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Last Updated on November 15, 2017

10 Movies To Accompany You When You’re Feeling A Little Out Of Love

10 Movies To Accompany You When You’re Feeling A Little Out Of Love

Break ups are one of those things in life that almost all of us have had to endure. Whether it was mutual or not, it can hit you hard and those initial few days or weeks can be tough to get through.

Seeking refuge under the covers or sprawled out on the sofa with a pint of ice cream is pretty cliché but it’s actually one of the things we all should do to help heal ourselves.

But this article isn’t going to give you that magic bit of advice on how to get over a break up. Instead it’s going to provide you with the 10 best down-to-earth movies to keep you company while you have a cry, curl up on the couch in your PJs and feast on the questionable leftovers you found at the back of the fridge.

1. John Tucker Must Die

    John Tucker is a serial cheater and when three of his scorned ex-girlfriends get together, they decide to reap revenge by setting him up for heart break with the new girl in town. As the title aptly shows – revenge is sweet.

    Revenge is sweet: Although going through the motions during a break up is important and revenge is a phase we may contemplate, this movie should be taken with a pinch of salt. However, the comedy element will hopefully leave you feeling better after seeing some girls taking revenge on their ex.

    2. The Break Up

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      This is a story about Chicago couple Gary and Brooke. The opening of the movie takes us through their first meeting and subsequent blossoming relationship but picks up at the point where their relationship is starting to break down. Showing the reality of a bitter divide, we see the couple fight over their luxury condo and the break up getting more and more ugly.

      The best form of love is to love yourself: This film doesn’t sugar-coat love like the majority of romantic movies. Instead it serves as a reminder that falling out of love and breaking up with someone that doesn’t care for you is much better. It will help you see that not all relationships are meant to last and you’ve just got to love yourself and move on to find another person who’s more of a perfect match.

      3. 500 Days of Summer

        An offbeat romantic comedy about a woman (Summer) who doesn’t believe true love exists, and a guy (Tom) who falls madly in love with her. Tom believes deeply in the concept of soul mates, and thinks he’s finally found his. Undaunted and undeterred by his breezy lover’s casual stance on relationships, Tom summons all of his might and courage to pursue Summer and convince her that their love is real.

        There is no such thing as ‘The One’: This is a movie that shows that love doesn’t always work out how we expect it to. It can be unrequited, messy and sometimes feels like a let down. Just because we love someone deeply and share the same interests, it doesn’t mean they are the perfect one for us. Go with the flow, detach and let life send you someone when you’re complete and ready.

        4. A Lot Like Love

          Two friends Oliver and Emily first met when they were college students sharing a flight from California to New York. Emily spontaneously seduced Oliver on the plane, and they spent the next few days together in the city. When they parted, Emily was not keen to pursue a relationship with Oliver even though he was interested. Over the next several years, fate kept bringing them back into each other’s paths and they remained close friends, while still certain that they aren’t meant for each other. Eventually, after nearly a decade, with both Oliver and Emily edging into their thirties, they begin to wonder if they’ve allowed a great opportunity to pass them by.

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          Timing is everything. If it’s meant to be it will be: Sometimes relationships are just bad timing and shouldn’t be forced. We need to let go, detach and carry on with our lives. Only then, if it’s meant to be, will that relationship come back to you.

          5. How To Be Single

            A group of young women going through different phases of life, navigate love and relationships in New York City. Alice temporarily dumps her college boyfriend Josh and moves to New York City to be a paralegal. She moves in with her sister, Meg, an OB/GYN who refuses to have a baby or any form of relationship. Alice befriends wild co-worker Robin, who enjoys partying and one-night stands, and local bartender Tom, who wilfully embraces the bachelor lifestyle and hooks up with various women including Alice. Tom meets Lucy at his bar when she uses his Internet for free. She explains she is looking for “The One” using various dating sites.

            Move on and get back out there: This is a rare gem of a film because it truly celebrates the positives of being single. It highlights the need to really use this single time to get to know yourself, free of men and the need to be with someone to feel whole and complete. The ending to the film celebrates independence without implying that we should all become cave-dwelling hermits who live off foraged roots and rainwater. The end scenes encourage the viewer to use the power of their own interpretation and the positive views of accepting the scary excitement of where life will take you next.

            6. Forgetting Sarah Marshall

              Devastated Peter takes a Hawaiian vacation in order to deal with the recent break-up with his TV star girlfriend, Sarah. Little does he know, Sarah’s travelling to the same resort as her ex – and she’s bringing along her new boyfriend.

              One for the guys out there: Men can sometimes deal with a break up differently to their female counterparts and usually involves distraction, mishaps and bad decisions. This comedic movie will show you the lighter side of getting over a painful break up and help you laugh along the way.

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              7. Bridget Jones’s Diary

                Bridget Jones (Renee Zellweger) is an unattached 30-something who realizes she’s got to change her life. After a New Year’s Eve, she vows that this new year is the one in which she’ll get her act together. She’ll lose weight, she’ll smoke and drink less, and she’ll document it all in a diary.

                Complicating everything is Bridget’s attraction to her boss, Daniel Cleaver (Hugh Grant), a man of questionable character. They launch an affair and Bridget falls for him head over heels, only to realise later that her feelings aren’t reciprocated, when her boss gets engaged to another woman. Thrown into the mix is barrister Mark Darcy (Colin Firth), who admittedly finds Bridget attractive but whom Bridget finds repulsive.

                It won’t be until Bridget clearly sees the truth about Daniel, that she also clearly sees Mark for the man he is, and her feelings for him for what they really are.

                Live it with someone who’s been there and done that: Love lives can be complicated and sometimes when you’re going through bad times, you need that kind of film that’ll just be your break-up buddy. Bridget Jones is someone who you’ll easily identify with and make you feel less alone in what you’re going through.

                8. Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind

                  After a painful breakup, Clementine (Kate Winslet) undergoes a procedure to erase memories of her former boyfriend Joel (Jim Carrey) from her mind. When Joel discovers that Clementine is going to extremes to forget their relationship, he undergoes the same procedure and slowly begins to forget the woman that he loved.

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                  When you just need to cry it out: This is one movie that will tug at your heartstrings, pour on the nostalgia and change everything you think you know about love.

                  9. Celeste & Jesse Forever

                    Longtime sweethearts Celeste (Rashida Jones) and Jesse (Andy Samberg) married young, but are now drifting apart. Celeste is an ambitious business owner, while Jesse has a more laid-back attitude toward life and work. Celeste wants a divorce and believes that she and Jesse can remain friends. Jesse passively goes along with her plans, even though he is still in love with her. However, as the reality of their separation sinks in, Celeste begins to have second thoughts.

                    Are you contemplating a friendship with your ex?: When we don’t want to lose our ex completely, we often contemplate a friendship in order to keep them in our lives. Watch this film and you’ll rethink what it means to be friends with an ex.

                    10. He’s Just Not That Into You

                      In Baltimore, five women and four men try to sort out the signals that the sexes exchange. Gigi imagines every man she meets is Mr. Right; she gets reality checks from Alex, a sweet but cynical saloon keeper. Janine and Ben seem solidly married until he chats with Anna in a market checkout line; meanwhile Anna is indifferent to the pursing Conor. Neil and Beth have been together seven years; she dumps him when she realises he really and truly isn’t going to marry her.

                      When you just need a bit of a reality check to move on: This movie shows the misinterpretations of human behaviour for which the majority of us are blind to when we’re in love. These interconnecting stories show and deal with the challenges of different situations which may help to give you that reality check you need to move on.

                      If you’re going through a break up right now, give yourself permission to get those comfy PJs on, reach for the junk food and put on a film that will help you along your emotional journey and eventually get back on track.

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                      Published on July 17, 2018

                      20 Tips to Get Your Bedtime Routine Started for a Better Tomorrow

                      20 Tips to Get Your Bedtime Routine Started for a Better Tomorrow

                      “Today is tomorrow’s yesterday,” the quote says and it rings true from North to South, from West to East. And if we want to have a productive and energetic today, we need to prepare it yesterday. If we learn from yesterday, we can live today and we’ll even have time to plan for tomorrow.

                      The best way to jumpstart your day isn’t the first thing you do in the morning – but the last thing you do the night before. And here is a list of 20 tips that you can use for your bedtime routine to start the next morning energetic and productive:

                      1. Create your bedtime routine

                      In the words of late Jim Rohn:

                      “Simple things are simple to do but they are also simple not to do.”

                      The first thing to start with is by actually creating a bedtime routine. By this, I don’t mean just being a victim of consequences like kids, late dinners or office tasks that need to be done.

                      By creating a bedtime routine, you consciously create a set of behaviors that you will do (or not do) before you fall asleep that night.

                      In the beginning, it only needs to be a single thing that you adhere to like no laptop in the bed or TV for only 30 minutes or hitting at sack at 11:30 pm max.

                      And you can use the following tips to optimize your bedtime routine.

                      2. Play music

                      Music has a variety of effects on our bodies. First of all, our bodies are 70% water and vibrations affect us physiologically. There was a research done by Dr. Masaru Emoto who studied the effects that music has on the structure of frozen water molecules.

                      By playing certain (soothing) music, you will feel relaxed and prepared for sleep. I personally use post-rock (piano) songs playlist which include songs like “Your Hand In Mine” by Explosions In The Sky, everything from Anthony Greninger and The XX.

                      Now, it’s all about finding the perfect music for you. You need to find your own rhythm, so try out a lot of different songs and categories and see what fits you the best.

                      3. Read a book

                      This one is a bit tricky – you should be reading a book before you sleep but not something which is hard to understand and needs a lot of straining from your conscious mind.

                      It’s best to read something lighter before bedtime because it will put your mind in a nice rhythm and will induce you into a qualitative sleep.

                      This doesn’t mean that you should read things like 50 Shades of Grey (no, please no), but don’t go reading “Gödel, Escher, Bach: and Eternal Golden Braid” by Douglas Hofstadter either.

                      Pick something that interests you and is quite easy to read like “How To Win Friends & Influence People” or biographies like “Endurance: Shackleton’s Incredible Voyage” by Alfred Lansing.

                      4. Put on your pajamas

                      When you jump into your sleeping clothes, you signal your mind and body to shut down and go into “sleep mode.”

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                      Try to have a set of pajamas always prepared next to your bed and never go under the sheets with your house or work clothes.

                      5. Plan out your 3 most important tasks for tomorrow

                      This is something Leo Babuta talked a lot. When you plan out your 3 most important tasks for tomorrow, you immediately eliminate unnecessary decisions from tomorrow’s day.

                      When you remove decision making from the day, all that’s left is to just do that activity.

                      This is backed by research about ego depletion, where making decisions throughout the day depletes our willpower, making us less likely to do the activities.

                      But if you prepare them in advance (decide and write down that you’ll do it), you will be more likely to do them.

                      So plan out your 3 most important tasks for tomorrow and sleep like a baby, knowing what you will do tomorrow.

                      6. Write a journal

                      “Dear diary….” or you can start any other way. But this isn’t a six-grade school girl writing who she has a crush on. This is about reflecting on what happened to you today, how that activity made you feel and your general impression of the day.

                      Here’s a how-to guide on how to start writing a journal:

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                      7. Prepare clothes for tomorrow

                      We talked about ego depletion when planning the next day. It’s the thing with the clothes you will wear tomorrow.

                      When you prepare things for the next morning, your mind won’t go into “freak” mode, trying to remember everything you need to do in the morning like finding clothes for work, making breakfast, finishing that presentation, checking the valve pressure, changing the car oil, saving the world…

                      When you prepare for the morning in advance, you sleep better because you don’t have those menial tasks like clothes hovering around your head.

                      8. Turn off your WiFi

                      The word of the 21st century is connectedness and it’s great – we are more connected than ever. But this doesn’t mean that you need to be connected 24/7.

                      During the night, you should definitely turn off your WiFi and be unavailable. This makes your brain rest and doesn’t put you in that always-available-state, where you’re always prepared for that email or message.

                      Just leave it for the morning – 99% of things can wait. And if it’s that 1% that can’t wait, trust me, they will find a way to contact you.

                      9. Watch entertainment

                      Throughout the day, you should be working, learning and pushing yourself. But when the night comes, you need to reward yourself for the activities and accomplishments of the day – because you deserve it.

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                      So take 30-45 minutes and simply watch entertainment without feeling guilty – you can even watch a good movie. I have my entertainment nights on Friday where I watch gaming tournaments on YouTube – just a big fan of League of Legends.

                      10. Do mindfulness exercise like meditation

                      Mindfulness doesn’t have to be meditation, but meditation is almost always mindfulness.

                      Mindfulness trains your mind to become present and aware of the things and people that surround you. This makes you forget about the worries of the future and the regrets of the past and makes you live in the present.

                      Mindfulness as a bedtime routine helps you clear out your mind and makes you fall asleep easily, without those pesky regrets and worries sneaking up on you when you finally hit the sack.

                      Find out more about how Meditation Can Change Your Life: The Power of Mindfulness.

                      11. Evaluate your today

                      You planned out the 3 most important tasks that you need to do today. Now, it’s time to evaluate those tasks.

                      This is the time for self reflection, and Self-Reflection Gives You a Happier and More Successful Life.

                      So sit down and evaluate if you managed to accomplish the 3 tasks that you set up the night before.

                      12. Write down 3 things that happened today (not gratefulness)

                      This is a really good exercise because it’s not woo-woo like gratefulness or unstructured as a diary.

                      This is about making a history book out of your life- something your grandkids might read upon and see how your life looked like.

                      Writing down 3 things that happened today makes you simply record 3 events that happened on the day, with or without your judgment about them (good or bad, positive or negative).

                      After 3-6 months, you can read upon these and summarize them to create a timeline of your life and after a year, summarize it again.

                      This will create a timeline of your life, with all major events that happened written down. It will also make you more self-aware about the things happening every single day.

                      13. Drink water

                      Quality of sleep depends a lot on the hydration of our bodies. If you feel the thirst, it means you are already dehydrated.

                      The sacred rule I adhere to for a quality bedtime routine is one glass of water before bed and one glass of water as soon as I wake up.

                      Take a look at this article to find out How Much Water Should You Drink Each Day (and How Much Is Too Much for You).

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                      14. Cool off the room

                      Setting the right conditions for sleep are optimal for a quality-like sleep and productive and energetic day.

                      You need to sleep in a colder, dark and silent room. The quality of mattress and pillow also contribute to good sleep and even better mornings.

                      You might want to consider investing in a sleeping mask, good mattress and an even better pillow – it makes a big difference.

                      Here’s a guide on how to choose a good mattress:

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                      15. Don’t eat heavy food

                      Eating that late night dinner at 10:30 pm and then going back home trying to fall asleep is like getting drunk and trying to walk the line – you think you can do it until you actually try it.

                      A big dinner and heavy food before bedtime keeps your stomach working 24/7 and prevents it from having any rest during the night. This affects the quality of sleep and makes you feel groggy before you fall asleep and extends to when you wake up.

                      Remove heavy food from your night meals and look at how your energy spikes in the morning – I did it six months ago and I am never going back to it.

                      Check out more food options to help you sleep here:

                      12 Bedtime Snacks/Drinks That Can Help You Sleep Better

                      16. Avoid exercise before sleep

                      You shouldn’t exercise 3 hours before bedtime – it wakes up your entire body and prepares you for a physical activity.

                      Exercise is for morning or tops afternoon – the night is for relaxing bedtime routine activities.

                      However, you can try to stretch your body to help relax your nerves before going to sleep:

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                      17. Go to bed at the same time

                      Training your body and mind to shut down at the same time is beneficiary because it learns when you don’t need energy and when you do. This makes your energy usage more effective because you are 100% active when you need it and 0% active when you don’t need it.

                      Most people work on a 50-60% active energy, always being active but never being on their top game. If you train your body and mind to shut down after, let’s say, 11:00 pm, then it will reward you with energy spikes in the morning and afternoon.

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                      And the easiest way to accomplish this is by going to bed at the same time.

                      18. Optimize sleep cycles

                      Tips 17. and 18. are closely connected.

                      Sleep cycles consist of 1.5-hour rotations, where you finish one round of sleeping after 1.5 hours of sleeping and start over again. The best time to wake up is when a sleep cycle ends and just before the next starts.

                      So to optimize your sleep cycles, you should wake up after 5 or 6 sleep cycles, respectively after 7.5 or 9 hours of sleep. This is when you will feel the most energetic.

                      Hitting your sleep cycles at the beginning is quite hard but when you always fall asleep at the same time, your body will adjust to it and will make you hit them.

                      For more tips, here’s How to Hack Your Sleep Cycle and Get Better Sleep.

                      19. Work on your passion project

                      Nothing brings more satisfaction to a person than seeing a dream, a vision which only lived inside of a person mind come to life. And working on a passion project is exactly that – you are making a reality out of your vision or a dream.

                      You can allocate 20-30 minutes a night to work on your passion project. This will make the feeling of accomplishment even stronger and will affect the quality of your sleep by a handful.

                      If you think you’re too busy to do what you’re passionate about, here’re 7 Ways You Can Make Time For Your Passion.

                      20. Spend time with loved ones

                      The biggest factor that contributes to a happy and fulfilled life are relationships – with friends, family and loved ones.

                      At the end of a long, arduous day, you should spend time with your loved ones- the people with whom you can share your happy but also your sad moments.

                      A path to many starts with one

                      Not all of these 20 tips will make sense to you and they shouldn’t. You should pick out one and start with that and then, add up another one.

                      Test what works for you and what makes sense and you will soon see the difference in your energy and productivity.

                      Just remember – the path to many starts with only a single one. Start with one and create a bedtime routine for a better tomorrow.

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