How to Get Out of A Life Slump and Defeat The Blues

How to Get Out of A Life Slump and Defeat The Blues

Once upon a time, I was severely ignorant towards people who called themselves depressed, and I was harsh and angry at them because I thought of it as if it were the simplest excuse they could possibly find. Now, I can honestly say that this isn’t something you should learn from your own experience.

By nature, I’m a cynic and a pessimist, which only made it easy for depression to get to me – if you have a mindset similar to mine, you should know that you’re an easy target as well. All it takes is a little push, really, and you might not even notice how deep in you actually are until you break down into tiny puzzle pieces that are extraordinarily difficult to put together.

Like other illnesses of the mind, the cause for depression can be quite difficult to determine. Although there are familiar reasons like trauma or grief, a person who has a loving family, an interesting social life, and a successful career can also fall to their knees beneath depression, and that’s exactly what makes it so dangerous.

Keep Your Friends Close

…and your enemies even closer―you need to study depression because it’s foul and it can sneak up on you. First, you need to understand a properly functioning brain and know about the chemistry balance behind it. When a person is depressed, that balance is being violated.

It all starts with a small part of your brain called the hypothalamus, which is responsible for regulating your emotions, libido, sleep, appetite, body temperature, etc.― all the basic functions of your body. It also controls the pituitary gland, which is in charge of the primary hormones (including the happy ones) and so, your overall happiness depends on this pea-sized part of your brain.


Therefore, when you’re depressed, all of your emotions are located in the color spectrum that shows shades of blue, your libido is practically nonexistent, and your sleep habits and appetite go to either one of the two extremes. So basically, the amount of dissatisfaction you have with your life dictates the chemistry in your brain.

It’s A Bottomless Abyss

    I see depression like a big dark cave that lures you in, because it provides you with comfort in isolation. I’m sure you have watched Alice in Wonderland at least once in your life, and I’d like to remind you of the moment when she starts falling down the rabbit hole. The very same things happens to people who start falling into the depths of depression – you don’t know where you’re headed, you don’t want to get there, and it seems like a bottomless abyss.

    After that fear wears off, you decide to willingly trim the sails and ride the wave and decide to just go with it. That sort of limbo is low-maintenance, and you can exist in it without having anyone’s expectations to meet.

    Here, we arrive to the questioning everything phase and not in a curios, healthy way, but regarding the meaning and the point of existence and how random and banal everything around you is. That is when I decided that there’s no need to leave my bed.

    It’s Difficult to Recognize It

    At least before it’s too late, and especially if you have never been in a similar situation before. We all have bad days every now and then, and when you’re depressed, bad days turn into bad weeks and bad weeks turn into bad months.


    Unless you conduct healthy routines like spending some quality alone time introspecting every day and being fully familiar with the demons of your subconsciousness (which is – let’s face it – a really, really small percentage of people worldwide and most of them are professionally involved with psychology), you won’t see depression coming.

    Darkness from Within

    That’s reason enough to get very close with all symptoms that are its vanguard. Most vocabularies describe depression as a feeling of sadness, but that’s only a mere beginning, because very soon, you move on to hopelessness and severe guilt. Once you get acquainted with these dark shadows and they start following you around and messing with your mood, you should be able to notice a loss of focus and a significant decrease in your overall productivity.

    Accordingly, your confidence levels will sink to the bottoms of the deepest sees, and you’ll start doubting everything – your skills, intelligence, and the ability to make decisions. It will seem like your whole life is a delusion and that you can’t rely on your friends or your family, so those connections will begin dissolving slowly.

    This heaviness will become a physical burden and tiredness will become your constant state. In order to silence your mind, your most probable consolation will be in the form of substance abuse and chances are that you’ll get pretty creative with that matter. At this stage, people who suffer from depression are brainstorming about different ways to bring harm to themselves, as well.

    Somewhere along this ride, the responsibilities you have towards your work will stop having any weight and “worker of the month” will be the very opposite of what you are. For me, this happened in all life aspects, not just the professional one.


    The Best Defense is A Good Offense


      War is a common state in nature – exchange of power is in constant flow. War shouldn’t only have a negative connotation, because you can fight for a better life, a better job, or for the ones you love. Although the history of war is filled with ruthless dictators who wanted to conquer the world and redesign it in their own cruel image, those very monsters are an excellent background in a composition of a painting that shows heroes and demonstrates their bravery. If there wasn’t any darkness, we won’t be able to recognize the light, right?

      Break the Chains

      You are faced with two options here – you’ll either let depression destroy you or you can break these chains which are nothing more than a figment of your imagination, and a strong one for that matter. So, if you are capable of creating something that powerful, imagine what you can do when you’re free of these heavy blue shackles.

      Reach Out

      Strength comes from within. I’m positive that people who you love and who care for you deeply will throw you a rope and try to get you out of this abyss, but until you’re ready to grab it and open your mind to the world once more, their efforts will be in vain.

      If you’re a control freak, such as I’m, and you think you can do everything by yourself without anyone’s assistance, this may be a problem for you too. I was fully aware of how unhappy I am, but I needed a lot of time to realize that this isn’t a battle I can win without an army of supporters behind me.


      It’s pretty selfish of you to think that you’re alone in this or in the whole world, because you’re not – and neither was I. By refusing help, you’re not only hurting yourself, but everyone around you, and if you don’t care enough about yourself, you can find enough strength in you to fight this battle for the people who love you.

      Indulge Yourself

      No matter if this blue period lasts for months or years, it will wreck you – the longer you allow it to linger on, the more of a ruin you’ll become, until there’s nothing left but foundations of a person you once were.

      It’s never too late to fight it off, and this is one battle you cannot always win, because not a cause in the world is hopeless. The bottom line is that you deserve to be happy, and you should do everything in your power to get rid of those negative thoughts and make things happen for you.

      Because of this fact, you can either admire the ruin you once were, or, you can begin believing it was meant for them to get wrecked so you can go back to the healthy part of the temple and move on from there. This image worked for me just fine and more than that, actually, because I know exactly how to reconstruct myself and by which means I should do it.

      But, start with baby steps, because too much of everything may just get you back in bed. As a matter of fact, don’t get up yet – surround yourself with everything you love; books that make you see the world differently, watch movies that strengthen your hope, play music that awakens the most innocent feelings in you. Art is the most extraordinary creation of humankind and it will make you see why your life’s worth living.

      It’s a hell of a journey, and it won’t be easy. There will be times when you’ll think that the abyss is a comfort zone you should return to. You will be exhausted, disappointments won’t stop coming your way, and it may feel like the world is one cruel place that’s governed by fear. The scariest part of a roller-coaster ride is the free fall, isn’t it? And, it wouldn’t be any fun without the scary part, so have faith in yourself.

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      60 Things To Be Thankful For In Life

      60 Things To Be Thankful For In Life

      Sometimes it’s easier to focus on what we don’t have, rather than what we do have. It’s important to take time out and remember all of the things to be thankful for that many of us take for granted.

        Here you’ll find 60 very solid things to be thankful for in your everyday life. These are great reminders for you to treasure everything you have.

        1. Good Health

        Even if you’re health isn’t great, it could be worse and you likely still have some working parts to be thankful for.

        2. Money in the Bank

        Having just a few coins makes you richer than most people on Earth.

        3. Good Friends

        Often, it’s the quality of friendships, not the quantity.

        4. Freedom of Religion

        Being able to worship whomever and however you want is something many people don’t ever experience.

        5. Your Parents

        Even if they’re dysfunctional, they gave you life.

        6. Weekends

        There’s something magical about weekends.

        7.Having a Partner

        Being in a romantic relationship can teach you so much about the world and yourself.

        8. Pets

        Pets offer one of the best examples of unconditional love.

        9. Learning from Mistakes

        If we never made mistakes, we wouldn’t learn much so it is one of those things we should be thankful for.

        10. Opportunity to Get an Education

        The opportunity to attend school is something many people don’t have.


        11. Having a Home

        Whether you live in an apartment, a mansion, or a tent, having a place to call home is something to be thankful for.

        12. An Ability to Read

        If you’re reading this right now, you have a lot to be thankful for.

        13. Breathing Fresh Air

        Being able to step outside to breathe in fresh air is a good reminder how many little things we should be thankful for.

        14. A Bed to Sleep

        A bed is one of those things that’s easy to take for granted, until you don’t have one.

        15. Laughter

        Without laughter, the world would be a sad place.

        16. Safety and Security

        Being able to wake up without immense fear frees us up to really live life.

        17. Cars

        Without cars, it would take a lot longer to get our activities done.

        18. Sunshine

        The sun’s warmth can brighten any day.

        19. Time

        Although we often don’t think there’s enough of it, time is something we shouldn’t take for granted.

        20. Clean Water

        Many people on earth lack access to clean water.

        21. Cell Phones

        Cell phones make talking to loved ones easy.

        22. Love

        The world sure would be a different place if we lacked the ability to love.

        23. Books

        Books provide an opportunity to enter another world all from the comfort of your own home.


        24. Kindness of Strangers

        Never take the kindness of a stranger for granted.

        25. Campfires

        The simplicity of a campfire creates lifelong memories.

        26. Pain

        Without pain, it would be difficulty to appreciate life’s joys.

        27. Art

        The world would be less beautiful if art didn’t exist.

        28. Holidays

        Any reason to celebrate is something we should be thankful for.

        29. Freedom of Speech

        Being able to express your thoughts and feelings freely should never be taken for granted.

        30. Rainbows

        The beauty of a rainbow is unmatched.

        31. Tears

        Sometimes when there are no words to say, tears express how we feel for us.

        32. Waking up Today

        Simply waking up today means you have things to be thankful for.

        33. Indoor Plumbing

        Indoor plumbing not only provides convenience, it spares us from disease.

        34. Wisdom that Comes with Age

        Thankfully, we grow smarter over time.

        35. Mountains

        Mountains provide us with beauty and recreation.

        36. Eyesight

        Being able to see allows us to view the world’s beauty.


        37. Grocery Stores

        Grocery stores mean we don’t have to spend all of our time getting our own food.

        38. Sunsets

        Sunsets are a reminder that we should enjoy the simple things in life.

        39. Entertainment

        Entertainment gives us a way to relax and enjoy life.

        40. Your Mind

        Being able to think, remember, and solve problems sure makes life easier.

        41. Employment

        Even if you don’t like your job, being employed means someone thought you were special enough to hire.

        42. Diversity

        The world would be a boring place without diversity.

        43. Moon and Stars

        The moon and stars encourage us to dream.

        44. Electricity

        Electricity makes most of our chores efficient.

        45. Air Conditioning

        Staying cool on a hot day is something people wouldn’t have dreamed about in past centuries.

        46. Hearing

        Being able to hear your loved one’s voice is something that not everyone gets to do.

        47. Children

        Watching children laugh, grow, and dream can keep things in perspective.

        48. Ability to Learn

        The ability to learn new things means we have endless potential.

        49. People Willing to Teach

        Whether it’s your grandmother teaching you to knit or your plumber showing you how to prevent future problems, be grateful that others are willing to use their time and talents to teach you something new.


        50. Oceans

        The sea creatures in the ocean almost seem too mystical to be real.

        51. Modern Medicine

        Without advances in modern medicine, many of us wouldn’t be alive.

        52. Music

        Music brings out new emotions.

        53. Entrepreneurs

        Some of life’s best inventions resulted from an entrepreneur who was willing to take a risk.

        54. Warm Clothing

        On a cold day, there’s nothing more important than warm clothing.

        55. Freedom to Vote

        Being able to have a say in the laws should never be taken for granted.

        56. An Internet Connection

        It’s hard to believe how easy it is to take the internet for granted, seeing how none of us had just a couple of decades ago.

        57. Challenges

        Without challenges in life, we wouldn’t be the people we are now.

        58. Hiking Trails

        Hiking trails give us the chance to enjoy mother’s nature beauty.

        59. Vaccines

        Many of us wouldn’t be alive without today’s vaccinations.

        60. Armed Forces

        Our lives would likely be very different if we didn’t have protection from the armed forces.

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