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10 Life Lessons People with Tattoos Can Teach You

10 Life Lessons People with Tattoos Can Teach You

Not everyone understands the growing cultural trend of getting tattooed. Some people find it absolutely appalling, way too painful to even consider, or think that a tattoo means they can never have a strong, professional career.

But for those of us who like tattoos, these supposedly negative consequences of body modification don’t faze us at all. We enjoy and learn from our tattooing experiences and now you can learn from them, too.

Here are 10 life lessons you can learn from people with tattoos:

1. Your standards are the only ones that matter

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    Of course not everyone will think that your new chest piece is as gorgeous as you do, but why should that matter?

    As long as you love the way it looks and feel great about yourself because of it, those stares on the street are laughable.

    2. First impressions aren’t always right

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      Anyone with tattoos or a heavily tattooed friend can tell you this life lesson is true. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve watched perfectly nice, loving, and intelligent people get judged because of their ink.

      Having tattoos and knowing people with tattoos teaches you to not place value on appearances and, instead, spend more time getting to know new people.

      3. Pain is temporary

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        This, for sure, is something every tattoo-ee can attest to. Regardless of your pain tolerance, you’re bound to encounter one tattoo that hurts like a B. But making it through a painful tattooing experience just makes you more proud of the end result.

        Sometimes we forget that painful things can lead to great things, but I think tattoos are a fabulous reminder of that.

        4. Fear of new experiences is overrated

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          Getting your first tattoo can be scary for a lot of people. It’s something you’ve never done before and, let’s face it, it is a substantial commitment.

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          But people who go through with a tattoo in spite of their fears feel better about themselves afterwards and are happy with the experience. Most of them even go back for more.

          5. Meaning is subjective

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            No two tattoos have exactly the same meaning. Every person molds their own ideas, experiences and memories into their tattoo and what it represents.

            To judge someone based off of what you think their tattoo means is completely pointless.

            6. And not EVERYTHING has to have a set meaning

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              One the other hand, it’s also pointless to just assume that every tattoo a person has means something amazingly unique and special to them.

              Lots of people get tattoos just because they like a pattern or concept and that’s it. Many people also get tattoos just for the sake of getting more tattoos. Not everything needs a universal purpose to exist. Some things exist ‘just because.’

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              7. Money isn’t everything

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                One of the biggest critiques people have of tattoos is about how much money they cost. Granted, each tattoo parlor is different and runs by its own prices, but a decent color tattoo is likely to cost you a couple hundred dollars. So what?

                Not only do you get some cool artwork that you get to keep with you forever, but you also get a lasting memory and fun experience that you can tell people about for the rest of your life. I’d call that priceless.

                8. Nothing is ever a mistake if you are true to yourself

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                  Another life lesson tattoos teach you is that ‘mistakes’ don’t matter if you believe you were true to yourself. Maybe you have to wear concealing shirts at work to cover up your sleeves. So what?

                  People are so quick to deem tattoos a mistake if their owners need to cover them up from 9 to 5 later in life. I call it a win-win; not only do you get to keep the job that you want but you also get to keep getting tattoos. That sounds pretty good to me.

                  9. Being outrageous is fun

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                    While staring at a stranger’s tattoo can be rather obnoxious, sometimes it’s kind of fun to get stared at. Especially if someone is staring at a tattoo you’re particularly fond of.

                    Most people don’t get tattoos just to show them off, but showing them off can be pretty fun once in a while.

                    10. Being who you want to be is the only way to be truly happy

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                      Lastly, one of the biggest life lessons you can learn from people with tattoos is that doing what makes you happy is the only way to live a truly satisfying life.

                      Why be the kind of person someone else wants you to be? Why do that?

                      Be who you want and no one else.

                      Featured photo credit: http://www.flickr.com/photos/33303283@N03/9319309647 via sandra.scherer

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                      Last Updated on September 30, 2020

                      How to Live a Stress Free Life in a Way Most People Don’t

                      How to Live a Stress Free Life in a Way Most People Don’t

                      Learning how to live a stress free life may seem impossible, but the truth is that there are specific things you can do to begin eliminating sources of stress.

                      No, it doesn’t look like a made-for-television movie. No, it doesn’t look like something only people with extra time and money can do. It looks like your life—but without any self-created stress triggers.

                      Here are 11 ways to help you live a stress-free life:

                      1. Stop Overanalyzing Situations That Haven’t Happened

                      The first step to living a stress-free life is to stop overanalyzing imaginary scenarios. It’s easy to spend time in the world of worst-case scenarios. People tend to cultivate this world for one of two reasons.

                      First, because if you know what the worst-case scenario is, then it won’t surprise you when it happens. Second, if you know what the worst-case scenario is, then you can do everything in your power to control the universe so the worst case never happens.

                      If that’s really the world you want to cultivate, then become a professional risk assessor. If not, then ask yourself how you are benefiting from continuing to live that way.

                      Does it make you feel better about yourself and your life? Does it make you want to leap out of bed in the morning, eager to embrace the worst-case scenario? Does it bring you joy or fulfillment?

                      If your answer to these three questions is no, then stop living in the future and bring yourself back into the present.

                      2. Don’t Take on Other People’s Problems

                      The whole advantage of other people having problems is that they aren’t your problems. When you frequently take on other people’s problems, you get into the habit of enabling.

                      Let’s get crystal clear about the definition of enabling: enabling is the art of continuing to take responsibility for other people, thereby disallowing their personal responsibility[1].

                      It is of no service to other people to take on their problems because they can’t/won’t/don’t know how to fix the problem.

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                      It is of service to empower others to take responsibility for themselves and their lives, to encourage, teach, and motivate others to address their own problems. So stop enabling, and start empowering.

                      3. Get Present in the Moment

                      Being present in the moment involves being in your body and feeling your feelings—two things that lots of folks actually don’t know how to do.

                      Ask yourself these two questions: What does fear feel like in your body? What are you afraid of?

                      If you don’t know the answer to these questions, you probably aren’t present in the moment. Being present involves vulnerability, humility, and openness[2].

                      How to live a stress free life by being present

                        The past and the future stop being so relevant and intriguing when you’re able to get in your body and feel your feelings. When you can do these two things, you actually want to be in the present moment.

                        To get started, close your eyes, focus on your breathing, and watch your stress levels drop. Then, try these tips: How to Live in the Moment and Stop Worrying.

                        4. Focus on What You Have, Not What You Don’t

                        The easiest way to stop focusing on what you don’t have is by not watching TV commercials. Marketing teaches us to focus on what we don’t have, and advertising campaigns spend millions of dollars convincing us that we must have what we don’t yet have.

                        Can you think of a marketing campaign that teaches you to enjoy what you already have without buying something to enhance it? Odds are you can’t.

                        In a world dictated by Super Bowl commercials and Facebook ads, it takes stalwart focus to recognize what you have more than what you don’t. If you want a stress-free life now, get stalwart, and stop letting other people dictate your focus.

                        In order to do this, try cultivating a gratitude practice to help refocus your mind toward what is good in your life. You can get started with this guide.

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                        5. Stop Surrounding Yourself With People Who Don’t Make You Happy

                        Honestly, what kind of people do you really like to be around with? People who get you, who see you clearly, who accept your flaws and all; people you can be yourself with; people who have shared interests?

                        How many of those people are in your life? What characteristics do all of the other people in your life have?

                        If you find that the people in your life aren’t adding anything positive, it may be time to make some changes. If you find that other relationships you have are downright toxic, start working to cut out those relationships immediately.

                        6. Find a Job That Makes You Feel Good

                        You don’t have to stay at a job just because it pays the bills. Most people spend more time working than sleeping. The average person spends 40 to 80 hours a week—or 2,000 to 4,000 hours a year—working. That is a significant investment!

                        If your best friend or child told you that they were going to spend 4,000 hours giving their emotional, mental, and physical energy to something (or someone) that wasn’t going to value them, give anything back to them, or pay them what they were worth, what advice would you offer? Give that same advice to yourself. You won’t be stress-free unless you don’t learn this[3].

                        Here’re 11 Signs That You Should Leave Your Job.

                        7. Only Take on What You Can Handle

                        Busyness is an addiction. Slowing down can actually be terrifying because it causes you to notice that you have feelings that you now have time to feel.

                        I get it.

                        By the time I slowed down, I had decades of busyness under my belt. I went into a tailspin depression because I didn’t understand how to be in the right relationship with my own emotions.

                        When I finally figured out that feelings are just feelings and allowing them to express themselves is healthy and natural, I stopped experiencing withdrawal from my addiction to busyness and started figuring out the pace of life that felt best for me.

                        Remarkably, I discovered that I don’t actually like being busy. What will you discover about yourself?

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                        8. Let Go of Grudges and Anger

                        For me, it took 20 years of adulthood to figure out that holding on to grudges and anger only hurt me. Lucky for you, though, you can benefit vicariously from my experience just by reading one short paragraph!

                        No one is holding your feet to the fire, demanding that you hold on to grudges and anger. The energy of anger slowly eats away at your body, mind, and spirit, until one day you wake up more resentful than optimistic.

                        One day, people no longer want to be around you because the stink of negativity is oozing out of your pores. One day, you even get tired of hearing yourself get angry. And the person or people you are angry at or holding grudges against probably haven’t been affected at all.

                        Who gets hurt the most in that process of repeating negative thoughts? You do.

                        Some good advice for you here: How to Let Go of Resentment and Anger

                        9. Stop Reliving Your Past

                        To live a stress-free life, you have to stop reliving your past. I know it seems like fun to compare everything in your present to your past, and to experience the present through past-colored glasses, but it actually isn’t.

                        When you wear past-colored glasses, you can’t truly experience the present for what it is. Your boyfriend or girlfriend gets compared to a list of expectations and failed relationships rather than recognized for the unique blessing they are in your life.

                        Your boss gets compared to all the bosses who came before her/him. Your friends’ ability to parent gets compared to your parents’ ability to parent.

                        People, including you, deserve to stand on their own past-free merit.

                        10. Don’t Complain About Things You Can’t Change

                        There are always going to be people elected into office whom you don’t like, taxes that you don’t want to pay, idiot drivers who refuse to move out of the left-hand lane, and a person ahead of you in the check-out line who won’t stop chatting with the clerk.

                        The great benefit of being human is that we get to experience all of what life offers us. To live stress-free is to learn to deal with this fact.

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                        Dwelling on your frustration with something that can’t be changed doesn’t do anything other than drag you down. You are the only person who will ultimately decide how to respond to what is.

                        11. Stop Living Through Other People’s Lives

                        Someone else’s life is not your life. Your life is your life.

                        What that means is you get to live your life in the way you want. You get to make ridiculous mistakes, take leaps of faith, and stuff things inside your handbag of fear just as much as the next person.

                        Going through stuff is the whole great messy adventure of being human! Being alive and living life is terrifying and glorious and everything in between.

                        Stop living through social media, trying to soak in all of the experiences everyone else is having. Focus, instead, on what it feels like to be you in this moment. You may find you like it.

                        Final Thoughts

                        An astounding thing happens when you reduce stress and anxiety, get into a relationship with your body, mind, and spirit, and just be yourself without judgment.

                        Your life literally slows down. You stop wishing for the weekend. You begin to live in each moment, and you start feeling like a human being. You just ride the wave that is life, with this feeling of contentment and joy.

                        You move fluidly, steadily, calmly, and gratefully. A veil is lifted, and a whole new perspective is born through improved mental health. And this is how you live a stress-free life.

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                        Featured photo credit: Drew Coffman via unsplash.com

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