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Will Weight Training Make You Bulky and Look Like a Man?

Will Weight Training Make You Bulky and Look Like a Man?

Women often frown if I advise them to regularly train with weights. “I don’t want to look like a man if I train with weights!”, I often hear. Let me tell you one thing: You won’t look like a man. Instead, the gym has other positive side effects for women.

    1. Sped Up Metabolism

    Go to the gym if you want to eat more, great-tasting food. Not having to watch your calories 24/7 is a privilege that every women dreams of. The muscles that you build up during your training in the gym will even burn your calories in times, when you’re not training consciously. Muscles are fat burners.

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    And don’t forget the psychological side of it: Opening your fridge after a hard workout and rewarding yourself with your favourite food is one of the best feelings in this world. Humans are reward oriented creatures, am I right?

    2. Fit and Healthy Aging

    You only live once. Aging healthy is important – it might not be in this moment for you but it’ll definitely be important in the future. Being mentally and physically fit in the long-term is a privilege, worth working for. Your children are not here to care for you when you’re older. You want to be independent and fit – even as a grandma.

    Being associated with an independent, fit elderly is the best that can happen. What a world it would be, where elderly are still healthy and adventurous. Recreate your future starting today, go to the gym.

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    3. Deal With Stress Like a Boss

    We live in a society where we have to deal with stress on a daily basis. Have you ever came home fully stressed out, after a ten-hour work shift? An experience like this in our present world is pretty common – for both sexes.

    Occupational burnout is a disease that we’re all too familiar with. In our civilization, our life is out of balance. The mental health of the average person needs improvement. The use of antidepressants are far too high, especially in the female population. About 16% of every women over the age of 12 in the US uses antidepressants frequently.[1]

    These are about 30.000.000 people. Using the gym as a treatment, for mental health, free of negative side effects. Sign me up for that![2]

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      4. Super Boost Your Confidence (And Attractiveness)

      Want to be more confident and attractive? The gym is one of the best places to go then. The WHR (waist-to-hip-ratio) is generally an indicator of your overall attractiveness. Trained glutes, when regarding evolutionary psychology, may indicate to the male sex that you’re better predisposed to give birth. Improving your WHR is a great way to give you extra attention from the opposite sex.

      If we look back in our history, the most attractive women – such as Marilyn Monroe – had tremendous self esteem. That’s why she rose to such extreme popularity and had thousands of admirers. Simply because of how comfortable she felt in her own skin.

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      Women: Recreate Yourself

      The days where the gym was filled with guys only is finally over. Sign up for a gym membership and hire a personal trainer or an online coach for a couple of months. Train about 2-3 times a week to begin with.  You don’t have to spend more than 60 minutes each.

      It won’t take long until you will see the first changes in your physical and mental well-being. Then you will understand, that training in the gym has tremendous benefits.

      Don’t be afraid to pick up the dumbbells on a regular basis. They won’t make you bulky. Lifting weights help shape you into the independent, strong and confident woman – that you deserve to be.

      Featured photo credit: finda via finda.photo

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      Last Updated on July 10, 2020

      How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

      How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

      We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

      We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

      So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

      Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

      What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

      Boundaries are limits

      —they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

      Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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      Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

      Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

      Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

      How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

      Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

      1. Self-Awareness Comes First

      Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

      You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

      To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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      You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

      • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
      • When do you feel disrespected?
      • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
      • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
      • When do you want to be alone?
      • How much space do you need?

      You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

      2. Clear Communication Is Essential

      Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

      Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

      3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

      Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

      That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

      Sample language:

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      • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
      • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
      • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
      • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
      • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
      • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
      • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

      Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

      4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

      Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

      Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

      Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

      We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

      It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

      It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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      Final Thoughts

      Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

      Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

      Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

      The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

      Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

      Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

      They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

      Featured photo credit: Thomas Kelley via unsplash.com

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