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4 Signs That People Have Stopped Growing Mentally When Getting Older

4 Signs That People Have Stopped Growing Mentally When Getting Older

Does everyone improve with age?

Just because someone has grown into middle or old age doesn’t mean that they have continued to grow as an individual.  It is easy to remain in one’s comfort zone and preferred ways of doing everyday tasks. This can cause unnecessary stress when someone is forced to experiment with new ways of working.

For example, a worker who is accustomed to carrying out their tasks in a certain way at work may become irritated or uncomfortable when someone suggests them to change the way they work.

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Signs that someone is stuck in their comfort zone

There are a few key signs to watch for that can help you discern whether you have become a little too entrenched in your comfort zone. You can also look out for these signs in your older co-workers and acquaintances.

1. They trust their own experiences more than anything else

Do you know someone who tends to overlook sensible potential solutions to a problem in favor of their extensive past experience? Of course, it is a good idea to reflect and learn from the past, but it is important to realize that the world is constantly changing and what worked well in the past may not apply to the present.

For example, a worker who has been working in marketing for several decades may overlook the potential of digital marketing in favor of more old-school print-based methods. This could be detrimental to the results of the company.

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2. They only focus on efficiency and overlook effectiveness

Older people who like to stay in their comfort zone may focus on how quickly they can complete a task, rather than the quality of the end result. For example, they may focus on crossing tasks off a do-to list rather than considering whether they have carried out each job to the best of their ability.

They may also be resistant to the suggestions of other people regarding how a particular job may be executed to a higher standard, especially if acting on these suggestions would entail making significant changes to the way they usually work.

3. They like doing repetitive and operational tasks

For a person who has become stuck in their comfort zone, repetitive and operational tasks requiring minimal creativity are more appealing than those that necessitate innovation.

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For instance, they may prefer tasks such as cleaning and keeping track of basic accounts to brainstorming new ideas or helping outline the aims of an exciting new project. Doing so helps them feel safe. In repeating the same tasks day after day, they create for themselves the illusion that nothing unexpected will come along and surprise them. This can minimize feelings of anxiety.

4. They tend to judge others rather focus on improving themselves

One of the key foundations for personal growth is the ability to channel one’s energies into self-improvement rather than passing judgment on what other people are doing. Those who want to go beyond their comfort zones know that the only way to better themselves is to take an honest ongoing inventory of their strengths and weaknesses.

People who are resistant to change typically find the prospect of self-examination daunting. Instead, they often spend their time looking for weakness in others and passing negative judgments. For instance, if a coworker tries a new method of working on a problem and does not immediately succeed, someone stuck in their comfort zone is likely to judge them harshly rather than praise them for their attempts at innovation.

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Conclusion

Knowing the signs that someone is stuck in their comfort zone can help both you and others to continue along the path of personal growth at all stages of life. Sometimes, a degree of self-awareness is all that is needed to get back on track and remain open to new ways of thinking and behaving.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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