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3 Life Lessons You Can Learn From Taking Care Of Elders

3 Life Lessons You Can Learn From Taking Care Of Elders

What can you do when you are broke, you’ve lost all your hope in landing a decent job and your life is literally falling into pieces?

Most people just take a couple of days and rethink their entire existence, planning their next step; the step that is going to put them back on track. But I know someone who took one of the biggest challenges you could think of: my friend got hired at an elders caring facility.

He’s been working there for less than one year, but when I met him I noticed how much he changed. He is not the same guy, even if he still wears red sneakers and he puts his baseball cap in reverse. He is a changed man. He made me realize that working in healthcare is a rewarding and character-building activity, which leaves a strong mark on anyone who is daring enough to take up this huge responsibility. That elderly care facility turned my friend, who was a mamma’s boy, a spoiled, winning kid, into a real man. He’s not a kid anymore, he’s a man!

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From a broke e-cig addict to a responsible adult

My friend, let’s call him A, finished his studies with a major in Art and tried to secure a job, but failed each time. He worked as a dishwasher, he walked dogs, he even worked as a real estate agent’s assistant. But he was kicked out from all these jobs. Without perspectives, he moved back to his small town and started to look for a job. Any job! He found a job in healthcare, at a medical facility, no experience needed.

After the interview and all the check-ups, he landed at an assisted living house, where he is taking care of senior people. Despite the fact that all his other colleagues have a degree in gerontology or at least a degree in healthcare administration, my friend was accepted and he actually enjoys his work.

He makes sure none of the 60 seniors falls while moving around, he gives occasional haircuts, he makes sure everyone is well fed and wash. Then, he takes his time to learn from them, by simply being their companion, which taught him important life lessons.

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1.You learn to care more

Elders care more than millennials and younger generations are capable of caring. While working with elders and being around them daily, you simply learn that the small things are important in life. That is what makes one care about his life, other people’s life and the environment.

When you care, you go that extra mile without feeling you’ve done it. You listen, you really listen, when you care, which comes with a huge advantage both in your personal life and your professional life.

2. You learn to value humans and human interaction

Millennials are good at technology, but this has made us more like robots. We text, we send emoticons and we know how to chat over the latest apps, but we have no idea what to do when we are face to face with another human, without a phone.

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This lack of human interaction made young generations insensitive to fellow humans. Working with living people who can share loads of stories with you, as well as hugs, is going to make you value humans more than you value your smartphone. You are going to become a real human again, stripped of all the technology that surrounds us daily. This is going to improve your social skills, which will benefit your relationships.

3. Life is a struggle

When you take care of seniors, they will share with you, their own struggles of life. As millennials, we have a lot to endure, from the fact we can’t afford a house to the inability to secure a high-paying job and to raise kids. But when you listen to what older generations had to endure, you realize life is a struggle for everyone.

My friend’s new senior friends had to deal with wars, the threat of nuclear apocalypse and economic depression. Despite all these, they managed to raise kids and have successful careers.

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They are the living proof that us, the millennials, are going to thrive, even if some of us now seem to hit the rock bottom. Yes, we are in a huge student debt, which is a new challenge, but our grandparents also had to deal with the atomic bomb, which was a new challenge at the time.

In conclusion, life is a struggle for everyone, so just go out there and fight. You will manage to craft yourself a beautiful life, just like our elders did.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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