Bullying has become a serious problem in today’s schools. It is much more than just hurtful words; some kids are physically threatened and harmed and even develop other problems, like anxiety and depression, when bullying persists. In many situations, the bully needs help too. One look at the daily news and you will see evidence of this. Maybe it’s even closer than you suspect.
Let me tell you a little story. In high school, I was a kid who used to punch a boy who would never speak up or fight back. (I know, it was awful and I have since apologized to him.) I was also a straight-A student and the teacher’s pet. Why was I bullying? I needed help. I was being abused at home and acting out at school. Luckily, I got some counseling to handle the things that were impacting me.
Is your child being bullied?
What does a bullied child look like and how might a parent know it is happening?
Parents need to communicate with their child about what is happening and, if possible, find another child who may be witnessing the bullying. Ask more than just yes/no questions. Ask for the best and worst parts of your kid’s day to get more details.
Often, other children will see bullying in action while teachers may not be fully aware of what is being said and done among the children. Ask your child if a friend or classmate might have seen something.
An astute caregiver may see signs of bullying like unexplained injuries or loss of personal items, changes in appetite or attitude.
While kids may not want to lose their friends or be known as a tattletale, it is important to stress the need for adult intervention when bullying happens.
Kids really should not deal with it themselves and need to know they have the support of the adults around them.
Once a bullying situation is identified, adults can step in and help all involved.
What can you teach your child about handling the situation?
Teach them not to handle it directly. As soon as they realize there is a problem, speak to a trusted adult.
Adults need to stop the situation immediately and assess the safety of the children.
Adults need to make it perfectly clear that bullying is not acceptable.
It may be best to separate the parties and get the individuals to speak to adults separately.
Adults should stay calm and be positive role models for resolving conflicts.
If weapons or serious bodily injury are involved, the police may need to be contacted.
One very successful technique to teach all children about bullying is role playing. This is led by an adult and children can “play” different roles to actually experience (in a safe and supportive setting) how it feels to be the bully, to be bullied and even to witness bullying. Kids can generate excellent ideas in this kind of setting and test them out. Practice does help. When a child has practiced what might happen and several options of how to respond, he or she is much more likely to handle it positively and correctly when it happens in real life.
The last thing a parent wants to hear is that their child is being bullied at school or on the bus. Childhood is short enough without bullying problems. Being bullied can make an already shy kid just turn inside out. Or worse, being bullied can make your child feel hopeless and helpless in a place where he or she should feel safest. Of course, schools and teachers are more prepared today to handle bullying with training and awareness programs. Be sure to talk to your kids about bullying, communicate with school and teachers and get involved in community activities. October is National Bullying Prevention Month, so it is a perfect time to start the conversation with your kids.
Being a mom is not easy. Being a single mom is even more challenging. Having children means you are on the job 24/7. Even while you are sleeping, you are still ready to wake at the slightest peep because that is what moms do.
Moms, especially single moms, need more people cheering them on. Your love and care matter to your kids. You are their superhero. I think single moms are superheroes, too.
The quotes below are words of encouragement for all of the single moms out there. Keep up the great work! Your hard work will pay off. Someday, they will be grown up and living on their own. Your job will never truly be done as a mom, but you can pat yourself on the back today and every day for doing mom duty day in and day out.
Here are 50 single mom quotes to encourage all the single moms out there.
“Being raised by a single mother, I learned to appreciate and value independent women.”—Kenny Conley
“As a single mum you’ll discover inner strengths and capabilities you never knew you had.”—Emma-Louise Smith
“One thing I know for sure – this motherhood thing is not for sissies.”—Jennifer Nettles
“Mothers and their children are in a category all their own. There’s no bond so strong in the entire world. No love so instantaneous and forgiving.”—Gail Tsukiyama
“And one day she discovered that she was fierce and strong, and full of fire and that not even she could hold herself back because her passion burned brighter than her fears.”—Mark Anthony
“She never quite leaves her children at home, even when she doesn’t take them along.”—Margaret Culkin Banning
“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”—Alice Walker
“Everyone has inside of her a piece of good news. The good news is that you don’t know how great you can be, how much you can love, what you can accomplish, and what your potential is.”—Anne Frank
“Doubt is a killer. You just have to know who you are and what you stand for.”—Jennifer Lopez
“You are more powerful than you know; you are beautiful just as you are.”—Melissa Etheridge
“Motherhood is the greatest thing and the hardest thing.”—Ricki Lake
“You don’t take a class; you’re thrown into motherhood and learn from experience.”—Jennie Finch
“If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more. If you look at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough.”—Oprah Winfrey
“I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will.”—Charlotte Brontë
“Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.”—Nora Ephron
“When a woman becomes her own best friend life is easier.”—Diane Von Furstenberg
“If you want something said, ask a man; if you want something done, ask a woman.”—Margaret Thatcher
“Women have discovered that they cannot rely on men’s chivalry to give them justice.”—Helen Keller
“Successful mothers are not the ones that have never struggled. They are the ones that never give up, despite the struggles.”—Sharon Jaynes
“Success, they taught me, is built on the foundation of courage, hard work, and individual responsibility. Despite what some would have us believe, success is not built on resentment and fears.”—Susana Martinez
“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”—Maya Angelou
“The question isn’t who’s going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.”—Ayn Rand
“God could not be everywhere, and therefore he made mothers.”—Rudyard Kipling
“The women whom I love and admire for their strength and grace did not get that way because stuff worked out. They got that way because stuff went wrong, and they handled it. They handled it in a thousand different ways on a thousand different days, but they handled it. Those women are my superheroes.”—Elizabeth Gilbert
“There will be so many times you feel like you failed. But in the eyes, ears, and mind of your child, you are a SUPER MOM.”—Stephanie Precourt
“Motherhood is the ultimate call to sacrifice.”—Wangechi Mutu
“We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.”—Maya Angelou
“A mother’s arms are more comforting than anyone else’s.”—Princess Diana
“There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.”—Jill Churchill
“There’s no doubt that motherhood is the best thing in my life. It’s all that really matters.”—Courtney Cox
“I realized when you look at your mother, you are looking at the purest love you will ever know.”—Mitch Albom
“I have found being a mother has made me emotionally raw in many situations. Your heart is beating outside your body when you have a baby.”—Kate Beckinsale
“Single moms, you are a doctor, a teacher, a nurse, a maid, a cook, a referee, a heroine, a provider, a defender, a protector, a true Superwoman. Wear your cape proudly.”—Mandy Hale
“I’m not really single. I mean, I am, but I have a son. Being a single mother is different from being a single woman.”—Kate Hudson
“Being a single parent is twice the work, twice the stress, and twice the tears but also twice the hugs, twice the love, and twice the pride.”—Unknown
“For me, motherhood is learning about the strengths I didn’t know I had, and dealing with the fears I didn’t know existed.”—Halle Berry
“A single mom tries when things are hard. She never gives up. She believes in her family, even when things are tough. She knows that above all things… a mother’s love is more than enough.”—Denice Williams
“You do the best you can. Some days you feel really good about yourself and some days you don’t.”—Katie Holmes
“I would say to any single parent currently feeling the weight of stereotype or stigmatization that I am prouder of my years as a single mother than of any other part of my life.”—JK Rowling
“Just because I am a single mother doesn’t mean I cannot be a success.”—Yvonne Kaloki
“I didn’t plan on being a single mom, but you have to deal with the cards you are dealt the best way you can.”—Tichina Arnold
“Nothing you do for children is ever wasted.”—Garrison Keillor
“A single mom tries when things are hard. She never gives up. She believes in her family, even when things are tough. She knows that above all things, a mother’s love is more than enough.”—Deniece Williams
“Motherhood has a very humanizing effect. Everything gets reduced to essentials.”—Meryl Streep
“Having kids—the responsibility of rearing good, kind, ethical, responsible human beings—is the biggest job anyone can embark on.”—Maria Shriver
“Mother is a verb. It’s something you do. Not just who you are.”—Cheryl Lacey Donovan
“A mother’s love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dates all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path.”—Agatha Christie
“A mother’s arms are more comforting than anyone else’s.”—Princess Diana
“The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world.”—W.R. Wallace
“Being a mother is the greatest blessing and the hardest challenge in all of life.”—Dr. Magdalena Battles
Single moms are remarkable women. They are to be respected and honored for all that they do. If you know a single mom, then share this article with them. Tell them “you are doing a great job as a single mom.” They need our encouragement and support.
They may be parenting alone, but it is good to let them know that there are people in their life who care for them. We can all be there for the single moms out there. Even if it is just to say, “keep up the great work, you are an amazing woman!”
If you are a single mom, keep up the good work! You are amazing, and your kids are lucky to have you!