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10 Things Only People Who Have a Playful Dad Would Understand

10 Things Only People Who Have a Playful Dad Would Understand

There is a saying that a father is a son’s first hero, and a daughter’s first love. Those fortunate sons and daughters would unarguably agree with this. A father’s role starts the day his child is born. A father is that person who is the strongest pillar for his children, shelters them like a banyan tree, and supports them throughout their lives. A father is a combination of coolness, humor, and playfulness.

Do you have a playful dad who is loved by all ages? Here are 10 things only people who have a playful dad would understand!

1. You have a unique bond with him.

A dad’s general daily routine is to wake up early, go to the office, come back home dead tired, relax and fall asleep. But your dad would make space some time in between those coming-home-tired-going-to-sleep periods and entertain you. You are very comfortable with the relationship you share with your father, instead of being scared of him. You had the experience of climbing up on your father, as if he’s a tree. Or, you made your dad bend down on all four, sat on top of him and rode him like a horse. And he never complained.

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2. You trust him blindly.

When you were young, while running or jumping, you fell down, and your father was the first one to pick you up. This is a shout out to you that no matter how minute or silly a matter is, dad will always be there to pull you to your feet. This has helped to build a trust, a faith inside your mind. By the time you are an adult, you know the person you can count on with your secrets is your dad.

3. He is your best friend.

When you were young, you went to the park with him. He would push your swing high up in the sky, he would ride the see-saw with you and he would even play on the slides with you. And now, you guys play basketball, or softball together. He was your first soccer coach and you are forever grateful to him for introducing you to sports. He is that playful!

4. You would go fishing with him any given day.

It is so relaxing to go fishing with your dad because he has the best tricks up his sleeves and you guys can go hours sitting silently yet not feeling bored at all. It is a feeling of serenity, a feeling of contentment which only a playful dad can give.

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 5. Your favorite wrestler is your dad.

A serious father would restrict you from watching wrestling on television from a young age. But a playful dad would never do that. Not only would he watch and allow you to watch with him as well, he would also try some moves on you. You are smiling at this, aren’t you? Yes, the children of such playful dads have undergone similar experiences sometime in our lifetime!

6. You prefer to wander the mall with him.

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    As a young kid, regardless of your gender, it was always fun to wander around the mall with your dad. One specific reason was he would allow you to play on those mini merry-go-rounds and he would lazily sit on the nearby bench watching you. He would never say no to your tantrums of buying you chocolates from the vending machines. Even as an adult, you would still prefer to cruise the mall with him than your mum.

    7. Your favorite pastime at home is playing video games with him.

    Your dad is a kid at heart. He’s the one who bought your first Playstation for you, and he’s the one who continually play with you at every chance. He would jump around, get excited, even curse, and would try to beat you at the game. You two become the best opponents and no one can stop you guys!

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    8. Your dad is the masterchef, while you are his assistant.

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      I know some playful dads would wake up at middle of the night and raid the fridge. I also know, he would prefer company, specifically his children. Or, there are those dads who would simply raid the kitchen and cook up a storm, taking aid from you. You love such experiments with your dad and those foods taste blissful!

      9. When asked, “Who is your hero?”, your answer is always, “my dad.”

      Your dad would dress the young you up as Batman, or Superman, and would take you on his shoulder and run around the house, pretending that you are flying. But it was always on your mind that not you, but HE is the Batman, your Superman. He is your hero, your playmate!

      10. Because you are nothing without him.

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        You are who you are because of your dad. You know the correct time to become serious, you know the perfect place  to act accordingly, yet you know that all seriousness would never get you to your destination. You have to be playful, fun loving, and open-minded to see the world in a rich way. Because your dad has always been full of spirit, and not SERIOUS, he has made you think in an audacious way, and made you feel in a rational way.

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        You are grateful that you have a dad who is playful and full of life. You are proud of him. And you thank your fate that you are blessed with such a good soul, a hero in your life.

        Featured photo credit: father and son playing on the beach at the day time via shutterstock.com

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        How to Say No When You Know You Say Yes Too Often

        How to Say No When You Know You Say Yes Too Often

        Do you say yes so often that you no longer feel that your own needs are being met? Are you wondering how to say no to people?

        For years, I was a serial people pleaser[1]. Known as someone who would step up, I would gladly make time, especially when it came to volunteering for certain causes. I proudly carried this role all through grade school, college, even through law school. For years, I thought saying “no” meant I would disappoint a good friend or someone I respected.

        But somewhere along the way, I noticed I wasn’t quite living my life. Instead, I seem to have created a schedule that was a strange combination of meeting the expectations of others, what I thought I should be doing, and some of what I actually wanted to do. The result? I had a packed schedule that left me overwhelmed and unfulfilled.

        It took a long while, but I learned the art of saying no. Saying no meant I no longer catered fully to everyone else’s needs and could make more room for what I really wanted to do. Instead of cramming too much in, I chose to pursue what really mattered. When that happened, I became a lot happier.

        And guess what? I hardly disappointed anyone.

        The Importance of Saying No

        When you learn the art of saying no, you begin to look at the world differently. Rather than seeing all of the things you could or should be doing (and aren’t doing), you start to look at how to say yes to what’s important.

        In other words, you aren’t just reacting to what life throws at you. You seek the opportunities that move you to where you want to be.

        Successful people aren’t afraid to say no. Oprah Winfrey, considered one of the most successful women in the world, confessed that it was much later in life when she learned how to say no. Even after she had become internationally famous, she felt she had to say yes to virtually everything.

        Being able to say no also helps you manage your time better.

        Warren Buffett views “no” as essential to his success. He said:

        “The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

        When I made “no” a part of my toolbox, I drove more of my own success, focusing on fewer things and doing them well.

        How We Are Pressured to Say Yes

        It’s no wonder a lot of us find it hard to say no.

        From an early age, we are conditioned to say yes. We said yes probably hundreds of times in order to graduate from high school and then get into college. We said yes to find work, to get a promotion, to find love and then yes again to stay in a relationship. We said yes to find and keep friends.

        We say yes because we feel good when we help someone, because it can seem like the right thing to do, because we think that is key to success, and because the request might come from someone who is hard to resist.

        And that’s not all. The pressure to say yes doesn’t just come from others. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves.

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        At work, we say yes because we compare ourselves to others who seem to be doing more than we are. Outside of work, we say yes because we are feeling bad that we aren’t doing enough to spend time with family or friends.

        The message, no matter where we turn, is nearly always, “You really could be doing more.” The result? When people ask us for our time, we are heavily conditioned to say yes.

        How Do You Say No Without Feeling Guilty?

        Deciding to add the word “no” to your toolbox is no small thing. Perhaps you already say no, but not as much as you would like. Maybe you have an instinct that if you were to learn the art of no that you could finally create more time for things you care about.

        But let’s be honest, using the word “no” doesn’t come easily for many people.

        3 Rules of Thumbs for Saying No

        1. You Need to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

        Let’s face it. It is hard to say no. Setting boundaries around your time, especially you haven’t done it much in the past, will feel awkward. Your comfort zone is “yes,” so it’s time to challenge that and step outside that.

        If you need help getting out of your comfort zone, check out this article.

        2. You Are the Air Traffic Controller of Your Time

        When you want to learn how to say no, remember that you are the only one who understands the demands for your time. Think about it: who else knows about all of the demands in your life? No one.

        Only you are at the center of all of these requests. You are the only one that understands what time you really have.

        3. Saying No Means Saying Yes to Something That Matters

        When we decide not to do something, it means we can say yes to something else that we may care more about. You have a unique opportunity to decide how you spend your precious time.

        6 Ways to Start Saying No

        Incorporating that little word “no” into your life can be transformational. Turning some things down will mean you can open doors to what really matters. Here are some essential tips to learn the art of no:

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        1. Check in With Your Obligation Meter

        One of the biggest challenges to saying no is a feeling of obligation. Do you feel you have a responsibility to say yes and worry that saying no will reflect poorly on you?

        Ask yourself whether you truly have the duty to say yes. Check your assumptions or beliefs about whether you carry the responsibility to say yes. Turn it around and instead ask what duty you owe to yourself.

        2. Resist the Fear of Missing out (FOMO)

        Do you have a fear of missing out (FOMO)? FOMO can follow us around in so many ways. At work, we volunteer our time because we fear we won’t move ahead. In our personal lives, we agree to join the crowd because of FOMO, even while we ourselves aren’t enjoying the fun.

        Check in with yourself. Are you saying yes because of FOMO or because you really want to say yes? More often than not, running after fear doesn’t make us feel better[2].

        3. Check Your Assumptions About What It Means to Say No

        Do you dread the reaction you will get if you say no? Often, we say yes because we worry about how others will respond or because of the consequences. We may be afraid to disappoint others or think we will lose their respect. We often forget how much we are disappointing ourselves along the way.

        Keep in mind that saying no can be exactly what is needed to send the right message that you have limited time. In the tips below, you will see how to communicate your no in a gentle and loving way.

        You might disappoint someone initially, but drawing a boundary can bring you the freedom you need so that you can give freely of yourself when you truly want to. And it will often help others have more respect for you and your boundaries, not less.

        4. When the Request Comes in, Sit on It

        Sometimes, when we are in the moment, we instinctively agree. The request might make sense at first. Or we typically have said yes to this request in the past.

        Give yourself a little time to reflect on whether you really have the time or can do the task properly. You may decide the best option is to say no. There is no harm in giving yourself the time to decide.

        5. Communicate Your “No” with Transparency and Kindness

        When you are ready to tell someone no, communicate your decision clearly. The message can be open and honest[3] to ensure the recipient that your reasons have to do with your limited time.

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        How do you say no? 9 Healthy Ways to Say “No”

          Resist the temptation not to respond or communicate all. But do not feel obligated to provide a lengthy account about why you are saying no.

          Clear communication with a short explanation is all that is needed. I have found it useful to tell people that I have many demands and need to be careful with how I allocate my time. I will sometimes say I really appreciate that they came to me and for them to check in again if the opportunity arises another time.

          6. Consider How to Use a Modified No

          If you are under pressure to say yes but want to say no, you may want to consider downgrading a “yes” to a “yes but…” as this will give you an opportunity to condition your agreement to what works best for you.

          Sometimes, the condition can be to do the task, but not in the time frame that was originally requested. Or perhaps you can do part of what has been asked.

          Final Thoughts

          Beginning right now, you can change how you respond to requests for your time. When the request comes in, take yourself off autopilot where you might normally say yes.

          Use the request as a way to draw a healthy boundary around your time. Pay particular attention to when you place certain demands on yourself.

          Try it now. Say no to a friend who continues to take advantage of your goodwill. Or, draw the line with a workaholic colleague and tell them you will complete the project, but not by working all weekend. You’ll find yourself much happier.

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          Featured photo credit: Chris Ainsworth via unsplash.com

          Reference

          [1] Science of People: 11 Expert Tips to Stop Being a People Pleaser and Start Doing You
          [2] Anxiety and Depression Association of America: Tips to Get Over Your FOMO, or Fear of Missing Out
          [3] Cooks Hill Counseling: 9 Healthy Ways to Say “No”

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