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7 Empowering Phrases To Tell Yourself When Life Doesn’t Go Your Way

7 Empowering Phrases To Tell Yourself When Life Doesn’t Go Your Way

Sometimes life doesn’t go our way, and we can feel frustrated, angry and upset. Everyone experiences this, and it is up to you to choose how you will react to difficult times. It may be tempting to feel negative, but using positive phrases and words can make a huge difference.

In reality life will always have ups and downs, and true happiness isn’t a life without problems. True happiness is the ability to deal with whatever comes your way, even if you find yourself in an unpleasant situation.

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It isn’t what the world gives you that counts – what counts is how you deal with what you get. Here are 7 empowering phrases to tell yourself when life doesn’t go your way.

1. “Nothing Is Permanent”

Every night it is dark, but every morning the sun comes up. You watch the darkness turn to light every day, but it is easy to forget that nothing is permanent when you are going through a difficult time. Things may not be good now but eventually your situation will change. The pain won’t last forever, and every day is a new beginning. You can choose to take the new day and make the best of it, or you can choose not to.

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2. “My Scars Show Strength, Not Weakness”

Lots of people worry that bad experiences have damaged them, but in reality they make people stronger. You may have an emotional scar, but the wound has healed and the hurt is now over. You have learned from the experience, and the scars are proof that you can overcome anything, no matter how difficult it feels.

3. “I Can Stay Positive When Others Are Negative”

Sometimes people in your life will try to bring you down, but you don’t have to listen to them. Keep smiling and focusing on being positive, and remember that negative people are normally very unhappy. They want to drag you down to their level, but you can choose to not listen. You are your own person, and you don’t have to deal with problems by being negative – that is their choice, not yours.

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4. “Going Through Pain Will Make Me Wiser”

Every painful experience is a lesson that you can learn from. At the time it may be difficult to see what the lesson is, but as you move on you will realize that the difficult times taught you a lot about yourself. Be patient when you are struggling, and remember that eventually you will be a wiser version of yourself.

5. “Even When I Am Struggling I Am Moving Forward”

When you are struggling you are moving forward, even if it doesn’t feel like it. You may experience career or relationship struggles, but they will help you to progress through life so that you can find true happiness. The struggle will be worth it, so get your head down and work through the difficult times.

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6. “Fear Changes Nothing”

If you chose to always focus on the bad things that could happen, you will never reach your full potential. The people who complain and worry the most normally accomplish the least, as they are too busy worrying to actually be productive. Try to focus on the best thing that could happen, instead of the worst, and you will soon feel motivated to take risks and chances.

7.“The Best Option Is To Keep Going”

Life will knock you down, but you have to get up – again and again and again. At times it will feel like it is impossible to get back up again, but you are strong and you can do it. Life may be difficult but you are ready to deal with anything that it throws your way.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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