Happiness they say, is a state of mind.
Great riches, the mansion, a swanky boat and a fancy car won’t necessarily make you happy, nor will a life completely without work. In fact, many of the suggested routes to happiness that we’re fed by the powers that be are leading us to early graves and fits of depression.
The basic rules of happiness are quite simple, and here are 10 easy to follow rules that you need to learn in order to be happy.
1. Turn Your Happiness Switch to ‘On’
We are all born with a happiness switch. Remember when you were younger and you’d race home from school with a heart full of joy just because school was out?
Think back to what made you happy as a child and you’ll probably find it was the small mini-experience that made your heart race, rather than the big wondrous experiences we crave as we get older.
Find that small happiness switch within you and keep it turned ‘on’ to your own happiness level, always.
2. Understand that Happiness is a Journey not a Destination
We’ve all been given a magic book; the book of life. It has a beginning, a middle and an end.
Make sure you focus on fulfillment and enjoy the journey of your story. Live every page, and savor every word, just make sure to live each day as if it were your last.
3. Learn How to Cope with Frustration
Remember that total control in life is not an option and we all get frustrated for different reasons about different things. A basic rule of happiness is to be able to raise your frustration tolerance and this means letting go of being in control. Too much control kills happiness and feeds frustration.
4. Live in the Moment and Embrace the Present
There’s no use in waiting for tomorrow to arrive, hoping that it will bring you more of what makes you happy. Today is all you have, right now is all you have and you need to find ways to be happy in this moment. Enjoy your family, live your dreams, let your imagination soar, whatever it takes because this is your journey.
If you’re banking on winning the lottery to make you happy, you’re probably on the wrong track for happiness.
5. Understand Your Life’s Purpose
When you’re in sync with your purpose, you are more likely to feel content and happy. If you don’t know what your values and purpose in life really are, then take a good hard look at what you stand for as well as what really makes your heart sing.
6. Set Achievable Goals and Pursue them Within Reason
Goals are the essence of hope, and they inspire you to get out of bed in the morning. Happy people have short, mid-term and long term goals that they are striving towards, but they don’t pursue them at the risk of their well-being.
Make sure you have goals, but weave them into your life in a balanced way.
7. See the Wonder of the Simplest Things
Take time out every day and enjoy the simple things in life. Many millionaires have found out that money isn’t everything and chasing life’s big pleasures instead of the small ones is futile in the pursuit of happiness because you are as likely missing tiny sparkling diamonds that are strewn across your life’s path.
8. Give, Give, Give
“Give and you shall receive,” but how about forgetting about the receiving bit and just give, give and give some more? Giving of yourself, your time or a percentage of your money will most likely reward you with huge chunks of happiness – it’s a universal law.
9. Never Sacrifice Family for Achievement
Just imagine for a moment … you are living in a big house, perhaps the house of your dreams with a fancy car in the garage and money in the bank account for a five star holiday. Wow, you’ve really made it … or have you? Great wealth nearly always means sacrifice, in the form of large chunks of your time. You might have had to relegate your loved ones to second best, perhaps you have a failed relationship in your wake, perhaps you have missed your children’s childhood years, or been too busy to celebrate birthdays and remember anniversaries. At the end of the day, it’s no good having all life’s fancy trappings if there’s nobody meaningful to share them with.
10. Don’t Let the Past Color Your Future
Your past is over. It’s happened. The water has flown under the bridge and disappeared from view leaving fresh water in its wake. You have no power to change events that have occurred already and happy people know this. Don’t waste time worrying about the past, instead focus on what you can change or accomplish right now.