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10 Sure-Fire Ways to Make Your Wife Cry…With Joy!

10 Sure-Fire Ways to Make Your Wife Cry…With Joy!

As a husband some times it is good to make your wife cry. With joy!

Here are 10 ways to make your spouse so happy she can’t hold it in.

1. Book a surprise second honeymoon

This one could be a bank breaker, so it will probably take a while to plan (and save up for). Your honeymoon should have been one of the most enjoyable periods of your marriage, so giving your wife a chance to capture that joy – and spend some time with just the two of you – should make her happy enough to cry.

A wife crying with joy

    Try and book the same hotel room at the same destination to recreate the original honeymoon if you can. Otherwise book a trip to somewhere she has always wanted to go. Make the trip about her, and you’re onto a winner.

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    2. Renew your marriage vows

    When you got married, you make a life-long commitment to love and honour your wife. Over the years life can get in the way, placing a strain on your relationship. That doesn’t mean you don’t love your wife any more, but sometimes she may feel a little unloved. So why not renew your wedding vows as a sign of your ongoing love and commitment?

    You could try to re-enact the original ceremony entirely, or go for something completely new. For maximum tears potential, try combining a vow renewal ceremony with a second honeymoon.

    3. Write her a love letter

    In the age of the SMS text message and email, most of us have forgotten the emotional power of a handwritten love letter. Which is why your wife is likely to burst into tears if you send her one.

    You can write whatever you like in a love letter; if you’re confident enough, try a poem, otherwise you can just tell your wife all the things you love about her. Keep it positive, keep it fluffy and you’re on to a winner. And if you lack the confidence to come up with something on your own, there’s nothing wrong with finding a poem or some song lyrics that say what you want her to hear.

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    4. Make her a photo scrapbook

    During your life together you have probably taken hundreds of photos. But with digital cameras and pictures stored on your computer, your memories are often out of sight, out of mind.

    Take the time to collect together photographs from significant milestones in your marriage and assemble them into a photo scrapbook for her. Don’t forget to ask friends and family to see if they have any good photos you can use too. Once you have everything together, get the photos printed and mounted into a good quality book. Make little notes about each life event and how they made you feel, what you remember and why you love those memories.

    If you’re not crafty enough to assemble the book yourself, see if you can track down a talented scrapbooker who may be able to put the book together for you. Your wife will love the effort you put in, and reading how much you love being with her is sure to reduce her to tears…of joy!

    5. Do something she asks. The first time.

    Men and women have different priorities – we all know this fact only too well. But too often as husbands we allow our own priorities to override those of our wife, leading to all kinds of tensions in our relationships.

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    When your wife asks you to do a job or a chore, it’s because that task is quite important to her. So give her a joyful surprise by carrying out her requests at the first time of asking for a month. Not only is this a great way to give your wife tears of joy, but it is also relatively cheap!

    6. Buy her flowers

    Clichéd? Absolutely. Cheesy? Not at all. When you were dating, chances are you bought your wife flowers at least once in an effort to make her smile. So why not surprise her with a special delivery? Now the challenge is to try and remember which are her favourites blooms!

    7. Go on a date

    What did you use to do before the kids came along? Bowling? Dancing? The movies? Sometimes just a night out with just the two of you will be enough to melt your wife’s heart. Remember your time and company is more valuable to her than your money or any gift it could buy.

    8. Make an effort to get on with her mother

    Tradition has it that husbands and mothers-in-law can never get on. But the truth is that by keeping our heads down and our mouths shut, we can get on with just about anyone, including her. So invite your mother-in-law round for dinner, engage in polite conversation and make your wife’s day. For added brownie points, don’t moan about her after she leaves either.

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    9. Clean the house for a week

    Keeping the house clean and tidy isn’t fun – your wife has probably told you as much in the past. So why not give her a week off? If you can keep the house clean to her standards for a week, she’s guaranteed to be so happy she cries. And you will appreciate her all the more afterwards too.

    10. Run her a bath

    Sometimes it’s the smallest things that have the biggest effect. Try running your wife a bath and leaving her to enjoy a quiet, relaxing read in the tub. Just an hour or two away from reality will help her feel a whole lot happier, and help you gain extra man credits in the process.

    Featured photo credit: ariadna via mrg.bz

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    Last Updated on January 16, 2020

    12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

    12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

    The way you feel about yourself greatly influences how you live and interact with others. If you are confident about yourself, you tend to see yourself positively and actually enjoy spending time with and around people. You don’t feel self-conscious or awkward around others, and that allows you to live your fullest and happiest life.

    However, if you’re drowning in a sea of self-doubt, hesitancy and shyness, you often withdraw and isolate yourself from others and avoid interacting and connecting with people. That anxiety you feel in the pit of your stomach when you are around people is holding you back greatly and it is not good for your emotional health and overall well-being. You need to do something about it if you are low in self-confidence or have friends or family members who are not confident.

    “Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone” – Anonymous

    Here are simple, practical tips to boost your confidence right now and make you feel and act your best.

    1. Stop labeling yourself as awkward, timid or shy.

    When you label yourself as awkward, timid or shy, you sub-consciously tell your mind to act accordingly and psychologically feel inclined to live up to those expectations. Instead of labeling and entertaining negative self-talk, visualize and affirm yourself as confident and strong. Close your eyes for a minute and visualize yourself in different situation as you would like to be.

    Be your own cheerleader. Experts believe that positive affirmation and good mental practices like picturing yourself winning or achieving a goal can lead to greater feelings of self-assurance and prepare your brain for success.[1] As the saying goes, “seeing is believing.” Picture yourself as confident and soon enough you will begin to manifest behavior that gives evidence to this new ‘fact.’

    2. Recognize that the world is not focused on you (unless, of course, you are Kanye West).

    That means you don’t have to be excessively sensitive about who you are or what you are doing (or not doing). You are not on the center stage; there is no need for preoccupation with self and perfectionism. As rap music star Rocko sings, “You just do you and I will do me, aight?”

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    Forget about trying to please everyone or being perfect. Trying to be perfect and being a people-pleaser puts too much pressure on you and creates unnecessary anxiety. Besides, people are too preoccupied with their own issues to pay much attention to your every move unless, of course, you are a mega famous, super celebrity like Beyonce or Kanye West.

    3. Focus on other people as opposed to yourself.

    If you are low on confidence, self-conscious, nervous and shy in social situations, focus your attention on other people and what they are saying or doing instead of focusing on your own awkwardness.

    For example, think about what it is that is interesting about the person who’s the centre of the party or the guy or girl you are talking with. Prompt them to talk more about themselves and be genuinely curious and interested in what they say. You will instantly come across as confident and warmhearted.

    People generally want to talk about themselves, be heard and understood. They will love it when you’re eager and willing to listen to them and really hear what they have to say.

    This habit of focusing more on what you love in others as opposed to what you dislike in yourself will not only help you become more assertive and comfortable in virtually all social situations, but also instantly make you feel great about yourself.

    4. Know (and accept) yourself for who you are.

    Chinese military general, strategist and philosopher Sun Tzu, author of the internationally acclaimed book The Art of War, said, “Know yourself and you will win all battles.” Even in the battle with lack of confidence, you will need to know yourself to win.

    Knowing yourself starts with understanding that people are not all the same, neither are all social situation suitable for everyone. You might not be confident in large gatherings, but you could be bold and confident in one-on-one and small group interactions. We all have our own unique gifts and unique ways of expressing ourselves. Embrace yours!

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    Introverts, for example, have a quiet confidence that is, unfortunately, often confused for shyness. They are naturally low key and prefer to spend time alone. However, this natural disposition affords them certain unique gifts, such as an ability to listen better than most people and notice things that others don’t.

    Your uniqueness is where your strength and advantage lies. You won’t be comfortable and confident in all situations all the time. Albert Einstein said,

    “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

    5. Crack a smile.

    If there is one sure way to instantly boost your confidence, it’s cracking a smile. Christine Clapp, a public speaking expert at The George Washington University, says that flashing those pretty, pearly white teeth will immediately make you appear both confident and composed. But, the effect of smiling is not just external. Studies show that smiling can also help nix feelings of stress and pave the way for a happier and more relaxed you.[2]

    Not a bad return for something seemingly so trite, wouldn’t you agree?

    6. Break a sweat—with exercise.

    Working out is another great way to make yourself feel amazing and confident. Science has shown that exercising increases your endorphins, helps reduce stress, tones your muscles and makes you feel happy and confident.[3]

    And hey, all you have to do is take a walk a few times a week and you’ll see the benefits. What seems to matter—as far as your confidence goes—is whether you break a sweat, not how strenuous your session is, which is pretty cool. Start working out now.

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    7. Groom yourself.

    This might seem mundane, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and shave can have on your confidence and self-image. And when you spritz on a scent, the boost on confidence and self-esteem is incredible. As it turns out, your favorite fragrance does more than make you smell oh-so-nice.

    A study found that a fragrance can inspire confidence in men. Interestingly, the study also found that the more a man likes the fragrance, the more confident he might feel. Another study found that 90% of women feel more confident while wearing a scent than those who go fragrance-free.

    8. Dress nicely.

    Another one that might seem trite, but it works. If you dress nicely, you’ll instantly feel good about yourself and give your confidence a real boost. That is largely because you’ll feel attractive, presentable and sometimes even successful in nice clothes.

    While dressing nicely means something different for everyone, it does not necessarily mean wearing $500 designer outfits. It means wearing clothes that are clean, that you are comfortable in and that are nice-looking and presentable, including casual clothes.

    9. Do activities you enjoy.

    Whether it is reading a book, playing a musical instrument, riding your bicycle or going fishing, do what you really enjoy and what makes you truly happy often. It will boost your self-esteem, soothe your ego and allow you to identify with your gifts and talents. That will in turn bolster your self-belief and grow your confidence exponentially.

    You might not become popular for doing what you love, but you might not even want to be popular at all. Being popular doesn’t make you happy; doing what you love does.

    10. Prepare for the possibility of rejection / setback.

    Late World No. 1 professional tennis player Arthur Ashe said, “One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.” You need to prepare for the possibility of rejection and setback.

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    Why?

    Everybody suffers rejection and setback at one point or another. You are not exempted. The question on your mind, therefore, should not be if you will be rejected, but how you will handle rejection when it comes.

    Prepare yourself adequately in every situation to minimize the risk and effect of rejection and so that your confidence is not broken. For example, learn public speaking and rehearse what you are going to say beforehand if you have landed a public speaking engagement. That way, you are sure of yourself and confident you have what it takes to hack it. If you are rejected, don’t take it personally.

    Rejection and setbacks happen to the best of us. Take it as a learning experience. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

    11. Face uncomfortable situations square in the face.

    Don’t run away from uncomfortable situations. Running away from people or situations because you feel scared, shy or timid only confirms and reinforces your shyness. Instead, face the situation that makes you uneasy square in the face. For example, go ahead and talk to that person you are afraid to approach, or go straight to the front of your yoga class! What’s the worst that can happen?

    Prepare and be ready for any eventuality. The more you face your fears, the more you realize you are stronger than you thought and the more confident you get. This simple, yet admittedly courageous, act makes you unstoppable. You get comfortable being uncomfortable and begin to feel like you can take on the world. And that is the hallmark of someone destined for great things.

    12. Sit up straight and walk tall—you are awesome!

    Yes, sit up straight and believe you are awesome. Don’t slump in your chair or slouch your shoulders. Experts say the right stance can not only keep your self-esteem and mood lifted, but also lead to more confidence in your own thoughts.[4]

    The way to sit is to open up your chest and keep your head level so that you look and feel poised and assured. And when you get up, stand tall and walk like you’re on a mission. People who sit up straight and walk tall are more attractive and instantly feel more confident. Try it now: you’ll feel fierce and confident just by sitting up straight and walking tall.

    Featured photo credit: Freshh Connection via unsplash.com

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