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Don’t Be Fooled by Social Media. Most People Feel Lonely Too.

Don’t Be Fooled by Social Media. Most People Feel Lonely Too.

Let me firstly start by defining loneliness as the complex mental state and emotional phenomenon that has at its basic a powerful emotion that has survival value for children.

All of us have experienced a point of abandonment or should I call loneliness, if only for a short time, and remember the painful and scary feeling which moves along with it.

Loneliness is more dangerous than isolation because it increases someone’s fatality rate. Doing the suggested techniques that will be listed below can make unlimited happiness to surround you [1] if done when lonely or not.

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Whenever we are reminded of this sense in the future, we have a twinge of desertion distress that we experience as loneliness. It is usually pretty confusing and can put you off your game if you know exactly what is going on. So how to not feel lonely?

These are 9 good activities to consider:

Watch an Interesting Movie

Enjoy a movie alone or call some friends to go with you, it does not matter. What’s important is you immerse yourself within an interesting story that can erase your gloomy thoughts.

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Consider a Warm Bathtub

It is really common for us to work with the term “warm” to describe the impression a hug gives all of us. We have a slight temperature surge in a good accept but the description is mainly another way we use physical language to identify something emotional.

Going for a nice, long, and soothing bath is a great way to be bask in your alone time, rather than drowning in self-pity. Ladies, make a cup of red, chocolates and magazines.

Take Bus, Train or Trip Off to Anywhere

Acquiring public transportation to a random location makes you to enjoy two things. The first thing is that you meet strangers and change your environment. Accomplishing this will keep off loneliness.

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Travel or Plan a Holiday

Practically nothing beats loneliness and overpower like planning a great holiday vacation. Looking up flights, hotel deals and stuff to do on a random faraway location will boost your state of mind and steer your head through your negative thoughts. You don’t really need to book a trip, sometimes the act of planning for one is enough.

The thought of vacationing alone can be unattractive to some and appealing to others.

Listen to Music

Music is clinically which may make people feel happy. Upbeat tunes can shift our mood, get us touching positive thoughts, or inspire us in more ways than one. In addition, there’s a chance certain lyrics can make us feel less alone or maybe more in touch with our loneliness.

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Listen to a Poem

The best skill can soothe our greatest sorrows is to listen to poems. Try it, this can be a way out of loneliness.

Look Through Old Images

Going back in the history by checking old pictures taking with fiends, family or school mates can bring you peace. Reminisce the excellent old days with a friend, family or school mates. Remembering your crazy antics, and the most disturbing occasions caught on camera will fill you with nostalgic memories and drive away loneliness.

Grab a Camera

Get a camera, then step out and start taking beautiful pictures of things around you. This will fill your life with beautiful things and take your mind off of loneliness.

Use Social Media Smartly

It is highly recommended to use social media properly at this moment. This can also get some fun to get off loneliness.

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Last Updated on April 1, 2019

How to Be Happy: Why Pursuing Happiness Will Make You Unhappy

How to Be Happy: Why Pursuing Happiness Will Make You Unhappy

When we talk about happiness, we often think about staying happy all the time – every single day, every single minute with zero negativity. Many try to pursue this constant state of “happiness” as their ultimate goal, and avoid anything that may take it away from them.

But, what is the meaning of this type of “happiness”?

It’s a lot like your favorite food. The more often you have it isn’t always better. On the contrary, when you only have a chance to eat it sparingly, that’s when you really savor every bite. So is it the food itself that makes you happy, or is it how valuable it is to you when you are eating it?

Always remember that only by experiencing sadness do we understand what it is to be happy.

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Don’t Assume Others Are Always Happy

Most people see those who have seemingly perfect lives and assume they are happy all the time. Since childhood, we are conditioned to chase the idea of “happily-ever-after” that we see in fairytales. On social media, everyone tends to share only the best looking aspects of their lives. So, it’s very easy to have a distorted view of what “happiness” is around us.

In reality, there is always something missing, something lacking, or something unpleasant.

No one has a perfect life. Even the most glamorous celebrities or the richest billionaires have their own set of challenges and problems.

When we feel negative, we’re only focusing on a small fluctuating curve. As CEO of Lifehack, I’ve had to deal with countless problems, and some of them felt like real setbacks at the time. During those moments, it really seemed like these problems would be the life or death of my company and my life goals. But, I got through them; and, weeks, months and eventually years passed with many more ups and downs.

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You need to keep your sights on the extended curve.  Looking back now, a lot of those “really big” problems at the time now seem like only small blips in a long line of experiences. Recalling them in my mind now makes me smile!

Stop Trying to Be Happy–Just Be

It’s natural to want to be happy as often as possible.

So what can we do?

First, throw away the belief that a perfect life means happiness. Personally, I would be miserable if everything was perfect. It’s through experiencing the pains of lifelong challenges that drives us to care for others when they are experiencing similar trials. If life was perfect, you wouldn’t be able to empathize. If life was perfect, you wouldn’t grow.

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To be truly happy, stop chasing permanent happiness.

It sounds like a paradox. But, what I mean is to accept that there will be ups and downs throughout life. Gracefully understand that happiness is a fluctuation of positive and negative events.

Understand the importance of gratitude. Instead of focusing on the unpleasant moment, flash back your memory to when you didn’t have something. I like to think about my career, for example. When I didn’t have a career I was passionate about, I felt lost and demotivated. I felt like everyone was figuring out their lives but me. But, when I found my purpose and started Lifehack, I was deeply happy, even before I realized I would be successful! This memory keeps me going when I hit tough spots. It takes the darkness to make us grateful for the light.

Happiness and Sadness Exist Together

What it all comes down to is this: your life will be filled with beautiful, happy and incredible moments–happy tears and joyous shouts and funny stories. But, your life will also be filled with rain and storms that never seem like they will pass while you’re going through them.

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But, whether your face is warmed by the sunshine, or your heart is dampened by the rain, know that it’s all part of the ebb and flow of life.

Treasure the happy moments and power through the sad ones. Don’t try to avoid “sad” or “negative” experiences, and blindly chase being “happy”. In the end you will achieve a true level of contentment in your life, based on meaningful experiences and achievements. Being able to create growth and meaning out of both positive and negative events — that is the true meaning of “happiness”.

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