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15 Differences Between Beautiful people and Truly Beautiful people

15 Differences Between Beautiful people and Truly Beautiful people

What is your definition of true beauty? Is it a drop-dead bombshell with stunning hair, perfect bone structure and eye lashes that reach the sky? By the massive amount of YouTube videos focusing on how to enhance the way we look with all sorts of beauty products and tricks, it should come to no surprise that our culture may be a bit confused about the true meaning of beauty. What is true beauty? Read on and find out the 15 differences between beautiful people as the YouTube world and media see it and truly beautiful people.

1. Beautiful people are easily overlooked, while truly beautiful people have an everlasting effect.

Charm can be deceiving and beauty fades away, but true beauty never does! While beautiful people are more focused on the passing beauty and fading good looks, truly beautiful people understand that true beauty comes from within; it is the source of kindness and love you display towards everyone around you. Kindness is what makes true beauty come to life and no one can ever take it away from you. It can last forever.

2. Beautiful people fit in, while truly beautiful people do not conform.

While beautiful people strive to look like the model on the magazine, truly beautiful people strive for individuality. What makes you truly beautiful is not how you conform to the ideas of the world, but how you make the world conform to your ideas and your beautiful mind.

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3. Beautiful people are generic, while truly beautiful people are like a masterpiece.

Mozart began writing music at age 6. Three centuries later, his music is still admired and inspires millions around the world. Truly beautiful people are very much like Mozart’s compositions; they have the power to impact lives and inspire the world even after hundreds of years have passed.

4. Beautiful people are selfish, while truly beautiful people focus on giving.

Unlike superficial beauty which is mostly focused on fulfilling selfish desires, true beauty comes from what the heart gives. The selfless smile you give away, the hug you share with a friend in tears, and the food you make to share with those in need—that’s what makes you truly beautiful!

5. Beautiful people seek perfection, while truly beautiful people embrace imperfection.

There is something beautiful about imperfections: it features your incomparable qualities; it makes you human. While beautiful people may think beauty is found in the flawless skin, size 2, stunning tan and long flowing hair; truly beautiful people understand beauty is instead found in the birthmarks, the extra little fat around the waist, the messy hair when you first wake up and the real you without make up. True beauty is found in how imperfect you are and how real you dare to be.

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6. Beautiful people get confidence from looks, while truly beautiful people get confidence from within.

While beautiful people are all about how they look and how the world perceives them physically, truly beautiful people understand there is something absolutely stunning and fascinating about confidence that is founded in courage, experience and wisdom. That same confidence reminds you that although you may not fit in or look the part, your beauty is unparalleled because of your knowledge and your ability to see your worth even when the rest of the world fails to see it.

7. Beautiful people lose beauty, while truly beautiful people’s beauty is timeless.

When I was a little girl, I couldn’t wait to be a teenager. When I was a teenager, I couldn’t wait to be an adult. Now that I am an adult, I am looking forward to my later years in life. Perhaps that desire comes from seeing how timeless true beauty is and how it is inevitably found in every stage of life. The trick is to enjoy each moment and understand there is a time and a season for everything. While beautiful people believe beauty is only found in the younger years, truly beautiful people understand that true beauty is timeless only when you have the courage to embrace everyday, every new journey, every new blessing in disguise and when you refuse to believe the lie the world tells of beauty dissipating in your old age.

8. Beautiful people are born, while truly beautiful people are made.

Unlike the ridiculous characteristic of superficial beauty where everyone is expected to look the same with minor variations, true beauty does not discriminate. Truly beautiful people understand that true beauty is attainable the moment you choose to embrace it. The moment you choose to embrace everything that is selfless, kind, courageous and loving about you, true beauty surfaces transforming you from the inside out, molding you into a timeless masterpiece, a true work of art.

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9. Beautiful people lack drive, while truly beautiful people are passionate.

While beautiful people may be so focused on their looks they miss fully experiencing life,  truly beautiful people know you can’t have true beauty without passion. Passion is that desire for living and enjoying everything that makes you human, everything that makes you feel alive. There is nothing quite as irresistible as living in the moment, fully willing to experience each second and savor each opportunity of laughter and love life offers. True beauty is found in the passion you bring into your work and relationships. Passion fuels true beauty like no other thing can.

10. Beautiful people live in fear, while truly beautiful people live daringly.

While beautiful people are completely afraid to rock the boat and step out of their comfort zone, truly beautiful people are daring. The courage found in trying something new, in feeling vulnerable and exposed is what true beauty is all about. The possibility of failing and the courage to dare anyway is at the heart of those who are truly beautiful.

11. Beautiful people love conditionally, while truly beautiful people love without reserve.

Beautiful people are concerned with getting their feelings hurt and put up walls to ensure that never happens.  Truly beautiful people understand that in love, just like in life, what you give is what you get.  Truly beautiful people are focused on loving fully and thoroughly despite the cost.

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12. Beautiful people give up easily, while truly beautiful people embrace perseverance.

Beautiful people are so focused on instant gratification they easily give up on what they pursue.  Truly beautiful people understand good things take time and therefore, they are willing to persevere at all cost to reach the desired end.

13. Beautiful people lack perspective, while truly beautiful people understand the things that matter.

While beautiful people are focused on the new fashions and latest Kim Kardashian gossip, truly beautiful people know there are more important things in life.  Truly beautiful people focus on what is going on around them and how it affects those they love. They strive to serve and live lives that are worthy of praise.

14. Beautiful people are reckless, while truly beautiful people embrace patience.

While beautiful people are used to getting their way in every possible way due to their physical attributes, truly beautiful people know that “good things come to those who wait.” Truly beautiful people embrace the moment when patience must be exercised and time measured not by how quickly it passes by but by how much living is taking place in the passing time.

15. Beautiful people are proud, while truly beautiful people embrace humility.

Beautiful people are so proud of what they look like that they fail to embrace and get in touch with their humble spirit.  Truly beautiful people understand that “pride comes before destruction and an arrogant spirit before the fall.” Therefore, truly beautiful people embrace humility and strive to serve instead of being served.

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What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

Have you ever walked into a room and felt like your nerves simply couldn’t handle it? Your heart beats fast, you start to sweat, and you feel like all eyes are on you (even if they’re really not). This is just one of the many ways that being self-conscious can rear its ugly head.

You may not even realize you’re self-conscious, and you may be wondering, “What does self-conscious mean?” That’s a good place to start.

This article will define self-consciousness, show how practically everyone has faced it at one point or another, and give you tips to avoid it.

What Does Self-Conscious Mean?

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, self-conscious is defined as “conscious of one’s own acts or states as belonging to or originating in oneself.”[1]

Not so bad, right? There’s another definition, though — one that speaks more to what you’re going through: “feeling uncomfortably conscious of oneself as an object of the observation of others.” For those of us who regularly deal with extreme self-consciousness, that second definition sounds about right.

There are many different ways self-consciousness can spring up. You may feel self-conscious around people you know, like your family members or closest friends. You may feel self-conscious at work, even though you spend hours every week around your co-workers. Or you may feel self-conscious when out in public and surrounded by strangers. However, you probably don’t feel self-conscious when you’re home alone.

How to Stop Being Too Self-Conscious

When you’re in the throes of self-consciousness, it’s nearly impossible to remember how to stop feeling that way. That’s why it’s so important to prepare ahead of time, when you’re feeling ready to tackle the problem instead of succumbing to it.

Here are a variety of ways to feel better about yourself and stop thinking about how others see you.

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1. Ask Yourself, “So What?”

One way to banish negative, self-conscious thoughts is to do just that: banish them.

The next time you walk into a room and feel your face getting red, think to yourself, “So what?” How much does it really matter if people don’t like how you look or act? What’s the worst that could happen?

Most of the time, you’ll find that you don’t have a good answer to this question. Then, you can immediately start assigning such thoughts less importance. With self-awareness, you can acknowledge that your negative thoughts are present and realize that you don’t agree with them.[2] They’re just thoughts, after all.

2. Be Honest

A lie that self-consciousness might tell is that there’s one way to act or feel. Honestly, though, everyone else is just figuring life out as well. There isn’t a preferred way to show up to an event, gathering, or public place. What you can do is be honest with your feelings and thoughts.[3]

If you feel offended by something someone says, you don’t have to smile to be polite or laugh to fit in with the crowd. Instead, you can politely say why you disagree or excuse yourself and find a group of people who you relate to better. If you’re nervous, don’t overcompensate by trying to look relaxed and casual — it’ll be obvious you’re putting on a front. Instead, nothing is more endearing than saying, “I’m a little nervous!” to a room of people who probably feel the exact same way.

On the same note, if you don’t understand why someone wants you to do something, question it. You can do this at work, at home, or even with people you don’t know well. Nobody should force you to do something you don’t want to do.

Also, even if you’re willing to do what’s asked of you, there’s nothing wrong with asking for more clarification. People will realize that you’re not a person to be bossed around.

3. Understand Why You’re Struggling at Work

Being self-conscious at work can get in the way of your daily responsibilities, your relationships with co-workers, and even your career as a whole. If you’re facing some sort of conflict but you’re too nervous to speak up, you may be at the whim of what happens to you instead of taking some control.

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If you’re usually confident at work, you may be wondering where this new self-consciousness is coming from. It’s possible that you’re dealing with burnout.[4] Common signs are anxiety, fatigue and distraction, all of which can leave you feeling under-confident.

4. Succeed at Something

When you create success in your life, it’s easier to feel confident[5] and less self-conscious. If you feel self-conscious at work, finish the project that’s been looming over your head. If you feel self-conscious in the gym, complete an advanced workout class.

Exposing yourself to what you’re scared of and then succeeding at it in some way (even just by finishing it) can do wonders for your self-esteem. The more confidence you build, the more likely you are to have more success in the future, which will create a cycle of confidence-building.

5. Treat All of You — Not Just Your Self-Consciousness

Trying to solve your self-consciousness alone may not treat the root of the problem. Instead, take a well-rounded approach to lower your self-consciousness and build confidence in areas where you may struggle.

Even professional counselors are embracing this holistic type of treatment[6] because they feel that the health of the mind and body are inextricably linked. This approach combines physical, spiritual, and psychological components. Common activities and treatments include meditation, yoga, massage, and healthy changes to diet and exercise.

If much of this is new to you, it will pay to give it a try. You never know how it will impact you.

If you’re feeling self-conscious about how your body looks, a massage that makes you feel great could boost your confidence. If you try a new workout, you could have something exciting to talk about the next time you’re in a group setting.

Putting yourself in a new situation and learning that you can get through it with grace can give you the confidence to get through all sorts of events and nerve-wracking moments.

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6. Make the Changes That Are Within Your Control

Let’s say you walk into a room and you’re self-conscious about how you look. However, you may have put a lot of time and effort into your outfit. Even though it may stand out, this is how you have chosen to express yourself.

You have to work on your internal confidence, not your external appearance. There’s nothing to change other than your outlook.

On the other hand, maybe there’s something that you don’t like about yourself that you can change. For example, maybe you hate how a birthmark on your face looks or have varicose veins that you think are unsightly. If you can do something about these things, do it! There’s nothing wrong with changing your appearance (or skills, education, etc.) if it’s going to make you more confident.

You don’t have to accept your current situation for acceptance’s sake. There’s no award for putting up with something you hate. Confidence is also required to make changes that are scary, even if they’re for the better. Plus, it may be an easier fix than you thought. For example, treating varicose veins doesn’t have to involve surgery — sometimes simple compression stockings will take care of the problem.[7]

7. Realize That Everyone Has Awkward Moments

Everyone has said something awkward to someone else and lived to tell the tale. We’ve all forgotten somebody’s name or said, “You too!” when the concession stand girl says to enjoy our movie. Not only are these things uber-common, but they’re not nearly as embarrassing as you feel they are.

Think about how you react when someone else does something awkward. Do you think, “Wow, that person’s such a loser!” or do you think, “What a relief, I’m not the only one who does that.” Chances are good that’s the same reaction others have to you when you stumble.

Remember, self-consciousness is a state of mind that you have control over. You don’t have to feel this way. Do what you need to in order to build your confidence, put your self-consciousness in perspective, and start exercising your “I feel awesome about myself” muscle. It’ll get easier with time.

When Is Being Self-Conscious a Good Thing?

Self-consciousness can sometimes be a good thing[8], but you have to take the awkwardness and nerves out of it.

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In this case, “self-aware” is a much better term. Knowing how you come off to people is an excellent trait; you’ll be able to read a room and understand how what you do and say affects others. These are fantastic skills for people work and personal relationships.

Self-awareness helps you dress appropriately for the occasion, tells you that you’re talking too loud or not loud enough, and guides a conversation so you don’t offend or bore anyone.

It’s not about being someone you’re not — that can actually have adverse effects, just like self-consciousness. Instead, it’s about turning up certain aspects of yourself to perform well in the situation.

Final Thoughts

When you’re self-conscious, you’re constantly battling with yourself in an effort to control how other people view you. You try to change yourself to suit what you think other people want to see.

The truth, though, is that you can’t actually control how other people view you — and you may not even be correct about how they view you in the first place.

Being confident doesn’t happen overnight. Instead, it happens in small steps as you slowly build your confidence and say “no” to your self-consciousness. It also requires accepting that you’re going to feel self-conscious sometimes, and that’s okay.

Sometimes worrying that there is a problem can be more stressful than the problem itself. Feeling bad for feeling self-conscious can be more troublesome than simply feeling it and getting on with the day.

Forgive yourself for being human and make the small changes that will lead to better confidence in the future.

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Reference

[1] Merriam-Webster: Self-conscious
[2] Bustle: 7 Tips On How To Stop Feeling Self-Conscious
[3] Marc and Angel: 10 Things to Remember When You Feel Unsure of Yourself
[4] Bostitch: How to Protect Small Businesses From Burnout
[5] Psychology Today: Self-conscious? Get Over It
[6] Wake Forest University: Embracing Holistic Medicine
[7] Center for Vein Restoration: What Causes Venous Ulcers, and How Are They Treated?
[8] Scientific American: The Pros and Cons of Being Self-Aware

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