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10 Things Your Dreams Can Tell You About Yourself

10 Things Your Dreams Can Tell You About Yourself

Everybody dreams, but how many take advantage of the wisdom dreams provide? As a student and teacher of the School of Metaphysics, I record and analyze my dreams daily. Through years of analysis, we’ve discovered that every dream is about the dreamer, each part of the dream is part of the dreamer, and every dream reveals the person’s state of mind 24-48 hours before the dream.

What does that mean? All dreamers have the ability to better understand themselves and their lives through their own dreams. It takes practice and a desire to learn! Here are 10 useful dream insights to start you on the path to personal discovery and the interpretation of your own dreams!

1. Dreams About Your State of Health

Our dreams come to us from our inner mind, our subconscious. Every night we experience this state of mind. We also tap into it any time we meditate, deeply concentrate, or listen to our intuition. The subconscious uses images from our waking life to communicate to us in analogies, in symbols.

The presence of your car in a dream tells you about your health. The car symbolizes your body. A car in your waking life is a vehicle to move your body from place to place. What vehicle moves your mind from place to place – your body!

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Pay attention to the state of the car in your dream. Is it new/old? Damaged? Do you have it parked, or are you taking it somewhere? A parking lot is a place to rest your car, so it symbolizes that you are taking some time for relaxation. If you’re driving your car, you are in control of yourself. If you are driving but not able to control your car, you’re the one out of control! When you have a car dream, take stock of your current health. Pay attention to your body and what it may be telling you.

2. Dreams About Your State of Mind

What is the setting of your dream? Your purpose for those places will reveal what mindset you had the day before the dream. If you dream about your place of work, your mind was in a working mindset, focused on activity and accomplishment. If you dream about school, your mind was focused on life lessons to be learned. If you’re in a new house, you’re taking on a whole new way of thinking. If you’re in your childhood home, you’re in an old, comfortable way of thinking – maybe even an outdated one!

3. Dreams About Where Your Attention Lies

What kinds of dreams do you have? Are they mundane, everyday dreams? Or are they fantastical? Do you have simple, short dreams, or are they long and rambling? Do they have a logical progression – or do they spastically leap from place to place without any transitions? Whichever you experience – that was what was happening in your mind!

A friend at a Dream Catchers Meetup once described one of her long, transition-less dreams in great detail. Repeatedly she was in the middle one scene, when suddenly she found herself somewhere else, doing something completely different!   We all had a good laugh because we knew that she talked just like her dream: leaping from topic to topic without any clean transitions! Her dreams were a true visual representation of her mind.

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4. Dreams About Your Future Possibilities

Dreams can sometimes be precognitive, giving insight into possible future events. One morning I had a brief dream with some very detailed scenery near some train tracks. That same morning, as I was sitting in my car, waiting for a train – I was startled to recognize that I was in the same exact location as my dream! Some people frequently have precognitive dreams. They might be frightened by predicted accidents and illnesses. The important thing to recognize is that these dreams are not set predictions. They are dreams of the possible future, as in the example of Charles Dickens’s infamous Ebenezer Scrooge. It is up to the dreamer to decide what to do with the information in the dream. The individual always has control.

5. Dreams About Your Use of Imagination and Creativity

Some dreams help you create and solve problems. Some famous inventions and discoveries have come from dream. Elias Howe was able to finish his sewing machine after his dream revealed an important component. Mary Shelley’s “Frankenstein” was revealed to her in a dream.

Creative symbols in a dream reveal the creative use of your mind the day before. Watch for symbols like TV, movies, painting, and drawing.

6. Dreams About Control of Your Habits

Animals symbolize your habits. An animal is an instinctual, habitual being, so it represents one of your habitual ways of thinking. Some of our habits are problematic and addictive, but others serve a purpose – like brushing your teeth and driving your regular route to work. How are you interacting with the animals in your dream? Are they pets or are you terrified of them? Do you have them on a leash or are they chasing after you? This will give you an idea of whether you are controlling your habits or if they are controlling you! If you are being chased by an animal, you are avoiding that habit – it’s time to face it!

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7. Dreams About How You are Expressing Yourself

Your clothing choice is a matter of personal expression. Work attire shows you’re getting down to business. Yoga clothes might mean that you’re relaxed. Whatever you’re wearing shows which side you are showing. If you’re naked, you’re experiencing your true Self! If you’re trying to cover up, you are feeling vulnerable. If you’re nonchalant about being in the buff, you’re very comfortable in your own skin, with who you really are.

8. Dreams About The Many Parts of You

If every dream is about the dreamer, than every person is really you! The people in your dreams represent the many different aspects of yourself. When a person pops up in your dream, the first question you want to ask yourself is: “How would I describe this person?” If this person is “kind,” you were utilizing that “kind” part of yourself the day before. However, if you see the person as “lazy” or “stubborn” you may want to take a look at how you were blocked or stagnant that previous day!

9. Dreams About How You Are Changing

Death is a new state. If a person dies in your dream, that is a part of you that is changing. Take a look at who has died and look at how they died. Were they killed? Do you know who killed them? Looking at the circumstances of the death, you can decide if this change was wanted or if it felt forced upon you. Knowing who was involved can help you understand what parts of you were involved in this process.

10. Dreams About Your Connection with Your Inner Self

The presence of people of different sexes in your dream gives you a clue about your involvement with the different parts of yourself. People of the same sex represent your conscious, waking mind. People of the opposite sex represent your wise, inner, subconscious mind. Keep an eye out for which sexes show up in your dream – you want to be in balance!

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Are you on the phone or talking with someone in your dream? That may symbolize a healthy communication within the Self. If you are intimate with this person, you are deeply connecting with this aspect of yourself and preparing to create something new – a new idea or a new aspect of yourself.

What if you don’t know the people in your dream? That means you don’t know those parts of yourself very well. And if someone is after you or fighting with you – take a good look at yourself. As with the habits – what aspect of you are you in conflict with or trying to avoid? The next time someone is chasing you, see if you can turn around and face them. Ask them: “Who are you?” The answer might just surprise you!

Are you ready to start interpreting your dreams? When you interpret your dreams, you understand your life! As you begin recording your dreams, you will start connecting with your inner teacher. And who knows you better than you?

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Published on May 4, 2021

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

How to Spot Fake People?

When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

1. Full of Themselves

Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

3. Zero Self-Reflection

To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

4. Unrealistic Perceptions

Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

5. Love Attention

As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

6. People Pleaser

Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

8. Crappy friend

Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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1. Boundaries

Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

4. Ask for Advice

If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

5. Dig Deeper

Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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6. Practice Self-Care!

Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

Final Thoughts

Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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