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Romantic Realism: Practical Guide To Make A Relationship Exciting (Again)

Romantic Realism: Practical Guide To Make A Relationship Exciting (Again)

If all relationship are as beautiful as described in an Ed Sheeran song then I guess life would be much easier. Sadly that wasn’t the case. Human minds have the tendency to search for new, intriguing things.

Relationships always start with a blast. It shines like fireworks and bloom like cherry trees. You felt the world spins only around you two. You thought you really can go through all kinds of difficulties together during the honeymoon.
But then eventually the spark burns out. You felt exhausted, fatigued and bored. Every week seems to be the exact same copy of last week. Being with this person is no longer a thing that you wish for, but rather just a burden. A simple decision on where to have dinner could somehow end up with a fight.

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But then eventually the spark burns out. You felt exhausted, fatigued and bored. Every week seems to be the exact same copy of last week. Being with this person is no longer a thing that you wish for, but rather just a burden. A simple decision on where to have dinner could somehow end up with a fight.

A simple decision on where to have dinner could somehow end up with a fight. Everything you build together seems to start crumbling down.

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Yet this is not necessarily the end. Here are some ways to maintain your relationship, keeping it fresh and exciting.

Activities That Trigger Feelings Other Than Romance

Researches have found that by doing activities together that create a rush of endorphin and adrenaline, the sense of arousal one obtained could actually be transferred to the other partner. In a sense, you will be able to share your sensation together. A serious workout session, a really scary movie, or the craziest ride in the amusement park will all do the trick.

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Who doesn’t love new things?

This may sound fairly obvious, but it may not be something people do regularly if we got settled with a certain set of daily routine. The most direct way in maintaining your relationship fresh and interesting will be keep on doing something new. No matter is travelling to somewhere you never been to before, or go diving for the very first time, or learn a new language together. It could be things as simple as going to a new restaurant but as long as you keep it creative, it will never get bored when you are together.

Personal Space is still very important in a relationship

We miss someone if we haven’t seen them for a long time. The concept works the same with couples. It is not necessary to be glued together every day and knowing every single aspect of each other’s life. This rules out the element of surprise. By spending some time apart, you can reignite the desire of being close to the one you loved.

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The HHH rule- Hold hands and hug

Physical engagement is important as it produces arousal, comfort, and support both physiologically and psychologically. It does not need to be much of a touch, just holding hands, a hug or a kiss could be enough. Daily embraces could help in enhancing physiological bonding.

Make enjoying life your couple goal.

Sometimes life gets the better of us and we forgot the true core to a relationship or even to living. Life is about having fun, so as to a relationship. So do all the dumbest things you can think of: go have a snowball fight, have a race to the supermarket, play party games that could make you laugh for days. Just have fun and forget all the troubles that are going on in your head.

So to sum up, the key to maintaining your relationship is just to keep doing new and fun things in your life. So go and explore, explore the places and activities you haven’t been to or done before. Be creative and plan something out of it. Put those research into good use.

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Last Updated on April 9, 2020

How To Trust Your Intuition When You’re Making a Decision

How To Trust Your Intuition When You’re Making a Decision

When you have an important decision to make, what is the first thing you do?

You want to know if your decision is right or wrong because, of course, you want to make the right choice. Do you go to friends hoping they will tell you? Do you agonize over it writing lists? Or have you ever tried to feel into the wisdom of your body? We all have the ability to read the body’s signs – inwards and out. But not everyone knows how to listen and trust your intuition.

You may have noticed two voices in your head arguing back and forth. They can get loud and confusing because they both seem concerned for your well-being.

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So which one is your inner knowing and which is simply resistant? You can tell through the simple exercise of slowing down, breathing deeply and tuning into your body. You will notice very real signs.

Everyone can tune into their intuition with the simple exercise outlined below. If you want to know how to trust your intuition, read on.

The Golden Rule

A rising, light and expansive feeling in your heart is a yes. A sinking, contracting and heavy feeling in your gut is a maybe or a no, which are both a no. The best way to access these feelings is by slowing down with a deep breath.

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Access Your Inner Guidance

Think of a simple decision you have to make that has two sides to it. Forgetting your background stories, take each at a time and sort of role play as you alternate each option in your mind.

Don’t go into the details of how you’ll get there or how a certain person might feel about it. Drop the stories and worries around it, simply be with one option, as though it is your choice. Remember, you can always pick up your concerns again right afterwards, if you want!

Bring option A into your mind like you are already there. It doesn’t have to be super specific, just imagine it is the direction you take. Start with the breath because it is clearing, it resets your nervous system and brings you to be completely present. Begin with your long, deep breath, exhaling all the way out.

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As you sit there and think of option A, notice what is happening in your body. What sensations are there, and where? Do you feel a buzzing in a limb or a prickling sensation? Maybe butterflies in your stomach? Sit with it, not judging it. Simply take note of what your body is telling you. If it is light and expansive then you have a good option. Now, take another breath to clear out option A.

Next you will probably notice feelings in different parts of your body as you focus on option B. Again, drop the fear and doubt you might have around it. Let yourself imagine (just for now) that this is what you’re choosing. Your breath is so important in this because it slows you down and connects you with your inner guidance. Give yourself that few extra seconds to deepen your breath. It will help you feel incredibly clear.

Become curious about the feelings in your body and how they are different from the last option. What do they mean? The answer is always in the weight of them. If they rise and feel light, you have your yes. The option that feels shrouded, heavier, contracted and sinking deeper in your stomach is the warning. It sounds simplistic, because it is.

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Your body has a profound and simple wisdom. When you let go of old expectations and open up to myriad possibilities, you can easily feel the best avenue to take simply by following what feels best. This is an important key in manifestation because how you feel at the start of any endeavor is generally how it will play out. So the lighter you feel about a situation, the happier it will be.

The Bottom Line

A special thing about intuition is that it never explains, it simply points the way. It may not always seem logical, but if it feels best then it will lead you to your success.

Remember, you need not to explain yourself either. Your internal yes will always be with you. The more you practice this and follow your internal yes, the stronger it will become and the more confidence you will gain! Soon you will notice it to be second nature, and the answer will come to you in a heart beat.

How have you connected to your intuition? We would love to hear how this exercise works for you. Where did you feel the yes or the no in your body? 

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