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Don’t Be Fooled by Social Media. Most People Feel Lonely Too.

Don’t Be Fooled by Social Media. Most People Feel Lonely Too.

Let me firstly start by defining loneliness as the complex mental state and emotional phenomenon that has at its basic a powerful emotion that has survival value for children.

All of us have experienced a point of abandonment or should I call loneliness, if only for a short time, and remember the painful and scary feeling which moves along with it.

Loneliness is more dangerous than isolation because it increases someone’s fatality rate. Doing the suggested techniques that will be listed below can make unlimited happiness to surround you [1] if done when lonely or not.

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Whenever we are reminded of this sense in the future, we have a twinge of desertion distress that we experience as loneliness. It is usually pretty confusing and can put you off your game if you know exactly what is going on. So how to not feel lonely?

These are 9 good activities to consider:

Watch an Interesting Movie

Enjoy a movie alone or call some friends to go with you, it does not matter. What’s important is you immerse yourself within an interesting story that can erase your gloomy thoughts.

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Consider a Warm Bathtub

It is really common for us to work with the term “warm” to describe the impression a hug gives all of us. We have a slight temperature surge in a good accept but the description is mainly another way we use physical language to identify something emotional.

Going for a nice, long, and soothing bath is a great way to be bask in your alone time, rather than drowning in self-pity. Ladies, make a cup of red, chocolates and magazines.

Take Bus, Train or Trip Off to Anywhere

Acquiring public transportation to a random location makes you to enjoy two things. The first thing is that you meet strangers and change your environment. Accomplishing this will keep off loneliness.

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Travel or Plan a Holiday

Practically nothing beats loneliness and overpower like planning a great holiday vacation. Looking up flights, hotel deals and stuff to do on a random faraway location will boost your state of mind and steer your head through your negative thoughts. You don’t really need to book a trip, sometimes the act of planning for one is enough.

The thought of vacationing alone can be unattractive to some and appealing to others.

Listen to Music

Music is clinically which may make people feel happy. Upbeat tunes can shift our mood, get us touching positive thoughts, or inspire us in more ways than one. In addition, there’s a chance certain lyrics can make us feel less alone or maybe more in touch with our loneliness.

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Listen to a Poem

The best skill can soothe our greatest sorrows is to listen to poems. Try it, this can be a way out of loneliness.

Look Through Old Images

Going back in the history by checking old pictures taking with fiends, family or school mates can bring you peace. Reminisce the excellent old days with a friend, family or school mates. Remembering your crazy antics, and the most disturbing occasions caught on camera will fill you with nostalgic memories and drive away loneliness.

Grab a Camera

Get a camera, then step out and start taking beautiful pictures of things around you. This will fill your life with beautiful things and take your mind off of loneliness.

Use Social Media Smartly

It is highly recommended to use social media properly at this moment. This can also get some fun to get off loneliness.

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Last Updated on September 11, 2020

Why a Life Without Pain Is the Guarantee to True Suffering

Why a Life Without Pain Is the Guarantee to True Suffering

No one wants to suffer. As a general rule, people like to avoid hurt and pain as much as possible. As a species, humans want a painless existence so much that scientists make a living trying to create it.

People can now choose “pain-free” labor for babies, and remedies to cure back pain, headaches, body-pains and even mental pains are a dime a dozen. Beyond medicine, we also work hard to experience little pain even when it comes to loss; often times we believe a breakup won’t hurt as much if we are the ones to call it off.

But would a world without pain truly be painless? It’s unlikely. In fact, it would probably be painful exactly for that reason.

If people never experienced hurt, they wouldn’t know what it was. On the surface level, that seems like a blessing, but think for a moment: if we didn’t know pain, how would we know peace? If you don’t know you’ve hurt or been hurt, how would you know that you need to heal? Imagine someone only knowing they have an incurable cancer at the final stage because no obvious symptoms have appeared at early stages.

Without the feeling of pain, people won’t be aware of dangerous situations—what should or shouldn’t do for survival.

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Pain Is Our Guardian

Pain serves to protect human beings from harmful actions. It’s the same reason parents teach babies that fire equals hot, and that hot equals hurt. Should the baby still place its hand in a fire or on a stove, the intense pain remains so memorable, that the child is certain never to repeat that action.

In the same way, pain within human bodies can serve as a warning that something is not right. Because you know what it is to feel “well,” you know what it is to feel poorly.[1]

Along with serving as a teacher of what not to do, pain also teaches you what you are made of in terms of what you can handle as an individual.

While the cliche, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” is a tired term, it’s used excessively for a reason: it’s true. Pain helps you learn to cope with life’s inevitable difficulties and sadnesses— to develop the grit it takes to push past hardships and carry on.

Whether it’s a shattering pain, like the loss of a loved one or a debilitating accident, pain affects everyone differently. But it still affects everyone. Take a breakup as an example, anyone who has experienced it knows it can hurt to the point of feeling physical. Especially the first breakup. At a young age, it feels like the loss of the only love you’ll ever know. As you grow and learn, you realize you’re more resilient with every ended relationship.

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No Pain, No Happiness

You only know happiness when you have known pain. While the idea of constant happiness sounds nice, there is little chance it would be. Without the comparison to happiness, there’s no reason to be grateful for it. That is to say, without ever knowing sadness or pain, you would have no reason to be grateful for happiness.

In reality, there is always something missing, or something unpleasant, but it is only through those realizations that you know to be grateful when you feel you have it all. Read more about why happiness and pain have to exist together: Chasing Happiness Won’t Make You Happy

In a somewhat counter-intuitive finding, researchers found one of the things that brings about the most happiness is challenge. When people are tested, they experience a greater sense of accomplishment and happiness when they are successful. It is largely for this reason that low-income individuals can often feel happier than those who have a sense of wealth.[2]

This is a great thing to remember the next time you feel you would be happier if you just had a little more cash.

Avoiding Pain Leads to More Suffering

Pain is inevitable, embrace it positively. Anyone who strives to have a painless life is striving for perfectionism; and perfectionism guarantees sadness because nothing will ever be perfect.

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This isn’t a bleak outlook, but rather a truthful one. The messy moments in life tend to create the best memories and gratitude. Pain often serves as a reminder of lessons learned, much like physical scars on the body.

Pain will always be painful, but it’s the hurt feelings that help wiser decisions be made.

Allow Room for the Inevitable

Learning how to tolerate pain, especially the emotional kind, is a valuable lesson.

Accepting and feeling pain makes you human. There is no weakness in that. Weakness only comes when you try to blame your own pain on someone else, expecting the blame to alleviate your hurting. There’s a saying,

“Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting your enemy to die.”

Think back to the last time you were really angry with someone. Maybe you were hurt because you got laid off from a job. You felt angry and that anger caused so much pain that you could feel it in a physical way. Being angry and blaming your ex boss for that pain didn’t affect him or her in any way; you’re the only one who lost sleep over it.

The healthier thing to do in a situation like that is acknowledge your pain and the anger along with it. Accept it and explore it in an introspective way. How can you learn and grow? What is at the root of that pain? Are you truly hurting and angry about being laid off, or is the pain more a correlation to you feeling like you failed?

While uncomfortable, exploring your pain is a way to raise your self-awareness. By understanding more about yourself, you know how to deal with similar situations in the future. You can never expect to be numb to difficult situations, but you will learn to better prepare financially for the loss of a job and be grateful for an income since you now know nothing is promised (no matter how much you work or how deserving you may feel).

Pain Hurts, but Numbness Would Be Worse

Pain does not feel good, but the bad feeling of it will help you learn and grow. It makes the sweet moments in life even sweeter and the gratitude more sincere.

To have a happier and more successful life, you don’t learn from success or accomplishment, but through pain and failures. For it is in those moments that you learn how to do better in the future or at least cope a little more easily.

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You are the strong person you are today because of the hardships this life has presented to you. While you may have felt out of control when those hard times came, the one thing you will always have control over is how you choose to react to things. The next time you hurt or you’re angry or sad, acknowledge it and allow yourself to ruminate in it. Then take a deep breath and start learning from that pain. You’ve got this!

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Reference

[1] University of Calgary: Why is Pain Important?
[2] Greater Good Magazine: The Importance of Pain

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