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How to Fake Your Own Success

How to Fake Your Own Success

There’s a tiny little gap between suck and success — that place is called “fake it till you make it.” Throughout my entrepreneurial career, I’ve learned how to artfully master this paradise. Even in my lowest moments — I’m talking being so broke I couldn’t even afford Netflix and boxed wine — these quick tips helped me climb my way up the success ladder and fool even my toughest critics.

Dress the part.

Don’t show up to happy hour in a three piece suit. But whatever you’re wearing; own it. Put on your best look. No matter what, you must be comfortable in your own skin. When you look good, you feel good. When you feel good, you can conquer even the most awkward conversation or situation with ease.

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Speak just outside your listener’s realm of understanding.

Let’s say you’re at a cocktail party for your boyfriend’s law firm. Pick a topic that’s just outside the crowd’s realm of understanding. Don’t dive deep into corporate law. Chances are, your listener probably knows more about that topic than you do. On the same end, don’t go so far outside their realm that you find yourself talking about Beyonce’s greatest hits.

Allow one or two degrees of separation between topics. For example, you’re at a law firm. Law firms need to be organized, and stay on top of paperwork. Paperwork can be a pain in the butt, so bring up the digital atmosphere, and how going electronic with your filing heightens productivity.

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Speak with confidence.

It’s better to not speak at all than speak with hesitation. If all you can do is muster out a shaky voice, stay silent. No matter how earnest you are, insecurity isn’t convincing.

Don’t be a know-it-all.

You don’t know everything, and you never will. The most successful people accept this, and openly admit their shortcomings. Let’s say I went up to Mark Zuckerberg right now and asked, “Do you consider yourself a social media expert? Do you know everything there is to know about social media?” He would probably say, “No. That’s why Facebook is always changing.”

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Challenge the naysayers.

When you appear confident, some people will question you. They’ll try to catch you off guard, and make you look “less than” in front of a crowd. Focus on flipping the spotlight back in their direction. Redirect with questions like, “What makes you say that?” This will force your confronter to be candid about their thought process.

Get good at self-policing.

Know when to call BS on your own progress. Admit when you’ve fallen short and dropped the ball. When you call a spade a space; no one can hate too hard on your error. But, if you’re trying to cover up all your mistakes, people will easily find fault and question your authenticity.

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Conquer mini projects.

Set small goals that pack a big punch. Instead of saying, “I want to be a writer,” say “I want to be writing for Entrepreneur Magazine by December of 2016.” Then, conquer these goals.

Take long pauses, and think before you speak.

I used to be a fast talker. Like seriously — I would trip over my own words, trying to catch up with my own brain. As a young 20 something, I tried to rush in every last thought, just so my voice would be heard. In all actuality, this was doing just the opposite. When you take your time, people pay attention. Bonus tip: Eliminate passive language and unecessary adverbs.

Create a sense of mystery.

You want people asking, “Who is that?” For them to have this burning sense of curiosity, you need to stay somewhat mysterious. Don’t go throwing your business card every which way when you attend a function. Keep your contact information exclusive. Imagine yourself to be more important than you actually are.

If you believe you’re worth the success you crave, everyone else will too.

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How to Live Longer? 21 Ways to Live a Long Life

How to Live Longer? 21 Ways to Live a Long Life

When it comes to living long, genes aren’t everything. Research has revealed a number of simple lifestyle changes you can make that could help to extend your life, and some of them may surprise you.

So, how to live longer? Here are 21 ways to help you live a long life

1. Exercise

It’s no secret that physical activity is good for you. Exercise helps you maintain a healthy body weight and lowers your blood pressure, both of which contribute to heart health and a reduced risk of heart disease–the top worldwide cause of death.

2. Drink in Moderation

I know you’re probably picturing a glass of red wine right now, but recent research suggests that indulging in one to three glasses of any type of alcohol every day may help to increase longevity.[1] Studies have found that heavy drinkers as well as abstainers seem to have a higher risk of early mortality than moderate drinkers.

3. Reduce Stress in Your Life

Stress causes your body to release a hormone called cortisol. At high levels, this hormone can increase blood pressure and cause storage of abdominal fat, both of which can lead to an increased risk of heart disease.

4. Watch Less Television

A 2008 study found that people who watch six hours of television per day will likely die an average of 4.8 years earlier than those who don’t.[2] It also found that, after the age of 25, every hour of television watched decreases life expectancy by 22 minutes.

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Television promotes inactivity and disengagement from the world, both of which can shorten your lifespan.

5. Eat Less Red Meat

Red meat consumption is linked to an increased risk of heart disease and cancer.[3] Swapping out your steaks for healthy proteins, like fish, may help to increase longevity.

If you can’t stand the idea of a steak-free life, reducing your consumption to less than two to three servings a week can still incur health benefits.

6. Don’t Smoke

This isn’t exactly a revelation. As you probably well know, smoking significantly increases your risk of cancer.

7. Socialize

Studies suggest that having social relationships promotes longevity.[4] Although scientists are unsure of the reasons behind this, they speculate that socializing leads to increased self esteem as well as peer pressure to maintain health.

8. Eat Foods Rich in Omega-3 Fatty Acids

Omega-3 fatty acids decrease the risk of heart disease[5] and perhaps even Alzheimer’s disease.[6] Salmon and walnuts are two of the best sources of Omega-3s.

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9. Be Optimistic

Studies suggest that optimists are at a lower risk for heart disease and, generally, live longer than pessimists.[7] Researchers speculate that optimists have a healthier approach to life in general–exercising more, socializing, and actively seeking out medical advice. Thus, their risk of early mortality is lower.

10. Own a Pet

Having a furry-friend leads to decreased stress, increased immunity, and a lessened risk of heart disease.[8] Depending on the type of pet, they can also motivate you to be more active.

11. Drink Coffee

Studies have found a link between coffee consumption and longer life.[9] Although the reasons for this aren’t entirely clear, coffee’s high levels of antioxidants may play a role. Remember, though, drowning your cup of joe in sugar and whipped cream could counter whatever health benefits it may hold.

12. Eat Less

Japan has the longest average lifespan in the world, and the longest lived of the Japanese–the natives of the Ryukyu Islands–stop eating when they’re 80% full. Limiting your calorie intake means lower overall stress on the body.

13. Meditate

Meditation leads to stress reduction and lowered blood pressure.[10] Research suggests that it could also increase the activity of an enzyme associated with longevity.[11]

Taking as little as 15 minutes a day to find your zen can have significant health benefits, and may even extend your life.

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14. Maintain a Healthy Weight

Being overweight puts stress on your cardiovascular system, increasing your risk of heart disease.[12] It may also increase the risk of cancer.[13] Maintaining a healthy weight is important for heart health and living a long and healthy life.

15. Laugh Often

Laughter reduces the levels of stress hormones, like cortisol, in your body. High levels of these hormones can weaken your immune system.

16. Don’t Spend Too Much Time in the Sun

Too much time in the sun can lead to an increased risk of skin cancer. However, sun exposure is an excellent way to increase levels of vitamin D, so soaking up a few rays–perhaps for around 15 minutes a day–can be healthy. The key is moderation.

17. Cook Your Own Food

When you eat at restaurants, you surrender control over your diet. Even salads tend to have a large number of additives, from sugar to saturated fats. Eating at home will enable you to monitor your food intake and ensure a healthy diet.

Take a look at these 14 Healthy Easy Recipes for People on the Go and start to cook your own food.

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18. Eat Mushrooms

Mushrooms are a central ingredient in Dr. Joel Fuhrman’s GOMBS disease fighting diet. They boost the immune system and may even reduce the risk of cancer.[14]

19. Floss

Flossing helps to stave off gum disease, which is linked to an increased risk of cancer.[15]

20. Eat Foods Rich in Antioxidants

Antioxidants fight against the harmful effects of free-radicals, toxins which can cause cell damage and an increased risk of disease when they accumulate in the body. Berries, green tea and broccoli are three excellent sources of antioxidants.

Find out more antiosidants-rich foods here: 13 Delicious Antioxidant Foods That Are Great for Your Health

21. Have Sex

Getting down and dirty two to three times a week can have significant health benefits. Sex burns calories, decreases stress, improves sleep, and may even protect against heart disease.[16] It’s an easy and effective way to get exercise–so love long and prosper!

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Reference

[1] Wiley Online Library: Late‐Life Alcohol Consumption and 20‐Year Mortality
[2] BMJ Journals: Television viewing time and reduced life expectancy: a life table analysis
[3] Arch Intern Med.: Red Meat Consumption and Mortality
[4] PLOS Medicine: Social Relationships and Mortality Risk: A Meta-analytic Review
[5] JAMA: Fish and Omega-3 Fatty Acid Intake and Risk of Coronary Heart Disease in Women
[6] NCBI: Effects of Omega‐3 Fatty Acids on Cognitive Function with Aging, Dementia, and Neurological Diseases: Summary
[7] Mayo Clinic Proc: Prediction of all-cause mortality by the Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory Optimism-Pessimism Scale scores: study of a college sample during a 40-year follow-up period.
[8] Med Hypotheses.: Pet ownership protects against the risks and consequences of coronary heart disease.
[9] The New England Journal of Medicine: Association of Coffee Drinking with Total and Cause-Specific Mortality
[10] American Journal of Hypertension: Blood Pressure Response to Transcendental Meditation: A Meta-analysis
[11] Science Direct: Intensive meditation training, immune cell telomerase activity, and psychological mediators
[12] JAMA: The Disease Burden Associated With Overweight and Obesity
[13] JAMA: The Disease Burden Associated With Overweight and Obesity
[14] African Journal of Biotechnology: Anti-cancer effect of polysaccharides isolated from higher basidiomycetes mushrooms
[15] Science Direct: Periodontal disease, tooth loss, and cancer risk in male health professionals: a prospective cohort study
[16] AHA Journals: Sexual Activity and Cardiovascular Disease

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