Nothing is more important than reconnecting with your bliss. Nothing is as rich. Nothing is more real.– Deepak Chopra“Bliss” means something different to each of us. To one person, it may mean lying on a tropical beach sipping a cocktail. For another, it could be some quiet time with a book. Want to find your own version of “bliss?” Then check out these 10 ways to be blissful each and every day.
Our lives are filled with endless noise. If you’re struggling with finding bliss, the first step is to embrace silence. Find a couple times throughout each day to be quiet with your thoughts. Calm your mind and only focus on one thing: breathing. Meditation is one of the best ways increase your health and happiness.
Say “thank you.”Counting your blessings will do more than just cheer you up. It can actually improve your health and well being too. If you’re seeking a perpetual state of bliss, start being thankful for what you do have–and stop focusing so much on what you don’t.
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Here’s another “secret” for how to be blissful: work smarter, not harder. This means planning out your days and prioritizing the tasks that increase your productivity and happiness. Plan each day the night before by listing out things you want to accomplish on your to-do list. You’ll find that when you get through your list and start creating better habits, you’ll feel a wonderful sense of accomplishment.
Observe and validate your true feelings.
We’re a generation that does too much thinking and not enough feeling. Blissful people have the courage to express their emotions. They laugh. They cry. And they feel better because of it.Advertising
Calm restless thoughts.
Is your brain constantly swirling with thought after thought? Join the club. The key is to let go of negative thoughts. Spend some time unwinding before you go to bed each night by relaxing your mind. Reading an uplifting book or listening to some light music helps. Embrace art as a form of therapy.
Connect with people.
Want to know why you have two ears and one mouth? So you can listen twice as much as you speak. As much as we all want our voices to be heard, connecting means listening. Every day, ask one person how they’re feeling–and really listen to what they’re saying. They’ll feel better after talking to you, and so will you.Advertising
Visualize the process of getting what you want.
Visualization is a powerful and proven technique for accomplishing great things in your life. Learning how to be blissful starts with visualizing what “bliss” looks like for you.
According to a Harvard Business Review article, change starts with building self-awareness, which is best achieved by asking for honest and critical feedback from others. Then, you can create goals based on this feedback and work on changing your behaviors that aren’t helping you create a blissful existence.Advertising
Believe in you.
Ultimately, your ability to create bliss and happiness in your life will be determined by your belief in yourself. Your brain turns thoughts into reality. So if you focus on negative baggage and the bad things that have happened in your life, this is what will continue to manifest in your daily existence. Instead, change your mindset. Believe that you’re here to do great things–to change the world. And if you do, you’ll discover how to be blissful for the rest of your life.
The Gentle Art of Saying No
It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.
But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.
What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.
But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:
- Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
- Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
- Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
- Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
- Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
- Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
- Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
- Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
- Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
- It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.
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