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Last Updated on November 15, 2017

10 Movies To Accompany You When You’re Feeling A Little Out Of Love

10 Movies To Accompany You When You’re Feeling A Little Out Of Love

Break ups are one of those things in life that almost all of us have had to endure. Whether it was mutual or not, it can hit you hard and those initial few days or weeks can be tough to get through.

Seeking refuge under the covers or sprawled out on the sofa with a pint of ice cream is pretty cliché but it’s actually one of the things we all should do to help heal ourselves.

But this article isn’t going to give you that magic bit of advice on how to get over a break up. Instead it’s going to provide you with the 10 best down-to-earth movies to keep you company while you have a cry, curl up on the couch in your PJs and feast on the questionable leftovers you found at the back of the fridge.

1. John Tucker Must Die

    John Tucker is a serial cheater and when three of his scorned ex-girlfriends get together, they decide to reap revenge by setting him up for heart break with the new girl in town. As the title aptly shows – revenge is sweet.

    Revenge is sweet: Although going through the motions during a break up is important and revenge is a phase we may contemplate, this movie should be taken with a pinch of salt. However, the comedy element will hopefully leave you feeling better after seeing some girls taking revenge on their ex.

    2. The Break Up

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      This is a story about Chicago couple Gary and Brooke. The opening of the movie takes us through their first meeting and subsequent blossoming relationship but picks up at the point where their relationship is starting to break down. Showing the reality of a bitter divide, we see the couple fight over their luxury condo and the break up getting more and more ugly.

      The best form of love is to love yourself: This film doesn’t sugar-coat love like the majority of romantic movies. Instead it serves as a reminder that falling out of love and breaking up with someone that doesn’t care for you is much better. It will help you see that not all relationships are meant to last and you’ve just got to love yourself and move on to find another person who’s more of a perfect match.

      3. 500 Days of Summer

        An offbeat romantic comedy about a woman (Summer) who doesn’t believe true love exists, and a guy (Tom) who falls madly in love with her. Tom believes deeply in the concept of soul mates, and thinks he’s finally found his. Undaunted and undeterred by his breezy lover’s casual stance on relationships, Tom summons all of his might and courage to pursue Summer and convince her that their love is real.

        There is no such thing as ‘The One’: This is a movie that shows that love doesn’t always work out how we expect it to. It can be unrequited, messy and sometimes feels like a let down. Just because we love someone deeply and share the same interests, it doesn’t mean they are the perfect one for us. Go with the flow, detach and let life send you someone when you’re complete and ready.

        4. A Lot Like Love

          Two friends Oliver and Emily first met when they were college students sharing a flight from California to New York. Emily spontaneously seduced Oliver on the plane, and they spent the next few days together in the city. When they parted, Emily was not keen to pursue a relationship with Oliver even though he was interested. Over the next several years, fate kept bringing them back into each other’s paths and they remained close friends, while still certain that they aren’t meant for each other. Eventually, after nearly a decade, with both Oliver and Emily edging into their thirties, they begin to wonder if they’ve allowed a great opportunity to pass them by.

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          Timing is everything. If it’s meant to be it will be: Sometimes relationships are just bad timing and shouldn’t be forced. We need to let go, detach and carry on with our lives. Only then, if it’s meant to be, will that relationship come back to you.

          5. How To Be Single

            A group of young women going through different phases of life, navigate love and relationships in New York City. Alice temporarily dumps her college boyfriend Josh and moves to New York City to be a paralegal. She moves in with her sister, Meg, an OB/GYN who refuses to have a baby or any form of relationship. Alice befriends wild co-worker Robin, who enjoys partying and one-night stands, and local bartender Tom, who wilfully embraces the bachelor lifestyle and hooks up with various women including Alice. Tom meets Lucy at his bar when she uses his Internet for free. She explains she is looking for “The One” using various dating sites.

            Move on and get back out there: This is a rare gem of a film because it truly celebrates the positives of being single. It highlights the need to really use this single time to get to know yourself, free of men and the need to be with someone to feel whole and complete. The ending to the film celebrates independence without implying that we should all become cave-dwelling hermits who live off foraged roots and rainwater. The end scenes encourage the viewer to use the power of their own interpretation and the positive views of accepting the scary excitement of where life will take you next.

            6. Forgetting Sarah Marshall

              Devastated Peter takes a Hawaiian vacation in order to deal with the recent break-up with his TV star girlfriend, Sarah. Little does he know, Sarah’s travelling to the same resort as her ex – and she’s bringing along her new boyfriend.

              One for the guys out there: Men can sometimes deal with a break up differently to their female counterparts and usually involves distraction, mishaps and bad decisions. This comedic movie will show you the lighter side of getting over a painful break up and help you laugh along the way.

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              7. Bridget Jones’s Diary

                Bridget Jones (Renee Zellweger) is an unattached 30-something who realizes she’s got to change her life. After a New Year’s Eve, she vows that this new year is the one in which she’ll get her act together. She’ll lose weight, she’ll smoke and drink less, and she’ll document it all in a diary.

                Complicating everything is Bridget’s attraction to her boss, Daniel Cleaver (Hugh Grant), a man of questionable character. They launch an affair and Bridget falls for him head over heels, only to realise later that her feelings aren’t reciprocated, when her boss gets engaged to another woman. Thrown into the mix is barrister Mark Darcy (Colin Firth), who admittedly finds Bridget attractive but whom Bridget finds repulsive.

                It won’t be until Bridget clearly sees the truth about Daniel, that she also clearly sees Mark for the man he is, and her feelings for him for what they really are.

                Live it with someone who’s been there and done that: Love lives can be complicated and sometimes when you’re going through bad times, you need that kind of film that’ll just be your break-up buddy. Bridget Jones is someone who you’ll easily identify with and make you feel less alone in what you’re going through.

                8. Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind

                  After a painful breakup, Clementine (Kate Winslet) undergoes a procedure to erase memories of her former boyfriend Joel (Jim Carrey) from her mind. When Joel discovers that Clementine is going to extremes to forget their relationship, he undergoes the same procedure and slowly begins to forget the woman that he loved.

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                  When you just need to cry it out: This is one movie that will tug at your heartstrings, pour on the nostalgia and change everything you think you know about love.

                  9. Celeste & Jesse Forever

                    Longtime sweethearts Celeste (Rashida Jones) and Jesse (Andy Samberg) married young, but are now drifting apart. Celeste is an ambitious business owner, while Jesse has a more laid-back attitude toward life and work. Celeste wants a divorce and believes that she and Jesse can remain friends. Jesse passively goes along with her plans, even though he is still in love with her. However, as the reality of their separation sinks in, Celeste begins to have second thoughts.

                    Are you contemplating a friendship with your ex?: When we don’t want to lose our ex completely, we often contemplate a friendship in order to keep them in our lives. Watch this film and you’ll rethink what it means to be friends with an ex.

                    10. He’s Just Not That Into You

                      In Baltimore, five women and four men try to sort out the signals that the sexes exchange. Gigi imagines every man she meets is Mr. Right; she gets reality checks from Alex, a sweet but cynical saloon keeper. Janine and Ben seem solidly married until he chats with Anna in a market checkout line; meanwhile Anna is indifferent to the pursing Conor. Neil and Beth have been together seven years; she dumps him when she realises he really and truly isn’t going to marry her.

                      When you just need a bit of a reality check to move on: This movie shows the misinterpretations of human behaviour for which the majority of us are blind to when we’re in love. These interconnecting stories show and deal with the challenges of different situations which may help to give you that reality check you need to move on.

                      If you’re going through a break up right now, give yourself permission to get those comfy PJs on, reach for the junk food and put on a film that will help you along your emotional journey and eventually get back on track.

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                      Published on September 11, 2018

                      15 Natural Insomnia Cures That You Haven’t Tried But Actually Work

                      15 Natural Insomnia Cures That You Haven’t Tried But Actually Work

                      It’s been another sleepless night and now you’re miserable. After all, you’ve tried all the natural insomnia cures you can think of and yet nothing seems to work.

                      You’ve tried cutting out out alcohol and caffeine.

                      You’ve tried setting a regular bedtime routine and avoiding naps during the day.

                      You’ve ever tried getting a brand new bed and luxurious new pillows so that you can be as comfortable.

                      Yet there you are, still tossing and turning night after night.

                      But don’t despair too soon.

                      Just because you haven’t yet found a way to cure your insomnia without medication that doesn’t mean you never will.

                      Today, we look at a number of natural insomnia cures that have proven to be effective time and time again.

                      Not only that, but they work with none of the side effects or negative consequences that typically come with prescription sleep aids.

                      Ready to finally enjoy a peaceful night’s rest?

                      Here are some natural sleep remedies you can try to help you start sleeping better from tonight onwards.

                      1. Get the right amount of exercise at the right time

                      Time and time again, studies show that people who exercise on a regular basis enjoy much better sleep quality than those who lead a more sedentary lifestyle.

                      Just before you let out a large groan and drag yourself wearily to the gym, there is some good news:

                      Getting exercise doesn’t have to mean running a marathon every day or spending every waking hour lifting weights.

                      Most experts recommend that moderate aerobic exercise such as walking or even an easy bike ride can do just as much -if not more- good for your sleep than strenuous exercise.

                      So far, so good, but that mean getting the bike out or doing push-ups just before you hit the sack?

                      Not exactly.

                      To benefit the most from exercise, schedule it for earlier in the day.

                      Mornings are always best, but afternoons will work in cases where that’s not possible.

                      If you leave aerobic exercise too late in the day, it’s likely that all the adrenalin you built up will linger on and still be there at bedtime.

                      The result, of course, is that when you’re trying to sleep, your brain and body are still pretty wired from the exercise and thus insomnia strikes.

                      The earlier you do it, the more chance the adrenalin has to wear off, leaving you feeling perfectly sleepy and ready for a long night’s rest.

                      2. Manage your exposure to light and dark

                      Here’s another good reason for taking your exercise early in the day rather than late at night:

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                      Exposure to natural daylight can significantly increase our energy through the day and help us sleep better at night.

                      So, wherever possible, it’s a good idea to get your exercise outdoors and get double the benefits you get from it.

                      Here’s why:

                      Light and dark influence the body’s circadian system which regulates our sleep.

                      Get plenty of light early on, and we have plenty of energy to burn off during the day, which leaves our body ready for a natural period of rest later on at night.

                      However, if we then stay up well into the evening in bright environments, say with the light bulb on, the television on and your smartphone screen emitting light, that could mess with the circadian signals that tell the body it’s time to rest.

                      With that in mind, aim for as much daylight as you can and then reduce artificial lighting as the day comes to an end to improve the chances of finally beating that insomnia.

                      3. Enjoy a long soak

                      Is there anything more enjoyable than a long, relaxing soak in the bathtub after a long and stressful day?

                      How about a long, relaxing soak followed by an even longer, peaceful night’s sleep?

                      Researchers at Kyushu University in Japan found that exposure to warm water can make us feel sleepier, thus making it much easier to fall asleep properly.[1]

                      Again, this has a lot to do with our circadian system, which is very sensitive to body temperature.

                      When we start to cool down after a bath, it causes our circadian rhythm to signal to the body that it’s time to prepare for our rest. Our body responds by slowing down our heart rate and our breathing rate, putting us into the perfect state for a good night’s sleep.

                      It doesn’t have to be a soak in the bathtub either. The Kyushu University study found that a shower, or even a footbath, could help make us sleepier.

                      4. Drink chamomile tea

                      Of all the natural insomnia cures on our list today, this one is no doubt the tastiest.

                      Perfectly safe and usually delicious, chamomile is often referred to as a mild type of tranquillizer, and its effectiveness as a remedy for insomnia has been proven time and time again.

                      In 2011, a study was conducted involving people dealing with chronic insomnia. Those who were given 270 mg of chamomile extract twice a day for 28 days were found to fall asleep 15 minutes than those who didn’t have any chamomile extract.[2]

                      That’s just one of many studies conducted over the years which shows what a powerful remedy chamomile can be.

                      One of the reasons for this is that it contains plentiful amounts of Apigenin, an antioxidant which can reduce anxiety and help us drift off faster. Once our eyes are closed, chamomile’s other components get to work on ensuring we stay well rested through the night.

                      If you’re not a fan of drinking chamomile as a tea, you can also get it as an extract from most health stores.

                      5. Practice meditation or breathing exercises

                      For many people, it’s anxiety, worry or racing thoughts that keep them up at night.

                      Often, this can even be at a subconscious level. We go to bed fully expecting to sleep, only to find that the stress and anxiety that we’ve built up throughout the day leaves us too wired to rest.

                      This is where meditation or simple breathing exercises can really help out.

                      Focusing on our breathing and practicing mindfulness meditation makes us feel relaxed, alleviating stress, depression, and even physical pain.

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                      Like many of the insomnia cures we’re looking at today, this is one you can start using right now without spending any money.

                      The web is a great place to turn for scores of tools to help with meditation and breathing. Take a look online and see try different ones to see which work best for you.

                      You can also try this meditation guide: The 5-minute Guide to Meditation: Anywhere, Anytime

                      Or these breathing exercises: 5 Breathing Exercises for Anxiety (Simple and Calm Anxiety Quickly)

                      6. Try valerian root

                      If chamomile wasn’t to your liking, good old-fashioned valerian might do just the thing.

                      A mild sedative, valerian root has been one of the most widely used insomnia cures for centuries, with recorded uses dating all the way back to Hippocrates in the 2nd century.

                      Not only that, but it also proves incredibly effective to help alleviate nerves, tension and anxiety.

                      In fact, back in World War 2, the English would regularly use it to alleviate the stress caused by air raids.

                      We may live in less frightening times today, but valerian is no less effective than it was back then.

                      In a study published back in the late 1980s by the Foellinger Health Center in Sweden, some 89% of those taking part improved their sleep after taking it, all without any of the side effects typically caused by prescription medication.[3]

                      Though dried valerian root is often sold as a tea, it’s also widely available in capsule or liquid form.

                      7. Use lavender

                      To anyone familiar with lavender’s calming properties, it’s inclusion on our list today should come as no surprise.

                      Whether used in a bath, applied to your skin as an oil or inhaled as steam, few plants can help you relax in as many ways as lavender.

                      As well as providing you with lots of good stuff like vitamin A, calcium, and iron, lavender is often used to reduce anxiety, fatigue and nervousness.

                      Naturally then, it also works very well as a natural insomnia cure, helping to lower the heart rate and breathing rate so that you can achieve optimum sleep conditions faster than usual.

                      As well as all the methods listed above, lavender can also be added to foods and eaten or drank as a tea.

                      8. Turn on some soothing sounds

                      Remember when you were little, your parents helped send you off to dreamland by singing a gentle lullaby?

                      There’s a reason so many parents do this with their children:

                      It works.

                      When the brain hears a sound, its first action is to asses whether that sound represents a threat. For example, the slow, repetitive pattern of rainfall is simple, predictable and gently persistent, meaning our brains are unlikely to see it as a problem.

                      A loud, sharp, noise going off at random intervals, however, can be quite alarming, and signal to the brain that there’s danger.

                      So, if we surround ourselves with gentle, repetitive, low-frequency sounds when we go to bed, our brains are going to be in a much more relaxed state.

                      It’s for this reason that so many people struggling to find a natural cure for insomnia turn to white noise machines.

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                      These handy little devices block out the kind of background noises that are likely to keep them awake and instead replace them with calming sounds that help with inducing sleep.

                      That being said, the same sounds don’t necessarily work for everyone.

                      So, if you’ve tried a white noise machine (or used one of the many white noise apps available for your phone) and found that it doesn’t work, there’s plenty of other sounds you can try.

                      Rainfall, ocean waves, thunderstorms, crackling fires, the list goes on.

                      Try out different sleep sound apps or download sounds to your devices and see which one works best for you.

                      9. Enjoy a little passionflower

                      For years, passionflower tea has been used as a natural cure for insomnia, anxiety and stress.

                      If that alone isn’t enough to make it worth a try in your efforts to finally reclaim your sleep, this will. It tastes delightful.

                      Typically found in southern parts of the United States and in South America, this tropical plant comes from the same family that gives us the passion fruit, so you can imagine how delicious it is.

                      In this instance, the plant’s leaves, flowers and stems are dried and used to create a tea that has natural relaxing properties.

                      In one study conducted in 2013, a combination of passionflower and valerian was proven to be just as effective at improving sleep quality as Ambien, a prescription medication used for curing insomnia.

                      10. Try journaling before bedtime

                      If it’s worrying thoughts that are keeping you up at night, you might find journalling incredibly helpful.

                      Rather than giving you more things to dwell on as your head hits the pillow, writing in a journal actually allows you to effectively dump all those thoughts out, lock them away in a book and forget about them.

                      The act of taking worries, stresses and anxieties from within us and physically putting them down on paper can be very powerful. The effect is literally like taking a weight off your mind.

                      As such, you’re left feeling lighter, more relaxed, and ready to rest.

                      11. Use melatonin supplements

                      Melatonin is the hormone that regulates our sleep-wake cycle. It’s produced naturally according to our exposure to light and dark, which is why managing that exposure ranked so highly earlier in our list.

                      The more sunlight we get through natural sunlight, the more melatonin we’re able to produce once we’re in a properly darkened place, such as in our bedrooms with the curtains drawn, the lights off, and our devices switched off.

                      If we’re still not getting enough sunlight, the body will struggle to make enough once we’re in that darkened bedroom.

                      Conversely, if we spend all our nights in brightly-lit bedrooms with the lights blazing, our bodies won’t have the exposure to darkness that they need to produce the right amount.

                      If you think a melatonin deficiency could be the cause of your sleepless nights, you can buy supplements that help your body get just the right amount to regulate your sleep-wake cycle properly.

                      The result, of course, is that you feel sleepy when it’s the right time to feel sleepy and ultimately enjoy a much better rest.

                      12. Buy some lemon balm

                      A 2011 study published in the Mediterranean Journal of Nutrition and Metabolism showed that people who use a 600 mg of lemon balm extract every day for 15 days saw a 42% reduction in insomnia symptoms.[4]

                      Of course, while we’d all like a 100% reduction in our symptoms, using lemon balm in conjunction with some of the other remedies we’ve mentioned today can work wonders.

                      Lemon balm extract is normally used in aromatherapy for its soothing properties. You can buy lemon balm extract oil and put a little in an oil burner before using it as a massage oil or dropping a little in your bath to help wash away the stress of the day.

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                      13. Enjoy a simple cup of warm milk and honey

                      It’s sometimes said that the only reason warm milk helps us to sleep is that it reminds us of our childhood.

                      For some people, that in itself may be enough, but milk does much more than bring back warm, cozy memories.

                      It also contains plenty of tryptophan, which converts into the hormone serotonin. Serotonin acts as a natural sedative and helps induce sleep.

                      So why include the honey?

                      Well, for one thing, it makes that warm milk taste that much nicer. For another, it helps carry the serotonin to our brains much quicker, reducing the amount of time it takes for us to get into an optimum sleep state.

                      You can also drink it as a tea just before bedtime to help ease away anxiety and relax into the perfect conditions for quality sleep.

                      14. Attend a yoga class

                      Whilst much of yoga’s increasing popularity is down to its physical benefits, it can also prove incredibly helpful in getting you to sleep.

                      How?

                      By reducing stress.

                      Even at a subconcious level, stress is one of the major causes of insomnia, so anything you can do to reduce it is only going to work in your favour.

                      If the thought of attending a yoga class with other people fills you with more anxiety than it relieves, there’s nothing to say you can’t do it at home.

                      YouTube videos or DVDs can teach you the basics, and that can be more than enough to leave you with the kind of calm, easy feelings you need to finally banish your insomnia.

                      You can also take a look at this article for some simple yoga poses:

                      No More Insomnia: 5 Simple Yoga Poses For Better Sleep

                      15. Snack on almonds and bananas

                      Finally, if you prefer to take in your tryptophan by eating something rather than drinking milk and honey, then these foods are the way to go.

                      Almonds and bananas contain plenty of sleep-inducing tryptophan as well as magnesium. A lack of magnesium can cause sleep problems, as can calcium, which can be found in almonds as well as milk.

                      Bananas are also a great source of potassium, which proves very useful for muscle relaxation.

                      Finding natural cures for insomnia that really work for you

                      From delicious things to eat and drink to tips, tricks and techniques to try, we’ve covered a whole range of effective insomnia cures here.

                      Whilst any one of them alone might be just the thing to help you sleep, you might find that combining a number of them produces the best results.

                      You might, for example, try a light jog in the mornings, then take a warm bath at night before dimming the lights, sipping chamomile tea and finally retiring to a darkened room with your favourite white noise sounds.

                      Experiment with the different remedies featured here today and you’ll soon find an approach that finally helps you to make sleepless nights a thing of the past.

                      Featured photo credit: Unsplash via unsplash.com

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