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5 Tips to Consider When Buying an Engagement Ring for Her

5 Tips to Consider When Buying an Engagement Ring for Her

Having a partner who will soon will be yours forever feels wonderful. An engagement ring is the ultimate romantic symbol for love and commitment, but there are quite a number of things to put under consideration before you choose an engagement ring.

This is because there are so many types of engagement rings available, and it is up to you to make the perfect choice on what to take home to your soon-to-be lover of your life.

The following is a list of the five ultimate and most important things to consider while buying an engagement ring for your significant other.

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1. Her Lifestyle

This is an engagement ring, and it will be on her hand for most of her time. This being the case, it will be a part of her from the day she gets it onward, and it must fully sync with her lifestyle. Different types of engagement rings befit different lifestyles; therefore, before you pay for that engagement ring, you need to first of all, consider whether it will fit into her lifestyle.

You do not want to make her feel punished by wearing something that feels awkward in her day-to-day life. Think about how she uses her hands. For example, if she has physical contact with people a lot of the time, like a teacher or a doctor, you may consider buying her a ring without elevated diamonds. If you want an heirloom of your family member or a dear one who has passed away to be given to her, get her a memorial diamond from Swiss company LONITÉ.

Finally, if her working environment entails getting her hands dirty, then a simple engagement ring without impressions or embossments is a perfect choice for you to make.

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2. Her Personal Style

Rings, just like any other wearable, need to compliment someone’s style. You need to consider what she likes wearing, the patterns of her clothes, and her favorite colors. This is helpful as it will help you find the perfect fit for her, and you will not regret it as she will definitely like it.

3. Your Budget

This is a very important aspect worth considering as there are so many types of engagement rings out there in all different price ranges. You should therefore, be in a position to get the best of a good ring whose price range is within your budget.

As straight-forward as it may sound, most people tend to please their other halves by straining their budget just to get the most expensive engagement ring. Remember, expensive is not always good; you need to be in a position to research very well on all the ring styles available and the cheap methods through which you can buy them. This way, you will get the best product at a relatively low cost without straining your budget.

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4. Protection of the Commodity

A wedding ring is a precious small gadget that is prone to theft, misplacement, or even accidental drops. It would be terrible to buy an expensive diamond ring and within just a week, you are told that it was stolen, and you cannot do anything about it.

It is good to buy an engagement ring from a trusted and reputable jeweler that offers warranty and wraps the cost of insurance into your budget. This way, you will be safe in case of theft or damage. Insurance or a warranty will ensure that you get another one, or that it will be repaired without paying anything, respectively.

5. Her Finger Size

Like wedding rings, engagement rings differ in sizes. Some rings have a maximum or minimum diameter. Before you decide on a certain ring, however beautiful it may be, you should first consider her finger size.

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To actuate this, it is good to have a prior estimation of the diameter of her finger. This will ensure that you do not get embarrassed during the engagement day by giving her an oversized ring whose cost is way beyond the roof.

This is something that will be worn for a long time and signifies an important part of your life. As such, it is very important to be very careful while purchasing an engagement ring. You may even consider taking a friend with you who has a prior experience so that he or she can help you out in choosing the best ring that your significant other will like.

Featured photo credit: Nan Palmero via flickr.com

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10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

Most discussions on positively influencing others eventually touch on Dale Carnegie’s seminal work, How to Win Friends and Influence People. Written more than 83 years ago, the book touches on a core component of human interaction, building strong relationships. It is no wonder why.

Everything that we do hinges on our ability to connect with others and formulate deep relationships. You cannot sell a house, buy a house, advance in most careers, sell a product, pitch a story, teach a course, etc. without building healthy relationships. Managers get the best results from their teams, not through brute force, but to careful appeals to their sensibilities, occasional withdrawals from the reservoir of respect they’ve built. Using these tactics, they can influence others to excellence, to productivity, and to success.

Carnegie’s book is great. Of course, there are other resources too. Most of us have someone in our lives who positively influences us. The truth is positively influencing people is about centering the humanity of others. Chances are, you know someone who is really good at making others feel like stars. They can get you to do things that the average person cannot. Where the requests of others sound like fingernails on a chalkboard, the request from this special person sounds like music to your ears. You’re delighted to not only listen but also to oblige.

So how to influence people in a positive way? Read on for tips.

1. Be Authentic

To influence people in a positive way, be authentic. Rather than being a carbon copy of someone else’s version of authenticity, uncover what it is that makes you unique.

Discover your unique take on an issue and then live up to and honor that. Once of the reasons social media influencers are so powerful is that they have carved out a niche for themselves or taken a common issue and approached it from a novel or uncommon way. People instinctually appreciate people whose public persona matches their private values.

Contradictions bother us because we crave stability. When someone professes to be one way, but lives contrary to that profession, it signals that they are confused or untrustworthy and thereby, inauthentic. Neither of these combinations bode well for positively influencing others.

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2. Listen

Growing up, my father would tell me to listen to what others said. He told me if I listened carefully, I would know all I needed to know about a person’s character, desires and needs.

To positively influence others, you must listen to what is spoken and what is left unsaid. Therein lies the explanation for what people need in order to feel validated, supported and seen. If a person feels they are invisible, and unseen by their superiors, they are less likely to be positively influenced by that person.

Listening meets a person’s primary need of validation and acceptance.

Take a look at this guide on how to be a better listener: How to Practice Active Listening (A Step-By-Step Guide)

3. Become an Expert

Most people are predisposed to listen to, if not respect, authority. If you want to positively influence others, become an authority in the area in which you seek to lead others. Research and read everything you can about the given topic, and then look for opportunities to put your education into practice.

You can argue over opinions. You cannot argue, or it is unwise to argue, over facts and experts come with facts.

4. Lead with Story

From years of working in the public relations space, I know that personal narratives, testimonials and impact stories are incredibly powerful. But I never cease to be amazed with how effective a well-timed and told story can be.

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If you want to influence people, learn to tell stories. Your stories should be related to the issue or concept you are discussing. They should be an analogy or metaphor that explains your topic in ordinary terms and in vivid detail. To learn more about how to tell powerful stories, and the ethics of storytelling, take a look at this article: How To Tell An Interesting Story In 4 Simple Steps

5. Lead by Example

It is incredibly inspiring to watch passionate, talented people at work or play. One of the reasons a person who is not an athlete can be in awe of athletic prowess is because human nature appreciates the extraordinary. When we watch the Olympics, Olympic trials, gymnastic competitions, ice skating, and other competitive sports, we can recognize the effort of people who day in and day out give their all. C

ase in point: Simone Biles. The gymnast extraordinaire won her 6TH all-around title at the U.S. Gymnastics Championships after doing a triple double. She was the first woman to do so. Watching her gave me chills. Even non-gymnasts and non-competitive athletes can appreciate the talent required to pull off such a remarkable feat.

We celebrate remarkable accomplishments and believe that their example is proof that we too can accomplish something great, even if it isn’t qualifying for the Olympics. To influence people in a positive way, we must lead by example, lead with intention and execute with excellence.

6. Catch People Doing Good

A powerful way to influence people in a positive way is to catch people doing good. Instead of looking for problems, look for successes. Look for often overlooked, but critically important things that your peers, subordinates and managers do that make the work more effective and more enjoyable.

Once you catch people doing good, name and notice their contributions.

7. Be Effusive with Praise

It did not take me long to notice a remarkable trait of a former boss. He not only began and ended meetings with praise, but he peppered praise throughout the entire meeting. He found a way to celebrate the unique attributes and skills of his team members. He was able to quickly and accurately assess what people were doing well and then let them and their colleagues know.

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Meetings were not just an occasion to go through a “To Do” list, they were opportunities to celebrate accomplishments, no matter how small they are.

8. Be Kind Rather Than Right

I am going to level with you; this one is tough. It is easy to get caught up in a cycle of proving oneself. For people who lack confidence, or people who prioritize the opinions of others, being right is important. The validation that comes with being perceived as “right” feeds one’s ego. But in the quest to be “right,” we can hurt other people. Once we’ve hurt someone by being unkind, it is much harder to get them to listen to what we’re trying to influence them to do.

The antidote to influencing others via bullying is to prioritize kindness above rightness. You can be kind and still stand firm in your position. For instance, many people think that they need others to validate their experience. If a person does not see the situation you experienced in the way you see it, you get upset. But your experience is your experience.

If you and your friends go out to eat and you get food poisoning, you do not need your friends to agree that the food served at the restaurant was problematic for you. Your own experience of getting food poisoning is all the validation you need. Therefore, taking time to be right is essentially wasted and, if you were unkind in seeking validation for your food-poison experience, now you’ve really lost points.

9. Understand a Person’s Logical, Emotional and Cooperative Needs

The Center for Creative Leadership has argued that the best way to influence others is to appeal to their logical, emotional and cooperative needs. Their logical need is their rational and educational need. Their emotional need is the information that touches them in a deeply personal manner. The cooperative need is understanding the level of cooperation various individuals need and then appropriately offering it.

The trick with this system is to understand that different people need different things. For some people, a strong emotional appeal will outweigh logical explanations. For others, having an opportunity to collaborate will override emotional connection.

If you know your audience, you will know what they need in order to be positively influenced. If you have limited information about the people whom you are attempting to influence, you will be ineffective.

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10. Understand Your Lane

If you want to positively influence others, operate from your sphere of influence. Operate from your place of expertise. Leave everything else to others. Gone are the days when being a jack of all trades is celebrated.

Most people appreciate brands that understand their target audience and then deliver on what that audience wants. When you focus on what you are uniquely gifted and qualified to do, and then offer that gift to the people who need it, you are likely more effective. This effectiveness is attractive.

You cannot positively influence others if you are more preoccupied by what others do well versus what you do well.

Final Thoughts

Influencing people is about centering your humanity. If you want to influence others positively, focus on the way you communicate and improve the relationship with yourself first.

It’s hard to influence others if you’re still trying to figure out how to communicate with yourself.

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