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7 Empowering Phrases To Tell Yourself When Life Doesn’t Go Your Way

7 Empowering Phrases To Tell Yourself When Life Doesn’t Go Your Way

Sometimes life doesn’t go our way, and we can feel frustrated, angry and upset. Everyone experiences this, and it is up to you to choose how you will react to difficult times. It may be tempting to feel negative, but using positive phrases and words can make a huge difference.

In reality life will always have ups and downs, and true happiness isn’t a life without problems. True happiness is the ability to deal with whatever comes your way, even if you find yourself in an unpleasant situation.

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It isn’t what the world gives you that counts – what counts is how you deal with what you get. Here are 7 empowering phrases to tell yourself when life doesn’t go your way.

1. “Nothing Is Permanent”

Every night it is dark, but every morning the sun comes up. You watch the darkness turn to light every day, but it is easy to forget that nothing is permanent when you are going through a difficult time. Things may not be good now but eventually your situation will change. The pain won’t last forever, and every day is a new beginning. You can choose to take the new day and make the best of it, or you can choose not to.

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2. “My Scars Show Strength, Not Weakness”

Lots of people worry that bad experiences have damaged them, but in reality they make people stronger. You may have an emotional scar, but the wound has healed and the hurt is now over. You have learned from the experience, and the scars are proof that you can overcome anything, no matter how difficult it feels.

3. “I Can Stay Positive When Others Are Negative”

Sometimes people in your life will try to bring you down, but you don’t have to listen to them. Keep smiling and focusing on being positive, and remember that negative people are normally very unhappy. They want to drag you down to their level, but you can choose to not listen. You are your own person, and you don’t have to deal with problems by being negative – that is their choice, not yours.

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4. “Going Through Pain Will Make Me Wiser”

Every painful experience is a lesson that you can learn from. At the time it may be difficult to see what the lesson is, but as you move on you will realize that the difficult times taught you a lot about yourself. Be patient when you are struggling, and remember that eventually you will be a wiser version of yourself.

5. “Even When I Am Struggling I Am Moving Forward”

When you are struggling you are moving forward, even if it doesn’t feel like it. You may experience career or relationship struggles, but they will help you to progress through life so that you can find true happiness. The struggle will be worth it, so get your head down and work through the difficult times.

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6. “Fear Changes Nothing”

If you chose to always focus on the bad things that could happen, you will never reach your full potential. The people who complain and worry the most normally accomplish the least, as they are too busy worrying to actually be productive. Try to focus on the best thing that could happen, instead of the worst, and you will soon feel motivated to take risks and chances.

7.“The Best Option Is To Keep Going”

Life will knock you down, but you have to get up – again and again and again. At times it will feel like it is impossible to get back up again, but you are strong and you can do it. Life may be difficult but you are ready to deal with anything that it throws your way.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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