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Fathers And Daughters: How Making Time For A Daddy-Daughter Day Helps Shape Future Lives

Fathers And Daughters: How Making Time For A Daddy-Daughter Day Helps Shape Future Lives

Does fatherhood matter anymore?

Wisdom is justified by her children. What our daughters become tomorrow is very much tied to what we invest in them early on. My wife and I have decided that around 99% of the anxiety we feel in the home is the result of wanting to do something else apart from spending time with our kids. I have three little girls and a boy, all under the age of 10. They’re beautiful kids and I love them very much. But I’m also selfish. It’s a contradiction, I know, but I would often rather spend time sitting here in front of my computer blogging than spend a half an hour playing Leggo with the kids.

This is no minor matter, and I know it. Research over the years has demonstrated that the quality of father-daughter relationships invariably affects the relationships these women may likely have with men throughout their adult lives. The relationship daughters have with their fathers may also affect the ability to handle stress, as well as their self-perception.[1]

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Having worked in the mental health field for many years and, in particular, specializing in anorexia nervosa in girls and women, I am all too aware of the commonality between mental health and father-daughter relationships. With that in mind, I have tried to implement time each week where I can invest in my daughter’s lives. I’m not just killing time each Saturday when I meet with my girls. Instead, I want to invest in them a dignity and a confidence that will go with them throughout their lives.

Being a Model of Manhood

I’m aware that it’s a popular pastime to bash masculinity. Nevertheless, I want to provide my girls with the best model of decent manhood in the hope that they will love it, and look for a man who possesses those same qualities or character.[2]

I want my daughters to accept nothing less from a man than complete honesty. So, I am trying to be an honest man.

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I want my daughters to accept nothing less than a hard-working man. And so, I am trying to be a hard-working man.

Of course, I realize that my girls may decide not to marry a man at all. But as long as they’re living in this world, they are going to have to navigate and negotiate with men, and I want them to conduct those negotiations and build those relationships with confidence and integrity.

Being a Model of Intimacy

There are justifiable reasons that masculinity has received such a beating over the last few years. There is a kind of masculinity that has been dishing out abuse for way too long. In Australia, where I live, such cases are still being exposed through our own shameful, but necessary Royal Commissions. In a culture where women are often mistreated by men, a suspicion develops wherever we see intimacy between a man and a woman. This is especially true when it comes to the bond between a father and his daughter.

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For fear of recriminations, many fathers have begun to distance themselves from their daughters. This poses a dilemma for many fathers. If I am a distant or an indifferent father towards my daughter, then there’s a good chance she will marry a man who is also distant and aloof.

Young girls need intimacy. They need to know what genuine affection looks like. They need to be able to tell the difference between appropriate affection and inappropriate affection. I want to affirm my daughters in their appearance, their ability, and their intellect. A father’s mood can seriously impact his daughter’s own emotional stability and power to make good decisions. I want my daughters to know that their father loves them and I plan to show it with hugs and kisses and affirmations.

My premise is that the more I teach them what healthy intimacy and affection looks like, the more capable they will be in identifying inappropriate and abusive intimacy later on in life.

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This is what daddy-daughter day looks like in our house. Whether it’s a swim at the beach, a game of tennis, or working in the veggie garden in our backyard. Every encounter with my daughters is an opportunity to present them with the kind of qualities I want them to be drawn to later in life. Every encounter I have with my daughters is an opportunity to model true masculinity. The kind that will serve and protect and cherish.

My hope is that as they grow up and see these things in me, however imperfectly, they will learn to love them and adopt them as the standards for their own lives. I am hoping they will judge the men they meet by worthy standards that I have tried to set as a father.

But, and this is crucial, such standards will only be embraced as I take the time to be with them and they take the time to treasure them.

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Reference

[1] http://www.medicaldaily.com/why-father-daughter-relationship-so-important-246744
[2] https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/inside-out/201307/how-dads-shape-daughters-relationships

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Published on July 22, 2021

20 Healthy and Tasty Family Meals Ideas to Try This Week

20 Healthy and Tasty Family Meals Ideas to Try This Week

It’s 5 p.m., and you’re exhausted. The kids are hungry, but no one knows what they want to eat for dinner. With very little energy, you force yourself into the kitchen and look through every cabinet, hoping for a spark of inspiration. Eventually, you toss a few ingredients together and hope for the best. It won’t win any prizes and falls short of what you consider “healthy,” but it fills everyone’s stomachs.

Feeding a family can be stressful, even tiresome. It’s hard to find the energy and creativity needed to cook healthy but simple family meals. It’s easy to fall into the “anything goes” mentality. When you’ve got a busy lifestyle, meals become more about survival and less about nutrition.

Here are 20 quick and healthy—but tasty—recipes followed by tips on making these family meals more nutritious. These recipes can help you have a healthy family meal on the table in an hour or less. Remember, swap ingredients out if someone in your family has dietary restrictions or if you avoid certain foods.

1. Mini Meatloaves With Green Beans and Potatoes

    These miniature meatloaves come together quickly and cook faster, too. You can have a family favorite on the table, paired with seasoned potatoes and fresh green beans, in just 40 minutes.

    Get the recipe here.

    2. One-Pan Chicken Parmesan Pasta

      This classic will taste like you spent hours cooking, but the preparation and clean-up couldn’t be quicker. One-pot cooking makes this dish practical, while fresh basil, parmesan, and garlic add a special touch.

      To try this recipe, go here.

      3. Sheet-Pan Chicken Fajitas

        Skip the restaurant and make fajitas at home. The ingredients go on one sheet pan, meaning you won’t spend all night cleaning. Zesty chicken, bell peppers, and warm tortillas can be on the table in 40 minutes. Add sour cream, salsa, guacamole, lettuce, diced tomato, and any other favorite toppings.

        Check out the recipe here.

        4. Philly Cheese Steak Stuffed Peppers

          Lose the carbs but keep the cheesesteak flavors with this quick family meal. Kids will love the pepper “bowls,” and you’ll love giving them a meal full of veggies and protein to keep them healthy.

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          Try it tonight. Get the recipe here.

          5. Chipotle Chicken Quinoa Burrito Bowl

            This veggie-packed meal adds an extra boost by using the superfood quinoa instead of rice. Flavorful yet simple, this meal makes an excellent packable lunch or dinner for your whole family.

            Find the recipe here.

            6. Spinach and Chicken Skillet With Lemon and Parmesan

              The complex flavors of lemon and parmesan come together nicely in this gourmet-like dish, but you don’t have to exert the effort or spend as much as a gourmet meal.

              Get the recipe for this dish here.

              7. Oven-Fried Fish and Chips

                Fish and chips can also sometimes be healthy as evident in this oven-fried version. You won’t miss the calories with this favorite family meal.

                You can find the recipe here.

                8. Pineapple-Teriyaki Chicken

                  Tangy pineapple and sweet teriyaki will have everyone coming back for seconds. Frozen vegetables make this simple family dish even easier to make and enjoy.

                  Find the recipe here.

                  9. Mozzarella, Basil, and Zucchini Frittata

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                    This egg dish is usually served for breakfast, but a frittata can make a fantastic dinner, too. High in protein, packed with zucchini, and delicious, there’s no reason to wait until morning.

                    Try it tonight. Get the recipe here.

                    10. Chicken and Sweet Potato Grill Packets

                      Skip the pans and throw everything into foil with this fun family recipe. Kids will love loading ingredients into their pack, and you’ll love its versatility and simplicity.

                      The recipe for this meal can be found here.

                      11. Chicken and Spanish “Rice”

                        Cauliflower takes the place of rice in this low-carb family meal, but it’s so flavorful and filling, no one will miss it.

                        Find the recipe here.

                        12. Honey Chicken Stir Fry

                          This honey chicken stir fry is the healthier version of a restaurant favorite that can be served up quicker than you can order it.

                          Find the recipe here.

                          13. Chicken Skewers With Tzatziki

                            Greek chicken and tzatziki sauce will have you yearning for the Mediterranean, but you can make this recipe at home for your family to enjoy.

                            This easy recipe can be found here.

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                            14. Healthy Walking Tacos

                              Traditional walking tacos are a party favorite, but they’re not usually healthy. However, this recipe keeps it fun while making it more nutritious.

                              Find out how to make it here.

                              15. Slow-Cooker Chicken Noodle Soup

                                This classic comfort meal can be ready when you walk in the door. All you have to do is add noodles, and it’s ready to serve.

                                The recipe can be found here.

                                16. Cheesy Chicken and Rice Casserole

                                  This usually takes a little over an hour, but the preparation time is only 30 minutes. You’ll love how easy it is, and the cheesy rice is sure to please.

                                  Find the recipe here.

                                  17. Crockpot Rotisserie-Style Chicken

                                    Skip the checkout line and have a rotisserie-style chicken ready at home. A staple in many quick meals, you might find this family meal recipe among your most-used.

                                    Get the recipe for this flavorful chicken here.

                                    18. Santa Monica Street Tacos

                                      Named after a simple taco found on the streets of California, you’ll be surprised that something with only a few ingredients can be so flavorful. Your kids will surely enjoy them.

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                                      Find the recipe here.

                                      19. Pizza Pasta Salad

                                        Enjoy the flavor of pizza without the hassle of making a crust. Use a fun pasta shape to make this even more appealing to your family, especially kids.

                                        Try it tonight. Get the recipe here.

                                        20. Slow-Cooker Lasagna Soup

                                          Everyone loves lasagna, but it can be time-consuming and messy to make. However, this soup version has the taste you want but with the ease of a crockpot.

                                          Get the recipe here.

                                          Bonus: 3 Simple Ways to Make Meals Healthier

                                          Eating healthy doesn’t have to take a lot of money, time, or thought. Any improvements are a big step in the right direction.

                                          Here are three easy ways you can make meals healthier for your family.

                                          1. Lose the Sugar

                                          Are you looking to improve your health? Cut processed sugars from your diet—the more, the better, and that includes artificial sweeteners.[1] Why? Studies show that sugar increases the risks for weight gain, heart disease, acne, type-2 diabetes, depression, cancer, fatty liver disease, cellular aging, and low energy levels.[2]

                                          2. Avoid Highly Processed Foods

                                          Many processed foods are fine to eat. Even fresh fruit and vegetables go through some processing to stay fresh longer. However, highly processed foods have added salt, sweeteners, saturated fats, preservatives, and artificial colors. These types of food have been linked to heart disease, diabetes, and high blood pressure.[3]

                                          3. Replace Simple Carbs for Complex Carbs

                                          Lowering daily carbs can do wonders for your health. Studies show that low-carb diets lead to lower insulin levels, lower bad cholesterol levels, visceral fat loss, weight loss, reduced appetite, and can be therapeutic for many brain disorders.[4]

                                          When eating carbs, choose complex carbs over simple carbs. Simple carbs, such as white flour, rice, and degermed cornmeal, lack nutrients and spike blood sugar levels. Complex carbs, such as sweet potato, brown rice, and oats, are usually more nutritious and aren’t digested as quickly, giving more sustained energy and less of an insulin spike.[5]

                                          Enjoy Family Meals With Less Stress!

                                          Dinner can be enjoyable again now that you’re armed with simple and nutritious recipes for your family. These healthy and tasty family meal recipes can help you feel even better about what you serve. Best of all, you’ll have the extra time and energy you saved from cooking and spend more time with your family.

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