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Why You Should Find and Develop Your Kid’s Talents Early

Why You Should Find and Develop Your Kid’s Talents Early

Many parents have dreams about what their children should look like as adults and what their careers should be – some people who can’t wait to start a family think of those things even before the child is nothing more than a fetus.

As a parent, I must say that it’s difficult to find a balance between having expectations and wishing only the best for your kids. Although it comes from the brightest part of your heart, setting standards for your kid based on your vision and not on reality and their abilities will only create an area of pressure.

Not being able to meet your standards will cause a line of frustrations for your children, and that’s something you definitely don’t want to do. Every parent should do their best in order to create a healthy environment in which their child can grow and develop healthily.

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But that’s not the only thing you should do – helping your child discover their talents should be on the top of every parent’s priority list, and here’s why.

1. A Supporting and Loving Environment

I know you want your child to excel in every area of their life, but you won’t be able to do anything right if you press your own aspirations onto them. If you manage to find a healthy approach that is pressure free in order to learn more about your child’s natural abilities, you’ll create a very supportive environment for them.

This is the part when you should play detective a bit – your child may show affinities toward an area of art for example, but you should be aware of the fact they won’t be able to create a master-piece right away. So, your job is to notice their interest and talent, and continue to direct them the right way.

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2. Major Confidence Boost

Children have issues with confidence because they are surrounded with unfamiliarities – everything they encounter requires from them to go through a learning process. If you do manage to discover a talent of theirs at an early age, your child will be aware of the fact they are good at something, perhaps even before they start school. Something like this will make them feel certain about their skills, which is a great confidence booster.

3. Skills Development

    The most efficient way to discover your kid’s talents is to expose them to various activities – enable them to explore their space by giving them a ball to play with, or equip them with coloring books and see if their talent is perhaps connected to painting, or play some music and let them express their vocal skills.

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    This sort of change of environment needs to be done slowly and, when your child is rested and energized, you’ll help him or her develop a whole set of skills at an early age – motor, cognitive, and social – while you’re working on discovering their talents.

    4. Increased Chances for Success

      As your child grows, they will be able to focus on their interest for one simple reason – because they are aware of them. Many kids wander around until college, and some continue to dwell on their choice of career even after that. You’ll be able to prevent this kind of delay and waste of time if you help them to figure out what they can do.

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      I’m sure you’re familiar with Maddie Ziegler’s success – now, she’s a teen and a brilliant dancer, an aspiring actress and a great singer, and she’s only fourteen. Obviously, she’s more successful not only when compared to her peers but to a significant number of adults, as well.

      If you create such surroundings for children, where they can develop properly, and you provide them with all the necessities they require in order to work on their talent, you’ll affect their chances for success in a very positive manner.

      5. The Most Important Investment You’ll Ever Make

      Raising a child is difficult, especially in this modern age. There’s a ton of tutorials and books on how to turn your child into a healthy independent adult, and I believe that each parent should read everything there is to know about this subject, so that you can apply only what seems to be the smartest method, according to your instincts. After all, your child is the most important investment you’ll ever make – at least that’s one way of looking at it.

      The only thing you need to remember about this is not to force your child to do anything. I’m not suggesting that you should allow them to become a quitter, but if they give you good reasons why they don’t want to be involved in particular activities, give them room to continue with their exploration. Calculate your moves, always give your decisions a second thought, and you and your family should be just fine – more than that, actually.

      Featured photo credit: https://www.pexels.com/u/markusspiske/ via pexels.com

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      Ivan Dimitrijevic

      Ivan is the CEO and founder of a digital marketing company. He has years of experiences in team management, entrepreneurship and productivity.

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      Published on January 30, 2019

      How to Support a Working Mother as a Working Father

      How to Support a Working Mother as a Working Father

      In roughly 60 percent of two-parent households with children under the age of 18, both parents work full time. But who takes time off work when the kids are sick in your house? And if you are a manager, how do you react when a man says he needs time to take his baby to the pediatrician?

      The sad truth is, the default in many companies and families is to value the man’s work over the woman’s—even when there is no significant difference in their professional obligations or compensation. This translates into stereotypes in the workplace that women are the primary caregivers, which can negatively impact women’s success on the job and their upward mobility.

      According to a Pew Research Center analysis of long-term time-use data (1965–2011), fathers in dual-income couples devote significantly less time than mothers do to child care.[1] Dads are doing more than twice as much housework as they used to (from an average of about four hours per week to about 10 hours), but there is still a significant imbalance.

      This is not just an issue between spouses; it’s a workplace culture issue. In many offices, it is still taboo for dads to openly express that they have family obligations that need their attention. In contrast, the assumption that moms will be on the front lines of any family crisis is one that runs deep.

      Consider an example from my company. A few years back, one of our team members joined us for an off-site meeting soon after returning from maternity leave. Not even two hours into her trip, her husband called to say that the baby had been crying nonstop. While there was little our colleague could practically do to help with the situation, this call was clearly unsettling, and the result was that her attention was divided for the rest of an important business dinner.

      This was her first night away since the baby’s birth, and I know that her spouse had already been on several business trips before this event. Yet, I doubt she called him during his conferences to ask child-care questions. Like so many moms everywhere, she was expected to figure things out on her own.

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      The numbers show that this story is far from the exception. In another Pew survey, 47 percent of dual-income parents agreed that the moms take on more of the work when a child gets sick.[2] In addition, 39 percent of working mothers said they had taken a significant amount of time off from work to care for their child compared to just 24 percent of working fathers. Mothers are also more likely than fathers (27 percent to 10 percent) to say they had quit their job at some point for family reasons.

      Before any amazing stay-at-home-dads post an angry rebuttal comment, I want to be very clear that I am not judging how families choose to divide and conquer their personal and professional responsibilities; that’s 100 percent their prerogative. Rather, I am taking aim at the culture of inequity that persists even when spouses have similar or identical professional responsibilities. This is an important issue for all of us because we are leaving untapped business and human potential on the table.

      What’s more, I think my fellow men can do a lot about this. For those out there who still privately think that being a good dad just means helping out mom, it’s time to man up. Stop expecting working partners—who have similar professional responsibilities—to bear the majority of the child-care responsibilities as well.

      Consider these ways to support your working spouse:

      1. Have higher expectations for yourself as a father; you are a parent, not a babysitter.

      Know who your pediatrician is and how to reach him or her. Have a back-up plan for transportation and emergency coverage.

      Don’t simply expect your partner to manage all these invisible tasks on her own. Parenting takes effort and preparation for the unexpected.

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      As in other areas of life, the way to build confidence is to learn by doing. Moms aren’t born knowing how to do this stuff any more than dads are.

      2. Treat your partner the way you’d want to be treated.

      I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard a man on a business trip say to his wife on a call something to the effect of, “I am in the middle of a meeting. What do you want me to do about it?”

      However, when the tables are turned, men often make that same call at the first sign of trouble.

      Distractions like this make it difficult to focus and engage with work, which perpetuates the stereotype that working moms aren’t sufficiently committed.

      When you’re in charge of the kids, do what she would do: Figure it out.

      3. When you need to take care of your kids, don’t make an excuse that revolves around your partner’s availability.

      This implies that the children are her first priority and your second.

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      I admit I have been guilty in the past of telling clients, “I have the kids today because my wife had something she could not move.” What I should have said was, “I’m taking care of my kids today.”

      Why is it so hard for men to admit they have personal responsibilities? Remember that you are setting an example for your sons and daughters, and do the right thing.

      4. As a manager, be supportive of both your male and female colleagues when unexpected situations arise at home.

      No one likes or wants disruptions, but life happens, and everyone will face a day when the troubling phone call comes from his sitter, her school nurse, or even elderly parents.

      Accommodating personal needs is not a sign of weakness as a leader. Employees will be more likely to do great work if they know that you care about their personal obligations and family—and show them that you care about your own.

      5. Don’t keep score or track time.

      At home, it’s juvenile to get into debates about who last changed a diaper or did the dishes; everyone needs to contribute, but the big picture is what matters. Is everyone healthy and getting enough sleep? Are you enjoying each other’s company?

      In business, too, avoid the trap of punching a clock. The focus should be on outcomes and performance rather than effort and inputs. That’s the way to maintain momentum toward overall goals.

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      The Bottom Line

      To be clear, I recognize that a great many working dads are doing a terrific job both on the home front and in their professional lives. My concern is that these standouts often aren’t visible to their colleagues; they intentionally or inadvertently let their work as parents fly under the radar. Dads need to be open and honest about family responsibilities to change perceptions in the workplace.

      The question “How do you balance it all?” should not be something that’s just asked of women. Frankly, no one can answer that question. Juggling a career and parental responsibilities is tough. At times, really tough.

      But it’s something that more parents should be doing together, as a team. This can be a real bonus for the couple relationship as well, because nothing gets in the way of good partnership faster than feelings of inequity.

      On the plus side, I can tell you that parenting skills really do get better with practice—and that’s great for people of both sexes. I think our cultural expectations that women are the “nurturers” and men are the “providers” needs to evolve. Expanding these definitions will open the doors to richer contributions from everyone, because women can and should be both—and so should men.

      Featured photo credit: NeONBRAND via unsplash.com

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