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10 Things Only People Who Have a Playful Dad Would Understand

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10 Things Only People Who Have a Playful Dad Would Understand

There is a saying that a father is a son’s first hero, and a daughter’s first love. Those fortunate sons and daughters would unarguably agree with this. A father’s role starts the day his child is born. A father is that person who is the strongest pillar for his children, shelters them like a banyan tree, and supports them throughout their lives. A father is a combination of coolness, humor, and playfulness.

Do you have a playful dad who is loved by all ages? Here are 10 things only people who have a playful dad would understand!

1. You have a unique bond with him.

A dad’s general daily routine is to wake up early, go to the office, come back home dead tired, relax and fall asleep. But your dad would make space some time in between those coming-home-tired-going-to-sleep periods and entertain you. You are very comfortable with the relationship you share with your father, instead of being scared of him. You had the experience of climbing up on your father, as if he’s a tree. Or, you made your dad bend down on all four, sat on top of him and rode him like a horse. And he never complained.

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2. You trust him blindly.

When you were young, while running or jumping, you fell down, and your father was the first one to pick you up. This is a shout out to you that no matter how minute or silly a matter is, dad will always be there to pull you to your feet. This has helped to build a trust, a faith inside your mind. By the time you are an adult, you know the person you can count on with your secrets is your dad.

3. He is your best friend.

When you were young, you went to the park with him. He would push your swing high up in the sky, he would ride the see-saw with you and he would even play on the slides with you. And now, you guys play basketball, or softball together. He was your first soccer coach and you are forever grateful to him for introducing you to sports. He is that playful!

4. You would go fishing with him any given day.

It is so relaxing to go fishing with your dad because he has the best tricks up his sleeves and you guys can go hours sitting silently yet not feeling bored at all. It is a feeling of serenity, a feeling of contentment which only a playful dad can give.

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 5. Your favorite wrestler is your dad.

A serious father would restrict you from watching wrestling on television from a young age. But a playful dad would never do that. Not only would he watch and allow you to watch with him as well, he would also try some moves on you. You are smiling at this, aren’t you? Yes, the children of such playful dads have undergone similar experiences sometime in our lifetime!

6. You prefer to wander the mall with him.

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    As a young kid, regardless of your gender, it was always fun to wander around the mall with your dad. One specific reason was he would allow you to play on those mini merry-go-rounds and he would lazily sit on the nearby bench watching you. He would never say no to your tantrums of buying you chocolates from the vending machines. Even as an adult, you would still prefer to cruise the mall with him than your mum.

    7. Your favorite pastime at home is playing video games with him.

    Your dad is a kid at heart. He’s the one who bought your first Playstation for you, and he’s the one who continually play with you at every chance. He would jump around, get excited, even curse, and would try to beat you at the game. You two become the best opponents and no one can stop you guys!

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    8. Your dad is the masterchef, while you are his assistant.

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      I know some playful dads would wake up at middle of the night and raid the fridge. I also know, he would prefer company, specifically his children. Or, there are those dads who would simply raid the kitchen and cook up a storm, taking aid from you. You love such experiments with your dad and those foods taste blissful!

      9. When asked, “Who is your hero?”, your answer is always, “my dad.”

      Your dad would dress the young you up as Batman, or Superman, and would take you on his shoulder and run around the house, pretending that you are flying. But it was always on your mind that not you, but HE is the Batman, your Superman. He is your hero, your playmate!

      10. Because you are nothing without him.

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        You are who you are because of your dad. You know the correct time to become serious, you know the perfect place  to act accordingly, yet you know that all seriousness would never get you to your destination. You have to be playful, fun loving, and open-minded to see the world in a rich way. Because your dad has always been full of spirit, and not SERIOUS, he has made you think in an audacious way, and made you feel in a rational way.

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        You are grateful that you have a dad who is playful and full of life. You are proud of him. And you thank your fate that you are blessed with such a good soul, a hero in your life.

        Featured photo credit: father and son playing on the beach at the day time via shutterstock.com

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        Last Updated on July 20, 2021

        How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

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        How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

        You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

        Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

        Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

        Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

        1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

        According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

        “Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

        Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

        Warming up

        If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

        If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

        Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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        1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
        2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
        3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

        Stay hydrated

        Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

        To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

        Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

        Meditate

        Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

        Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

        Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

        Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

        2. Focus on your goal

        One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

        Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

        Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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        Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

        If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

        3. Convert negativity to positivity

        There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

        ‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

        It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

        Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

        Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

        Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

        4. Understand your content

        Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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        However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

        “No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

        Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

        Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

        One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

        5. Practice makes perfect

        Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

        In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

        Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

        6. Be authentic

        There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

        Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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        Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

        To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

        With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

        Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

        7. Post speech evaluation

        Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

        Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

        We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

        You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

        Improve your next speech

        As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

        Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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        • How did I do?
        • Are there any areas for improvement?
        • Did I sound or look stressed?
        • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
        • Was I saying “um” too often?
        • How was the flow of the speech?

        Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

        If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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