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10 Little Things Happy Couples Remember To Do Every Day

10 Little Things Happy Couples Remember To Do Every Day

Ancient men discovered fire-making in a not so easy manner of friction. And just like fire-making, starting up and maintaining a good relationship is not an easy task that couple must do for a long period of time.

Relationships start with a spark that will later on turn to flame. And the flame that is present can only go in two ways: it can either be a never-ending sustained fire of love or an ember that will later turn into cold coal.

Thus, it’s very important for couples to take time in doing simple ways to keep the fire burning. So here are top 10 little things happy couples remember to do every day.

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1. They provide quality attention to each other.

We already live in a world where everything can just be posted in a wall or can tweeted. It’s quite been an excuse for us not to give too much attention to the people we are with physically. Let’s face it, it’s quite an annoying reality that we all live by especially for couples. And it has been said, time is the most precious gift that you can give to someone. And with time coupled with quality attention, surely a fire will keep on burning.

2. They go the extra mile to help each other.

Our differences send us to quest for our common goals. And as couples, there are plenty of things that can hinder us to understand each other but there is definitely one that will. When we understand each other, we go the extra mile of helping not just ourselves but also our partner to always rekindle the fire that we have. Sometimes, being together for a long period of time make the relationship too fluid. But always make sure that it wouldn’t kill the fire. So a little more understanding for each other everyday will go a long way.

3. They express appreciation.

Time, money and effort are apparent ingredients in a relationship. And while it is true that when you are in a relationship, everything is conjugal, not everything is sent by heaven for free. So when your partner gives you something, always compliment it or at least just say thank you. It never hurts also to return the favor as well.

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4. They say Yes.

At times , our partner would ask us favors that we might not like. Or there might be times that we just do not want to give in to their whims. But our momentary submission might mean a lot to them. Sometimes, just say YES!

5. They check in.

Checking into a hotel once in a while gives couple a chance to have a wick of adventure lit up. It’s not everyday that you can do it but checking into a nice hotel overnight will relish a special feeling between the both of you as you relax and reminisce your best memories as lovers.

6. They pucker up.

Puckering up is not just for teenagers. Puckering up among couples is a cute way of sending a clear message that I am enjoying your presence. Probably for us adults, puckering up is also a wholesome way of how we flirt with our partner. Simple yet effective. Pucker up now!

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7. They make fun with each other.

Most of the time, being corny and cheesy sets the mood for couples to be stronger and tighter. And there’s no easier way to do this but to be make fun with and of each other. Besides, best of friends bond too much by doing weird things with each other. Why not do it with your honey?

8. They leave sweets notes or even text with each other.

Communication is king in relationship. And the best fuel to keep the fire burning are sweet words coupled with concrete actions. But in days that you can’t be together or being with each other physically is quite impossible, leaving sweet notes and/or text messages will compensate for it. Your partner will just like be a kid who got a penny under his/her pillow from a Tooth Fairy.

9. They tolerate their partner’s little mistakes.

It has been said and it was said all over again: No one is perfect. And each flaw that each of us have can be stitched together into something perfect using the thread of acceptance of other people. And when conflict arises, isn’t it a good way of peacekeeping if we just stay calm and keep the bad words we’re going to say to our partner? We don’t want to create a smoke out of negativity-induced fire. We just want to keep the positive fire burning.

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10. They smile when potential conflict fires up.

The idiom “There’s no smoke when there’s no fire” connotes something more of a wildfire rather than a torch of burning passion in a relationship. But when the former persists, a sweet smile will do a small trick of pacifying an onslaught of emotional backfire. If it still doesn’t work, flash another smile again and try to be sweet. Your partner will probably return the favor leading you to a better position of talking things over with a sane mind.

Relationships will always have elements involved paralleling emotions that partners feel in a given period of time. Among these elements, fire sends out a message of warmth and passion. And to sum it up, let me give you a quote of Bruce Lee: “Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.”

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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