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10 Things Your Dreams Can Tell You About Yourself

10 Things Your Dreams Can Tell You About Yourself

Everybody dreams, but how many take advantage of the wisdom dreams provide? As a student and teacher of the School of Metaphysics, I record and analyze my dreams daily. Through years of analysis, we’ve discovered that every dream is about the dreamer, each part of the dream is part of the dreamer, and every dream reveals the person’s state of mind 24-48 hours before the dream.

What does that mean? All dreamers have the ability to better understand themselves and their lives through their own dreams. It takes practice and a desire to learn! Here are 10 useful dream insights to start you on the path to personal discovery and the interpretation of your own dreams!

1. Dreams About Your State of Health

Our dreams come to us from our inner mind, our subconscious. Every night we experience this state of mind. We also tap into it any time we meditate, deeply concentrate, or listen to our intuition. The subconscious uses images from our waking life to communicate to us in analogies, in symbols.

The presence of your car in a dream tells you about your health. The car symbolizes your body. A car in your waking life is a vehicle to move your body from place to place. What vehicle moves your mind from place to place – your body!

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Pay attention to the state of the car in your dream. Is it new/old? Damaged? Do you have it parked, or are you taking it somewhere? A parking lot is a place to rest your car, so it symbolizes that you are taking some time for relaxation. If you’re driving your car, you are in control of yourself. If you are driving but not able to control your car, you’re the one out of control! When you have a car dream, take stock of your current health. Pay attention to your body and what it may be telling you.

2. Dreams About Your State of Mind

What is the setting of your dream? Your purpose for those places will reveal what mindset you had the day before the dream. If you dream about your place of work, your mind was in a working mindset, focused on activity and accomplishment. If you dream about school, your mind was focused on life lessons to be learned. If you’re in a new house, you’re taking on a whole new way of thinking. If you’re in your childhood home, you’re in an old, comfortable way of thinking – maybe even an outdated one!

3. Dreams About Where Your Attention Lies

What kinds of dreams do you have? Are they mundane, everyday dreams? Or are they fantastical? Do you have simple, short dreams, or are they long and rambling? Do they have a logical progression – or do they spastically leap from place to place without any transitions? Whichever you experience – that was what was happening in your mind!

A friend at a Dream Catchers Meetup once described one of her long, transition-less dreams in great detail. Repeatedly she was in the middle one scene, when suddenly she found herself somewhere else, doing something completely different!   We all had a good laugh because we knew that she talked just like her dream: leaping from topic to topic without any clean transitions! Her dreams were a true visual representation of her mind.

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4. Dreams About Your Future Possibilities

Dreams can sometimes be precognitive, giving insight into possible future events. One morning I had a brief dream with some very detailed scenery near some train tracks. That same morning, as I was sitting in my car, waiting for a train – I was startled to recognize that I was in the same exact location as my dream! Some people frequently have precognitive dreams. They might be frightened by predicted accidents and illnesses. The important thing to recognize is that these dreams are not set predictions. They are dreams of the possible future, as in the example of Charles Dickens’s infamous Ebenezer Scrooge. It is up to the dreamer to decide what to do with the information in the dream. The individual always has control.

5. Dreams About Your Use of Imagination and Creativity

Some dreams help you create and solve problems. Some famous inventions and discoveries have come from dream. Elias Howe was able to finish his sewing machine after his dream revealed an important component. Mary Shelley’s “Frankenstein” was revealed to her in a dream.

Creative symbols in a dream reveal the creative use of your mind the day before. Watch for symbols like TV, movies, painting, and drawing.

6. Dreams About Control of Your Habits

Animals symbolize your habits. An animal is an instinctual, habitual being, so it represents one of your habitual ways of thinking. Some of our habits are problematic and addictive, but others serve a purpose – like brushing your teeth and driving your regular route to work. How are you interacting with the animals in your dream? Are they pets or are you terrified of them? Do you have them on a leash or are they chasing after you? This will give you an idea of whether you are controlling your habits or if they are controlling you! If you are being chased by an animal, you are avoiding that habit – it’s time to face it!

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7. Dreams About How You are Expressing Yourself

Your clothing choice is a matter of personal expression. Work attire shows you’re getting down to business. Yoga clothes might mean that you’re relaxed. Whatever you’re wearing shows which side you are showing. If you’re naked, you’re experiencing your true Self! If you’re trying to cover up, you are feeling vulnerable. If you’re nonchalant about being in the buff, you’re very comfortable in your own skin, with who you really are.

8. Dreams About The Many Parts of You

If every dream is about the dreamer, than every person is really you! The people in your dreams represent the many different aspects of yourself. When a person pops up in your dream, the first question you want to ask yourself is: “How would I describe this person?” If this person is “kind,” you were utilizing that “kind” part of yourself the day before. However, if you see the person as “lazy” or “stubborn” you may want to take a look at how you were blocked or stagnant that previous day!

9. Dreams About How You Are Changing

Death is a new state. If a person dies in your dream, that is a part of you that is changing. Take a look at who has died and look at how they died. Were they killed? Do you know who killed them? Looking at the circumstances of the death, you can decide if this change was wanted or if it felt forced upon you. Knowing who was involved can help you understand what parts of you were involved in this process.

10. Dreams About Your Connection with Your Inner Self

The presence of people of different sexes in your dream gives you a clue about your involvement with the different parts of yourself. People of the same sex represent your conscious, waking mind. People of the opposite sex represent your wise, inner, subconscious mind. Keep an eye out for which sexes show up in your dream – you want to be in balance!

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Are you on the phone or talking with someone in your dream? That may symbolize a healthy communication within the Self. If you are intimate with this person, you are deeply connecting with this aspect of yourself and preparing to create something new – a new idea or a new aspect of yourself.

What if you don’t know the people in your dream? That means you don’t know those parts of yourself very well. And if someone is after you or fighting with you – take a good look at yourself. As with the habits – what aspect of you are you in conflict with or trying to avoid? The next time someone is chasing you, see if you can turn around and face them. Ask them: “Who are you?” The answer might just surprise you!

Are you ready to start interpreting your dreams? When you interpret your dreams, you understand your life! As you begin recording your dreams, you will start connecting with your inner teacher. And who knows you better than you?

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Last Updated on April 6, 2020

10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

Most discussions on positively influencing others eventually touch on Dale Carnegie’s seminal work, How to Win Friends and Influence People. Written more than 83 years ago, the book touches on a core component of human interaction, building strong relationships. It is no wonder why.

Everything that we do hinges on our ability to connect with others and formulate deep relationships. You cannot sell a house, buy a house, advance in most careers, sell a product, pitch a story, teach a course, etc. without building healthy relationships. Managers get the best results from their teams, not through brute force, but to careful appeals to their sensibilities, occasional withdrawals from the reservoir of respect they’ve built. Using these tactics, they can influence others to excellence, to productivity, and to success.

Carnegie’s book is great. Of course, there are other resources too. Most of us have someone in our lives who positively influences us. The truth is positively influencing people is about centering the humanity of others. Chances are, you know someone who is really good at making others feel like stars. They can get you to do things that the average person cannot. Where the requests of others sound like fingernails on a chalkboard, the request from this special person sounds like music to your ears. You’re delighted to not only listen but also to oblige.

So how to influence people in a positive way? Read on for tips.

1. Be Authentic

To influence people in a positive way, be authentic. Rather than being a carbon copy of someone else’s version of authenticity, uncover what it is that makes you unique.

Discover your unique take on an issue and then live up to and honor that. Once of the reasons social media influencers are so powerful is that they have carved out a niche for themselves or taken a common issue and approached it from a novel or uncommon way. People instinctually appreciate people whose public persona matches their private values.

Contradictions bother us because we crave stability. When someone professes to be one way, but lives contrary to that profession, it signals that they are confused or untrustworthy and thereby, inauthentic. Neither of these combinations bode well for positively influencing others.

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2. Listen

Growing up, my father would tell me to listen to what others said. He told me if I listened carefully, I would know all I needed to know about a person’s character, desires and needs.

To positively influence others, you must listen to what is spoken and what is left unsaid. Therein lies the explanation for what people need in order to feel validated, supported and seen. If a person feels they are invisible, and unseen by their superiors, they are less likely to be positively influenced by that person.

Listening meets a person’s primary need of validation and acceptance.

Take a look at this guide on how to be a better listener: How to Practice Active Listening (A Step-By-Step Guide)

3. Become an Expert

Most people are predisposed to listen to, if not respect, authority. If you want to positively influence others, become an authority in the area in which you seek to lead others. Research and read everything you can about the given topic, and then look for opportunities to put your education into practice.

You can argue over opinions. You cannot argue, or it is unwise to argue, over facts and experts come with facts.

4. Lead with Story

From years of working in the public relations space, I know that personal narratives, testimonials and impact stories are incredibly powerful. But I never cease to be amazed with how effective a well-timed and told story can be.

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If you want to influence people, learn to tell stories. Your stories should be related to the issue or concept you are discussing. They should be an analogy or metaphor that explains your topic in ordinary terms and in vivid detail. To learn more about how to tell powerful stories, and the ethics of storytelling, take a look at this article: How To Tell An Interesting Story In 4 Simple Steps

5. Lead by Example

It is incredibly inspiring to watch passionate, talented people at work or play. One of the reasons a person who is not an athlete can be in awe of athletic prowess is because human nature appreciates the extraordinary. When we watch the Olympics, Olympic trials, gymnastic competitions, ice skating, and other competitive sports, we can recognize the effort of people who day in and day out give their all. C

ase in point: Simone Biles. The gymnast extraordinaire won her 6TH all-around title at the U.S. Gymnastics Championships after doing a triple double. She was the first woman to do so. Watching her gave me chills. Even non-gymnasts and non-competitive athletes can appreciate the talent required to pull off such a remarkable feat.

We celebrate remarkable accomplishments and believe that their example is proof that we too can accomplish something great, even if it isn’t qualifying for the Olympics. To influence people in a positive way, we must lead by example, lead with intention and execute with excellence.

6. Catch People Doing Good

A powerful way to influence people in a positive way is to catch people doing good. Instead of looking for problems, look for successes. Look for often overlooked, but critically important things that your peers, subordinates and managers do that make the work more effective and more enjoyable.

Once you catch people doing good, name and notice their contributions.

7. Be Effusive with Praise

It did not take me long to notice a remarkable trait of a former boss. He not only began and ended meetings with praise, but he peppered praise throughout the entire meeting. He found a way to celebrate the unique attributes and skills of his team members. He was able to quickly and accurately assess what people were doing well and then let them and their colleagues know.

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Meetings were not just an occasion to go through a “To Do” list, they were opportunities to celebrate accomplishments, no matter how small they are.

8. Be Kind Rather Than Right

I am going to level with you; this one is tough. It is easy to get caught up in a cycle of proving oneself. For people who lack confidence, or people who prioritize the opinions of others, being right is important. The validation that comes with being perceived as “right” feeds one’s ego. But in the quest to be “right,” we can hurt other people. Once we’ve hurt someone by being unkind, it is much harder to get them to listen to what we’re trying to influence them to do.

The antidote to influencing others via bullying is to prioritize kindness above rightness. You can be kind and still stand firm in your position. For instance, many people think that they need others to validate their experience. If a person does not see the situation you experienced in the way you see it, you get upset. But your experience is your experience.

If you and your friends go out to eat and you get food poisoning, you do not need your friends to agree that the food served at the restaurant was problematic for you. Your own experience of getting food poisoning is all the validation you need. Therefore, taking time to be right is essentially wasted and, if you were unkind in seeking validation for your food-poison experience, now you’ve really lost points.

9. Understand a Person’s Logical, Emotional and Cooperative Needs

The Center for Creative Leadership has argued that the best way to influence others is to appeal to their logical, emotional and cooperative needs. Their logical need is their rational and educational need. Their emotional need is the information that touches them in a deeply personal manner. The cooperative need is understanding the level of cooperation various individuals need and then appropriately offering it.

The trick with this system is to understand that different people need different things. For some people, a strong emotional appeal will outweigh logical explanations. For others, having an opportunity to collaborate will override emotional connection.

If you know your audience, you will know what they need in order to be positively influenced. If you have limited information about the people whom you are attempting to influence, you will be ineffective.

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10. Understand Your Lane

If you want to positively influence others, operate from your sphere of influence. Operate from your place of expertise. Leave everything else to others. Gone are the days when being a jack of all trades is celebrated.

Most people appreciate brands that understand their target audience and then deliver on what that audience wants. When you focus on what you are uniquely gifted and qualified to do, and then offer that gift to the people who need it, you are likely more effective. This effectiveness is attractive.

You cannot positively influence others if you are more preoccupied by what others do well versus what you do well.

Final Thoughts

Influencing people is about centering your humanity. If you want to influence others positively, focus on the way you communicate and improve the relationship with yourself first.

It’s hard to influence others if you’re still trying to figure out how to communicate with yourself.

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