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10 Sure-Fire Ways to Make Your Wife Cry…With Joy!

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10 Sure-Fire Ways to Make Your Wife Cry…With Joy!

As a husband some times it is good to make your wife cry. With joy!

Here are 10 ways to make your spouse so happy she can’t hold it in.

1. Book a surprise second honeymoon

This one could be a bank breaker, so it will probably take a while to plan (and save up for). Your honeymoon should have been one of the most enjoyable periods of your marriage, so giving your wife a chance to capture that joy – and spend some time with just the two of you – should make her happy enough to cry.

A wife crying with joy

    Try and book the same hotel room at the same destination to recreate the original honeymoon if you can. Otherwise book a trip to somewhere she has always wanted to go. Make the trip about her, and you’re onto a winner.

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    2. Renew your marriage vows

    When you got married, you make a life-long commitment to love and honour your wife. Over the years life can get in the way, placing a strain on your relationship. That doesn’t mean you don’t love your wife any more, but sometimes she may feel a little unloved. So why not renew your wedding vows as a sign of your ongoing love and commitment?

    You could try to re-enact the original ceremony entirely, or go for something completely new. For maximum tears potential, try combining a vow renewal ceremony with a second honeymoon.

    3. Write her a love letter

    In the age of the SMS text message and email, most of us have forgotten the emotional power of a handwritten love letter. Which is why your wife is likely to burst into tears if you send her one.

    You can write whatever you like in a love letter; if you’re confident enough, try a poem, otherwise you can just tell your wife all the things you love about her. Keep it positive, keep it fluffy and you’re on to a winner. And if you lack the confidence to come up with something on your own, there’s nothing wrong with finding a poem or some song lyrics that say what you want her to hear.

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    4. Make her a photo scrapbook

    During your life together you have probably taken hundreds of photos. But with digital cameras and pictures stored on your computer, your memories are often out of sight, out of mind.

    Take the time to collect together photographs from significant milestones in your marriage and assemble them into a photo scrapbook for her. Don’t forget to ask friends and family to see if they have any good photos you can use too. Once you have everything together, get the photos printed and mounted into a good quality book. Make little notes about each life event and how they made you feel, what you remember and why you love those memories.

    If you’re not crafty enough to assemble the book yourself, see if you can track down a talented scrapbooker who may be able to put the book together for you. Your wife will love the effort you put in, and reading how much you love being with her is sure to reduce her to tears…of joy!

    5. Do something she asks. The first time.

    Men and women have different priorities – we all know this fact only too well. But too often as husbands we allow our own priorities to override those of our wife, leading to all kinds of tensions in our relationships.

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    When your wife asks you to do a job or a chore, it’s because that task is quite important to her. So give her a joyful surprise by carrying out her requests at the first time of asking for a month. Not only is this a great way to give your wife tears of joy, but it is also relatively cheap!

    6. Buy her flowers

    Clichéd? Absolutely. Cheesy? Not at all. When you were dating, chances are you bought your wife flowers at least once in an effort to make her smile. So why not surprise her with a special delivery? Now the challenge is to try and remember which are her favourites blooms!

    7. Go on a date

    What did you use to do before the kids came along? Bowling? Dancing? The movies? Sometimes just a night out with just the two of you will be enough to melt your wife’s heart. Remember your time and company is more valuable to her than your money or any gift it could buy.

    8. Make an effort to get on with her mother

    Tradition has it that husbands and mothers-in-law can never get on. But the truth is that by keeping our heads down and our mouths shut, we can get on with just about anyone, including her. So invite your mother-in-law round for dinner, engage in polite conversation and make your wife’s day. For added brownie points, don’t moan about her after she leaves either.

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    9. Clean the house for a week

    Keeping the house clean and tidy isn’t fun – your wife has probably told you as much in the past. So why not give her a week off? If you can keep the house clean to her standards for a week, she’s guaranteed to be so happy she cries. And you will appreciate her all the more afterwards too.

    10. Run her a bath

    Sometimes it’s the smallest things that have the biggest effect. Try running your wife a bath and leaving her to enjoy a quiet, relaxing read in the tub. Just an hour or two away from reality will help her feel a whole lot happier, and help you gain extra man credits in the process.

    Featured photo credit: ariadna via mrg.bz

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    Last Updated on July 20, 2021

    How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

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    How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

    You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

    Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

    Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

    Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

    1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

    According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

    “Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

    Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

    Warming up

    If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

    If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

    Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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    1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
    2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
    3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

    Stay hydrated

    Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

    To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

    Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

    Meditate

    Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

    Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

    Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

    Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

    2. Focus on your goal

    One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

    Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

    Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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    Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

    If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

    3. Convert negativity to positivity

    There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

    ‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

    It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

    Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

    Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

    Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

    4. Understand your content

    Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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    However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

    “No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

    Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

    Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

    One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

    5. Practice makes perfect

    Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

    In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

    Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

    6. Be authentic

    There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

    Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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    Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

    To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

    With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

    Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

    7. Post speech evaluation

    Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

    Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

    We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

    You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

    Improve your next speech

    As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

    Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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    • How did I do?
    • Are there any areas for improvement?
    • Did I sound or look stressed?
    • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
    • Was I saying “um” too often?
    • How was the flow of the speech?

    Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

    If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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