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“There’s no preparation at all. You learn by doing.” What We All Need To Learn From Emma Stone

“There’s no preparation at all. You learn by doing.” What We All Need To Learn From Emma Stone

Emma Stone had just took the entertainment world by storm. Winning the Best Actress for the Academy Award, Golden Globe Award and the BAFTA Award with one single role, making her one of the most acclaimed actress in Hollywood recently, accompanied by all the fame and glory one could possibly imagine. There is no doubt that she is one of the most talented actress in this generation, but most of us might have been oblivion to her hard effort in order to own this status.

Like most of us, we all had that distant and fuzzy dream when we were still a naive little kid. Some thought of being a chef, some wants to be an astronaut. For Emma Stone, it was acting. Born in Arizona, she was attracted to acting since the age of four, and took years of voice classes for theatre. Usually at this point reality hits. A lot of us would have got persuaded by our parents or realise the cruel fact of our society that childhood dreams stands no place before reality. But she is different. She did not give in. Here are some things that we can all learn from her strong character.

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Perseverance is the key to success

Similar to her character Mia in La La Land, her path to success was never smooth. After she moved to California, she attempted numerous auditions throughout the years, but it was not until 2007 that she first received recognition from the public with her role in the comedy Superbad. It took her five years to get the first taste of achievement in her acting career, but still she kept going, never once went astray with her goal. This is the mental strength that keep her fighting for the best she could get.

Education does not equal to the value of a person

Emma debut as an actress when she was 11. She decided to drop out of high school and persuaded her parents with a PowerPoint to move to California in order to pursue her career in acting at the age of 15. She enrolled in online high school courses instead and did not attend college. She once said that “Just because I don’t have a college degree doesn’t mean I am not smart! “. This rings particularly true as she reigns as one of the most well-known actress in the world. In a world filled with standardised test it is common that people will judge others according to their education level or even link it to your level of success. Emma Stone proved that to be wrong. Don’t let societal assumptions and stigma be your constraint. A talented person will not need to prove themselves with certificates.

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There are no obstacles that you can’t overcome

Emma Stone recently told that suffers from anxiety and panic attacks in her childhood. “When I was about seven, I was convinced the house was burning down. I could sense it. Not a hallucination, just a tightening in my chest, feeling I couldn’t breathe, like the world was going to end. There were some flare-ups like that, but my anxiety was constant.” she said. It was later through therapy and performing that she got over with it. “You have to be present in improv, and that’s the antithesis of anxiety.” Everyone will encounter obstacles in their life, and a lot of people gave up their passion and dreams because of these obstacles. They thought it was unachievable. But the only thing that actually make it unachievable is losing faith in yourself. Most of the issues are just temporary set-backs. Face it, and get the better of it. That is how you become one step closer to success.

In La La Land  Mia sang “Here’s to the ones who dream, Foolish, as they may seem”. Emma Stone herself was this fool. And this fool, holding the little golden man in her hands, prove to the world that there is nothing wrong for being a dreamer.

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You live once and life is wonderful, so eat the damn red velvet cupcake. — Emma Stone

Life is short, and the world is your oyster. Live your life and don’t let things bound you from getting the best out of it.

Featured photo credit: Elle UK via elleuk.com

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Last Updated on March 31, 2020

How To Break the Procrastination Cycle

How To Break the Procrastination Cycle

How often do you find yourself procrastinating? Do you wish you could procrastinate less? We all know how debilitating procrastination can make us feel, and it seems to be a challenge we all share. Procrastination is one of the biggest hindrances to moving forward and doing the things that we want to in life.

There are many reasons why you might be procrastinating, and sometimes, it is really difficult to pinpoint why. You might be procrastinating because of something related to the past, present, or future (they are all intertwined), or it could be as simple as biological factors. Whatever the reason, most of us follow a cycle when we procrastinate, from the moment we decide to do something to actually getting it done, or in this case, not getting it done.

The Vicious Procrastination Cycle

For some reason, it helps to understand that we all go through the same thing, even though we often feel like the only person in the world who struggles with this. Do you resonate with the cycle below?

1. Feeling Eager and Energized

This is when you commit to taking a new action or getting something done. You are feeling confident and optimistic that, this time round, you will do it!

2. Apprehension Starts to Come Up

The beginning stages of optimism are starting to fade. There is still time, but you haven’t done anything yet, and you start to feel uneasy. You realize that you actually have to do something to get it done, and that good intentions are not enough.

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3. Still No Action

More time has passed. You still haven’t taken any action and probably have a lot of excuses why. You start to panic a little and wish you had started sooner. Your panic starts to turn into frustration and perhaps even irritability.

4. Flicker of Hope Left

You can still make it; there is a little time left and you ponder how you are going to get it done. The rush you get from leaving your task until the last minute gives you a flicker of hope. There is still time; you can do this!

5. Fading Quickly

Your hope starts to quickly fade as you try desperately to understand why you just can’t do this. You may feel desperate and have thoughts like, “What is wrong with me?” and “Why do I ALWAYS do this?” You feel discouraged, or perhaps angry and resentful at yourself.

6. Vow to Yourself

Once the feeling of anger or disappointment disappears, you most likely swear to yourself that this will never happen again; that this was the last time and next time will be different.

Does this sound like you? Is the next time different? I understand the devastating effect that procrastination has on many lives, and for some, it is a really serious problem. You also have, on the other hand, those who procrastinate but it doesn’t affect them in any way. You know whether it is affecting you or not and whether it undermines your results.

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How to Break the Procrastination Cycle

Unless you break the cycle, you will keep reinforcing it!

To break the cycle, you need to change the sequence of events. Here is my suggestion on how you can effectively break the vicious cycle you are in!

1. Feeling Eager and Energized

This is when you commit to taking a new action or getting something done. You are feeling confident and optimistic that, this time round, you will do it! The first stage is always the same.

2. Plan

Thinking alone will not help; you need to plan your actions. I always put my deadlines one or two days in advance because you know Murphy’s Law! Take into consideration everything that you need to do, how long it will take you, and what you will need to get it done, then plan the individual steps.

3. Resistance

Just because you planned doesn’t mean that this time is guaranteed to be different. You will most likely still feel the resistance so expect this. This stage is key to identifying why you are procrastinating, so when you feel the resistance, try to identify it immediately.

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What is causing you to hesitate in this moment? What do you feel?  Write them down if it helps.

4. Confront Those Feelings

Once you have identified what could possibly be holding you back, for example, fear of failure, lack of motivation, etc. You need to work on lessening the resistance.

Ask yourself, “What do I need to do to move forward? What would make it easier?” If you find that you fear something, overcoming that fear is not something that will happen overnight — keep this in mind.

5. Put Results Before Comfort

You need to keep moving forward and put results before comfort. Take action, even if it is only for 10 minutes. The key is to break the cycle and not reinforce it. You have more control that you think.

6. Repeat

Repeat steps 3-5 until you achieve what you first set out to do.

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Final Thoughts

Change doesn’t happen overnight, and if you have some deeper underlying reasons why you procrastinate, it may take longer to finally break the cycle.

If procrastination is holding you back in life, it is better to deal with it now than to deal with the negative consequences later on. It is not a question of comfort anymore; it is a question of results. What is more important to you?

Learn more about how to stop procrastinating here: What Is Procrastination and How to Stop It (The Complete Guide)

Featured photo credit: Luke Chesser via unsplash.com

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