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When You Start To Accept Things You Can’t Control In Life, These 10 Amazing Things Will Happen

When You Start To Accept Things You Can’t Control In Life, These 10 Amazing Things Will Happen

Things happen throughout the course of our lives that we simply have no control of.  Whether it is a serious illness, or the loss of someone, or losing something that means the world to us.  There is also things that happen that you are solely responsible for: that you are ashamed of, and wish you could take back, but you can’t.  And all of that stress, pain, and resentment can be a heavy burden on your shoulders.  Even though you can’t change your past to make the present better, you can make a change to brighten your future.

Firstly, you must accept the situation that you are in.  You must be able to reassure yourself that everything in life happens for a reason.  Whatever burden you are facing isn’t accidental. You have to simply look at it as an opportunity for a new beginning. You are still capable of doing great things in life, but you have to accept your past and build on it.  If you can do all of that, you can look forward to these things beginning to happen.

1. You will start to have more faith in yourself.

The only person that can stand in your way is you.  If you have faith in yourself to accept, and overcome life changes, then you will be able to take on problems like this for the rest of your life.

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2. You will be able to think more rationally.

Once you start to lift the burden off of yourself, you will become less stressed, and be able to think more rationally.  Once you are able to do this, nothing can stand in your way.

3. You will learn to be truly happy again.

Its easy to wake up, and put on a fake smile to get you through your day without having to face your problems.  When you accept where your life has brought you, you will soon find that its even easier to just wake up, and already have a smile on your face.

4. You will be able to move on.

Because isn’t this what you wanted to be able to do in the first place?

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5. You will regret not accepting the changes sooner.

And you will accept the fact that you didn’t, because you will know that it wasn’t the right time before now.

6. People will notice a change in your personality.

When you accept the changes, and begin moving on for the better, people will be able to notice a new sense of pride and integrity within you.

7. You will be a lot more motivated.

Once you begin to move on, you are going to want to set certain goals for yourself to help you move on, and to change for the better.  And nothing can stop you!

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 8. You will be able to give up unhealthy habits.

Your new-found outlook on life will no longer require you to turn to a vice to get you by on a day to day basis.  You may find yourself able to put down the drink, or cigarette, and turn to yourself, and loved ones to realize that they are the only thing you really need that will help make things easier for you.

9. Your health will improve.

Your health may improve by simply accepting the changes in your life.  You may be able to slip out of that depression you were in.  Or maybe you find yourself sleeping better at night.  Maybe you decid that exercising will help you shake off those negative vibes.  Whatever it may be, it will definitely make you feel a lot better.

10. You will be able to influence others in the same situation.

There is nothing better than the satisfaction of knowing that you are able to help somebody else that is going through something that you have gone through.  As a blogger, I grasp that opportunity every chance that I get.  Knowing that I was able to reach out to at least one person makes my job worth more than a paycheck ever will.

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Whatever your personal situation may be, there is no reason, no matter how big or small it is, that you haven’t yet made a change for the better. Just remember, it is all about accepting who you are, what the situation is, and how you can turn it around and make it into something amazing.

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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