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Romantic Realism: Practical Guide To Make A Relationship Exciting (Again)

Romantic Realism: Practical Guide To Make A Relationship Exciting (Again)

If all relationship are as beautiful as described in an Ed Sheeran song then I guess life would be much easier. Sadly that wasn’t the case. Human minds have the tendency to search for new, intriguing things.

Relationships always start with a blast. It shines like fireworks and bloom like cherry trees. You felt the world spins only around you two. You thought you really can go through all kinds of difficulties together during the honeymoon.
But then eventually the spark burns out. You felt exhausted, fatigued and bored. Every week seems to be the exact same copy of last week. Being with this person is no longer a thing that you wish for, but rather just a burden. A simple decision on where to have dinner could somehow end up with a fight.

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But then eventually the spark burns out. You felt exhausted, fatigued and bored. Every week seems to be the exact same copy of last week. Being with this person is no longer a thing that you wish for, but rather just a burden. A simple decision on where to have dinner could somehow end up with a fight.

A simple decision on where to have dinner could somehow end up with a fight. Everything you build together seems to start crumbling down.

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Yet this is not necessarily the end. Here are some ways to maintain your relationship, keeping it fresh and exciting.

Activities That Trigger Feelings Other Than Romance

Researches have found that by doing activities together that create a rush of endorphin and adrenaline, the sense of arousal one obtained could actually be transferred to the other partner. In a sense, you will be able to share your sensation together. A serious workout session, a really scary movie, or the craziest ride in the amusement park will all do the trick.

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Who doesn’t love new things?

This may sound fairly obvious, but it may not be something people do regularly if we got settled with a certain set of daily routine. The most direct way in maintaining your relationship fresh and interesting will be keep on doing something new. No matter is travelling to somewhere you never been to before, or go diving for the very first time, or learn a new language together. It could be things as simple as going to a new restaurant but as long as you keep it creative, it will never get bored when you are together.

Personal Space is still very important in a relationship

We miss someone if we haven’t seen them for a long time. The concept works the same with couples. It is not necessary to be glued together every day and knowing every single aspect of each other’s life. This rules out the element of surprise. By spending some time apart, you can reignite the desire of being close to the one you loved.

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The HHH rule- Hold hands and hug

Physical engagement is important as it produces arousal, comfort, and support both physiologically and psychologically. It does not need to be much of a touch, just holding hands, a hug or a kiss could be enough. Daily embraces could help in enhancing physiological bonding.

Make enjoying life your couple goal.

Sometimes life gets the better of us and we forgot the true core to a relationship or even to living. Life is about having fun, so as to a relationship. So do all the dumbest things you can think of: go have a snowball fight, have a race to the supermarket, play party games that could make you laugh for days. Just have fun and forget all the troubles that are going on in your head.

So to sum up, the key to maintaining your relationship is just to keep doing new and fun things in your life. So go and explore, explore the places and activities you haven’t been to or done before. Be creative and plan something out of it. Put those research into good use.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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