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4 Things You can Do to Turn Your Kids Into High Achievers

4 Things You can Do to Turn Your Kids Into High Achievers

I recently talked to a friend who’s raising a boy about different parenting methods and he said that he doesn’t give the whole thing much thought; after all, his parents let him bang his head all he wanted and he turned out to be just fine.

That is true and he is quite a character, but I disagree with his ignorance regarding parenting. Although you shouldn’t keep your kid under a glass bell and prevent them from experience the good and the bad in the world, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t guide them towards a concrete goal – to make your children high achievers.

Raising my girl has so far been a very rich experience for me and I expect nothing less than that in the future. She showed various talents and aspirations and I’m very satisfied with where she’s headed, which is why I’d like to share several things I have learned so far.

1. An Early Start

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    It’s never too early to start this process. Some parents neglect their careers in order to devote their full time and attention to raising a high achiever and I believe this is a mistake – the fact that you have a child doesn’t mean you should stop being a complete person.

    A very important thing here is balance. Investing everything you have in your child’s future will put a lot of pressure on them and that is a ticking time bomb waiting to explode sooner or later. It is possible to mold a brilliant mind without it snapping.

    So, keep your career, don’t put all the weight of the world on your child’s back, but do pay close attention to their development by keeping track of affinities they manifest during all kinds of activities like precise coloring, extra developed motor skills, etc. That way, your kid will be aware of their capacities very early, which is a major confidence boost, and confidence plays a very important role in molding your child into a high achiever.

    2. Creative Upbringing Methods

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      Most parents present themselves as an authority figure and they never leave that position. If you consider doing this, you should know that “Because I said so” won’t work forever. In fact, you can be sure that it will cause rebellion at an early age and there’s very little you can do about that in case you don’t change.

      No, you shouldn’t be just friends with your child because they do need a guide, but you can be a parent/friend, which I believe is a perfect balance. As soon as your child starts talking and their sentences start to make sense, everything you two do together should be a matter of agreement. If you want them to clean their room, explain why that is necessary – that simple.

      Also, the old reward/punishment system should be upgraded a bit, because it’s not all black and white in parenting. Naturally, you should teach your child that bad actions have their consequences and that being helpful and productive has its reward, but there’s so much more to parenting than this.

      3. Learning Is Fun

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        Which brings me to my next point – you can and should indulge your child’s curiosity. Allow them to try as many things possible and enable them to discover the world by themselves and experience as much as possible – with your supervision, obviously. Children’s minds are like sponges and they gather absolutely everything they see, feel, smell, taste and touch.

        Acting this way and introducing them to the world in this manner will enable them to lower confusion levels maximally, boost their confidence even more and help them develop resourcefulness, which is a magnificently useful tool to have.

        You should also explore the meaning of a growth mindset and try to plant this kind of approach into your child’s mind, because it will enable them to look at problems as a challenge that requires a unique solution and not as something that causes anxiety and frustration.

        4. Freedom of Choice

        This is a part I’d like to emphasize because it is a common mistake a lot of parents out there make. You must have had daydreams about what you want your child to be when he or she grows up, but you should make peace with the fact that they are not an extension of you that exists to fulfill your long-lost aspirations.

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        It would be nice if your child actually turns out to be a healthcare expert who invents a medicine, an extremely talented dancer who charms the whole world with the elegance of movement or a legend of football who will go right down in history. A truly successful high achiever needs to do what they actually enjoy doing.

        The bottom line is that you want your child to be happy, so don’t forget to enable them to have a careless childhood and this is something that slips parents’ minds very often. Basically, you should introduce discipline and hard work without presenting them as must-do obligations and shower them with affection and support whenever possible – this is a balance you need to strive towards.

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        Published on April 9, 2021

        50 Single Mom Quotes On Staying Strong And Loving

        50 Single Mom Quotes On Staying Strong And Loving

        Being a mom is not easy. Being a single mom is even more challenging. Having children means you are on the job 24/7. Even while you are sleeping, you are still ready to wake at the slightest peep because that is what moms do.

        Moms, especially single moms, need more people cheering them on. Your love and care matter to your kids. You are their superhero. I think single moms are superheroes, too.

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        The quotes below are words of encouragement for all of the single moms out there. Keep up the great work! Your hard work will pay off. Someday, they will be grown up and living on their own. Your job will never truly be done as a mom, but you can pat yourself on the back today and every day for doing mom duty day in and day out.

        Here are 50 single mom quotes to encourage all the single moms out there.

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        1. “Being raised by a single mother, I learned to appreciate and value independent women.”—Kenny Conley
        2. “As a single mum you’ll discover inner strengths and capabilities you never knew you had.”—Emma-Louise Smith
        3. “One thing I know for sure – this motherhood thing is not for sissies.”—Jennifer Nettles
        4. “Mothers and their children are in a category all their own. There’s no bond so strong in the entire world. No love so instantaneous and forgiving.”—Gail Tsukiyama
        5. “And one day she discovered that she was fierce and strong, and full of fire and that not even she could hold herself back because her passion burned brighter than her fears.”—Mark Anthony
        6. “She never quite leaves her children at home, even when she doesn’t take them along.”—Margaret Culkin Banning
        7. “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”—Alice Walker
        8. “Everyone has inside of her a piece of good news. The good news is that you don’t know how great you can be, how much you can love, what you can accomplish, and what your potential is.”—Anne Frank
        9. “Doubt is a killer. You just have to know who you are and what you stand for.”—Jennifer Lopez
        10. “You are more powerful than you know; you are beautiful just as you are.”—Melissa Etheridge
        11. “Motherhood is the greatest thing and the hardest thing.”—Ricki Lake
        12. “You don’t take a class; you’re thrown into motherhood and learn from experience.”—Jennie Finch
        13. “If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more. If you look at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough.”—Oprah Winfrey
        14. “I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will.”—Charlotte Brontë
        15. “Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.”—Nora Ephron
        16. “When a woman becomes her own best friend life is easier.”—Diane Von Furstenberg
        17. “If you want something said, ask a man; if you want something done, ask a woman.”—Margaret Thatcher
        18. “Women have discovered that they cannot rely on men’s chivalry to give them justice.”—Helen Keller
        19. “Successful mothers are not the ones that have never struggled. They are the ones that never give up, despite the struggles.”—Sharon Jaynes
        20. “Success, they taught me, is built on the foundation of courage, hard work, and individual responsibility. Despite what some would have us believe, success is not built on resentment and fears.”—Susana Martinez
        21. “You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”—Maya Angelou
        22. “The question isn’t who’s going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.”—Ayn Rand
        23. “God could not be everywhere, and therefore he made mothers.”—Rudyard Kipling
        24. “The women whom I love and admire for their strength and grace did not get that way because stuff worked out. They got that way because stuff went wrong, and they handled it. They handled it in a thousand different ways on a thousand different days, but they handled it. Those women are my superheroes.”—Elizabeth Gilbert
        25. “There will be so many times you feel like you failed. But in the eyes, ears, and mind of your child, you are a SUPER MOM.”—Stephanie Precourt
        26. “Motherhood is the ultimate call to sacrifice.”—Wangechi Mutu
        27. “We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.”—Maya Angelou
        28. “A mother’s arms are more comforting than anyone else’s.”—Princess Diana
        29. “There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.”—Jill Churchill
        30. “There’s no doubt that motherhood is the best thing in my life. It’s all that really matters.”—Courtney Cox
        31. “I realized when you look at your mother, you are looking at the purest love you will ever know.”—Mitch Albom
        32. “I have found being a mother has made me emotionally raw in many situations. Your heart is beating outside your body when you have a baby.”—Kate Beckinsale
        33. “Single moms, you are a doctor, a teacher, a nurse, a maid, a cook, a referee, a heroine, a provider, a defender, a protector, a true Superwoman. Wear your cape proudly.”—Mandy Hale
        34. “I’m not really single. I mean, I am, but I have a son. Being a single mother is different from being a single woman.”—Kate Hudson
        35. “Being a single parent is twice the work, twice the stress, and twice the tears but also twice the hugs, twice the love, and twice the pride.”—Unknown
        36. “For me, motherhood is learning about the strengths I didn’t know I had, and dealing with the fears I didn’t know existed.”—Halle Berry
        37. “A single mom tries when things are hard. She never gives up. She believes in her family, even when things are tough. She knows that above all things… a mother’s love is more than enough.”—Denice Williams
        38. “You do the best you can. Some days you feel really good about yourself and some days you don’t.”—Katie Holmes
        39. “I would say to any single parent currently feeling the weight of stereotype or stigmatization that I am prouder of my years as a single mother than of any other part of my life.”JK Rowling
        40. “Just because I am a single mother doesn’t mean I cannot be a success.”—Yvonne Kaloki
        41. “I didn’t plan on being a single mom, but you have to deal with the cards you are dealt the best way you can.”—Tichina Arnold
        42. “Nothing you do for children is ever wasted.”—Garrison Keillor
        43. “A single mom tries when things are hard. She never gives up. She believes in her family, even when things are tough. She knows that above all things, a mother’s love is more than enough.”—Deniece Williams
        44. “Motherhood has a very humanizing effect. Everything gets reduced to essentials.”—Meryl Streep
        45. “Having kids—the responsibility of rearing good, kind, ethical, responsible human beings—is the biggest job anyone can embark on.”—Maria Shriver
        46. “Mother is a verb. It’s something you do. Not just who you are.”—Cheryl Lacey Donovan
        47. “A mother’s love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dates all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path.”—Agatha Christie
        48. “A mother’s arms are more comforting than anyone else’s.”—Princess Diana
        49. “The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world.”—W.R. Wallace
        50. “Being a mother is the greatest blessing and the hardest challenge in all of life.”—Dr. Magdalena Battles

        Final Thoughts

        Single moms are remarkable women. They are to be respected and honored for all that they do. If you know a single mom, then share this article with them. Tell them “you are doing a great job as a single mom.” They need our encouragement and support.

        They may be parenting alone, but it is good to let them know that there are people in their life who care for them. We can all be there for the single moms out there. Even if it is just to say, “keep up the great work, you are an amazing woman!”

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        If you are a single mom, keep up the good work! You are amazing, and your kids are lucky to have you!

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