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5 Steps to A Happier Day (Every Single Day!)

5 Steps to A Happier Day (Every Single Day!)

There’s so much negativity in the world right now. It’s important that you understand how significant the little things are in life and how they impact your overall level of happiness on a daily basis.

Here are 5 practical tips you can implement as soon as today!

1. Wake Up Earlier

You don’t have to wake up before the rooster crows, but you should get out of bed earlier than usual. By waking up 30 minutes to an hour earlier, you’ll discover that you have that much more time to enjoy yourself.

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Use this time to do something that makes you happy. You could read a book, listen to music, or enjoy a cup of coffee on the porch. Or, perhaps you could draw, paint, or assemble puzzles. If you’re a baker, you could make a delicious treat for later.

While some people wake up earlier and then rush off to work, use this time to do something you enjoy. You’ll notice just how much happier you are when your day starts off right.

2. Eat The Frog First

There’s a popular saying that goes, “Eat the frog first.” The basic gist of the saying is that you should do the things that you dread the most at the very beginning of the day.

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When you arrive at work, make it a point to ‘eat the frog first’. This could mean writing up a report, updating the budget, or dealing with accounting issues. “Whatever it is, do that one thing first and it will likely help you feel less stressed throughout the day knowing you don’t still have your most dreaded task ahead of you,” Zip Schedules, a leader in online employee scheduling software, points out on their blog.

3. Turn Off the News

While many people enjoy turning on the evening news after they get home from work, the reality is that there isn’t much happiness in these stories. It’s all about war, terrorism, natural disasters, and political feuds. In reality, very few of the topics discussed on the news will actually have a tangible impact on your day. So, why immerse yourself in the negativity? Turn off the news and watch a sitcom, play a game, or read a book.

4. Compliment Others

There is something incredibly powerful about dishing out compliments. While compliments certainly make others feel good, they actually make the giver feel even better in many cases.

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When you make it a priority to give compliments, you’re actively spending less time thinking about yourself and more time noticing the wonderful things around you. And when you open your eyes up and start thinking positively, you’ll notice that there’s actually a lot of good stuff happening.

5. Spend Time Outdoors

How many hours do you spend cooped up inside? Well, according to Amy Westervelt of Forbes, we spend around 90 percent of our time indoors. That’s pretty depressing!

According to research published in the Harvard Health Letter, spending time outdoors can actually have a tangible impact on your overall level of happiness. “Light tends to elevate people’s mood, and there’s usually more light available outside than in,” the report reads. “Physical activity has been shown to help people relax and cheer up, so if being outside replaces inactive pursuits with active ones, it might also mean more smiles.”

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Discover The Happier You

We all have the right to be happy. For some of us, being cheerful comes naturally. However, for millions of people, happiness feels like it’s elusive and buried deep beneath the surface. The good news is that by developing positive habits and weeding the negativity out of your life, you can enjoy happier days – every day!

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Last Updated on July 10, 2020

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

Boundaries are limits

—they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

1. Self-Awareness Comes First

Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

  • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
  • When do you feel disrespected?
  • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
  • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
  • When do you want to be alone?
  • How much space do you need?

You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

2. Clear Communication Is Essential

Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

Sample language:

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  • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
  • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
  • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
  • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
  • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
  • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
  • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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Final Thoughts

Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

Featured photo credit: Thomas Kelley via unsplash.com

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