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34 Kids Yoga Exercises That Boost Self Esteem (And Physical Flexibility)

34 Kids Yoga Exercises That Boost Self Esteem (And Physical Flexibility)

Kids these days face more challenges than any generation that came before.

Between cyber-bullying, the over-use of technology in general and things like STAAR testing, the amount of stress kids face is incredible.

Add to that a busier work schedule for parents that often has both parents working outside the home, and it’s no wonder kids may feel overwhelmed.

As we look for ways to boost their self-esteem, kids yoga is one of the most powerful activities you may not have thought of.

How yoga helps you and your kids

Yoga has been popular in our culture for decades now.

It can be done at home on your own or in a yoga studio. You can even pull up your favorite style of yoga on YouTube and follow along. Aside from maybe a yoga mat, no special equipment is needed.

Yoga is a great exercise for both reducing stress and centering and calming the mind. But it also builds core strength and balance.

Yoga comes from India and was created thousands of years ago.

In Sanskrit, yoga means “to unite”. In this case, the union is between the mind and the body or even the spirit and body.

While yoga is part of the Hindu religion it has been embraced by all cultures and religions across the world.

With its heavy focus on the breath, yoga is a great way to build coordination and flexibility while naturally helping with stress management.

Learn more about why you should do yoga here:

7 Reasons You Should Start Doing Yoga Immediately

Thus, finding ways to incorporate kids yoga into your child’s activity schedule is a great way to help them navigate the sometimes troubled waters of adolescence.

The self-esteem challenges kids face today

Kids today face incredible challenges.

Bullying, especially cyber-bullying on social media, has become rampant over the past decade. So finding ways to teach our kids how to overcome bullying is crucial.

But we also see our kids stressed and challenged by:

  • High parental and school expectations
  • Body image issues
  • Peer pressure

All of these can take their toll on our kid’s self-esteem. They can lead to depression, drug or alcohol abuse or even suicidal thoughts.

So as parents, we must find a way to help our kids.

Kids yoga is an easy way to help your child improve their self-esteem and feelings of self-worth.

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The proven benefits of kids yoga

The benefits of kids yoga are many, but a few of the top ones are:

  • Improve their body awareness
  • Improved stress management
  • Builds focus and concentration
  • Increased confidence and self-esteem
  • Improved coordination and flexibility

In short, kids yoga is an easy way to get them moving and off electronic devices. It’s also a healthy weight management practice too. Of course there are other healthy exercises for kids too, so check them all out:

34 Best kids yoga exercises that your kids will love

At first your child may be resistant to yoga. After all if their friends or favorite YouTubers aren’t doing it, it’s not cool. So make a commitment with them. Get them to agree to trying it for a set period of time (ideally 2-4 weeks minimum).

Kids aren’t likely to just quietly do gentle yoga poses for an hour with meditational music in the background. So once you get that commitment, then it’s crucial to find ways to make it fun and keep them motivated.

If we want them to love yoga (and they will), we have to make it appealing to them. Remember this is about the end result, so whether your local yoga guru would approve isn’t relevant.

For these kids yoga poses, we’re using the common names in English rather than the traditional Sanskrit names. We’ve also adapted some of the poses to be done with the aid of a chair to make them easier for younger kids.

Easiest kids yoga poses to start with

These are some easy poses that are great for beginners or younger kids.

1. Bow Pose

    Have your child lie flat on their tummy with arms laying alongside their body with palms up. Have them bend the knees and bring the feet towards their head.[1]

    Take a deep breath and lift the chest, looking forward. Then have them reach their arms back and grab their ankles.

    2. Bridge Pose

      Have them lie on their back with knees bent and feet flat on the ground. Knees should be hip width apart. Arms should be down alongside the body with palms facing down. Have their fingers touch the back of the heels.[2]

      Then tuck the chin into the chest, and as they breathe in, lift the bottom off the ground and press up.

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      3. Yoga Pose Musical Dots

      Cut out circles on different colors of construction paper. Write the name of a different yoga pose on each circle. Play some fun music that your kids like.

      Then, as with musical chairs, have them walk slowly around the circle and then randomly stop the music. Instead of 1 person getting taken out of the game, the kids simply have to do the pose written on their circle.

      4. Yoga Pose Detective

      Call out different options (ie: “Show me a yoga pose with 1 foot on the ground”) and let the kid(s) choose from any of the yoga poses they know that match the description.

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      5. Mountain Pose

        Have your child stand with their feet at hip distance apart. Have them press their feet down into the ground to create a solid base. Stand up straight with arms at their sides. Have them turn the palms forward and spread the fingers wide. Keep a straight back as they lift from the crown of their head to the sky.[3]

        6. Chair Pose

          From a seated position, stand in Mountain Pose. Have them lift their arms up in front of them at about a 45 degree angle while looking at their hands. Then have them sink their posture as if they were going to sit, but have them not touch the seat.

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          7. Lotus Pose

            Have them start by sitting on the floor with legs extended. Bend the right knee and bring the foot across to meet the left elbow. Place the right foot and the left elbow together while having the right knee meet the right elbow. Bring hands together in a prayer-type position. Have them lightly sway back and forth to open the hips.[4]

            8. Child’s Pose

              Sit back on the heels and lean forward with the arms stretched out in front and palms flat on the ground. Have them bring their forehead to the floor. Then they lay their chest on the thighs. Then bring the arms alongside the body.[5]

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              9. Boat Pose

                Have them sit with a tall back and the legs bent a little bit in front of them. Have them lean back a little and place their arms straight out in front. Then have them balance on their bottom, and raise the feet off the ground. Have them gently rock back and forth.[6]

                10. Dolphin Plank

                  Have them start in a push-up position and then bring the forearms to the ground. Place the elbows right under their shoulders. Gently lock the fingers together and make sure they keep their belly, hips and knees off the ground.

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                  11. Upward Facing Dog

                    Have them start by lying flat on the belly, with their hands under the shoulders and elbows tucked in. Ask them to press up off the floor leaving their lower body on the ground. Press up and stretch before resting back down.

                    12. Triangle Pose

                      From a standing position have them extend arms out and spread the legs wide. Turn left foot out and reach down with their left hand and grab their own left ankle. Extend the right arm straight up and press up. Repeat on the other side.[7]

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                      13. Cobra Pose (with a chair)

                        Have them sit at the very front of a chair. Ask them to open their chest, pressing the chest up and arching up slightly, bringing the shoulder blades towards each other. Hold on to the back of the chair seat and focus the gaze upwards.[8]

                        14. Cow Pose

                          Have your child sit at the front of a chair, with their feet flat on the ground. Ask them to place the palms of their hands on their knees. Focusing on the breath have them look up slightly, while arching their back, and opening the chest.[9]

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                          15. Downward Dog Pose

                            Stand in front of a chair, facing the chair. Have them place their hands on the front of the chair while slowly stepping back. Have their arms outstretched in front of them. Keep the back flat while ensuring the legs are hip-width apart. Their gaze should be down between the legs.[10]

                            16. Tree Pose

                              Stand behind a chair. Hold on to the back of the chair with one hand. Then have them shift their weight and balance on the leg closest to the chair. Bend the knee of the other leg and place the sole of that foot on the inner thigh or calf of the standing leg. While balancing, gently sway and focus on the breath.[11]

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                              17. Lion’s Breath

                                This style of breathing is one of the most fun for kids yoga. With Lion’s Breath, kids inhale deeply through the nose. Then they lean their head back and open their mouth wide while exhaling loudly and sticking their tongue out.[12]

                                18. Breath of Fire

                                  Used in Bikram yoga, this style of breathing is great for warming up the abs. Practice the Breath of Fire by having the kids sit tall. Then ask them to inhale gently through the nose. As they breathe in, they begin to exhale out through the nose rapidly while sucking in their stomach in quick succession.[13]

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                                  19. Warrior I Pose

                                    The warrior poses are done in a deep lunge stance. For warrior 1, have your child stretch their arms straight up while pressing the chest gently out and up.[14]

                                    20. Cat-Cow Stretch

                                      Have your child place both hands on the ground and rest on the knees. Alternate between arching the back up while pressing the head down (cat) and gently arching the back in while pressing the head and shoulders up to the sky (cow). Animal noises are encouraged![15]

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                                      21. Alternate Nostril Breathing

                                        Have your child sit comfortably with legs crossed. Have them breathe in normally and exhale through the nose. Have them press the right side of the nose closed and breathe in through the left nostril. Pause. Release the right side of the nose and press the left side shut. Exhale through the right nostril. Repeat in reverse order.[16]

                                        22. Warrior II Pose

                                          Start in a deep lunge stance. The foot of the leg in front should be facing forward. The other foot should be at about a 45 degree angle. Extend both arms in opposite directions with following the legs on the same side. Arms should be parallel to the ground with palms facing down.[17]

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                                          23. Waterfall Pose

                                            Have your child lie on their back with feet flat on the floor. Have the knees bent. Press down into the feet and lift the hips up. Place their hands, palms down, under their bottom. Alternately you can place a soft block or pillow there. Slowly raise both legs up pointing to the ceiling, similar to a leg raise.[18]

                                            24. Flying Eagle Pose

                                              Start by having your child do Mountain pose (listed above). As they come out of that pose, they extend their arms like an eagle flying. Then, slowly raise one leg up behind them and gently bend forward at the waist.[19]

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                                              25. Roadrunner

                                                A variation of the high lunge. From standing, bend at the waist and place both hands on the ground. Take a big step back with the left leg. Hands remain flat on the ground on either side of the right leg. Hold for 4 seconds and repeat on the other side.[20]

                                                26. Upward Salute

                                                  Start by having your child do Mountain pose (listed above). Have them raise their arms out sideways and point the fingers straight up to the sky. Palms face one another and the arms should remain in parallel.[21]

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                                                  27. Plow Pose

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                                                    Have them lie down on the floor on their back while bringing the knees into the chest. Lay the arms along their sides, with your palms pressing down. As they exhale have them swing their legs up over their head. They should stretch the toes as far back over their head as they can get them.[22]

                                                    28. See-Saw

                                                      A partner pose done with 2 kids. Have the kids sit across from one another with legs out in front of them in a V shape and a straight back. Holding hands, have them gently rock back and forth in time to the music.[23]

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                                                      29. Supine Butterfly

                                                        Have them lay flat on their back with knees bent. Let the knees fall gently to each side while the feet press into each other. Have their arms extend out away from the body at a 45 degree angle going down away from the head, with palms facing up.[24]

                                                        30. Warrior III

                                                          Have them stand with feet together. Have the hands extend over their head with palms together. Slowly bend at the waist and lean forward. As they lean forward they should raise one leg back, ending with standing on one leg with arms flat in front and 1 leg flat extending back.[25]

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                                                          31. Side Blade Kick

                                                            From standing, have them kick out with one leg. Rotate the leg and hip so that the toes are angled down slightly and the foot is horizontal. Raise the arm on the same side as the kicking leg, bending at the elbow so the top of the arm is parallel with the kicking leg and the upper arm is pointed straight up making a fist. Bring the other arm across the torso pointing towards the extended leg and make a fist with that hand also.[26]

                                                            32. Cobra Pose

                                                              Have them lay down on the belly with their legs extended flat on the ground. Place the hands on the floor just under the shoulders with palms facing down. Have them press the tops of the feet and legs into the floor. While inhaling, have them press down into the floor with the hands while slowly raising the upper part of their body up. Hold for several breathes while gazing forward.[27]

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                                                              33. Dancer Pose

                                                                Start this one from Mountain pose too (listed above). On the inhale, their weight shifts back to the right foot. Have them lift the left leg towards their bottom on the left side and bend the knees. Point the toes to the sky. Hold the left ankle with the left hand while the right arm extends forward at a 45 degree angle.[28]

                                                                34. Wild Thing

                                                                  Start from a downward facing dog pose (listed above). Raise the right leg high in the air. Then have them bend the right knee and point the right foot towards their left hip. As they press that foot down, they will naturally rotate and end up with their body facing up instead of down. Have them plant the right leg on the ground and reach out with the right arm, extending past the head.[29]

                                                                  How kids yoga can reshape your child’s self-image

                                                                  In this post, we looked at what yoga is and some of the best kids yoga poses. But we also took a look at some of the things that add stress to our kid’s lives and how kids yoga can help overcome them.

                                                                  We know that kids face more challenges and different challenges than any generation that came before.

                                                                  Thus it’s crucial that we, as parents, find ways to help our children find healthy outlets and activities. We have to provide the much needed guidance to set them up for success in physical and mental health but also for life in general.

                                                                  Kids yoga is an easy activity to incorporate into your kid’s life that can help boost self-esteem. It can also help develop them mentally, physically and emotionally.

                                                                  With the low costs involved, it’s literally something every parent could introduce their child to, and your child can start seeing the benefits right away.

                                                                  Featured photo credit: Rainbow Yoga via rainbowyogatraining.com

                                                                  Reference

                                                                  [1] Yoga for Beginner: Best Of Yoga Pose Bow
                                                                  [2] Yoga Journal: Bridge Pose
                                                                  [3] Niyanthree Ayurveda: Mountain Pose
                                                                  [4] Yoga Journal: Avoiding Ankle Injuries in Lotus Pose
                                                                  [5] Yoga with MahesHwari: Balasana ~ Child’s Pose
                                                                  [6] Well and Good: THESE YOGA POSES COULD HELP HEAL YOUR ACNE (YES, REALLY)
                                                                  [7] Yoganatomy: Exploring Triangle and Revolved Triangle Pose
                                                                  [8] Ms Unites: Rutgers University Yoga Study
                                                                  [9] HealthifyMe: Seated Cow and Cat Stretch
                                                                  [10] Yoga Journal: A Prenatal Chair Sequence to Ease the Discomfort of Pregnancy
                                                                  [11] ACE: 7 Chair Yoga Poses for Better Balance
                                                                  [12] Banyan: Yoga Pose: Lion Pose
                                                                  [13] Women Fitness: Breath of Fire: Cleansing The System
                                                                  [14] Yokala: Warrior I Pose – How to Perform and Benefits
                                                                  [15] Workout Trends: Yoga Poses Cat cow Back Stretch Pose
                                                                  [16] The Chalkboard: Simplest Health Tip Ever: Why You Should Try Alternate Nostril Breathing
                                                                  [17] Pop Sugar: Strike a Yoga Pose: Warrior 2
                                                                  [18] Top Health Remedies: 5 Effective Yoga Poses For Relaxing Body And Mind
                                                                  [19] DoYogaWithMe: Yoga: Eagle Pose (Garudasana)
                                                                  [20] SportGymYoga: Tween Yoga Sequence
                                                                  [21] Home Remedies & Yoga Mudras: Urdhva Hastasana (Upward Salute)
                                                                  [22] Ideas for Yoga at Home: Fresh Yoga Poses Plow
                                                                  [23] Adventures of a Yoga Mom: Warrior Friends
                                                                  [24] The Book Belly: Supine Butterfly
                                                                  [25] Yoga Journal: Strong Spirit: 5 Steps to Warrior III
                                                                  [26] Yoga Journal: Kathryn Budig: Yoga + Martial Arts = Perfect Match
                                                                  [27] Yoga Journal: Practice Safe Stretch in Cobra
                                                                  [28] Howcase: How to do a dancer’s pose
                                                                  [29] EatPureLove: Instant Happiness Met De Wild Thing Yoga Pose

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                                                                  How to Be Confident: 51 Proven Ways to Build Self-Confidence

                                                                  How to Be Confident: 51 Proven Ways to Build Self-Confidence

                                                                  When you learn how to be confident, you can use it in your everyday life to tackle all of your goals and challenges. However, not many people realize that learning how to gain self-confidence is like building a muscle—it grows in response to the level of performance required of it.

                                                                  Here I will give you 51 proven ways to overcome a lack of self-confidence and achieve more.

                                                                  1. Learn Something New

                                                                  Sign up for that evening class and enjoy it. Alternatively, read a book (or take an online course) on a topic you’ve always wanted to learn more about.

                                                                  Learning new things stretches your abilities, keeps your mind active, and most definitely improves your confidence in your ability to do new things.

                                                                  2. Ask Your Partner or a Friend What You Can Do For Them

                                                                  This can be something as easy as helping them with a chore they don’t like or have little time for. Through helping them, you’ll find that you feel better about yourself.

                                                                  3. Hit the Gym

                                                                  The physiological effects of going to the gym will leave you feeling great.

                                                                  Countless studies have shown that regular workouts at the gym can boost not only your sense of well-being, but can increase your self-esteem, too[1].

                                                                  4. Go to a Networking Event

                                                                  Rather than being nervous about your own stuff, focus on how to help others. Instead of going along with the aim of trying to sell yourself to others, why not change your approach and simply go along to see how you can help the people you meet?

                                                                  By doing this, you’ll come across as calm, confident, and someone that people will want to turn to again and again.

                                                                  5. Get Clear on the Things That Matter to You

                                                                  If these things are not in your life, you’ll need to bring them in.

                                                                  For example, if your daily work routine is currently as dull as dishwater—but you’d like it to be fun—then do something about it. Turn data entry into personal speed contests, paper filing into “screen-free” time, and interactions with your colleagues into enjoyable conversations.

                                                                  6. Remove Negativity From Your Life

                                                                  Write a list of the things you’re tolerating and putting up with in your life, then write down how you can remove, minimize, or diminish each one.

                                                                  I personally like to do this with pen and paper as it feels just a little more real and definite than on screen. It’s also a good idea to put the priority items at the top of your list, so you can begin resolving these first.

                                                                  7. Celebrate Your Big and Small Wins

                                                                  Look at the big or small goals you’ve completed, and give yourself credit for your part in it.

                                                                  Recognizing your achievements is not egotistical, it’s healthy.

                                                                  8. Converse With New People

                                                                  Go and have a conversation with someone you don’t know. By doing this, you may be pleasantly surprised by what—or who—you’ll discover.

                                                                  You can also extend this trait by breaking outside of your normal social situations at your workplace. This will do wonders when learning how to be confident.

                                                                  9. Do Something You Would Normally Say No to

                                                                  Next time you talk yourself out of doing something (a party invite, a challenging project, etc.), go and do it anyway. This is a great way to boost personal development.

                                                                  10. Do One Thing Each Day That Makes You Smile

                                                                  This could be something as simple as sending a thank you email to a colleague that has been helpful to you, or leaving a surprise present for your partner that they’ll discover when they wake up.

                                                                  Life shouldn’t be drudgery, and we all need to make the effort to keep it light, loving, and fun.

                                                                  11. Give Yourself Good Advice

                                                                  Look for the patterns of thought that take you to a place where you start second-guessing or overthinking.

                                                                  Now imagine that your best friend went through exactly the same thought process and ended up holding themselves back—what would you want to say to them?

                                                                  This is known as Soloman’s Paradox—we’re often quite good at solving others’ problems but not our own. Challenge this and take your own good advice next time[2].

                                                                  12. Ask Someone on a Date

                                                                  If you’re single and have met someone that you’re definitely attracted to—go ahead and ask them out.

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                                                                  Even if they turn you down, it will help you learn how to be confident through the fact that you were decisive and made an effort. What’s the best thing that could happen? They might just say yes!

                                                                  13. Write Down 20 Things That Make You Feel Good

                                                                  Think of this as a gratitude list. Typical things you might include are: your partner, your kids, your parents, your pets, etc.

                                                                  I recommend writing this list at least once a month. And most importantly—make sure you’re giving the 20 things plenty of room in your life.

                                                                  14. Stop Playing Different Roles

                                                                  Stop playing different roles and squeezing yourself into boxes based on what you think people expect of you.

                                                                  Be your authentic self, the one who knows what to do and loves what they do. It’s easy to find this part of yourself as it’s inherent in your hobbies and your close friendships.

                                                                  If you can bring this authenticity into your work life, you’ll be surprised at how positively others will react to you.

                                                                  15. Cultivate a Positive Mindset

                                                                  Learn to catch yourself every time you tell yourself that you can’t have, won’t get, or aren’t good enough to get what you want[3].

                                                                  Talk yourself up when learning how to be confident.

                                                                    Instead, tell yourself that you can have, will get, and are good enough to get what you want. Mindset is everything. Make sure yours is positive and dynamic.

                                                                    16. Take Yourself off Auto-Pilot

                                                                    Make deliberate decisions on what really matters to you.

                                                                    For instance, if you normally work 9 to 5 but find yourself spending hours getting to and from work, why not negotiate with your boss to mix your hours up a bit?

                                                                    You might also suggest a day or two working from home. Sell this to your boss by reminding them that the time and stress lost to commuting can be neatly transferred to productive work hours.

                                                                    17. Listen Carefully to What You Tell Yourself

                                                                    Next time you come up against a risk or a challenge, listen to what you tell yourself, and look for a way to improve your inner dialogue.

                                                                    If you normally find that your inner dialogue is negative, then break out of this by asking yourself questions such as:

                                                                    • What would make this easier?
                                                                    • Is there a different way of doing this?
                                                                    • Could research help?

                                                                    18. Laugh at Yourself

                                                                    Scared of looking silly? It’s no biggie, so don’t let it stop you.

                                                                    Whenever we try something new, there’s a fair chance that we’ll make fools of ourselves. But you’d be a bigger fool to let that stop you. Instead, laugh at your baby steps and watch your confidence soar as you begin to master your chosen activity.

                                                                    19. Listen to Your Doubts

                                                                    Sometimes your doubts are there to let you know what you need to prepare for, so you can use them to your benefit as you move forwards. Other times, they are just doubts.

                                                                    The trick is to quickly determine if your doubts have validity. If they do, use them to shape your decisions.

                                                                    To illustrate this, imagine that you’ve had an enticing job offer, but you doubt whether you’re capable of doing the job. Spend a little time analyzing your doubts to see whether they reflect reality, or whether they are just negative thoughts that are trying to hold you back.

                                                                    20. Recall a Time When You Did a Great Job

                                                                    Think of a time when it felt like a whole bank of switches in your head flicked to the on position, and you were firing on all cylinders. What were you doing, and what’s the reason it felt so great? Can you emulate that passion and drive that you had?

                                                                    21. Tear up Your Rule Book

                                                                    You may not know it, but you’ve almost certainly got a whole bunch of outdated rules that determine what you do and don’t do. These rules limit your thinking and your behavior.

                                                                    It’s time to change them. Tear up this subconscious rule book and toss it in the fire. Once you’ve done this, you’ll immediately notice how free you feel to make challenging and exciting decisions.

                                                                    22. Ask Yourself What You Have Gained When You Lose

                                                                    Do you get annoyed with yourself because you didn’t make the most of something or stepped back from an opportunity?

                                                                    Firstly, don’t beat yourself up because that’s just going to make you feel worse. Instead, be brutally honest and ask yourself what you gained from the situation and what you lost out on.

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                                                                    Based on this win/lose balance, what’s a different choice you can make next time?

                                                                    23. Don’t Let People Put You Down

                                                                    If there’s someone in your life who puts you down or makes you feel small, you owe it to yourself to let them know that you expect something different from now on. 

                                                                    Trust me, once you’ve told them, they’ll change, and you will, too. Inevitably, you’ll boost both your confidence and happiness by taking control of your life in this way.

                                                                    Learn how to get out of toxic relationships in this article.

                                                                    24. Reveal a Little Bit of the Real You

                                                                    Relationships can be difficult. They can also lose their zest and become stale. If this happens in your relationship, then it’s time to add some magic to the mix.

                                                                    Try revealing something interesting about yourself or your past that your partner doesn’t currently know when learning how to be confident. Perhaps you never mentioned to them that you used to play in a rock band—and you still have the recordings to prove it!

                                                                    By adding new things to your relationship, you’ll deepen the bond and keep the spark alive.

                                                                    25. Be Your Own Hero

                                                                    Recognize that you’re more than a match for any situation you might find yourself in—no matter how tough the going gets.

                                                                    We all love movies like Die Hard where ordinary people are driven to super-ordinary feats. But here’s the rub: you can be your own action hero.

                                                                    Whatever the situation, meet it head on and overcome it. Keep in mind the classic phrase: “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.”

                                                                    26. Don’t Give in to the Instant Pay-off

                                                                    If I was to offer you $100 now for a day’s work tomorrow or $110 for the same work, but I won’t pay you for a week, which would you choose? Well, I can’t read your mind, but I do know that studies using a similar question to this have found that most people choose the instant, smaller payment over the latter, bigger payment. It seems that we’re hardwired for instant gratification.

                                                                    However, if you want to be a success in life, always look at the bigger picture. In the example above, if you could have only waited seven more days, you would have been $10 richer!

                                                                    27. Instead of Yelling “I Deserve Better,” Say “I Can Be Better”

                                                                    Too often I hear people complaining about their personal circumstances but refusing to do anything about it. Don’t be like them.

                                                                    If things aren’t going your way, find solutions and implement them. Your boldness and decisiveness will boost your confidence and help you rapidly climb the ladder of success.

                                                                    28. Admit You’re Wrong

                                                                    It may not be easy, but you should always be prepared to hold your hands up and change your mind if things are going south. Not every idea you have will be a winning one. The trick is to know when things are clearly not working out.

                                                                    You can either attempt to get them back on track or kill them off completely (sometimes that’s the best way).

                                                                    29. Trust Your Instincts

                                                                    We all have our gut feelings and intuitions, but many people choose to ignore them and rely only on facts, facts, and more facts! While this may work for many scenarios, there will be other times when you’ll need to rely on your instincts.

                                                                    30. Imagine Your Confident Future Self

                                                                    Imagine you’re visited by a successful, confident, attractive, and vibrant version of you from the future, a version of you who’s everything you hope to be. What do they want to tell you?

                                                                    They might praise your efforts, but they may also criticize your lack of planning and weak goals.

                                                                    Luckily, if you listen closely to what they tell you, you’ll be able to rapidly shift gears in your life and become the you of the future!

                                                                    31. Ask for Help

                                                                    This is a common issue. We take on way too many responsibilities and end up either burning ourselves out or just doing a bad job!

                                                                    The secret is to put the vast majority of your energy and efforts into what you do well. Give the stuff you don’t do well to others who have a gift for it. Sometimes the most confident and effective thing to do is ask for help.

                                                                    32. Be Around People Who Make You Feel Like You

                                                                    Do this by spending more time with the people who support and encourage you and less time with those who undermine you.

                                                                    At work, don’t be ruined by negative, petty people. Instead, make sure you surround yourself with colleagues who make you laugh and feel good about yourself.

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                                                                    33. Participate in the World Around You

                                                                    Ask yourself this question: “What can I participate in that’s important to me?”

                                                                    Typically, this could be your church, a sports club, or even just a weekly get together with your best friend.

                                                                    34. Develop Skills to Work on Things That Matter to You

                                                                    What can you practice that would radically improve your chances of winning?

                                                                    If you want to climb the corporate ladder, for example, then develop the skills needed to do this. These might include: effective project management skills, powerful presentation abilities, and superb goal setting skills.

                                                                    Of course, don’t forget that emulating those who have already achieved your goal is one of the quickest and most reliable ways for you to achieve your aims, too.

                                                                    35. Act Until You Make It

                                                                    The body is a mirror for the mind, so shifting your body language into a confident state can have surprising results.

                                                                    This is all about acting. If you want to come across as tough, act tough. If you want to come across as successful, act successful. And if you want to come across as confident, act confident.

                                                                    Try doing these things, and you’ll be amazed by the results.

                                                                    36. Push Through When You Want to Give up

                                                                    Don’t get disheartened or demotivated when you get to 90% with something you’re working on. Push through, and you’ll see that the last 10% is where the magic happens.

                                                                    37. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

                                                                    Keep comparing yourself to others? Stop it. If you want to learn how to be confident, don’t try to validate yourself through comparison—you’re just peachy as you are.

                                                                    Social media often makes this difficult. Try stepping away from your Facebook page for a few days and reconnect with the great things in your own life.

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                                                                    38. Speak up When You Can Make a Difference

                                                                    Speak up if there’s something you think could be improved or if you have an idea you think has legs.

                                                                    Have you noticed that quiet people at work rarely get the promotions? It’s not that they are incapable or lacking talent, but their abilities are usually overlooked as they don’t know how to engage with others or how to sell themselves.

                                                                    Step out of your comfort zone and be sure that you’re an active player. Speak up in meetings by suggesting ideas and offering constructive criticism.

                                                                    39. Stop Struggling and Start Accepting

                                                                    If there’s something you’ve been struggling to understand for a while, stop trying to understand it. Accept it just as it is, fully and wholly.

                                                                    Life offers endless mysteries. If you try to resolve them all you’ll drive yourself insane. Instead, let some mysteries remain, and keep your mind focused on your goals and dreams.

                                                                    40. It’s Okay to Be Shy

                                                                    There’s nothing wrong with being shy, and it doesn’t mean you’re not a confident person.

                                                                    If you suffer from shyness, you might think it’s a major weakness of yours. However, introverted people have the edge in many ways, such as: they’re first-rate listeners, they have excellent observational skills, and they’re easier to trust[4].

                                                                    41. Clean up Your Environment

                                                                    Your environment directly impacts your self-perception. So, if you’re surrounded by clutter, paperwork, and rubbish, put a morning aside to clean up your stuff and get organized.

                                                                    42. Write a List of Things You Would Love to Do

                                                                    Write yourself a list of the amazing things you’d love to do in your life, and make a start by simply looking into the first one or two things that leap out at you. This will help you get started as you learn how to be confident

                                                                    Even if you don’t currently have the means to live your dreams, you can, at the very least, make a start. The best way to do this is to write out the things you’d love to do. These may include cool stuff, such as travelling the world, learning a new language, or climbing a mountain.

                                                                    Once you’ve added the items to your list, don’t stop there. Begin researching and preparing ways to turn your dreams into realities.

                                                                    43. Make Your Self-Worth Independent From Others’ Validation

                                                                    Don’t make your happiness or self-worth dependent on being in a relationship or being validated by someone else.

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                                                                    While it’s difficult to admit it, we often find ourselves rating our self-esteem by the value other people put on us.

                                                                    For instance, you may have a super-positive boss who is always encouraging and supportive. They make you feel upbeat and confident at all times.

                                                                    However, imagine if they left and your new boss was the complete opposite. They constantly look for faults in your work and regularly criticize you. Would you still feel confident in those circumstances?

                                                                    If you’ve answered no, then you need to reappraise your self-worth, as it shouldn’t be dependent on the validation of others.

                                                                    44. Use Your Strengths

                                                                    We all have our weaknesses, but they only undermine your confidence if you let them.

                                                                    For instance, are you aware that Virgin’s founder Richard Branson suffers from dyslexia? He never let this hold him back or destroy his confidence. Today, he is one of the world’s most successful men, with a net worth of approximately $5 billion[5].

                                                                    45. Complete a To-Do List

                                                                    The longer you leave that big thing on your to-do list, the more it’ll drain you, and the bigger it’ll seem. Get it done and free yourself up.

                                                                    If you have a big goal, break it down into smaller tasks. For instance, instead of trying to write a whole chapter of your book in one go, how about just writing the opening paragraph?

                                                                    46. Treat Your Body Well

                                                                    When learning how to be confident, our body image does matter, because if you have a bad relationship with your body, you won’t feel confident in yourself.

                                                                    What’s one of the first things most of us do when we get up in the morning? We look in the mirror. If we don’t like what we see there, then our day starts off with negative self-talk. If, on the other hand, we look in the mirror and feel proud of our appearance, then we start the day off in an upbeat, positive way.

                                                                    If you’re unhappy with your body and looks, do something to improve them. Exercise, diet, and styling are common ways of improving your body image—and your confidence.

                                                                    47. Learn to Say No

                                                                    Don’t say yes to taking on a task simply because you don’t want to rock the boat. You can politely decline requests you can’t meet without needing to create excuses.

                                                                    While saying yes to everything that comes your way might feel like you’re being helpful and in demand, in the long run, you’ll burn yourself out.

                                                                    48. Learn From Confident People

                                                                    Look at the people you respect who seem confident. Don’t copy them, but identify what it is they do differently that conveys confidence and what you can learn from it.

                                                                    People-watching is not only fun, but it can be informative, too. Look closely at successful people you know, or those being interviewed on TV, and over time you’ll begin to notice common traits, beliefs, and behaviors that they exhibit.

                                                                    49. Follow Through on Your Plans

                                                                    Most people find it easy to write plans. The hard part, of course, is seeing them through. To stand out from the crowd, make sure that you know exactly how to complete your plans.

                                                                    If you need to, write down a step-by-step guide and begin following it. Not only will this drive you towards the completion of your plans—but experiencing the progress will also give you a continuous boost to your self-esteem.

                                                                    50. Shift Your Focus When You Doubt Yourself

                                                                    When you feel yourself focusing inwards and becoming paralyzed with doubt or fear, switch to focusing outwards at what you can engage and interact with.

                                                                    I remember one of my writing tutors telling me that when the words stop flowing, it’s time to take a break— preferably a walk in the park. It’s sound advice as it’s very easy to get caught up with our thoughts and emotions and be unable to make progress.

                                                                    51. Never Beat Yourself up for Failing

                                                                    Life is guaranteed to not always be a barrel of laughs. Instead, it’s much more like a roller coaster. There will be ups and downs, so ride them out.

                                                                    The art of living is to know how to handle whatever comes you way. The best way to achieve this is by developing an iron core that is unhindered by the topsy-turvy outside world.

                                                                    Final Thoughts

                                                                    Here I’ve given you 51 different ways to start building self-confidence Take action on the ways that you’re drawn to.

                                                                    It’s not enough to read about them. For them to work, you must adopt them into your daily life. Do this, and you’ll start to feel your confidence soar.

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