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When You Start To Accept Things You Can’t Control In Life, These 10 Amazing Things Will Happen

When You Start To Accept Things You Can’t Control In Life, These 10 Amazing Things Will Happen

Things happen throughout the course of our lives that we simply have no control of.  Whether it is a serious illness, or the loss of someone, or losing something that means the world to us.  There is also things that happen that you are solely responsible for: that you are ashamed of, and wish you could take back, but you can’t.  And all of that stress, pain, and resentment can be a heavy burden on your shoulders.  Even though you can’t change your past to make the present better, you can make a change to brighten your future.

Firstly, you must accept the situation that you are in.  You must be able to reassure yourself that everything in life happens for a reason.  Whatever burden you are facing isn’t accidental. You have to simply look at it as an opportunity for a new beginning. You are still capable of doing great things in life, but you have to accept your past and build on it.  If you can do all of that, you can look forward to these things beginning to happen.

1. You will start to have more faith in yourself.

The only person that can stand in your way is you.  If you have faith in yourself to accept, and overcome life changes, then you will be able to take on problems like this for the rest of your life.

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2. You will be able to think more rationally.

Once you start to lift the burden off of yourself, you will become less stressed, and be able to think more rationally.  Once you are able to do this, nothing can stand in your way.

3. You will learn to be truly happy again.

Its easy to wake up, and put on a fake smile to get you through your day without having to face your problems.  When you accept where your life has brought you, you will soon find that its even easier to just wake up, and already have a smile on your face.

4. You will be able to move on.

Because isn’t this what you wanted to be able to do in the first place?

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5. You will regret not accepting the changes sooner.

And you will accept the fact that you didn’t, because you will know that it wasn’t the right time before now.

6. People will notice a change in your personality.

When you accept the changes, and begin moving on for the better, people will be able to notice a new sense of pride and integrity within you.

7. You will be a lot more motivated.

Once you begin to move on, you are going to want to set certain goals for yourself to help you move on, and to change for the better.  And nothing can stop you!

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 8. You will be able to give up unhealthy habits.

Your new-found outlook on life will no longer require you to turn to a vice to get you by on a day to day basis.  You may find yourself able to put down the drink, or cigarette, and turn to yourself, and loved ones to realize that they are the only thing you really need that will help make things easier for you.

9. Your health will improve.

Your health may improve by simply accepting the changes in your life.  You may be able to slip out of that depression you were in.  Or maybe you find yourself sleeping better at night.  Maybe you decid that exercising will help you shake off those negative vibes.  Whatever it may be, it will definitely make you feel a lot better.

10. You will be able to influence others in the same situation.

There is nothing better than the satisfaction of knowing that you are able to help somebody else that is going through something that you have gone through.  As a blogger, I grasp that opportunity every chance that I get.  Knowing that I was able to reach out to at least one person makes my job worth more than a paycheck ever will.

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Whatever your personal situation may be, there is no reason, no matter how big or small it is, that you haven’t yet made a change for the better. Just remember, it is all about accepting who you are, what the situation is, and how you can turn it around and make it into something amazing.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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