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Romantic Realism: Practical Guide To Make A Relationship Exciting (Again)

Romantic Realism: Practical Guide To Make A Relationship Exciting (Again)

If all relationship are as beautiful as described in an Ed Sheeran song then I guess life would be much easier. Sadly that wasn’t the case. Human minds have the tendency to search for new, intriguing things.

Relationships always start with a blast. It shines like fireworks and bloom like cherry trees. You felt the world spins only around you two. You thought you really can go through all kinds of difficulties together during the honeymoon.
But then eventually the spark burns out. You felt exhausted, fatigued and bored. Every week seems to be the exact same copy of last week. Being with this person is no longer a thing that you wish for, but rather just a burden. A simple decision on where to have dinner could somehow end up with a fight.

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But then eventually the spark burns out. You felt exhausted, fatigued and bored. Every week seems to be the exact same copy of last week. Being with this person is no longer a thing that you wish for, but rather just a burden. A simple decision on where to have dinner could somehow end up with a fight.

A simple decision on where to have dinner could somehow end up with a fight. Everything you build together seems to start crumbling down.

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Yet this is not necessarily the end. Here are some ways to maintain your relationship, keeping it fresh and exciting.

Activities That Trigger Feelings Other Than Romance

Researches have found that by doing activities together that create a rush of endorphin and adrenaline, the sense of arousal one obtained could actually be transferred to the other partner. In a sense, you will be able to share your sensation together. A serious workout session, a really scary movie, or the craziest ride in the amusement park will all do the trick.

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Who doesn’t love new things?

This may sound fairly obvious, but it may not be something people do regularly if we got settled with a certain set of daily routine. The most direct way in maintaining your relationship fresh and interesting will be keep on doing something new. No matter is travelling to somewhere you never been to before, or go diving for the very first time, or learn a new language together. It could be things as simple as going to a new restaurant but as long as you keep it creative, it will never get bored when you are together.

Personal Space is still very important in a relationship

We miss someone if we haven’t seen them for a long time. The concept works the same with couples. It is not necessary to be glued together every day and knowing every single aspect of each other’s life. This rules out the element of surprise. By spending some time apart, you can reignite the desire of being close to the one you loved.

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The HHH rule- Hold hands and hug

Physical engagement is important as it produces arousal, comfort, and support both physiologically and psychologically. It does not need to be much of a touch, just holding hands, a hug or a kiss could be enough. Daily embraces could help in enhancing physiological bonding.

Make enjoying life your couple goal.

Sometimes life gets the better of us and we forgot the true core to a relationship or even to living. Life is about having fun, so as to a relationship. So do all the dumbest things you can think of: go have a snowball fight, have a race to the supermarket, play party games that could make you laugh for days. Just have fun and forget all the troubles that are going on in your head.

So to sum up, the key to maintaining your relationship is just to keep doing new and fun things in your life. So go and explore, explore the places and activities you haven’t been to or done before. Be creative and plan something out of it. Put those research into good use.

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10 Things To Remember When Everything Goes Wrong

10 Things To Remember When Everything Goes Wrong

Problems and heartaches in life are inevitable. However, there are some things to remember when you’re right in the thick of it that can help you get through it. When everything seems to be going wrong, practice telling yourself these things.

1. This Too Shall Pass

Sometimes life’s rough patches feel like they’re going to last forever. Whether you’re dealing with work-related issues, family problems, or stressful situations, very few problems last for a lifetime. So remind yourself, that things won’t be this bad forever.

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2. Some Things are Going Right

When things are going wrong, it’s hard to recognize what is going right. It’s easy to screen out the good things and only focus on the bad things. Remind yourself that some things are going right. Purposely look for the positive, even if it is something very small.

3. I Have Some Control

One of the most most important things to remember is that you have some control of the situation. Even if you aren’t in complete control of the situation, one thing you can always control is your attitude and reaction. Focus on managing what is within your control.

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4. I Can Ask for Help

Asking for help can be hard sometimes. However, it’s one of the best ways to deal with tough situations. Tell people what you need specifically if they offer to help. Don’t be afraid to call on friends and family and ask them for help, whether you need financial assistance, emotional support, or practical help.

5. Much of This Won’t Matter in a Few Years

Most of the problems we worry about today won’t actually matter five years from now. Remind yourself that whatever is going wrong now is only a small percentage of your actual life. Even if you’re dealing with a major problem, like a loved one’s illness, remember that a lot of good things are likely to happen in the course of a year or two as well.

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6. I Can Handle This

A lack of confidence in handling tough times can add to stress. One of the best things to remember is that you can handle tough situations. Even though you might feel angry, hurt, disappointed, or sad, it won’t kill you. You can get through it.

7. Something Good Will Come Out of This

No matter how bad a situation is, it’s almost certain that something good will come out of it. At the very least, it’s likely that you will learn a life lesson. Perhaps you learn not to repeat the same mistake in the future or maybe you move on from a bad situation and find something better. Look for the one good thing that can result when bad things happen.

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8. I Can Accept What’s Out of my Control

There are many things that aren’t within your control. You can’t change the past, another person’s behavior, or a loved one’s health issues. Don’t waste time trying to force others to change or trying to make things be different if it isn’t within your control. Investing time and energy into trying to things you can’t will cause you to feel helpless and exhausted. Acceptance is one of the best way to establish resilience.

9. I Have Overcome Past Difficulties

One of the things to remember when you’re facing difficulties, is that you’ve handled problems in the past. Don’t overlook past difficulties that you’ve dealt with successfully. Remind yourself of all the past problems you’ve overcome and you’ll gain confidence in dealing with the current issues.

10. I Need to Take Care of Myself

When everything seems to be going wrong, take care of yourself. Get plenty of rest, get some exercise, eat healthy, and spend some time doing leisure activities. When you’re taking better care of yourself you’ll be better equipped to deal with your problems.

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