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10 Little Things Happy Couples Remember To Do Every Day

10 Little Things Happy Couples Remember To Do Every Day

Ancient men discovered fire-making in a not so easy manner of friction. And just like fire-making, starting up and maintaining a good relationship is not an easy task that couple must do for a long period of time.

Relationships start with a spark that will later on turn to flame. And the flame that is present can only go in two ways: it can either be a never-ending sustained fire of love or an ember that will later turn into cold coal.

Thus, it’s very important for couples to take time in doing simple ways to keep the fire burning. So here are top 10 little things happy couples remember to do every day.

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1. They provide quality attention to each other.

We already live in a world where everything can just be posted in a wall or can tweeted. It’s quite been an excuse for us not to give too much attention to the people we are with physically. Let’s face it, it’s quite an annoying reality that we all live by especially for couples. And it has been said, time is the most precious gift that you can give to someone. And with time coupled with quality attention, surely a fire will keep on burning.

2. They go the extra mile to help each other.

Our differences send us to quest for our common goals. And as couples, there are plenty of things that can hinder us to understand each other but there is definitely one that will. When we understand each other, we go the extra mile of helping not just ourselves but also our partner to always rekindle the fire that we have. Sometimes, being together for a long period of time make the relationship too fluid. But always make sure that it wouldn’t kill the fire. So a little more understanding for each other everyday will go a long way.

3. They express appreciation.

Time, money and effort are apparent ingredients in a relationship. And while it is true that when you are in a relationship, everything is conjugal, not everything is sent by heaven for free. So when your partner gives you something, always compliment it or at least just say thank you. It never hurts also to return the favor as well.

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4. They say Yes.

At times , our partner would ask us favors that we might not like. Or there might be times that we just do not want to give in to their whims. But our momentary submission might mean a lot to them. Sometimes, just say YES!

5. They check in.

Checking into a hotel once in a while gives couple a chance to have a wick of adventure lit up. It’s not everyday that you can do it but checking into a nice hotel overnight will relish a special feeling between the both of you as you relax and reminisce your best memories as lovers.

6. They pucker up.

Puckering up is not just for teenagers. Puckering up among couples is a cute way of sending a clear message that I am enjoying your presence. Probably for us adults, puckering up is also a wholesome way of how we flirt with our partner. Simple yet effective. Pucker up now!

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7. They make fun with each other.

Most of the time, being corny and cheesy sets the mood for couples to be stronger and tighter. And there’s no easier way to do this but to be make fun with and of each other. Besides, best of friends bond too much by doing weird things with each other. Why not do it with your honey?

8. They leave sweets notes or even text with each other.

Communication is king in relationship. And the best fuel to keep the fire burning are sweet words coupled with concrete actions. But in days that you can’t be together or being with each other physically is quite impossible, leaving sweet notes and/or text messages will compensate for it. Your partner will just like be a kid who got a penny under his/her pillow from a Tooth Fairy.

9. They tolerate their partner’s little mistakes.

It has been said and it was said all over again: No one is perfect. And each flaw that each of us have can be stitched together into something perfect using the thread of acceptance of other people. And when conflict arises, isn’t it a good way of peacekeeping if we just stay calm and keep the bad words we’re going to say to our partner? We don’t want to create a smoke out of negativity-induced fire. We just want to keep the positive fire burning.

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10. They smile when potential conflict fires up.

The idiom “There’s no smoke when there’s no fire” connotes something more of a wildfire rather than a torch of burning passion in a relationship. But when the former persists, a sweet smile will do a small trick of pacifying an onslaught of emotional backfire. If it still doesn’t work, flash another smile again and try to be sweet. Your partner will probably return the favor leading you to a better position of talking things over with a sane mind.

Relationships will always have elements involved paralleling emotions that partners feel in a given period of time. Among these elements, fire sends out a message of warmth and passion. And to sum it up, let me give you a quote of Bruce Lee: “Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.”

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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