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10 Sure-Fire Ways to Make Your Wife Cry…With Joy!

10 Sure-Fire Ways to Make Your Wife Cry…With Joy!

As a husband some times it is good to make your wife cry. With joy!

Here are 10 ways to make your spouse so happy she can’t hold it in.

1. Book a surprise second honeymoon

This one could be a bank breaker, so it will probably take a while to plan (and save up for). Your honeymoon should have been one of the most enjoyable periods of your marriage, so giving your wife a chance to capture that joy – and spend some time with just the two of you – should make her happy enough to cry.

A wife crying with joy

    Try and book the same hotel room at the same destination to recreate the original honeymoon if you can. Otherwise book a trip to somewhere she has always wanted to go. Make the trip about her, and you’re onto a winner.

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    2. Renew your marriage vows

    When you got married, you make a life-long commitment to love and honour your wife. Over the years life can get in the way, placing a strain on your relationship. That doesn’t mean you don’t love your wife any more, but sometimes she may feel a little unloved. So why not renew your wedding vows as a sign of your ongoing love and commitment?

    You could try to re-enact the original ceremony entirely, or go for something completely new. For maximum tears potential, try combining a vow renewal ceremony with a second honeymoon.

    3. Write her a love letter

    In the age of the SMS text message and email, most of us have forgotten the emotional power of a handwritten love letter. Which is why your wife is likely to burst into tears if you send her one.

    You can write whatever you like in a love letter; if you’re confident enough, try a poem, otherwise you can just tell your wife all the things you love about her. Keep it positive, keep it fluffy and you’re on to a winner. And if you lack the confidence to come up with something on your own, there’s nothing wrong with finding a poem or some song lyrics that say what you want her to hear.

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    4. Make her a photo scrapbook

    During your life together you have probably taken hundreds of photos. But with digital cameras and pictures stored on your computer, your memories are often out of sight, out of mind.

    Take the time to collect together photographs from significant milestones in your marriage and assemble them into a photo scrapbook for her. Don’t forget to ask friends and family to see if they have any good photos you can use too. Once you have everything together, get the photos printed and mounted into a good quality book. Make little notes about each life event and how they made you feel, what you remember and why you love those memories.

    If you’re not crafty enough to assemble the book yourself, see if you can track down a talented scrapbooker who may be able to put the book together for you. Your wife will love the effort you put in, and reading how much you love being with her is sure to reduce her to tears…of joy!

    5. Do something she asks. The first time.

    Men and women have different priorities – we all know this fact only too well. But too often as husbands we allow our own priorities to override those of our wife, leading to all kinds of tensions in our relationships.

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    When your wife asks you to do a job or a chore, it’s because that task is quite important to her. So give her a joyful surprise by carrying out her requests at the first time of asking for a month. Not only is this a great way to give your wife tears of joy, but it is also relatively cheap!

    6. Buy her flowers

    Clichéd? Absolutely. Cheesy? Not at all. When you were dating, chances are you bought your wife flowers at least once in an effort to make her smile. So why not surprise her with a special delivery? Now the challenge is to try and remember which are her favourites blooms!

    7. Go on a date

    What did you use to do before the kids came along? Bowling? Dancing? The movies? Sometimes just a night out with just the two of you will be enough to melt your wife’s heart. Remember your time and company is more valuable to her than your money or any gift it could buy.

    8. Make an effort to get on with her mother

    Tradition has it that husbands and mothers-in-law can never get on. But the truth is that by keeping our heads down and our mouths shut, we can get on with just about anyone, including her. So invite your mother-in-law round for dinner, engage in polite conversation and make your wife’s day. For added brownie points, don’t moan about her after she leaves either.

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    9. Clean the house for a week

    Keeping the house clean and tidy isn’t fun – your wife has probably told you as much in the past. So why not give her a week off? If you can keep the house clean to her standards for a week, she’s guaranteed to be so happy she cries. And you will appreciate her all the more afterwards too.

    10. Run her a bath

    Sometimes it’s the smallest things that have the biggest effect. Try running your wife a bath and leaving her to enjoy a quiet, relaxing read in the tub. Just an hour or two away from reality will help her feel a whole lot happier, and help you gain extra man credits in the process.

    Featured photo credit: ariadna via mrg.bz

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    Last Updated on January 15, 2021

    7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

    7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

    The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

    Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

    Posture

    First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

    • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
    • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
    • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
    • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

    All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

    Facial Expressions

    Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

    • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
    • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
    • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

    If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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    1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

    A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

    The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

    This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

    2. Relax Your Face

    New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

    The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

    To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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    3. Improve Your Eye Contact

    Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

    The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

    To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

    3. Smile More

    There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

    Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

    4. Hand Gestures

    Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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    It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

    5. Enhance Your Handshake

    In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

    “Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

    It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

    6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

    As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

    Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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    Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

    Final Takeaways

    Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

    If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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