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10 Things You Should Let Your Girls Know Before They Grow Up

10 Things You Should Let Your Girls Know Before They Grow Up

A lot of responsibilities fall on the woman as they grow. They go beyond just being girls to mothers, to pacesetters and leaders. While a lot is working for the modern day woman, it is important to be aware of certain things as they grow up and become adults. Here are certain things parents can still remind them and inculcate in them before your girls grow up.

1. They should expect nothing from anyone

No matter how weak a woman is meant to be she still has the right to rule her world. She should focus on being independent and take the direction she wants to take. The truth is that many people out there adore an independent woman. Depending on someone to define her happiness will take her nowhere.

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2. There is no solution to problems when you worry

Women are more given to worrying and trying to make things better. The best thing for a girl while she grows up to become a woman is to experience the world and live it. She would only drain her physical and mental energy by worrying or trying to fix everything. Every girl should know she can live the way she wants and be happy with every moment rather than looking at tomorrow answering her problems.

3. Let her know she has to be brave

Yes a woman will face motherhood and she will be responsible for the success of another being. Through this twist there will be challenges that will test her courage and strength. Let your girl know she has to be brave regardless of the situation she finds herself in. Let her define her situations rather than situations defining her.

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4. Let her know beauty goes beyond the physical

The media tends to laud physical beauty and appearance. We live in a world where physical appearance pushes the moment. But this is not sustaining. What will sustain her are the values and inner qualities she has been able to nurture over the years.

5. Let her be reminded of her self-worth

Let her see herself not as the world sees her but how she sees herself. She must have gone through a lot of educating and refining process. She doesn’t need society to dictate for her their standards, but rather she should value herself and dictate for society her standards.

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6. Let her take risks

There is no harm in failure. It is nothing but a learning process and sometimes a platform that will take her to the next stage. Let her not see failure or taking risks as a setback or an obstacle but see it as a process to finding success.

7. Let her dream big

She can be a Hilary Clinton or Condoleezza Rice. She should not limit herself from endless possibilities and trudging on paths that will take her to where she wants to be. She should dream as big as she can and beckon on many opportunities.

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8. Let her be careful of her associations

The friends she keeps and hangs out with will certainly have an effect on her. Being selective is not a crime; it only makes you understand what matters and what should be valued. She should have the right association that will not take her away from her happiness but make her always joyful.

9. Teach her to be respectful

Let her be kind and respectful to the feelings of others. We do not know what cycle we are in life. Let her be able to see the good in others and find source and energy in doing good deeds to others. Thus she can be a river of possibilities than simply a reservoir of goodness.

10. Let her never stop seeking for knowledge

Never have we had in history such abundance of knowledge and information. Let her always seek knowledge and embolden herself with skills that will make her more efficient and capable as a woman.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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