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5 Tips to Consider When Buying an Engagement Ring for Her

5 Tips to Consider When Buying an Engagement Ring for Her

Having a partner who will soon will be yours forever feels wonderful. An engagement ring is the ultimate romantic symbol for love and commitment, but there are quite a number of things to put under consideration before you choose an engagement ring.

This is because there are so many types of engagement rings available, and it is up to you to make the perfect choice on what to take home to your soon-to-be lover of your life.

The following is a list of the five ultimate and most important things to consider while buying an engagement ring for your significant other.

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1. Her Lifestyle

This is an engagement ring, and it will be on her hand for most of her time. This being the case, it will be a part of her from the day she gets it onward, and it must fully sync with her lifestyle. Different types of engagement rings befit different lifestyles; therefore, before you pay for that engagement ring, you need to first of all, consider whether it will fit into her lifestyle.

You do not want to make her feel punished by wearing something that feels awkward in her day-to-day life. Think about how she uses her hands. For example, if she has physical contact with people a lot of the time, like a teacher or a doctor, you may consider buying her a ring without elevated diamonds. If you want an heirloom of your family member or a dear one who has passed away to be given to her, get her a memorial diamond from Swiss company LONITÉ.

Finally, if her working environment entails getting her hands dirty, then a simple engagement ring without impressions or embossments is a perfect choice for you to make.

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2. Her Personal Style

Rings, just like any other wearable, need to compliment someone’s style. You need to consider what she likes wearing, the patterns of her clothes, and her favorite colors. This is helpful as it will help you find the perfect fit for her, and you will not regret it as she will definitely like it.

3. Your Budget

This is a very important aspect worth considering as there are so many types of engagement rings out there in all different price ranges. You should therefore, be in a position to get the best of a good ring whose price range is within your budget.

As straight-forward as it may sound, most people tend to please their other halves by straining their budget just to get the most expensive engagement ring. Remember, expensive is not always good; you need to be in a position to research very well on all the ring styles available and the cheap methods through which you can buy them. This way, you will get the best product at a relatively low cost without straining your budget.

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4. Protection of the Commodity

A wedding ring is a precious small gadget that is prone to theft, misplacement, or even accidental drops. It would be terrible to buy an expensive diamond ring and within just a week, you are told that it was stolen, and you cannot do anything about it.

It is good to buy an engagement ring from a trusted and reputable jeweler that offers warranty and wraps the cost of insurance into your budget. This way, you will be safe in case of theft or damage. Insurance or a warranty will ensure that you get another one, or that it will be repaired without paying anything, respectively.

5. Her Finger Size

Like wedding rings, engagement rings differ in sizes. Some rings have a maximum or minimum diameter. Before you decide on a certain ring, however beautiful it may be, you should first consider her finger size.

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To actuate this, it is good to have a prior estimation of the diameter of her finger. This will ensure that you do not get embarrassed during the engagement day by giving her an oversized ring whose cost is way beyond the roof.

This is something that will be worn for a long time and signifies an important part of your life. As such, it is very important to be very careful while purchasing an engagement ring. You may even consider taking a friend with you who has a prior experience so that he or she can help you out in choosing the best ring that your significant other will like.

Featured photo credit: Nan Palmero via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 15, 2021

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

Posture

First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

  • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
  • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
  • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
  • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

Facial Expressions

Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

  • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
  • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
  • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

2. Relax Your Face

New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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3. Improve Your Eye Contact

Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

3. Smile More

There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

4. Hand Gestures

Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

5. Enhance Your Handshake

In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

“Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

Final Takeaways

Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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