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Last Updated on December 1, 2020

What Is the Point of Life: The Reason Why You Exist

What Is the Point of Life: The Reason Why You Exist

What is the point of life? This is the question to answer all questions, and, of course, answering it isn’t as straightforward as any of us hope. People feel that there should be an X on the map of life that will tell them where to go and how to get there, but things just aren’t that simple.

Answers to this always-important question can be found in everything from science to religion, to our internal and external reality, to logic and the unknown. Where you ultimately find your unique answer depends greatly on where you come from, what your goals are, how you see reality, and what you really want.

In this article, I may not offer a definitive answer, but I’ll get you started on finding your own.

Understanding Our Perception of Reality

“We all agree that your theory is crazy, but is it crazy enough?” –Niels Bohr

The first thing I noticed when pondering the question “What is the point of life?” was that my meaning would be inevitably different from yours. My answer would be true, yet false. Basically, our perception of reality will shape our answer to the question.

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Within our perception of the reality we live in, there are three components to look at: our external reality, our internal reality, and the unknown.

External Reality

Within our external reality, we have our culture and religion. Our culture is simply the environment in which we grew up, and include all the factors that influence us. One of the most powerful influencers is religion.

Religion can influence everything from what we believe to how we treat those around us to what kind of community we create for ourselves. However, religion is not the only part of external reality. Your culture, education, ancestry, family traditions, and friend groups all help make up your external reality and combine to create the unique individual you currently are and ultimately will become.

Each of these factors will help you answer “What is the point of life?”

Internal Reality

Within our internal reality, we find our desire. Within our desire, we find our intuition and purpose. Our intuition is our guide and is brought about by our desire, and our intuition will lead us to our purpose. Think of those internal feelings we have, where our gut reaction is trying to tell us something through life lessons.

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Since the path to our meaning in life is not clear, you can use your intuition to guide you. Follow those “gut feelings” as they are speaking to you, and you may just find something you never knew you needed.

If you were to strip away your external reality and everything influencing you on the outside, it would certainly be easier to tap into your internal reality, but that’s not how it works. They work together to push you towards your goals and purpose when you start asking “What is the point of life?”

The Unknown

This leads us to the unknown. Our lives are based on what we know and believe, and yet the things we don’t know (and never can know) far outnumber those we do. Accepting that there are things we can never understand can feel frustrating, yet it can ultimately lead us to a sense of peace and openness to others and their ideas.

What Is the Point of Life?

There are several ways you can combine the above ideas into an answer for “What is the point of life?” beyond simply saying that the point is to just stay alive.

Living With Purpose

“A thinker sees his own actions as experiments – as attempts to find out something. Success and failure are for him answers above all.” – Friedrich Nietzsche

The meaning of life is found when we understand our true reality. The true reality projects our internal reality to our external world. When we discover our purpose, we find that the meaning of life is simply to live toward our chosen purpose.

Once we find our purpose, we then have a reason to live and remain alive. This does not mean to live for other people. It has to be larger than that, so that your purpose and meaning never die.

You can learn more on how to find your purpose here. You can also watch the following video to learn more about your life’s purpose:

Fine Tuning Our External Reality

Your external reality will influence every aspect of your internal reality. If you find that you are depressed or unfulfilled or feeling “empty” in some way, this may be reflecting some lack in your external reality.

Perhaps you don’t have good friends to support you through tough times. Maybe your education has left you with little direction regarding what you like and don’t like. Perhaps you’re working at a job that has left you feeling lifeless as it offers you no challenges to overcome.

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If you want to improve your internal reality and sense of purpose, you’ll need to take a long, hard look at which part of your external reality is throwing things out of balance. Once you do this, your purpose will likely become much clearer.

Find Some Gratitude

In the meantime, while you try to answer “What is the point of life?” you can give your internal reality a boost with a good dose of gratitude. Even if you aren’t sure of your purpose or which direction you want to go just yet, there are things in your life you can feel grateful for in the present moment that can lead to an enjoyable life.

Research has shown time and again that those who practice gratitude become more optimistic and are happier with their lives overall[1]. This doesn’t mean they have everything figured out, but it does mean that they’ll be happier as they search for the answers.

You can learn how to cultivate gratitude by reading this article.

The Bottom Line

What’s the point of living, then? The answer is that there is no one answer for everyone. The idea is that you combine your external and internal reality, accept the unknown, and tap into your life’s purpose. Your personality, skills, goals, and desires are what will ultimately act as the compass to help you find that.

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When you discover your purpose and find the answer to help you live the rest of your life, you’ll add a meaningful contribution to the world that will echo into reality long after you’re gone. When we combine each echo left by each person, the great song of life emerges to form every bit of beauty we see around us. Use the above information to begin forming your echo today.

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[1] Harvard Health Publishing: Giving thanks can make you happier

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Last Updated on April 19, 2021

Understanding Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs: 5 Levels Explained

Understanding Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs: 5 Levels Explained

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is a theory of motivation that lists five categories of human needs that dictate individual behavior. These five categories refer to physiological needs, safety needs, love and belonging needs, esteem needs, and self-actualization needs.[1]

Motivation plays a big part in athletic coaching. I spent 44 years coaching basketball and each day at practice, I was trying to motivate our athletes to give their best effort. In this article, I will examine Maslow’s hierarchy and five areas of needs from an athletic perspective.

1. Physiological Needs

These needs represent the most basic human survival needs. They include food, water, rest, and breathing, and all four have importance in athletics.

Food has had an evolution in the world of athletics. I cannot recall my coaches in the 1950s and ‘60s mentioning anything about food. As time went on, the pre-game meal became important. Steak seemed to be the meal of choice early in the evolution. Research then indicated pasta would be the better choice.[2]

Today, I think most coaches prefer pasta. However, if the players are ordering from menus, some coaches believe the players should stick with their regular diets and order accordingly.

The next step in this evolution was that the pre-game meal, although important, is not nearly as critical as the athletes’ overall nutrition. At our University of St. Francis athletic seminars, we invited nutritionists to speak and to educate our players on their nutritional habits.

The ultimate change in food intake may be the Tampa Bay Buccaneers quarterback, Tom Brady. He adheres to a specific, disciplined diet that has allowed him to play superb football at age 43.

Water also has had an evolution in sports. It went from not being allowed in practices to coaches scheduling water breaks during the practices.

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Rest is extremely important in all sports, and statistics validate its importance. NBA research found that during the course of the season teams win 6 of 10 games at home but only 4 of 10 on the road. In the NBA playoffs, the statistics change to 6.5 at home and 3.5 on the road. Many coaches believe rest is the key factor to these statistics because the players are sleeping in their own beds for home games.[3]

Our St. Francis basketball team found the importance of breathing on a trip to play in a tournament in Colorado. In our first game, we were playing great and winning by 12 points early in the game. Then the altitude kicked in, adversely affected our breathing, and we lost the lead and eventually the game.

In our second game, having learned our lesson, we substituted more frequently! Maslow’s idea of physiological needs plays a major part in the athletic arena.

2. Safety Needs

Safety needs include protection from violence, emotional stability and well-being, health security, and financial security.

If a fight breaks out during a basketball game, there can be serious injuries. This is the reason a coach steps in immediately when there is any violence or dirty play in practice. The coach must protect the players. You drill your teams to play hard—never dirty.

The importance of emotional stability has gained more credence in sports in recent years. Many teams hire psychologists to help work with their players. There is a great deal of player failure in sports and it is critical for the players to stay emotionally stable.

Health security is much more prevalent in sports today than in my playing days. I once got a concussion during a basketball game. We had no trainers. The coach handled it by telling me after the game, “Sullivan, you play better when you don’t know where the hell you are!” He was right, and my medical treatment ended there! Games today have trainers available to protect the health of the athletes.

Financial security is predominant in professional sports. Most players today use free agency to go where the money is because they consider sport not to be a sport at all. They believe it is a short-term business at their level. I personally appreciate the athletes who have taken less money so the team can retain teammates or use the dollars to bring in new players.

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3. Love and Belonging Needs

These needs can be summed up with two words: love and relationships.

After teams win championships, you will often hear coaches say, “I love these guys” or “I loved coaching this team.” You can tell by their body language and the tone of their voice that they really mean it.

I think coaches say this because the season can be a tough grind. Practices, scouting, film work, travel, and problems that arise take a toll on coaches. However, when you have teams that give all they have every night in practice, you do come to love them.

ESPN did a 30-30 segment on the North Carolina State national championship team coached by Jim Valvano. I was especially interested in watching it because I knew a player on the team who used to come to our camps. Terry Gannon played a major role in their championship.

The program was a reunion of their players. This was 20 plus years from their title, and if you were to take one thing away from the show, it would be how much the players loved each other.

In the last analysis, sport is all about relationships. You can meet former teammates with whom you played 40 to 50 years earlier and that athletic bond is as strong as it ever was. Although you may have not seen each other in years, your friendship is so cemented it’s like you have been seeing each other weekly.

David Halberstam’s book, The Teammates: A Portrait of a Friendship, validates the relationship between athletics forges. Ted Williams is dying and three of his former Boston Red Sox teammates—Bobby Doerr, Johnny Pesky, and Dom DiMaggio—make the trip to Florida to see him. Even though 50 years had passed since they played together, the bond among them never waned.

Love and belonging epitomize the essence of sports.

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4. Esteem Needs

These needs are characterized by self-respect and self-esteem. Self-respect is “the belief that you are valuable and deserve dignity.” Self-esteem is twofold—“it is based on the respect and acknowledgment from others and esteem which is based on your own self-assessment.”[4]

Often the players on the bench are the ones the coach respects the most because they work so hard in practices yet receive none of the glory. The best coaches never let the starters or stars ever denigrate the players on the bench. Coaches must always acknowledge the value and the dignity of those who play little. They often turn out to be the superstars of their professions.

Some coaches will never get “it.” They think they can motivate their players by degrading them. They embarrass the athletes during games and they constantly berate their performance in practices.

Great coaches are just the opposite. They are encouragers. They do push their players and they push them hard, but they always respect them. Great coaches enhance the self-esteem and confidence of their players.

5. Self-Actualization Needs

“Self-actualization describes the fulfillment of your full potential as a person.”[5]

I believe three words are the key to self-actualization: potential, effort, and regrets.

You often hear in athletics that a player has potential. It also is not uncommon for the person introducing the athlete to rave about his potential. I was fortunate to work with an outstanding man in the Milwaukee Bucks camps, Ron Blomberg. Ron had the best definition of potential that I ever heard: “Potential means he hasn’t done it.” Will he do all the work necessary to fulfill his potential?

Effort is great, but it’s not enough. If you want to reach your full potential, you must have a consistency of effort in your daily habit. Only consistency of effort can lead to success.

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John Wooden, the legendary UCLA basketball coach, said that success is becoming all your ability will allow you to be. He agreed with his friend, major league umpire, George Moriarty, even though he used to kid him. Coach told him he never had seen Moriarty spelled with just one “i.” He followed this with, “Of course, the baseball players accused him of having only one ‘eye’ in his head as well.”

In his poem, The Road Ahead or The Road Behind, Moriarty wrote,

“. . . for who can ask more of a man
than giving all within his span, it seems to me, is not so far from – Victory.

When your life is winding down and you look back if you can say you gave “all in your span”—that you consistently gave it your best effort—you will have reached your full potential and there will be no regrets.

Final Thoughts

Now that you’ve learned more about Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, consider reflecting on the last two needs (esteem needs and self-actualization needs) and ask yourself the following questions:

  • Are you doing all you can to enhance the self-esteem of those around you?
  • Are you doing all you can to self-actualize the potential you have been given?

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