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10 Quotes From Audrey Hepburn That Will Teach You Valuable Life Lessons

10 Quotes From Audrey Hepburn That Will Teach You Valuable Life Lessons

Where does one begin to describe the timeless and classic Audrey Hepburn? Femininity is reclaimed for a moment’s time as her soft eyes and genuine smile captivated the camera time and time again. Audrey Hepburn has remained an icon not only because of her career as an actress or her exquisite taste in fashion, but because of the inner beauty, charm, and wisdom she possessed within. She gracefully shared with the world some of the most valuable life lessons. How does one become such a beloved icon? Below you will find 10 of the most valuable life lessons on what it takes to channel your inner Audrey. Yes, you too can be a classic icon.

1. They speak as eloquently as their clothing

Audrey avoided conflict and was a pleasure to work with during her career as an actress. Famous stars including the handsome Carey Grant gushed over the opportunity to work with Audrey. He once was quoted saying, “All I want for Christmas is another picture with Audrey Hepburn.” Yet as she explains,

“You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than what others say about him.”

How she spoke about others in a positive light is what mattered most and it was reflected back in the high praise other celebrities and producers had of her. She spoke as eloquently as her clothing. Regardless of how people talk, act, or treat you, the important thing to remember is that we are all a constant work in progress. How we speak about others is a true reflection of how we feel, view, and treat ourselves. What have you been saying lately?

2. They are not defined by worldly standards or definitions

It is posted all over the internet; they sell it on the cover of magazines, and display it on our social media devices. The media has us believe that a woman’s charm is something that can only be measured by her physique and ability to lure a man into the bedroom. Audrey eloquently counters the ongoing struggle woman face in these three simple sentences.

“There is more to feminine charm than just measurements. I don’t need a bedroom to prove my womanliness. I can convey just as much femininity, picking apples off a tree or standing in the rain.”

To this day famous women of all ages, shapes, and sizes carry on her feminine charm in their style and attitude from Anne Hathaway to Sandra Bullock. Human sexuality and women are both gifts and in the purest sense expressions of feminine love; rather than believing that it is the only way to express ones womanliness think about all of the beauty and warmth you have seen and felt from the women in your life in platonic contexts. Did you feel the presence of a charming woman? Numbers on a scale or a definition in a dictionary do not define one’s ability to express feminine charm. Women are lovely and feminine by simply being, and that is the genius of being a woman- undefined by worldly standards.

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3. They are forgiving

They say it was the most devastating experience in her life. Audrey’s parents divorced when she was six years old. Her father left the family as a supporter for the Nazi regime. Yet, years later, Audrey found it within her heart to find her father after World War II and financially supported him. Her humility and grace once again shines for all to see. Famous people all have difficulties in their lives just like everyone else. Miley Cyrus watched her parents divorce and felt its crushing stings. As a bystander we cannot judge, but we can only hope she too is able to see the wisdom passed down by past stars such as Audrey. Audrey explains,

“People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed; never throw out anyone.”

No human in our lives should ever be cast aside. We are all on a journey and it is in our forgiveness that we are able to welcome others to its same redemptive powers.

4. They possess a childlike innocence and are optimists.

She had a playfulness that had people wrapped around her every sentence. The photographs on Telegraph.com and the words she spoke prove her childlike innocence. Who would not be smitten with a woman who says,

“I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles.”

It often reminds one of the optimism of her optimism continues to inspire us all. Happiness is found where the optimist resides, and often we see that with the innocence of a child playing, skipping, kissing, and hugging. Those who accept what is placed before them with joy and sense of humor, believe in brighter days to follow, and of course wear a little pink will surely see the greatest miracle unfold; the miracle of living a fulfilling life as a child in every stage of their life.

5. They value the importance of family

Audrey never got caught up in the glitz and glamor of show business. She took on a few major roles that had brought her much fame, but as they say there is no business like show business; which only meant work would come and go. She, however, had her priorities straight as she firmly stated,

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“I may not always be offered work. But I will always have my family.”

Although it is rare, there are still celebrities who value the importance of family, regardless of their other choices in life. Our careers should never define us. They put bread on the table and hopefully give us the chance at enjoying some of the luxuries of life, but at the end of the day the only thing that really matters are the ones we build our lives with.

6. They have a go-getter’s attitude and a believer’s faith

Audrey was passionate about dancing, particularly ballet. Though she did not become a career ballerina her first role as an actress was as a prodigy ballerina in the hit movie Secret People in 1952. She was discovered on set by famous Hollywood director, William Wyler who went on to cast her as the leading lady in the classic film Roman Holiday. The rest is history – or as she concluded,

“How shall I sum up my life? I think I’ve been particularly lucky. Does that have something to do with faith also? I know my mother always used to say, ‘Good things aren’t supposed to just fall in your lap. God is very generous, but he expects you to do your part first.’ So you have to make that effort. But at the end of a bad time or a huge effort, I’ve always had – how shall I say it? – The prize at the end. My whole life shows that.”

We all have dreams of a certain career or vocation sharing our gifts and passions. As Audrey shows us, these gifts can be used in more ways than one. God is able to work through us as long as we are open and act with conviction to see our story unfold. Never stop working towards your goals and with faith everything will fall into place.

7. They are open and receive with gratitude

Her life was not always charming as she openly stated,

“I decided, very early on, just to accept life unconditionally; I never expected it to do anything special for me, yet I seemed to accomplish far more than I had ever hoped. Most of the time it just happened to me without my ever seeking it.”

She suffered greatly during World War II from malnourishment, anemia, and edema (swelling of the legs). The cards she was dealt did not stop her from living life with an open grateful heart. Our current circumstances do not dictate our future. A prime example is the brilliant author of the “Harry Potter” series, J.K. Rowling. She was a single poor and destitute mother who through an open mind to what was placed before her was able to produce one of the greatest series of books turned movies. Do not allow doubts or fears build a barrier between you and living life. We can accomplish much in our lives; sometimes we must seek it out, but more times than not it will seek us at the right time and place.

8. They are nurturers

Audrey had an empathy and fiery passion for her humanitarian work as an ambassador for UNICEF. It was here she supported the needs of children of third world countries. Audrey admitted,

“I was born with an enormous need for affection, and a terrible need to give it.”

There are countless examples of famous people supporting a  favorite cause from the great Oprah Winfrey building a leadership academy in South Africa to Angelina Jolie and her humanitarian work to help refugees in war ravaged nations. What Audrey explains however, is so very precious. All of us need to receive as much as we give affection. The nurturer knows inside it feels as good to receive but far better to give. No human should go through life without feeling the love, warmth, and care of another. It brings more faith, more hope, more trust, and more love into our much thirsting world. We are born to love and be loved in turn and nurturing is one way in which we can share this love with one another.

9. They give genuine eye contact and smile

They show the undoubtedly beautiful Audrey in photographs in her younger years. Celebrities such as Taylor Swift continue to find inspiration in her aesthetic appeal. What was most attractive, however, was her ability to woo the onlooker with her smiling eyes. Something special was behind that gaze, and here she reveals what that was to us explaining,

“The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart. That is where love resides.”

She was sharing the doorway to her heart, where her love resided. It is inspirational to look at a photograph of a woman and immediately be captivated by her eyes. There is not greater fashion statement than a woman who gives eye contact and smiles. The mysterious beauty and love within each and every woman can heal the most broken of hearts. When woman look away in shame, fear, or lack of confidence we are robbing the world of the love we have to share. Give a little more eye contact and smile and feel its heart melting powers.

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10. They find their beauty routine in other places than the makeup aisle

The forgiveness of her father after the war, the smiles she brought to an innumerable amount of children suffering in poverty, and the adoration Hollywood continues to have of her; we know her beauty routine was more extensive than a little mascara and rouge. Many celebrities that grace the cover of magazines and walk the red carpet also hold that special something that enhances their already external beauty and charm. An article on www.CNN.com  on America’s current sweetheart, Sandra Bullock make Audrey proud. She too has been through hardships, but continues to give back to the community, speaks with kindness, and values her privacy living life with her family. It fully exemplified  what Audrey most famously said,

“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.”

Once again we learn the beauty and poise of a woman cannot be bought, but rather fully discovered in her words and actions. No better beauty advice has ever been given.

It is no easy task to be as iconic as the lovely Audrey, but as she fully reminds us;

“Nothing is impossible. The word itself says I’m possible.”

Featured photo credit: Audrey Hepburn/Skeeze via pixabay.com

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Last Updated on May 27, 2019

How to Think Positive and Eliminate Negative Thoughts

How to Think Positive and Eliminate Negative Thoughts

In a world that is full of external factors that we cannot control, it is becoming more and more important to at least control ourselves.

Thinking positively can have a tremendous effect on our lives. By eliminating negative thoughts, we’re able to at least influence the part of our lives that we can control: our own mindset.

In this article, you will learn how to think positive and ditch the negative thoughts. Before we dive into the step-by-step guide on how to do so, I’d like to share with you how I learned to thinking positive the hard way…

How I Learned to Think Positive

At the start of 2019, I was quite stressed at work with multiple tight deadlines. I was constantly worried and the stress was affecting my ability to sleep. Numerous nights in a row, I would experience insomnia, where I had a staring contest with the ceiling because my mind would simply not stop thinking about all the stressful things I had to deal with.

I eventually got up and wrote everything down. Every single thought that rushed through my head, I wrote it down in detail. This allowed me to do a couple of things:

  • It made everything relatable
  • It showed me that every obstacle that was on my mind was not that big on its own. I was only stressed because these obstacles were big in numbers, while independently, these obstacles were just minor things that I could overcome.
  • It allowed me to think positively about these little obstacles and how I was going to conquer them one at a time.
  • Writing down my negative emotions allowed me to wipe them clean from my mind. Think of it as a laptop: after having browsed for a long time, I was able to clear my RAM and start fresh. My mind was finally clear from negative thoughts.

After doing this, I was finally able to sleep, and the next day, I slowly started to tackle these small obstacles.

This is just one example of how I manage to think positively and eliminate negative thoughts from dominating my mind.

Here are other actionable steps you can follow in order to achieve the same thing.

Step 1: Turn Every Obstacle into Smaller “Challenges”

In the intro, you read that I was stressed because I was worrying about a big number of small obstacles as opposed to one big devastating obstacle. Writing down my worries allowed me to zoom out and look at the bigger picture.

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As a result, I observed my problems as single challenges that I could overcome.

When you’re currently surrounded with negativity – whether that’s because of a stressful project or problems in a relationship – you should try to dissect that challenge into different sub-challenges.

For example, if you have to deliver a huge presentation at work on Friday, try to think of this big task as multiple smaller tasks:

  • Find sources to support your presentation
  • Think of interesting anecdotes, introductions or examples
  • Create a general outline of your presentation
  • Complete the first 5 slides
  • Add a small video or puzzle to your presentation
  • Finish the presentation
  • Think of a keyword for each slide to remember what you have to say
  • Practice the presentation in order to finish it within 30 minutes
  • Deliver a great presentation

While this example may not be relevant to you, the message is all the same. You can tackle pretty much any obstacle – no matter how big it may seem – as long as you take it one step at the time.

That’s how you can eliminate negative thoughts such as “I can never do that” or “I’ll never be good enough” or “I’ll never reach that goal” from controlling your actions.

Take it one step at the time and pretty much any goal becomes manageable.

Step 2: Realize That Positive Thoughts Can Be a Choice

Happiness is determined as follows:[1]

  • 50% is determined by genetics
  • 10% is determined by external factors
  • 40% is determined by your own outlook

This determination has been studied by numerous researchers, and while the details differ, the results all share the same observation:

Your happiness can be influenced by your own thoughts.

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Even though there are things in life that we cannot control, we can still often control how we react to these things.

In that sense, we might not get to control 100% of our happiness but we can still influence a big chunk of it.

I believe we can learn to influence the 40% of our happiness that is determined by our own personal outlook. Happiness is a choice, and you can learn to recognize these situations on your own.[2]

How does this help you to think positive and eliminate negative thoughts?

Well, because this shows you that it pays off to learn how to think positively in difficult situations.

By developing this skill, you can really increase happiness in your life. It is definitely not always easy, but you can change a bad day into a good one just by focusing on the positives instead of the negatives.

This is the reason why I love this quote of Winston Churchill:

A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity whereas an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.

Step 3: Spend Time with the People That Have a Positive Influence on Your Life and Be Grateful for Them

Almost everybody has a small circle of people that they trust and love, whether that’s a partner, family or friends. These people have a positive influence on your life.

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I want you to focus on spending more time with these people. When you’re surrounded by negativity, you are more likely to postpone activities that require you to be outgoing. You’d rather be lazy and watch Netflix all day than to go outside and meet up with your friend.

You must try to break out of your comfort zone and spend more time with the people who actually have a positive influence on your happiness. These people can act as a support net for the moments when you’re feeling down. This might sound intimidating and scary, but it’s a step that should not be underestimated.

Even when you don’t feel comfortable sharing your challenges with these people, there’s another thing you can actively do to initiate positive thoughts; and that’s to be grateful that these people are in your life:

  • Be grateful that you have parents who support you, no matter what you do.
  • Be grateful for the friends with whom you can laugh your ass off.
  • Be grateful that you have a healthy and loving partner.
  • Be grateful that you have a kid that looks up to you and thinks you are the best.

Being grateful might sound like a rather pointless thing to do. Why would being grateful help you in thinking more positively and eliminating negative thoughts?

Well, the answer is simple.

Being grateful forces you to think of the good things that you already have in your life. This allows you to face your issues with optimism, instead of negativity. People that actively practice gratitude are much better able to deal with toxic emotions.

So what do you have to do?

Go out there and meet up with the people you love, and be grateful for having these people in your life.

To help inspire you to feel more grateful, here’re 60 Things To Be Thankful For In Life.

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Step 4: Don’t Give up After a Setback

So you had a bad day last week? Or maybe a terrible week in which you allowed negative thoughts to control your life? Who cares!

We are only human, so we’re bound to experience a day of negativity every once in a while. It’s important to realize that everybody occasionally experiences negative thoughts in their life. Eternal happiness does not exist. Even the happiest man alive has experienced negativity and sadness on some days.

What you need to when this inevitably happens to you:

  • Don’t let this set you back.
  • Don’t interpret it as a failure
  • Don’t let it stop you from trying to think positive

You see, even the most optimistic person experiences negativity on occasion. Sure, we can try to be as positive as possible every day, but we have to accept that negativity is something that we have to deal with from time to time.

So what if you’re engulfed in negative thoughts today? Screw it and know that tomorrow is a new day and that you can try to work on this again.

Take a look at this article and learn about Why Negative Emotions Aren’t That Bad (And How to Handle Them).

Final Thoughts

In the end, there’s no arguing that we cannot control 100% of our happiness. We can’t stand in front of a mirror, repeat the words “I am thinking happy thoughts only” ninety-nine times and accept to suddenly be happy.

It doesn’t work like that.

However, there are a number of things we can do to at least improve our mindset in the situations where we do get to choose how we react to external factors.

I hope that you have a better idea of what you can do in these situations. Sooner than later, you will influence your own mindset to think positively and to eliminate negative thoughts.

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Featured photo credit: Lucas Marconnet via unsplash.com

Reference

[1] For a State of Happiness: Happiness: it’s not just your genes, stupid!
[2] Tracking Happiness: How Happiness Can Be A Choice

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