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How to Increase Your Nanny’s Job Satisfaction

How to Increase Your Nanny’s Job Satisfaction
  1. If you’ve taken the time and done the work involved in locating and hiring a nanny, it’s in your best interest to ensure that your nanny is happy and wants to stay. If your nanny is feeling burned out from the rigors of the job, she may decide to quit, or you may notice her performance suffering and have to release her.
  2. Either way, it’s a losing proposition for everyone concerned. The nanny has to find a new job, you have to find a new nanny, and your children aren’t getting the optimal care.

    Fortunately, there are things you can do to keep your nanny happy on the job and minimize the possibility she’ll leave. We’ll explain the signs to watch out for and offer some helpful tips.

    Signs Your Nanny May Be Burning Out:

    While everyone has an occasional bad day, if you notice your nanny regularly exhibiting the following behaviors, it may be a warning sign she’s feeling overwhelmed by her job.

    Changes in Behavior

    Sudden changes in behavior may be a sign your nanny is burning out. Things to watch for include irritability and impatience. If you notice these changes in your nanny’s conduct, ask your spouse or friends if they think she seems distracted, or if they notice she doesn’t seem to be paying attention when she’s with your child.

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    Fatigue

    If your nanny was once a bundle of energy while taking the kids back and forth to school and running errands, but now she’s tired all the time, or seemingly disinterested, she may be burned out.

    Unhappy Kids

    Your nanny was doing a great job, but now your child seems unhappy or upset when spending time with her, this could be a sign something is wrong.

    Unreliability

    If your once-responsible and reliable nanny is suddenly tardy, starts calling in sick, misses appointments, or is no longer available to work occasional extra hours, she may be near the end of her rope, as far as the job is concerned.

    Preventing Burnout:

    The nature of a nanny’s job attracts people who like to help others. Because this is a nanny’s predisposition, she may find it hard to say ‘no’ to requests. If she starts feeling overwhelmed by the amount of work she’s expected to do, she’ll eventually burn out. Here are some tips to increase your nanny’s job satisfaction.

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    Preventing Job Creep

    “Job creep” is a term used to describe the gradual expansion of a nanny’s duties and responsibilities, which can grow to the point where they become overwhelming. Because the addition of new duties is gradual, the employer may not realize how much has been added to a nanny’s workload. If your nanny is experiencing job creep, she may become overwhelmed and want to leave.

    The key to preventing job creep is to respect your nanny’s boundaries. A written contract will delineate your nanny’s responsibilities and clarify her rights. Since new tasks need to be added to the written contract, this process in itself can help make an employer more mindful of the nanny’s workload.

    The contract should be clear, and include:

    • Daily duties
    • How the nanny will be paid, and how often
    • Working hours
    • Length of contract
    • Length of time each party requires to be notified about schedule changes
    • Tax, health, and other benefit information
    • The process involved in terminating the contract (verbal warning, written letter, etc.)
    • Household privileges, such as car, phone, internet, or TV
    • Information on driving, including which car to use, how gas will be paid for, etc.

    Open Communication

    You’re busy. That’s one of the reasons you hired child care help. Make some time to talk to your nanny and check in with her a couple of times a year to discuss how the job is going; this will allow you to make necessary course corrections. Ask her how her life is going outside of the job. She’ll appreciate it.

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    Recognize Her Good Performance

    Just like everyone else, your nanny wants to feel appreciated for her work. Praise her for a job well done. Let her know when she’s gone above and beyond the call of duty. Combine the ‘thank you’ with a small gift, such as a session at a local massage center or a gift card to her favorite store or restaurant.

    Respect Your Nanny

    Your nanny deserves to be treated with respect, and as an equal. She’s a trusted employee, not a servant.

    Keep the Relationship Professional

    Your nanny is an employee who works in your home, not your best friend. While there’s nothing wrong with being friendly, there’s a line you shouldn’t cross. Don’t say anything to your nanny you wouldn’t say to a co-worker at your job.

    Respect Working Hours

    If you’re out and are supposed to return home at a specific time but know you’re going to be late, call your nanny and let her know.

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    Pay Your Nanny on Time

    Forgetting to pay your nanny on payday or to pay her for overtime sends a signal that you don’t care. Using a nanny payroll company with direct deposit simplifies this process for you and means your nanny won’t have to run to the bank every payday to deposit her check.

    Give Her a Free Hand

    No one likes to be micromanaged. A little autonomy goes a long way toward promoting a good relationship and job satisfaction.

    Fund Expenses in Advance

    Expenses that arise in the course of the day may include things such as gas, meals, groceries, and activities. Your nanny shouldn’t be required to pay for these expenses and wait for you to reimburse her. Set up a petty cash jar for expenses or give the nanny a check card or credit card to for this purpose. Responsibilities regarding expenses should be spelled out in the employment agreement.

    Give Her a Break

    Everyone appreciates a little break now and then. Keep nanny burnout in check with an occasional paid day off. Your nanny will appreciate the gesture and get a chance to unwind. Think of it as a mini-vacation.

    Keep the Lines of Communication Open

    A large part of your nanny’s job satisfaction is based on good communication. You need to have reasonable, clearly expressed expectations. You should praise the nanny for a job well done and give and receive feedback. This will go a long way toward making sure your nanny is happy with her work environment, which in turn will make you a satisfied employer. Follow our tips and you’re likely to have a mutually beneficial, harmonious relationship with your nanny.

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Published on February 11, 2021

3 Positive Discipline Strategies That Are Best For Your Child

3 Positive Discipline Strategies That Are Best For Your Child

I’m old enough to remember how the cane at school was used for punishment. My dad is old enough to think that banning corporal punishment in schools resulted in today’s poorly disciplined youth. With all of this as my early experiences, there was a time when I would have been better assigned to write about how to negatively discipline your child.

What changed? Thankfully, my wife showed me different approaches for discipline that were very positive. Plus, I was open to learning.

What has not changed is that kids are full of problems with impulses and emotions that flip from sad to happy, then angry in a moment. Though we’re not that different as adults with stress, anxiety, lack of sleep, and stimulants such as sugar and caffeine in our diets.

Punishment as Discipline?

What this means is that we usually take the easy path when a child misbehaves and punish them. Punishment may solve an isolated problem, but it’s not really teaching the kids anything useful in the long term.

Probably it’s time for me to be clear about what I mean by punishment and discipline as these terms are often used interchangeably, but they are quite different.

Discipline VS. Punishment

Punishment is where we inflict pain or suffering on our child as a penalty. Discipline means to teach. They’re quite the opposite, but you’ll notice that teachers, parents, and coaches often confuse the two words.

So, as parents, we have to have clear goals to teach our kids. It’s a long-term plan—using strategies that will have the longest-lasting impact on our kids are the best use of our time and energy.

If you’re clear about what you want to achieve, then it becomes easier to find the best strategy. The better we are at responding when our kids misbehave or do not follow our guidance, the better the results are going to be.

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3 Positive Discipline Strategies for Your Child

Stay with me as I appreciate that a lot of people who read these blogs do not always have children with impulse control. We’ve had a lot of kids in our martial arts classes that were the complete opposite. They had concentration issues, hyperactive, and disruptive to the other children.

The easy solution is to punish their parents by removing the kids from the class or punish the child with penalties such as time outs and burpees. Yes, it was tempting to do all of this, but one of our club values is that we pull you up rather than push you down.

This means it’s a long-term gain to build trust and confidence, which is destroyed by constant punishments.

Here are the discipline strategies we used to build trust and confidence with these hyperactive kids.

1. Patience

The first positive discipline strategy is to simply be patient. The more patient you are, the more likely you are to get results. Remember I said that we need to build trust and connection. You’ll get further with this goal using patience.

As a coach, sometimes I was not the best person for this role, but we had other coaches in the club that could step in here. As a parent, you may not have this luxury, so it’s really important to recognize any improvements that you see and celebrate them.

2. Redirection

The second strategy we use is redirection. It’s important with a redirection to take “no” out of the equation. Choices are a great alternative.

Imagine a scenario where you’re in a restaurant and your kid is wailing. The hard part here is getting your child to stop screaming long enough for you to build a connection. Most parents have calming strategies and if you practice them with your child, they are more likely to be effective.

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In the first moment of calm, you can say “Your choice to scream and cry in public is not a good one. It would be best to say, Dad. What can I do to get ice-cream?” You can replace this with an appropriate option.

The challenge with being calm and redirecting is that we need to be clear-minded, focused, and really engaged at the moment. If you’re on your phone, talking with friends or family, thinking about work or the bills, you’ll miss this opportunity to discipline in a way that has long-term benefits.

3. Repair and Ground Rules

The third positive discipline strategy is to repair and use ground rules. Once you’ve given the better option and it has been taken, you have a chance to repair this behavior to lessen its occurrence to better yet, prevent it from happening again. And by setting appropriate ground rules, you can make this a long-term win by helping your child improve their behavior.

It’s these ground rules that help you correct the poor choices of your child and direct the behavior that you want to see.

Consequences Versus Ultimatums

When I was a child and being punished. My parents worked in a busy business for long hours, so their default was to go to ultimatums. “Do that again and you’re grounded for a week,” or “If I catch you doing X, you’ll go to bed without dinner”.

Looking back, this worked to a point. But the flip side is that I remembered more of the ultimatums than the happier times. I’ve learned through trial and error with my own kids that consequences are more effective while not breaking down trust.

What to Do When Ground Rules Get Broken?

It’s on the consequences that you use when the ground rules are broken.

In the martial arts class, when the hyperactive student breaks the ground rules. They would miss a turn in a game or go to the back of the line in a queue. We do not want to shame the child by isolating them. But on the flip side, there should be clear ground rules and proportionate consequences.

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Yes, there are times when we would like to exclude the student from the class, the club, and even the universe. Again, it’s here that patience is so important and probably impulse control too. With an attainable consequence, you can maintain trust and you’re more likely to get the long-term behavior that you’re looking to achieve.

Interestingly, we would occasionally hear a strategy from parents that little Kevin has been misbehaving at home with his sister or something similar. He likes martial arts training, so the parent would react by removing Kevin from the martial arts class as a punishment.

We would suggest that this would remove Kevin from an environment where he is behaving positively. Removing him from this is likely to be detrimental to the change you would like to see. He may even feel shame when he returns to the class and loses all the progress he’s made.

Alternatives to Punishment

Another option is to tell Kevin to write a letter to his sister, apologizing for his behavior, and explaining how he is going to behave in the future.

If your child is too young to write, give the apology face to face. For the apology to feel sincere, there is some value to pre-framing or practicing this between yourself and your child before they give it to the intended person.

Don’t expect them to know the ground rules or what you’re thinking! It will be clearer to your child and better received with some practice. You can practice along the lines of: “X is the behavior I did, Y is what I should have done, and Z is my promise to you for how I’m going to act in the future.” You can replace XYZ with the appropriate actions.

It does not need to be a letter or in person, it can even be a video. But there has to be an intention to repair the broken ground rule. If you try these strategies, that is become fully engaged with them and you’re still getting nowhere.

But what to do if these strategies do not work? Then there is plenty to gain by seeking the help of an expert. Chances are that something is interfering or limiting their development.

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This does not mean that your child has a neurological deficiency, although this may be the root cause. But it means that you can get an objective view and help on how to create the changes that you would like to see. Remember that using positive discipline strategies is better than mere punishment.

There are groups that you can chat with for help. Family Lives UK has the aim of ensuring that all parents have somewhere to turn before they reached a crisis point. The NSPCC also provides a useful guide to positive parenting that you can download.[1]

Bottom Line

So, there your go, the three takeaways on strategies you can use for positively disciplining your child. The first one is about you! Be patient, be present, and think about what is best for the long term. AKA, avoid ultimatums and punishment. The second is to use a redirect, then repair and repeat (ground rules) as your 3-step method of discipline.

Using these positive discipline strategies require you to be fully engaged with your child. Again, being impulsive breaks trust and you lose some of the gains you’ve both worked hard to achieve.

Lastly, consequences are better than punishment. Plus, avoid shaming, especially in public at all costs.

I hope this blog has been useful, and remember that you should be more focused on repairing bad behavior because being proactive and encouraging good behavior with rewards, fun, and positive emotions takes less effort than repairing the bad.

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Featured photo credit: Leo Rivas via unsplash.com

Reference

[1] NSPCC Learning: Positive parenting

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