Success is simple. Do what’s right, the right way, at the right time.
Arnold H. Glasow summarized his reason for success in a single, simple sentence. Here comes the question that has perpetually mystified human beings: what is the right thing to do?
They say curiosity kills the cat. In a sense, that is true. Every time we make a decision, we constantly question ourselves, “what if we did it the other way round?”. We initiate battles within ourselves, leading us to be miserable no matter what we chose or did in the end. Perhaps it comes with experience, but as I grew up, I began to realize that many of these battles began because we weren’t choosing the option we really wanted. We weren’t acknowledging our own desires. And if we want success that bad, we just have to stop trying to please everybody.Advertising
Don’t say maybe if you want to say no.
It’s pretty self-explanatory, isn’t it?
It doesn’t seem appropriate to say “no” when someone is enthusiastically asking you to a party. I know I would have a hard time because that would mean looking at the crestfallen face of your friend and feeling guilty. Moreover, no one likes a killjoy. So you say, “maybe… I’ll see” instead. But once you said that, you started feeling a pull, an obligation to go and when you ended up in a place where you didn’t even want to be in, you started wondering how it had come down to this.
The truth is – you need to start saying no instead of maybe. Shake your head instead of shrugging. It’s okay to be polite, but not to the point when you have to force yourself to be somewhere or do something you don’t want to. There is only so much time you can spend and so many things you can do. Don’t waste it on the non-essentials.Advertising
One aspect of your life is going to affect other aspects of your life.
The four burners theory mentioned that you would need to cut off something from your life if you want to be successful. That’s because the people that constitute the different aspects of your life are going to expect you to go an extra mile for them. They don’t mean to make your life difficult. But do you remember your boss asking if you can help with an extra project? Or your husband or wife other asking if you can help with the kids on the weekends when they meet up with their friends?
When you agree with one side, you are going to have to stretch certain areas in your life, such as your health. Your choice has unconsciously affected your entire life. More importantly, when one area of your life is out of alignment, every area of your life suffers. The more you work for others instead of yourself, the more you are going to feel like your life is getting torn asunder.
Remember: everyone has their expectations, but it’s not your obligation to do what they want you to do. You own yourself.Advertising
Don’t let “should”s hold sway over you.
It’s alright if you think you should do something because it would make yourself happy. However, most of the times, our mind goes like this:
“I should join their gossiping or else I am going to look out of place eating lunch alone.”
“I should probably go to this dinner or my friends are going to feel bad.”Advertising
Nothing leads to indecision faster than letting your actions be guided by the desire to impress or satisfy others. – Iyanla Vanzant
There are a lot of things that you will feel that you should do. But as you go on in life, you will realize these are not things that you must do. There is only one right thing to do, and that is the things that you do for yourself and yourself only.
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Last Updated on May 24, 2019
How to Be Productive at Home and Make Every Day a Productive Day
If you’ve ever wondered how to be productive at home or how you could possibly have a more productive day, look no further.
Below you’ll find six easy tips that will help you make the most out of your time:
1. Create a Good Morning Routine
One of the best ways to start your day is to get up early and eat a healthy breakfast.
CEOs and other successful people have similar morning routines, which include exercising and quickly scanning their inboxes to find the most urgent tasks.
You can also try writing first thing in the morning to warm up your brain (750 words will help with that). But no matter what you choose to do, remember to create good morning habits so that you can have a more productive day.
If you aren’t sure how to make morning routine work for you, this guide will help you:
Sometimes we can’t have a productive day because we just don’t know where to start. When that’s the case, the most simple solution is to list everything you need to get accomplished, then prioritize these tasks based on importance and urgency.
Week Plan is a simple web app that will help you prioritize your week using the Covey time management grid. Here’s an example of it:
If you get the most pressing and important items done first, you will be able to be more productive while keeping stress levels down.
Lifehack’s CEO, Leon, also has great advice on how to prioritize. Take a look at this article to learn more about it:
3. Focus on One Thing at a Time
One of the biggest killers of productivity is distractions. Whether it be noise or thoughts or games, distractions are a barrier to any productive day. That’s why it’s important to know where and when you work best.
Need a little background noise to keep you on track? Try working in a coffee shop.
Can’t stand to hear even the ticking of a clock while writing? Go to a library and put in your headphones.
And here’s some great apps to help you focus: 10 Online Apps for Better Focus
4. Take Breaks
Focusing, however, can drain a lot of energy and too much of it at once can quickly turn your productive day unproductive.
To reduce mental fatigue while staying on task, try using the Pomodoro Technique. It requires working on a task for 25 minutes, then taking a short break before another 25 minute session.
After four “pomodoro sessions,” be sure to take a longer break to rest and reflect.
I like to work in 25 and 5 minute increments, but you should find out what works best for you.
5. Manage Your Time Effectively
A learning strategies consultant once told me that there is no such thing as free time, only unstructured time.
How do you know when exactly you have free time?
By using the RescueTime app, you can see when you have free time, when you are productive, and when you actually waste time.
With this data, you can better plan out your day and keep yourself on track.
Moreover, you can increase the quality of low-intensity time. For example, reading the news while exercising or listening to meeting notes while cooking. Many of the mundane tasks we routinely accomplish can be paired with other tasks that lead to an overall more productive day.
A bonus tip, even your real free time can be used productively, find out how:
6. Celebrate and Reflect
No matter how you execute a productive day, make sure to take time and celebrate what you’ve accomplished. It’s important to reward yourself so that you can continue doing great work. Plus, a reward system is an incredible motivator.
Additionally, you should reflect on your day in order to find out what worked and what didn’t. Reflection not only increases future productivity, but also gives your brain time to decompress and de-stress.
Try these 10 questions for daily self reflection.
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