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10 Invaluable Things Money Can Never Buy

10 Invaluable Things Money Can Never Buy

Money creeps into many of our conversations. We talk about how much we have or don’t have, how to spend it and how to save it.

We also think about it–what we would do if we had more. We worrying about not having enough, or how to deal with the money we have.

Money permeates all areas of our life. So much so that we might think that it is the most important thing in life. Although it is important to have money, there are some things in life that money cannot buy, no matter how much we have.

So what are those invaluable things that money cannot buy?

Time

The only moment of time that you truly have is right now. Once this moment is gone, it is gone and you can’t get it back. When you don’t use this moment to tell someone that you love them or forgive them you may never get another chance.

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The same goes for opportunities. If a great opportunity comes your way and you pass it up, it may never come back again. The past keeps us stuck, the future is the field of opportunities, but now is the time for action.

Happiness

Happiness is a thought form. It is not something you can find outside of yourself. Happiness is not a thing, event, or person. It is a state of mind–something you choose.

Happiness is a quality to be discovered within yourself. Only you can give yourself lasting happiness.

Money can only buy fleeting happiness. It rarely lasts and soon you are searching for another happiness fix.

Love

Love is special. It is that magical feeling we all want. It is a feeling of being special, blessed, and cared for.

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The sad truth is that it is not always easy to get.

It is perhaps one of the greatest feelings a person can have for another and it does not cost a dime. You simply have to be yourself and give love to everyone around you. What you give, you receive.

Wisdom

Wisdom comes from life’s experiences. The more you experience things and events in life the more you are aware of how things work or don’t.

It is through trial and error that you learn what you like or don’t, what works and doesn’t, what helps and what hinders. You gain wisdom through the lessons learned from mistakes. Money can never buy these valuable pearls of wisdom. They only come from experience.

Talent

Everyone is born with a unique talent. For some it very obvious, as in the music prodigy who picks up a violin at age three and begins to play. For others it may take more time to uncover. Regardless of whether it is immediately obvious or not, we all have that one thing that we are very good at.

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Discovering your natural talent is a gift which no amount of money can buy.

Curiosity

Young children are filled with curiosity. They want to know why, they take things apart to see what is inside, they explore fearlessly and they ask questions with blunt honesty.

As adults much of this natural curiosity has been conditioned out and is replaced by fear. Those individuals who have maintained their natural curiosity are the movers and shakers of our world. Money did not buy their success, their curiosity did.

Trust

Trust an essential human value that is at the heart of all relationships. Trust is a choice we make towards another when they have earned our confidence.

It can be difficult to acquire and, when damaged, is even harder to regain. Money can’t buy back someone’s trust when it has been broken. You can only reclaim it through actions.

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Life purpose

Everyone has a purpose in life. It can be something as basic as being an honest person or as complicated as running a country.

Your life purpose comes from within. It is that which makes you feel great and something you love doing. You know you are following your life’s purpose when you can get up in the morning ready and eager to face the day. You are happy, positive and energetic. This feeling is not dependant on money; it comes from from an inner drive that says, “I love doing this!”

Life

Life, or the essence of being alive, is a miracle. It is a miracle that we don’t give much notice to. Mostly, it is taken for granted. We are born. We live each day without much awareness of all the miraculous things happening in our body. It is only when something is not functioning well that we pay attention.

Life is not dependent on money. Money can help to keep it healthy, but the essence of life itself does not require money. It is a gift!

Choice

This space is for you to add your choice for the most invaluable thing that money can never buy.

Featured photo credit: Forex Money for Exchange in Currency Bank/epSos.de via flickr.com

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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