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Can’t Stop Hitting The Snooze Button? Ask Yourself These 3 Questions In The Morning To Lead A Meaningful Life

Can’t Stop Hitting The Snooze Button? Ask Yourself These 3 Questions In The Morning To Lead A Meaningful Life

We often associate hitting our snooze button with not getting enough sleep throughout the night. However, if you take a deeper look into it, you may begin to realize that it’s probably because you’re just not looking forward to a new day and all that it has to offer you. That’s why you opt to hit that snooze button a couple more times in the morning. We recommend asking yourself these three questions to get yourself in the right mindset each day.

1. Who can I help today?

By default, we can often be fairly selfish human beings. We often look at situations when it comes to helping people and think, “What’s in it for me?” or, “I scratch your back, you scratch mine.” Truthfully, that is an extremely unhealthy way to look at the world, and it breeds selfish and unhappy people. When you are constantly seeking a reward for a simple act of kindness, you’re ruining yourself spiritually. Today we sadly live a dog eat dog world. If you want someone to help you move up the ladder you have to do something for them as well.

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There is something so satisfying about helping someone else out and making them feel good; it’s like a natural high. By waking up every day you should ask yourself how you can help another person. It could be as simple as helping someone carry groceries when their hands are full, or helping a friend through a difficult time. It costs nothing to be a good person and the world could always use more genuine and selfless people.

2. How can I become a better me today?

Sometimes I think that we rush to complete large tasks and/or goals because by nature we crave instant gratification. Or there is a lot of pressure on us to get these large tasks done quickly which can lead to mountains and mountains of stress. This can cause us to want to sleep in and press the snooze several times because we just want to procrastinate and “forget” about all that needs to be done for just a little while longer.

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I believe that sometimes we set very big goals for ourselves. Although the big goal is very important, setting smaller, more attainable goals until you reach your end goal is just as, if not more important. Smaller goals allow you to keep your focus while working towards the bigger picture. I strongly suggest celebrating your smaller goals, not just the big ones.

3. How can I create value for my job or my life today?

Creating value is something that increases the chances that another person will achieve what they want to achieve. If you take away your job title, the amount of money you make and the size of your organization, you have one extremely important job. That job is to add value to your both your job and your life.

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Every day you have to ask yourself what you can do to create value for others while delivering it as well. You have to have a serious and committed drive to create and deliver value each and every day. What your role is where you work does not matter. What does matter is that that you are able to step back from your work activities and ask yourself what you can do that would be of greater value for those that you work with.

By creating this new mindset, you’ll be more likely to start the day on the right foot and find life more enjoyable in general.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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