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5 Fearless Books To Read If You Want To Chase Your Fears Away

5 Fearless Books To Read If You Want To Chase Your Fears Away

Phobias are the most common mental disorder in the U.S, as approximately 10 percent of people in the U.S. experience phobias. Even if you are not bothered by a specific or social phobia, fear haunts us in different ways. It can affect our performance, for instance if we have a fear of public speaking or anxiety during an exam. An intense exposure to fear can even cause mental problems like panic attacks, cold sweats and other symptoms that affect our well being. There is always a way however, to deal with those fears and overcome the demons in our lives. Here is a selection of 5 books that can help you to conquer your inner fears.

Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown

    Most of the times we see our vulnerability as a weakness, something we fear. Dr. Brené Brown offers an alternative view in Daring Greatly and encourages readers to embrace vulnerability and imperfection, to live wholeheartedly, and to courageously engage in our lives. The book sheds a new light on what it means to engage with our vulnerability, the reason (shame) why we are so afraid of being vulnerable, and how to combat the situation. The book will not fix your insecurities instantly, but it helps readers to realise and relate to their lives in order to move forward.

    Reading duration: 4hrs 32mins

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    Get Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead from Amazon at $13.60

    The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by Gay Hendricks

      The Big Leap helps you learn how to jump from mediocrity to excellence. To do that, you have to learn to conquer the fears that are holding you back. Hendricks suggests in the book, that certain fears are fake, mostly because we believe ourselves to be limited.

      In the book, we learn about the four hidden barriers that many of us impose on ourselves that may limit us.  A lot of our negative emotions are self-limiting, including worry, and self-criticism, and these are the hindrance to our future success. Hendricks offers us his key to success “I expand in abundance, success, and love every day and I inspire others around me to do the same.”

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      Reading duration: 3hrs 10mins

      Get The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level from Amazon at $7.57

      Hardcore Self Help: F**k Anxiety by Robert Duff

        This book is not your regular self-help (if i might say, boring) anxiety relief book. Instead of going on and on with scientific knowledge, Duff delineates the important stuff clearly in a way anyone can understand with or without prior education in psychology. There is lots of swearing and humour, with lots of helpful and actionable information. Even if you do not suffer from anxiety, you will get a good laugh from the book.

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        Reading duration: 59mins

        Get Hardcore Self Help: F**k Anxiety from Amazon at $9.99

        The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook by Edmund J. Bourne

          The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook is a practical book with exercises for readers to follow through, such as breathing techniques and info on herbal remedies to ease generalised anxiety disorder, social anxiety, specific phobias, panic attacks, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and other anxiety-related issues. Aside from the quick and easy fix, the author provides challenging negative self-talk and mistaken beliefs, and imagery and real-life desensitisation to a step-by-step guide to slowly put your life together. If you have anxiety, this book would act as a very good supplement to a professional counsel that can be around with you for anytime.

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          Reading duration: 6hrs 54mins

          Get The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook from Amazon at $19.41

          Calm: Calm the Mind. Change the World by Michael Acton Smith

            Our daily lives are filled with tasks, stuff, people. Calm is the book to help you rediscover the pause button during your hustle and bustle. Mindfulness meditation is a proven way to reduce anxiety and stress and improve your overall well-being.

            Many people relate meditation to huge lifestyle change, a Buddhist who practices Zen, Calm is about simple and achievable habits that fit into the busy life all of us live. Expect this to be a workbook that provides you with a step-by-step guide to keeping a gratitude note every week, a ten-minute meditation that is able to fit into your bus-ride to work.

            Get Calm: Calm the Mind. Change the World from Amazon at $6.64

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            Last Updated on July 17, 2019

            How to Make Changes in Life To Be The Best Version of You

            How to Make Changes in Life To Be The Best Version of You

            Let’s start with the problem:

            You get back from work. You’re tired. It was a long day. You know there’s things you could do, to get out of the rut you’re in.

            But, let’s be honest. You really would rather relax, sit down and chill for a bit. Grab a snack. Watch your favourite show.

            By the time you’ve done that, the day’s over. There’s just not enough time. To make this worse – you don’t have the energy or willpower to make changes in your life today.

            So where do you go from there?

            What you need are some easy to apply actions that are proven to work.

            This article is going to give you 4 steps on how to make changes in life so you can follow today and get closer to success – even when you are feeling tired and lazy.

            These steps have proven to work for me, and many of the coaching clients I work with privately.

            1. Squash Inconsistency by Giving up Motivation

            Now most people, when they want to make changes to their lives, focus on making lengthy to-do lists and plans. They think over and over again about what is going wrong, what is going well and what they want, etc.

            All in a bid to push themselves to getting more motivated.

            Guess what? This isn’t going to work.

            Willpower and motivation are feelings. Feelings are vague and unreliable.

            Instead, what you should do is focus on putting your flawed unpredictable self in the best possible environments.

            If you do one thing first from this list, it’s THIS:

            Find and go to the best possible environment for the area of your life you want to change.

            For example:

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            • If you want to get fit, make your first goal to show up at the gym three times a week.
            • If you want to find a new relationship, show up to a meet up in your city for single people.
            • If you want to be productive and make your business idea work, don’t work at home, go to a co working space nearby.

            The reason people fail to become the best version of themselves is because they underestimate the power of environments to influence behavior.

            Accept that you are flawed, prone to distractions and your motivation and willpower will fail you.

            The best hack at your disposal? Show up to “change inducing” environments and get out of your comfort zone (physically)!

            OK. Next step.

            2. Recruit an Elite Team to Help You (For Free)

            Open up any social media platform you’re active on that contains some positive connections you have.

            Send this message to one person you already know and trust ton help you make changes to your life:

            “Hey [first name]. Can I be really frank and honest with you? I’m having one of those – ‘OMG I NEED TO MAKE CHANGES TO MY LIFE!’ moments.

            And I was browsing the internet, looking for tips and this article I came across suggested accountability. So here I am, messaging you to be part of my accountability system.

            My ask is simple.

            Can we sit together once a week at [x place] but do absolutely no socializing? I’ll buy the [coffee/food] and it will be a space to force me to do [x thing]. You literally have to do nothing other than eat the free coffee/food I pay for lol. But it will keep my accountability high, which is what I need.

            What you reckon? Can you help? Thanks!”

            Now obviously, change the language to suit you but you get the idea.

            Not only are you going to environments that will help you make changes, but by bringing a friend (or two), you make it even likelier that you will succeed. It doesn’t even have to be in person, it could be a video call.

            People fail to make changes to their lives because they try to do it all themselves.

            It doesn’t really work in long term, and it doesn’t have to be this way.

            You can recruit and “enlist” people to help you. By doing this, you’re taking care of the up and down motivation you have.

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            Not only are people happy to help, when they see this type of behavior, they’re also inspired and motivated to change their lives. Pretty soon, you end up creating change in not just your life, but other people’s too.

            So when the next dip in willpower comes?

            You have a friend sitting right next to you, watching your every move, making sure you get things done anyway.

            3. Build Good Habits Effortlessly

            Changing your life means changing your day to day habits.

            Habits are automated behaviors you do everyday, like how a clock works, without thinking or motivating yourself to do them.

            Some habits help you to change, others can stop you. One of the best ways to replace your ‘bad’ habits with good ones is to treat them like old clothes. What happens when your t-shirt gets old, faded and out of fashion? You replace it with something new and improved.

            Do the same thing with your habits – upgrade and replace them with something better. Start small, then slowly graduate to higher levels of difficulty.

            Let me give you a clear example of what I mean:

            A few years ago (before it became mainstream), I was trying to start my own habit of meditating every single day to help boost my productivity and mindfulness. I’d done a mind blowing course called Vipassana. It involved 10 days of deeply powerful meditation combined with noble silence in a remote part of the UK.

            Now it was easy to do when I was there (#1 – environment!) with all those other meditators (#2 – people helping me). All I could do was meditate. There were ZERO distractions. I had NO CHOICE.

            When I got home however, after a few days of sticking with it, I quickly caved.

            Those extra 30 minutes of sleep were just so much easier than waking up everyday at 4am for a long one hour meditation.

            So what did I do to build this really important habit?

            Like with most things, I wanted to make changes to my life. I wanted to become my best self.

            I knew how important it was. I just couldn’t follow through consistently and kept failing over and over.

            Then, it hit me.

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            I needed to start small. I made a tiny change, that made all the difference.

            I made a tiny change, that I could stick to – without fail – that has me meditating daily every single day now.

            What was it?

            Instead of trying to do something BIG inconsistently (1 hour of 4am morning meditation) and failing again and again. I decided to do something small consistently.

            Building any good habit really just comes down to repetition. The way the brain is built works in favour of this.

            My new habit became:

            When I wake up, I will fold my bedding neatly. Then I will sit cross legged for 30 seconds with my eyes closed.

            Eventually, once I did this consistently for a few months. I increased difficulty.

            When I wake up, I will fold my bedding neatly. Then I will meditate for 10 minutes.

            Why does this work?

            What’s important here is that the behavior you want (meditating) is tied to another consistent habit (folding your bedding).

            I attached my new habit to one that already is consistent.

            Making it more likely to happen.

            Secondly, I aimed for consistency, not perfection. This is where a lot of people fail. They have an idea of the change they want, but things become all or nothing.

            When you do this, you fail to realize the power of consistency. The brain you have loves patterns. In this case, I trained my brain to repeat a set pattern every morning when I fold my bed.

            There was no motivation or willpower required.

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            This training has gone so far now that if I miss a day of meditating, I really feel uncomfortable. I’m just as conditioned to meditate as most people are to checking their phones in the morning.

            If you want to learn more about quitting bad habits, Lifehack’s CEO also has a guide on it: How to Break Bad Habits: I Broke 3 Bad Habits in Less Than 2 Months

            4. Create More Time by Quitting Social Media

            You know the best thing I’ve ever done for my productivity and it took me 30 seconds to do?

            I deleted all social media apps from my phone and blocked them on my laptop.

            Then, to reinforce it, I told all my friends and followers on Facebook (my most used platform) I wasn’t using it for a while.

            Now, there’s nothing wrong with my social media. Social media is a tool. Tools are neutral. It’s how we use them that is “productive” or “distracting”.

            We each have to judge how healthy our usage is, especially when weighed against unlocking our best self. That said, for most people reading this, including me, I think limiting our usage is a very favorable advantage.

            One of the best ways to make changes in our lives is not to add new tools or tricks. But simply remove things that distract us.

            Social media is something I use heavily for my businesses. Technically I’m a “social media influencer” and “YouTuber”. I need to be posting constantly, right?

            Our situations are unique, so I came up with a unique solution for this. After deleting and blocking these apps from my devices, I installed a social media management software that still allows me to post my updates.

            The big difference, however, is I cannot spend any time scrolling and being distracted.

            Final Thoughts

            Change is not always about more. Sometimes it’s about doing less and getting rid of what distracts or blocks you.

            Trying to do things by yourself is a good way to fail. Share your goals and pitfalls with people, no one helps until you ask.

            Start with small changes consistently instead of big changes failed at consistently. The momentum will give you results over time.

            So what to do next to make changes in your life?

            1. Write down where you are going to GO to create the changes you want.
            2. Message 3 to 4 people on social media and ask them to help you using the message template I gave you.
            3. Choose one small habit to get started with immediately and upgrade it over time.
            4. Delete all, or at least most social media apps on your devices, and notify people you are leaving to make it stick.

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