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10 Sure-Fire Ways to Make Your Wife Cry…With Joy!

10 Sure-Fire Ways to Make Your Wife Cry…With Joy!

As a husband some times it is good to make your wife cry. With joy!

Here are 10 ways to make your spouse so happy she can’t hold it in.

1. Book a surprise second honeymoon

This one could be a bank breaker, so it will probably take a while to plan (and save up for). Your honeymoon should have been one of the most enjoyable periods of your marriage, so giving your wife a chance to capture that joy – and spend some time with just the two of you – should make her happy enough to cry.

A wife crying with joy

    Try and book the same hotel room at the same destination to recreate the original honeymoon if you can. Otherwise book a trip to somewhere she has always wanted to go. Make the trip about her, and you’re onto a winner.

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    2. Renew your marriage vows

    When you got married, you make a life-long commitment to love and honour your wife. Over the years life can get in the way, placing a strain on your relationship. That doesn’t mean you don’t love your wife any more, but sometimes she may feel a little unloved. So why not renew your wedding vows as a sign of your ongoing love and commitment?

    You could try to re-enact the original ceremony entirely, or go for something completely new. For maximum tears potential, try combining a vow renewal ceremony with a second honeymoon.

    3. Write her a love letter

    In the age of the SMS text message and email, most of us have forgotten the emotional power of a handwritten love letter. Which is why your wife is likely to burst into tears if you send her one.

    You can write whatever you like in a love letter; if you’re confident enough, try a poem, otherwise you can just tell your wife all the things you love about her. Keep it positive, keep it fluffy and you’re on to a winner. And if you lack the confidence to come up with something on your own, there’s nothing wrong with finding a poem or some song lyrics that say what you want her to hear.

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    4. Make her a photo scrapbook

    During your life together you have probably taken hundreds of photos. But with digital cameras and pictures stored on your computer, your memories are often out of sight, out of mind.

    Take the time to collect together photographs from significant milestones in your marriage and assemble them into a photo scrapbook for her. Don’t forget to ask friends and family to see if they have any good photos you can use too. Once you have everything together, get the photos printed and mounted into a good quality book. Make little notes about each life event and how they made you feel, what you remember and why you love those memories.

    If you’re not crafty enough to assemble the book yourself, see if you can track down a talented scrapbooker who may be able to put the book together for you. Your wife will love the effort you put in, and reading how much you love being with her is sure to reduce her to tears…of joy!

    5. Do something she asks. The first time.

    Men and women have different priorities – we all know this fact only too well. But too often as husbands we allow our own priorities to override those of our wife, leading to all kinds of tensions in our relationships.

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    When your wife asks you to do a job or a chore, it’s because that task is quite important to her. So give her a joyful surprise by carrying out her requests at the first time of asking for a month. Not only is this a great way to give your wife tears of joy, but it is also relatively cheap!

    6. Buy her flowers

    Clichéd? Absolutely. Cheesy? Not at all. When you were dating, chances are you bought your wife flowers at least once in an effort to make her smile. So why not surprise her with a special delivery? Now the challenge is to try and remember which are her favourites blooms!

    7. Go on a date

    What did you use to do before the kids came along? Bowling? Dancing? The movies? Sometimes just a night out with just the two of you will be enough to melt your wife’s heart. Remember your time and company is more valuable to her than your money or any gift it could buy.

    8. Make an effort to get on with her mother

    Tradition has it that husbands and mothers-in-law can never get on. But the truth is that by keeping our heads down and our mouths shut, we can get on with just about anyone, including her. So invite your mother-in-law round for dinner, engage in polite conversation and make your wife’s day. For added brownie points, don’t moan about her after she leaves either.

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    9. Clean the house for a week

    Keeping the house clean and tidy isn’t fun – your wife has probably told you as much in the past. So why not give her a week off? If you can keep the house clean to her standards for a week, she’s guaranteed to be so happy she cries. And you will appreciate her all the more afterwards too.

    10. Run her a bath

    Sometimes it’s the smallest things that have the biggest effect. Try running your wife a bath and leaving her to enjoy a quiet, relaxing read in the tub. Just an hour or two away from reality will help her feel a whole lot happier, and help you gain extra man credits in the process.

    Featured photo credit: ariadna via mrg.bz

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    Had a Bad Day? 7 Ways to Rebound From It and Feel Good Again

    Had a Bad Day? 7 Ways to Rebound From It and Feel Good Again

    Today didn’t turn out as you planned, but it doesn’t mean you’re weak. It simply means that you’re human, and you’re not bad just because you had a bad day.

    “Not everyday is a good day but there is something good in every day.” -Alice Morse Earle

    It’s not the end of the world when you find yourself thinking “I had a bad day,” but it can feel like it. You may have had plans that fell apart, experiences that set you back, and interactions that only did harm.

    You may have started the day thinking you could take on it all, only to find you could hardly get out of bed. When you have a bad day, you can forget to look at the good.

    Sometimes, self-care helps us to remember why we are worth it. It helps us to recharge and reset our mindset. It helps us to know that there are still options and that the day isn’t over yet.

    Love yourself today, no matter how hard it’s been. That’s the way to find yourself amidst the hardships you have. That’s how you center yourself and regain focus and live a more meaningful life. Give yourself some credit and compassion.

    Here are 7 ways to rebound from a bad day using self-compassion as a tool. If you had a bad day, these are for you!

    1. Make a Gratitude List

    In a study on gratitude, psychologists Dr. Robert A Emmons and Dr. Michael E. McCullough conducted an experiment where one group of people wrote out gratitude lists for ten weeks while another group wrote about irritations. The study found that the group that wrote about gratitude reported more optimistic mindsets in their lives[1].

    Overall, having a gratitude list improved well-being and made one truly grateful by counting the blessings in their lives.

    Write a list of what you are grateful for if you had a bad day. Make it as long as you like, but also remember to note why you’re grateful for each thing you write.

    What has given you the most joy? What has set you up for better days? Keep a tally of triumphs in mind, especially when you do have the bad days.

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    The day doesn’t define you, and you still have things of value that surround you. These could be material things, spiritual connections and experiences, relationships, basic needs, emotional and mental well-being, physical health, progress towards hopes and dreams, or simply being alive.

    Here are some other simple ways to practice gratitude.

    2. Write in a Journal

    Journaling affects your overall mental health, which also affects physical health and aids in the management of stress, depression, anxiety, and more[2].

    All you need is a pen and paper, or you could do an online, password-protected journal such as Penzu. The key is to get started and not pressure yourself on how polished or perfect it is. You don’t need to have prior experience to start journal writing. Just start.

    Write out everything that is bothering you for 15 minutes. This helps with rumination, processing problems, and can even aid with brainstorming solutions.

    However you approach it, you can find patterns of thinking that no longer serve you and start to transform your overall mental state. This will impact all areas of your life and is a great coping skill.

    3. Meditate

    Meditation can help you overcome negative thought patterns, worrying about the future, dwelling on the past, or struggling to overcome a bad day[3]. It shifts your mentality and helps you focus on the present or any one thing you truly want to focus on.

    Here is an example of a meditation you can do:

    Get into a comfortable position. Close your eyes. Rest your body, release tension, and unclench your jaw. Tighten and release each muscle group in a body scan for progressive muscle relaxation.

    Focus on your breath, taking a few deep breaths. Let your belly expand when you breathe in for diaphragmatic breathing. Empty yourself completely of air, then return to normal breathing.

    Next, focus on the idea of self-love and let it erase negative thoughts. Think about the ways you’ve been judging yourself, with the narratives coming up that your mind may create.

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    Give yourself unconditional love and release judgment. Take your time meditating on this because you matter. This is particularly important if you had a bad day.

    Check out this article for more on how to get started with a meditation practice.

    4. Do Child’s Pose

    Yoga Outlet says:

    “Child’s Pose is a simple way to calm your mind, slow your breath, and restore a feeling of peace and safety. Practicing the pose before bedtime can help to release the worries of the day. Practicing in the morning can you help transition from sleeping to waking.”[4]

    When you do Child’s Pose, it can be between difficult positions in yoga, or it can be anytime you feel you need a rest. It helps you recover from difficulties and relax the mind.

    It also has the physical health benefits of elongating your back, opening your hips, and helping with digestion[5].

    To do Child’s Pose, rest your buttocks back on your feet, knees on the floor. Elongate your body over your knees with both arms extended or tucked back, with head and neck resting on the floor[6].

    Had a bad day? Try Child's Pose.

       

      Do this pose as a gift to yourself. You are allowing yourself to heal, rest, get time for yourself, recover, and recharge. When you’ve had a bad day, it’s there waiting for you.

      5. Try Positive Self-Talk

      Engage in positive self-talk. This is essentially choosing your thoughts.

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      When you have a negative thought, such as “I can’t do this,” replace it consciously with the thought “I can do this.” Give yourself positive affirmations to help with this.

      Negative self-talk fits into four general categories: personalizing or blaming yourself, magnifying or only focusing on the negative, catastrophizing or expecting the worst to happen, and polarizing or only seeing back and white[7].

      When you stop blaming yourself for everything and start focusing on the positive, expecting things to work out, and seeing the areas of grey in life, you reverse these negative mindsets and engage in positive self-talk.

      When you speak words of kindness to yourself, your brain responds with a more positive attitude. That attitude will affect everything you do. It’s how you take care of yourself if you had a bad day.

      Check in with yourself to know when you are having negative self-talk. Are you seeing patterns? When did they start to become a problem? Are you able to turn these thoughts around?

      6. Use Coping Skills and Take a Break

      Use your coping skills. This means not letting your thoughts take control of yourself.

      You can distract yourself and escape a bit. Do things you love. You can exercise, listen to music, dance, volunteer or help someone, be in nature, or read a book.

      It isn’t about repression. It’s about redirection. You can’t stay in thoughts that are no longer working for you.

      Sometimes, it’s okay to get out of your own way. Give yourself a break from the things going on in your head. You can always come back to a problem later. This may even help you figure out the best course of action as sometimes stepping away is the only way to see the solution.

      If you had a bad day, you may not feel like addressing what went wrong. You may need a break, so take one.

      7. If a Bad Day Turns Into Bad Days

      “I believe depression is legitimate. But I also believe that if you don’t exercise, eat nutritious food, get sunlight, get enough sleep, consume positive material, surround yourself with support, then you aren’t giving yourself a fighting chance.” –Jim Carrey

      If you’ve been feeling out of control, depressed, or unstable for more than a few weeks, it’s time to call a mental health professional. This is not because you have failed in any way. It’s because you are human, and you simply need help.

      You may not be able to quickly rebound from a bad day, and that’s fine. Feel what you feel, but don’t let it consume you.

      When you talk to a professional, share the techniques that you have already tried here and whether they were helpful. They may tell you additional ideas or gain insights from your struggles of not being able to rebound from a series of bad days.

      If you’re having more than just a bad day, they will want to know. If you don’t have the answers, that’s okay, too. You just need to try these tools and figure out how you’re feeling. That’s all that’s required of you.

      Keep taking care of yourself. Any progress is progress, no matter how small. Give yourself a chance to get better by reaching out.

      Final Thoughts

      If you had a bad day, don’t let it stop you.

      Know this: It’s okay not to be okay. You have a right to feel what you feel. But there is something you can do about it.

      You can invest in yourself via self-care.

      You are not alone in this. Everyone has bad days from time to time. You just need to know that you are the positive things you tell yourself.

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      Featured photo credit: Anthony Tran via unsplash.com

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