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The Earlier You Understand Life Is Always Changing, The Happier You Will Be

The Earlier You Understand Life Is Always Changing, The Happier You Will Be

Everybody suffers from a bad day every once in awhile. But, sometimes it seems like there’s no end in sight to the negativity thrown our way. Depending on the situation, it can be downright depressing. Is that how you feel right now? Having a rough day or maybe a rough week? You didn’t get the job you wanted, you and your best friend are fighting, your partner just dumped you…

The list can go on and on. But, that’s what life’s all about. The ups and the downs, just like a roller coaster ride. And even though it doesn’t seem like it now, things will get better. You’ll find happiness again. In fact, there are some things you can do to start feeling happier sooner.

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“Change is the only constant in life.” – Heraclitus

An important life lesson that Buddhism teaches us to hold on to is that life is constantly changing. Remember this when you’re feeling depressed and thinking you’ll never feel happiness again. Now, you might be thinking – how is this going to help me? But, just think about it for a minute. Constant change means everything is temporary. Including your pain.

The idea of constant change is called anitya, which means impermanence. Life is fluid; you will never repeat the same moment twice. Every day is different from the day before. Your body has changed, your thoughts have changed, and the world around you has changed. Remembering this during your most trying times can help you deal with everything. This will pass, and it will not come back.[1]

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Don’t just think about this when you’re feeling down in the dumps however. Cherish this life lesson as words to live by. You’ll be surprised by how much control you have over your own happiness. And you’ll start to appreciate all the little moments in your life, knowing that you must enjoy them while you can.

“Happiness is not a station you arrive at, but a manner of traveling.” – Margaret Lee Runbeck

Happiness will not just happen. You have to make an effort and work for it. If you’re sad right now, you have to work even harder. Erin Falconer’s personal experience is all about taking short relaxation breaks. She either meditates for 5 to 10 minutes or listens to some motivating songs to change the direction of her energy.[2] Relaxation helps when you’re dealing with too much stress.

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You can apply this same strategy to your life, or you can personalize it. Getting your happiness back is all about changing your focus. If you’re sad, don’t sit around thinking how sad you are. If you’re stressed, don’t obsess over all the things you have to get done. Stop what you’re doing, stand up, stretch, and focus on something else. Try to do 50 jumping jacks or watch 5 minutes of cute kitten videos (doesn’t that cheer up everybody?).

The key to being happier is remembering that life is always changing. Not only is this moment temporary, but you also have control over how you feel. The sooner you understand this, the happier you will be. Accept this life lesson and embrace it. Make it your daily mantra. When you get out of bed in the morning, repeat to yourself: “anitya”. This will help set your mind for the day ahead.

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When all else fails you, remember that every rough patch in life is like an obstacle. Use each obstacle to get you closer to your goal – happiness. Tomorrow is another day. Things will get better. The present is all you have right now, use it to for your personal growth.

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Last Updated on July 3, 2020

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

In today’s world, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. Here are 30 small things you can do on a regular basis to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being:

1. Don’t go to every fight you’re invited to

Particularly when you’re around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama.

2. Focus on your breath

Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as “square breathing.” Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times.

3. Get organized and purge old items

A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you haven’t used in a year and invest in organizational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness.

4. Stop yourself from being judgmental

Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else’s life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.

5. Say ‘thank you’ early and often

Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation.

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6. Smile more

Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down!

7. Don’t worry about the future

As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful life. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.

8. Eat real food

The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.

9. Choose being happy over being right

Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It’s rarely worth it.

10. Keep technology out of the bedroom

Many studies, such as one conducted by Brigham and Women’s Hospital, have connected blue light of electronic devices before bed to adverse sleep and overall health. To make matters worse, many people report that they cannot resist checking email and social media when their cell phone is in reach of their bed, regardless of the time.

11. Make use of filtering features on social media

You may not want to “unfriend” someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share.

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12. Get comfortable with silence

When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they aren’t talking.

13. Listen to understand, not to respond

So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.

14. Put your troubles in a bubble

Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualize the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away.

15. Speak more slowly

Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words.

16. Don’t procrastinate

Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute.

17. Buy a coloring book

Mandala coloring books for adults are becoming more popular because of their connection to creating inner peace.

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18. Prioritize yourself

You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.

19. Forgive others

Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go.

20. Check your expectations

Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.”

21. Engage in active play

Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, dance, play, and pretend!

22. Stop criticizing yourself

The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. Your life is not served well by being one of them.

23. Focus your energy and attention on what you want

Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back.

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24. Assign yourself “complaint free” days.

Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you.

25. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of

Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone’s is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices.

26. Manage your money

Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in.

27. Stop trying to control everything

Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well.

28. Practice affirmations

Repeat positive phrases that depict the life and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works.

29. Get up before sunrise

Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for life.

30. Be yourself

Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.

Featured photo credit: man watching sunrise via stokpic.com

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