Advertising
Advertising

“There’s no preparation at all. You learn by doing.” What We All Need To Learn From Emma Stone

“There’s no preparation at all. You learn by doing.” What We All Need To Learn From Emma Stone

Emma Stone had just took the entertainment world by storm. Winning the Best Actress for the Academy Award, Golden Globe Award and the BAFTA Award with one single role, making her one of the most acclaimed actress in Hollywood recently, accompanied by all the fame and glory one could possibly imagine. There is no doubt that she is one of the most talented actress in this generation, but most of us might have been oblivion to her hard effort in order to own this status.

Like most of us, we all had that distant and fuzzy dream when we were still a naive little kid. Some thought of being a chef, some wants to be an astronaut. For Emma Stone, it was acting. Born in Arizona, she was attracted to acting since the age of four, and took years of voice classes for theatre. Usually at this point reality hits. A lot of us would have got persuaded by our parents or realise the cruel fact of our society that childhood dreams stands no place before reality. But she is different. She did not give in. Here are some things that we can all learn from her strong character.

Advertising

Perseverance is the key to success

Similar to her character Mia in La La Land, her path to success was never smooth. After she moved to California, she attempted numerous auditions throughout the years, but it was not until 2007 that she first received recognition from the public with her role in the comedy Superbad. It took her five years to get the first taste of achievement in her acting career, but still she kept going, never once went astray with her goal. This is the mental strength that keep her fighting for the best she could get.

Education does not equal to the value of a person

Emma debut as an actress when she was 11. She decided to drop out of high school and persuaded her parents with a PowerPoint to move to California in order to pursue her career in acting at the age of 15. She enrolled in online high school courses instead and did not attend college. She once said that “Just because I don’t have a college degree doesn’t mean I am not smart! “. This rings particularly true as she reigns as one of the most well-known actress in the world. In a world filled with standardised test it is common that people will judge others according to their education level or even link it to your level of success. Emma Stone proved that to be wrong. Don’t let societal assumptions and stigma be your constraint. A talented person will not need to prove themselves with certificates.

Advertising

There are no obstacles that you can’t overcome

Emma Stone recently told that suffers from anxiety and panic attacks in her childhood. “When I was about seven, I was convinced the house was burning down. I could sense it. Not a hallucination, just a tightening in my chest, feeling I couldn’t breathe, like the world was going to end. There were some flare-ups like that, but my anxiety was constant.” she said. It was later through therapy and performing that she got over with it. “You have to be present in improv, and that’s the antithesis of anxiety.” Everyone will encounter obstacles in their life, and a lot of people gave up their passion and dreams because of these obstacles. They thought it was unachievable. But the only thing that actually make it unachievable is losing faith in yourself. Most of the issues are just temporary set-backs. Face it, and get the better of it. That is how you become one step closer to success.

In La La Land  Mia sang “Here’s to the ones who dream, Foolish, as they may seem”. Emma Stone herself was this fool. And this fool, holding the little golden man in her hands, prove to the world that there is nothing wrong for being a dreamer.

Advertising

You live once and life is wonderful, so eat the damn red velvet cupcake. — Emma Stone

Life is short, and the world is your oyster. Live your life and don’t let things bound you from getting the best out of it.

Featured photo credit: Elle UK via elleuk.com

Advertising

More by this author

Raphael Ha

Writer. Still waiting his chance to travel the world.

Waking up Early Is Easier Than You Think: 10 Simple Things Early Risers Do Flush Your “Weight” Out! 10 Food and Drinks That Really Help To Ease Your Water Weight! This Is The List You Can Try If You Find “To-Do-List” Not Useful To You! Romantic Realism: Practical Guide To Make A Relationship Exciting (Again) Before Any Kinds Of Habit Change, Journaling Should Be The First One You Want To Adapt

Trending in Productivity

1 Ditch Work Life Balance and Embrace Work Life Harmony 2 40 Top Productivity Apps for iPhone (2019 Updated) 3 10 Best Success Books You Need to Read to Be Great at Business 4 Is Memory Enhancement Possible? 12 Ways That Actually Work 5 How to Increase Brain Power, Boost Memory and Become 10X Smarter

Read Next

Advertising
Advertising
Advertising

Last Updated on June 17, 2019

Ditch Work Life Balance and Embrace Work Life Harmony

Ditch Work Life Balance and Embrace Work Life Harmony

How do you usually go about your day?

Do you wake up in the morning, get ready for work, and then spend the whole day looking forward to being at home and unwinding?

We often hear about work life balance – having a good balance between work and personal time. Whilst this may sound like a smart idea, it can also imply that we should dedicate at least half of our time to work–and sacrifice time for our “personal life”.

To me, that seems… off balance. Because, the truth is, it’s nearly impossible to split your time equally between the two. And, you may end up stressing out if you’re not able to meet that expectation of balance.

Instead, why not think of having work life harmony instead?

With this mindset, you can actually integrate work into your life in a way that feels more complete. This way, you don’t need to view work and having personal time as separate.

So, how do you achieve work life harmony?

Work Life Harmony Explained

The difference between work life balance and work life harmony is pretty simple. With the former, there is an implication that you have to sacrifice your “life” for work. But, this is the worst way to go about things! How can you truly be at peace in life if you dread 8 hours of your day?

Work life harmony on the other hand, allows your work to be a part of your life. This means that you can choose to be happy both at home, and at work! Work no longer needs to be seen as the ‘bad’ or un-fun activity.

Having work life harmony also ensures you’re truly present in whatever place you find yourself.

Just take a look at Jeff Bezos, CEO of Amazon for example.

He uses a non traditional approach to work by making time for breakfast every morning with his family, doesn’t set his alarm before going to bed, schedules surprisingly few meetings, and still puts aside a few minutes every day to wash his own dishes.

He believes that all his staff should stop trying to achieve a ‘balance’ in their work and personal lives as that implies a trade off. Instead, he envisions a more holistic relationship between the two.

As the world’s richest man, he must be doing something right!

Rethink Time Management

Now, when we think of striking a balance, we usually associate it with time, don’t we? How much time are we spending at work versus how much time are we spending in our personal lives? Are we taking enough time to be with our loved ones, to do meaningful activities with others or even for ourselves, or are we just dedicating all our time to work?

This is the so-called-balance that many struggle with.

With work life harmony, we learn to rethink time management. By re-assessing how you manage your time, you’ll have a lot more of it. It’s incredible how much time can get wasted over the period of a day–especially when you’re not accurately tracking it.

Unfortunately, unless you’re consciously making an effort, your brain is not always the best at making accurate judgement calls when it comes to prioritizing. It tends to have a bias towards short term benefits and short term costs.

As there are often many more options our brains link to short term benefit; when you’re trying to focus on a task that gives you a long term benefit, that task usually becomes low priority. This is otherwise known as Priority Chaos.

In order to overcome this and be in better control of your time, identify the tasks that need the most focus to get accomplished. If it’s a big task, then it’s good to break it down into smaller bite-sized actions that will provide you with a clearer short term benefit.

When setting up tasks, give yourself a time limit. The brain has a bias towards short term benefits, and your attention span is limited, so if your tasks are going to take ages to complete, you’ll end up losing focus… and wasting time.

Once you have all your tasks written down, it’s time to prioritize them. Since you have a time limit, your focus should be on the top priority tasks. By doing this, you will already be able to get more done in less time at work!

Have Passion for What You Do

Managing your time is important in achieving that work life harmony. But, perhaps of greater importance, is loving what you do in life. One of the most effective ways to achieve a work life harmony is to really enjoy, or find a purpose, in what you do for a living. Even though everyone isn’t always lucky enough to find a position that pays them for pursuing their passion, you can strive to find meaning in what you are already doing, or pursue something new entirely!

For example, say you work at an office that sells paper. While many people wouldn’t consider this a world changing pursuit, I beg to differ. Think of all the individuals in the world that rely on paper. From creative types to quantum physics experts, your role at your workplace brings incredible value to many many people all over the world. You will have, without a doubt, helped bring a new idea into existence. Several new ideas to be precise.

So, think about what you’re doing now. Is it something that allows you to embrace your passion?

Or perhaps you might not even know what it is that you love or enjoy doing. Why not explore and reflect on what gives you joy and contentment? Is there an area or industry that you could see yourself exploring to experience that fulfillment?

Can you find a deeper purpose in what you’re already doing?

When you’re able to find meaning in your work, you’re that much closer to achieving work life harmony.

Don’t Be Intimidated By Obstacles and Limitations

Creating work life harmony is also about understanding yourself–which includes your limitations and past obstacles–as this allows you to become more resilient.

If you never had to experience struggles, challenges or setbacks, then you would never be forced to adapt and mature. So in theory, having to face obstacles in life is actually quite necessary.

Most of us think of setbacks and obstacles as negative. Though, if you’re able to maintain an optimistic attitude, you’ll almost always have a higher chance of success of overcoming those obstacles to reach your eventual goal.

Your attitude towards setbacks will define the outcome of whether you rise from the challenge or remain stuck in it. So, in order to achieve work life harmony, it’s important to have a resilient attitude as challenges will always come your way–especially when you strive to integrate work into your life, and not a separate or dominant part of life.

Delegate When You Need To

Of course, when you want to increase productivity and minimize the time or effort spent, a great way to do so is to delegate!

If you spend a lot of time doing tasks on your own that could be delegated to others (whether at work or at home) you’re losing a lot of precious free time that could otherwise be spent elsewhere.

At the end of the day, we all have a limited amount of time. So we should all be striving to create a harmonious work and living situation where we can find meaning in all that we do.

While an overall goal may be meaningful, not all of the milestones or tasks needed to get there may be meaningful. That’s because we have our strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes. Not every task is going to be enjoyable or easy to complete. That’s where delegation comes in.

Delegation simply allows you to leverage time from an external source, thus giving you opportunities to increase your own quality of time. Keep in mind that delegation should be done with deliberate attention, otherwise you may end up over relying on others.

If you find that you’re running into the problem of over delegating, then it may be time to re-evaluate your motivation for doing whatever it is that you’re doing.

Embrace the Circle and Become Happier and More Productive

Living in harmony is about feeling good about the ways in which you spend your time, despite how busy you may be. Your switch from work mode to a more personal mode should be effortless. It’s about integrating your personal life and the things you love into your busy work life!

It all begins with the shift in perspective. Understanding what your passions are, and learning to be resilient, before taking a different approach to the way you manage your time and everyday tasks.

These are steps that you can start taking to move away from balance to harmony. 

Featured photo credit: Photo by Marten Bjork on Unsplash via unsplash.com

Read Next