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Romantic Realism: Practical Guide To Make A Relationship Exciting (Again)

Romantic Realism: Practical Guide To Make A Relationship Exciting (Again)

If all relationship are as beautiful as described in an Ed Sheeran song then I guess life would be much easier. Sadly that wasn’t the case. Human minds have the tendency to search for new, intriguing things.

Relationships always start with a blast. It shines like fireworks and bloom like cherry trees. You felt the world spins only around you two. You thought you really can go through all kinds of difficulties together during the honeymoon.
But then eventually the spark burns out. You felt exhausted, fatigued and bored. Every week seems to be the exact same copy of last week. Being with this person is no longer a thing that you wish for, but rather just a burden. A simple decision on where to have dinner could somehow end up with a fight.

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But then eventually the spark burns out. You felt exhausted, fatigued and bored. Every week seems to be the exact same copy of last week. Being with this person is no longer a thing that you wish for, but rather just a burden. A simple decision on where to have dinner could somehow end up with a fight.

A simple decision on where to have dinner could somehow end up with a fight. Everything you build together seems to start crumbling down.

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Yet this is not necessarily the end. Here are some ways to maintain your relationship, keeping it fresh and exciting.

Activities That Trigger Feelings Other Than Romance

Researches have found that by doing activities together that create a rush of endorphin and adrenaline, the sense of arousal one obtained could actually be transferred to the other partner. In a sense, you will be able to share your sensation together. A serious workout session, a really scary movie, or the craziest ride in the amusement park will all do the trick.

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Who doesn’t love new things?

This may sound fairly obvious, but it may not be something people do regularly if we got settled with a certain set of daily routine. The most direct way in maintaining your relationship fresh and interesting will be keep on doing something new. No matter is travelling to somewhere you never been to before, or go diving for the very first time, or learn a new language together. It could be things as simple as going to a new restaurant but as long as you keep it creative, it will never get bored when you are together.

Personal Space is still very important in a relationship

We miss someone if we haven’t seen them for a long time. The concept works the same with couples. It is not necessary to be glued together every day and knowing every single aspect of each other’s life. This rules out the element of surprise. By spending some time apart, you can reignite the desire of being close to the one you loved.

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The HHH rule- Hold hands and hug

Physical engagement is important as it produces arousal, comfort, and support both physiologically and psychologically. It does not need to be much of a touch, just holding hands, a hug or a kiss could be enough. Daily embraces could help in enhancing physiological bonding.

Make enjoying life your couple goal.

Sometimes life gets the better of us and we forgot the true core to a relationship or even to living. Life is about having fun, so as to a relationship. So do all the dumbest things you can think of: go have a snowball fight, have a race to the supermarket, play party games that could make you laugh for days. Just have fun and forget all the troubles that are going on in your head.

So to sum up, the key to maintaining your relationship is just to keep doing new and fun things in your life. So go and explore, explore the places and activities you haven’t been to or done before. Be creative and plan something out of it. Put those research into good use.

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Last Updated on June 13, 2019

How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

Think you have a boring life?

The definition of boring is dull or not interesting. Maybe you’ve been doing the same thing and living the same life for too long, or maybe your daily routine is limiting your growth and happiness. Whatever your reason is, the following list of 20 things can definitely make any day more interesting. Some of them are silly, while some are more meaningful, so hopefully just reading the list makes your life less boring and sparks your creativity.

Let’s dive in the list to quit your boring life and start living an interesting (and meaning) one!

1. Channel Your 7-Year-Old Self

What would he or she want to do right now? Color? Paint? Run around outside? Play dress up? Eat with your hands? Play that instrument hiding in the back of your closet that you haven’t touched in years?

Just because you’re a grown up doesn’t mean any of this stuff will be less enjoyable than you remember it. Give yourself permission to play.

2. Go Play with Kids

Speaking of little kids, if you have your own or access to any (in a non-creepy way, like they’re your niece or your best friend’s kid, you get the idea) go play with them!

They didn’t create an entire show called Kids Say The Darndest Things because kids aren’t hilarious. They also keep things so simple, and we can really stand to be reminded of this and stop allowing ourselves to get bogged down in boring details.

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3. Order a Hot Dog

While you’re eating it, Google: “What’s in a hot dog?” You decide whether or not you want to finish it.

4. For the Ladies: Wear Your Sexiest Lingerie Under Your Work Clothes

Your “little secret” will leave you feeling anything but boring all day!

5. Play Cell Phone Roulette

You’ll need at least one buddy for this. Scroll through the contacts in your phone, stop on a random one and call the person.

You could spark an incredible catch up session or be incredibly awkward. Neither are boring.

6. Fill out a Pack of Thank-You Cards

Give them to random people who probably don’t get thanked too often for doing what they do ever day.

Ideas: police officers, librarians, servers, baristas, cab drivers, sanitation workers, teachers, people behind any check out counter, receptionists, your friends, the guy at the falafel stand, etc.

7. Sign up for a Class in Something You’ve “Always Wanted to Do”, or Something That Makes You Really Uncomfortable

Ideas: pole dancing, salsa lessons, improv, pottery, cooking, knitting (yup, there are classes for this, too!), karate, boxing, something techy like the workshops they run in Apple stores, get Rosetta Stone and learn that language you’ve always wanted to speak, etc.

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What’s good about joining an interest class is that you will also meet new people!

8. Interview Your Grandparents About Their Lives

You can bet they’ve had some crazy experiences you probably never knew about.

9. Get up on Stage at an Open Mic Night

Whether you’re funny or not, get up on stage and just talk funny. And if you’re not, memorize a few of your favorite jokes and tell those!

10. Do Something for Someone Else That You Wish Someone Would Do for You

We all have a few ideas on this list. I promise you will feel amazing after and anything but bored.

11. Start a DIY Project in Your Home

It doesn’t have to be super complicated. If you need ideas, there’re plenty on Pinterest. Or you can also check out these 30 Awesome DIY Projects that You’ve Never Heard of.

12. Plan a Weekend Trip or an All-Out Vacation

This will give you something to look forward to.

Even if you don’t have the time or money to go on a vacation, plan for a staycation, which is same fun and relaxing!

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13. People Watch

Find a bench in a crowded area (centers of transportation like airports, bus stops and train stations are great for this!) and just observe.

People are infinitely interesting.

14. Eat Something You’ve Never Eaten Before

Bonus points if it’s a random fruit or veggie.

15. Dance

You can get your friends together for a night on the town or just pull up a video on YouTube and bust a move from your own living room.

If you’re feeling extra brave, you can even dance in public and get other people involved.

16. Go to YOUTUBE and Search “Funny Pets” or “Funny Babies”

This is also a great quickie ab workout as you will be laughing hysterically.

17. Pick up a Book and Start Reading

Check out the NY Times Best Sellers lists and grab a new book you can get lost in.

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18. Step Away from the Computer and Go Get Some Time with People You Care About in Real Life

Facebook stalking doesn’t count as real social interaction. You can even share this post with your friends and vote on which one you’d like to do together!

19. Check out a Museum You’ve Never Been to Before

OK, depending on your interests, this one might actually be boring. If you love learning, art or different cultures though, this one is for you!

20. Write a List of Things You Desire and Truly Want

This is a great way to help you figure out the real reason why you’re feeling bored about your life. Maybe you haven’t really done things that you truly enjoy? Maybe what you’ve wanted to do all the time has been left behind?

Think about the list of things you really want to do, and ask yourself why you aren’t doing these things (yet). Then start taking your first step to make what you want happen.

Now go make your life interesting and live your dream life!

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