things happen for a reason. You will realize this once the storm has passed.

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3. Exercise

Follow a daily routine of at least 20 minutes of cardio or yoga to beat the blues. Studies show working out releases a feel-good hormone that makes you feel better.

4. Pick up a hobby

Release your emotions through any activity of your interest be it painting or dancing. Listening to upbeat or soothing music or watching happy or funny movies is also a proven remedy. After all laughter is the best medicine.

5. Food

Foods such as dark chocolate, fish and fruits such as oranges are recommended by science to uplift your mood.

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6. Take a break

If possible, change your surroundings. Go away to some place peaceful where you can get alone time or be with someone you love. This will distract you and allow you to introspect. You will get a refreshed view of how to start anew.

7. Practice mindfulness

Go out in nature preferably in the evening hours when the sun is about to set. This is the time one feels most depressed. Breathe deeply and observe the beauty around you. Doing so will make you feel calm.

8. Give back

Life throws challenges to make you more humble. Volunteer for a cause you believe in. You will realize you are not alone in your suffering. Some people’s miseries may even make yours seem insignificant in comparison.

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9. Keep the faith

Science has proven those who pray heal faster. Trust in the higher power to direct your path.

10. Think positive

There is light at the end of the tunnel. Time is a big healer and feel comfort in knowing your present ordeal has only made you stronger and wiser.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

Featured photo credit: josh peterson via unsplash.com

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