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3 Life Lessons You Can Learn From Taking Care Of Elders

3 Life Lessons You Can Learn From Taking Care Of Elders

What can you do when you are broke, you’ve lost all your hope in landing a decent job and your life is literally falling into pieces?

Most people just take a couple of days and rethink their entire existence, planning their next step; the step that is going to put them back on track. But I know someone who took one of the biggest challenges you could think of: my friend got hired at an elders caring facility.

He’s been working there for less than one year, but when I met him I noticed how much he changed. He is not the same guy, even if he still wears red sneakers and he puts his baseball cap in reverse. He is a changed man. He made me realize that working in healthcare is a rewarding and character-building activity, which leaves a strong mark on anyone who is daring enough to take up this huge responsibility. That elderly care facility turned my friend, who was a mamma’s boy, a spoiled, winning kid, into a real man. He’s not a kid anymore, he’s a man!

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From a broke e-cig addict to a responsible adult

My friend, let’s call him A, finished his studies with a major in Art and tried to secure a job, but failed each time. He worked as a dishwasher, he walked dogs, he even worked as a real estate agent’s assistant. But he was kicked out from all these jobs. Without perspectives, he moved back to his small town and started to look for a job. Any job! He found a job in healthcare, at a medical facility, no experience needed.

After the interview and all the check-ups, he landed at an assisted living house, where he is taking care of senior people. Despite the fact that all his other colleagues have a degree in gerontology or at least a degree in healthcare administration, my friend was accepted and he actually enjoys his work.

He makes sure none of the 60 seniors falls while moving around, he gives occasional haircuts, he makes sure everyone is well fed and wash. Then, he takes his time to learn from them, by simply being their companion, which taught him important life lessons.

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1.You learn to care more

Elders care more than millennials and younger generations are capable of caring. While working with elders and being around them daily, you simply learn that the small things are important in life. That is what makes one care about his life, other people’s life and the environment.

When you care, you go that extra mile without feeling you’ve done it. You listen, you really listen, when you care, which comes with a huge advantage both in your personal life and your professional life.

2. You learn to value humans and human interaction

Millennials are good at technology, but this has made us more like robots. We text, we send emoticons and we know how to chat over the latest apps, but we have no idea what to do when we are face to face with another human, without a phone.

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This lack of human interaction made young generations insensitive to fellow humans. Working with living people who can share loads of stories with you, as well as hugs, is going to make you value humans more than you value your smartphone. You are going to become a real human again, stripped of all the technology that surrounds us daily. This is going to improve your social skills, which will benefit your relationships.

3. Life is a struggle

When you take care of seniors, they will share with you, their own struggles of life. As millennials, we have a lot to endure, from the fact we can’t afford a house to the inability to secure a high-paying job and to raise kids. But when you listen to what older generations had to endure, you realize life is a struggle for everyone.

My friend’s new senior friends had to deal with wars, the threat of nuclear apocalypse and economic depression. Despite all these, they managed to raise kids and have successful careers.

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They are the living proof that us, the millennials, are going to thrive, even if some of us now seem to hit the rock bottom. Yes, we are in a huge student debt, which is a new challenge, but our grandparents also had to deal with the atomic bomb, which was a new challenge at the time.

In conclusion, life is a struggle for everyone, so just go out there and fight. You will manage to craft yourself a beautiful life, just like our elders did.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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