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4 Signs That People Have Stopped Growing Mentally When Getting Older

4 Signs That People Have Stopped Growing Mentally When Getting Older

Does everyone improve with age?

Just because someone has grown into middle or old age doesn’t mean that they have continued to grow as an individual.  It is easy to remain in one’s comfort zone and preferred ways of doing everyday tasks. This can cause unnecessary stress when someone is forced to experiment with new ways of working.

For example, a worker who is accustomed to carrying out their tasks in a certain way at work may become irritated or uncomfortable when someone suggests them to change the way they work.

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Signs that someone is stuck in their comfort zone

There are a few key signs to watch for that can help you discern whether you have become a little too entrenched in your comfort zone. You can also look out for these signs in your older co-workers and acquaintances.

1. They trust their own experiences more than anything else

Do you know someone who tends to overlook sensible potential solutions to a problem in favor of their extensive past experience? Of course, it is a good idea to reflect and learn from the past, but it is important to realize that the world is constantly changing and what worked well in the past may not apply to the present.

For example, a worker who has been working in marketing for several decades may overlook the potential of digital marketing in favor of more old-school print-based methods. This could be detrimental to the results of the company.

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2. They only focus on efficiency and overlook effectiveness

Older people who like to stay in their comfort zone may focus on how quickly they can complete a task, rather than the quality of the end result. For example, they may focus on crossing tasks off a do-to list rather than considering whether they have carried out each job to the best of their ability.

They may also be resistant to the suggestions of other people regarding how a particular job may be executed to a higher standard, especially if acting on these suggestions would entail making significant changes to the way they usually work.

3. They like doing repetitive and operational tasks

For a person who has become stuck in their comfort zone, repetitive and operational tasks requiring minimal creativity are more appealing than those that necessitate innovation.

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For instance, they may prefer tasks such as cleaning and keeping track of basic accounts to brainstorming new ideas or helping outline the aims of an exciting new project. Doing so helps them feel safe. In repeating the same tasks day after day, they create for themselves the illusion that nothing unexpected will come along and surprise them. This can minimize feelings of anxiety.

4. They tend to judge others rather focus on improving themselves

One of the key foundations for personal growth is the ability to channel one’s energies into self-improvement rather than passing judgment on what other people are doing. Those who want to go beyond their comfort zones know that the only way to better themselves is to take an honest ongoing inventory of their strengths and weaknesses.

People who are resistant to change typically find the prospect of self-examination daunting. Instead, they often spend their time looking for weakness in others and passing negative judgments. For instance, if a coworker tries a new method of working on a problem and does not immediately succeed, someone stuck in their comfort zone is likely to judge them harshly rather than praise them for their attempts at innovation.

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Conclusion

Knowing the signs that someone is stuck in their comfort zone can help both you and others to continue along the path of personal growth at all stages of life. Sometimes, a degree of self-awareness is all that is needed to get back on track and remain open to new ways of thinking and behaving.

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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