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52 Amazing Ways to Give People What They Want

52 Amazing Ways to Give People What They Want

Admit it. You’re sick of being invisible with no clue how to grab attention. You’d prefer people hate you, because at least then people would notice, but the worst is when you’re ignored.

How do you stand out in a noisy world with limitless choices? The answer is easy; provide value. The way to do it is shockingly simple: Give people what they want. Catapult your value game with these 52 phenomenal tips.

1. Admit your mistakes.

If you’ve ever been in a relationship with a person who can’t admit they’re wrong, you know the frustration. No one’s perfect. Humility builds trust. Be quick to apologize and take responsibility.

2. Learn from others’ mistakes.

I grew up in the ghetto and watched people throw their lives away through drug addiction and other vices. I didn’t need to smoke crack to know it was a boneheaded move. Avoid other people’s pitfalls, and shorten the learning curve. It’s the quickest path to success.

3. Combine things.

Books and coffee, cookies and cream, sandwich meat and bread, flowers and chocolates, go well together. Amazing combinations can be obvious or unusual. When you combine great things, you create synergy and opportunities for exponential value growth.

4. Simplify.

As an author, I’ve learned efficient speech and straightforward plots are preferable to redundant words and confusing storylines. Stephen King agrees in his epic masterpiece On Writing.

The concept is the same in life. People want simplicity. Fancy features and limitless choices confuse and frustrate. Find ways to remove the clutter, and you’ll save people time and effort.

5. Give business away to your competitors.

Refer people to others when it’s a better fit. If you lack the expertise or ability to provide value, refer people to someone who can. It will engender goodwill from industry leaders and trust with future clients.

6. Surround yourself with successful people.

If you spend time with value experts, it will rub off. If you hang out with unmotivated losers, ditto.

7. Keep the focus on them.

Ever had a dinner date who wouldn’t stop talking about themselves? How did you feel?

Too much focus on your desires cripples your awareness of those around you. Don’t convince others of your greatness. Instead, learn what you can do for them.

8. Ask them.

Do you remember a day when everything went wrong? I’m talking epic bad day, one when you spilled coffee on yourself and hit all the lights on the way to work. You were certain nothing could change it. Then, something happened.

Someone noticed the frustration on your face. You didn’t have to tell them. They simply asked: Is there anything I can do? With those few words, they disarmed you. They were sincere, and you knew it.

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Learn to ask. You may not get the complete picture, but it’s a starting point. From there, you can maneuver to find the right path.

9. Listen.

Ever poured your heart and soul to someone only to discover they weren’t paying attention? You wanted their advice, but ended up frustrated and forced to repeat yourself.

Don’t just hear what people have to say, actively listen. Better yet, write it down. Keep track of what people say most often. You will gain a clearer picture of what they want and how you can provide value.

10. Dig deeper.

As Simon Sinek would say, Start With The Why. Why do they do what they do? What’s the desire that burns in their heart? We all have the same underlying emotions. We seek love, security, and acceptance. We have passion but are often stymied by fear. Behavior is a reaction to that emotion.

Discover the why, and you can service that need. Unveil the real reason behind people’s actions, and you can fulfill their desires.

11. Ask other people.

People often lie to themselves and tell you what you want to hear. If you’ve ever been told how great you look in a dreadful outfit you get the idea.

Ask someone’s friends to get a better picture. The principle is the same in business. Don’t know how to fulfill a need? Ask someone with insight. People aren’t always aware of what issue they want resolved, but experts can reveal what plagues the user.

12. Reflect.

Create a frequent sounding board for input. Reflection crystallizes the truth and minimizes self-deceit. Make reflection a regular part of business and relationships.

13. Accept gifts.

Ever see a kid’s face light up after you gave them the perfect gift? Didn’t it feel great? Don’t be a Scrooge. Promote a sense of joy and connection. Accept gifts, and create opportunities for others to do the same.

14. Tell them.

Sometimes people need handholding. State how they’ll benefit. Don’t overdo it; just be honest and concise. That’s effective marketing.

15. Be honest.

Honesty is hard, but so are most things that matter. Break through the fear barrier and tell the truth. You’ll create trust and provide actionable advice. Your bravery will establish respect and a loyal following.

16. Research.

Discover if your idea is already being used and how many people you can help. What’s required to launch your product, and what’s the best pricing strategy? Research can direct you to other ideas you might have overlooked. A little research goes a long way.

17. Ask for help.

Don’t be afraid to involve other people when your grand idea hits a snag in execution. Visionary brilliance is the foresight to share the load and forgo the desire to micromanage every minute detail of an operation.

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Delegation is a priceless trait of successful people. Ask for help when you’re stuck and allow humility to increase your value.

18. What’s bothering you?

If you’ve ever experienced a frustration and wondered why someone didn’t handle a problem that seemed simple enough to fix, you’ve stumbled on a potential way to add value. This is especially powerful when you have expertise in that specific field.

Don’t let your frustrations go to waste. Use those obstacles as opportunities to give people what they want.

19. Eliminate problems.

Once you find problems, uncover ways to fix them. Don’t sell yourself short and assume someone’s already taken action. In relationships, it’s all about problem-solving. The more you solve, the more you’ll look like a guru.

20. Anticipate.

What new problems will products create? What issues lie down the road? Anticipate them, and you’ll create more opportunities to provide value.

If you’re great at anticipation, you can create solutions and services to your own pipeline of products. Printer ink is the perfect example. With no printer, there’s little need for ink. Same goes for software and computers or apps and smartphones. Don’t leave anything to chance; be one step ahead, and create the need.

21. What are other people doing?

What are successful people doing now to give people what they want? What about those in healthy relationships? Talk to people who’ve been together for decades and ask them their secret.

22. What’s working now?

Discover what’s hot, and you’ll glimpse how to give people what they want. You can’t chase every trend, but popular products reveal surprising insights and can steer you in the right direction.

23. Execute great service.

People want amazing service, so give it to them. Customer service has steadily declined, and that’s a frequent event in new businesses. If you want to reveal ways to increase value, enhance your service. You can even charge more without losing loyal customers.

24. Learn from failure.

Failure is life’s great teacher. Be smart and learn from those failures. Reflect on why they occurred and what you can do to improve in the future.

25. Smile.

Happiness is contagious. Always make an effort to smile.

26. Say thank you.

Be gracious. A simple thank you demands respect.

27. Write it down.

Record what works. Failure to keep track of what people like will transform your successes into tragic losses.

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28. Repeat your successes.

It’s a no-brainer, but you’d be surprised how many people don’t bother to capitalize on past triumphs. Avoid the temptation of shiny objects in the distance. If someone liked something the first go-round, chances are they’ll like it the second.

29. Say no.

You can’t say yes to everything. Don’t be afraid to say no when it’s not an ideal fit. Select wisely so you can give people more of what they want.

30. Cut the cord.

Some relationships become counter-productive. Cut the cord and move on when you can’t add value. It will save everyone valuable energy.

31. Mentor.

Take Jack Canfield’s advice in The Success Principles, and supercharge your legacy. Help someone else avoid your mistakes and build on your successes. You’ll both gain tremendous benefit.

32. Look for ways to improve.

Avoid complacency, especially in exceptional times. Take the opportunity to analyze your delivery, cost, quality, and features. What can you improve? What problems still exist?

In relationships, seek ways to be creative. Push yourself beyond your comfort zone. Leverage your successes or you’ll get crushed when the wind shifts.

33. Think before you speak.

Before you hit send on that text or email, before you open your mouth to destroy someone who just insulted you, think about the impact of your words. Be the better person. Be specific about how they can improve, and do it without being destructive, or keep quiet until you can.

34. Think before you act.

Don’t behave in a way you’ll regret later. If you’re upset, tired, or otherwise compromised, remove yourself from the situation. Return the next day with fresh eyes. You’ll thank yourself later.

35. Test.

Don’t let impatience keep you from testing the waters. Before you spend a boatload of resources, test out your idea in a small way. What doesn’t work on a tiny scale has little chance on a larger one.

36. Be punctual.

Don’t expect people to believe you value their time if you’re late. You don’t want your time wasted, so treat them with the same respect.

37. Slow down.

Added thought and reflection provides more value. Don’t rush.

38. Pay attention to detail.

When you respect the little things, people will marvel at your extraordinary work.

39. Give your best effort.

When you do your best, you’ll have the best opportunity to give people what they want. They’ll also be more inclined to forgive you when you screw up.

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40. Eliminate fears.

Research common objections. Eliminate the problems, and communicate the solutions. Fear elimination provides its own value, but it also disarms and creates opportunities.

41. Get personal.

Doesn’t it feel fantastic when someone calls you by your name? Show a personal touch, and you’ll be rewarded.

42. Drop an occasional note.

Create a regular system of thank-you and greeting cards to friends and clients. Mail them out on holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries. Sometimes it will be the only note they receive.

43. Don’t over-promise.

Promise less. Follow Scotty’s lead in the original Star Trek, who always told Captain Kirk it would take longer than it would to fix the problem. People will be pleasantly surprised when you over-deliver.

44. Keep your promises.

Once you promise, keep your word. Reliability is a must.

45. Be consistent.

Ever cut your hair at a salon with a different result each time? Did you keep returning? Customers want consistency. Don’t expect to stay in business if you aren’t predictable or reliable.

46. Use systems.

Michael Gerber’s The E-Myth Revisited explains how systems prevent overwork, maintain quality and consistency, and allow for expansion. Effective use of systems creates maximum value. Ignore them at your peril.

47. Pay attention.

Has the blur of life distracted you? Ever broken free from that routine and woken up to dramatic change? Stay relevant and dialed into the needs of others. Pay attention to the subtle signs before they leave you behind.

48. Be flexible.

Adapt or become obsolete. Be like the blade of grass instead of the stiff branch. Give people what they want not what you want. Squash your ego. Be effective, and embrace the change.

49. Keep learning.

Flexibility requires learning. Everything requires learning. Transform your wasted time into opportunities for growth. Become a lifelong learner and you will help more people.

50. Set the example.

People are always watching, so model the action you want people to follow. Strive to behave like those you seek to emulate, and people will benefit from your example.

51. Don’t give up.

You’re guaranteed to fail if you don’t try, so don’t give up. When you persevere through the pain, you’ll transform and grow. Eventually, you’ll reveal the hidden path to added value.

52. Demonstrate integrity.

Trust creation is essential in any healthy relationship. Develop trust through principles of integrity: Honesty, fidelity, discipline, and excellence. Integrity will raise your game to the next level.

If you truly want to give people what they want, step up and take control. Don’t go back to your same old ways. The ball is in your court. Make the change. Bury your fear, and take action.

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How to Work Hard the Smart Way: 4 Daily Rituals to Follow

How to Work Hard the Smart Way: 4 Daily Rituals to Follow

Habits are what sets an average leader apart from a great leader. We can argue that talent is the biggest factor; we may debate how the amount of charisma sets the two apart. Yet, if you were to show me what you believed to be a great leader, I can show you the habits that made her/him great. Great leaders have great habits and know how to work hard the smart way.

Developing Great Habits Is Hard Work

In my early college days, I had spent a lot of time learning how to play the trumpet. Playing the trumpet took time and discipline. I had some natural talent, but not enough to hide my lack of ability. My trumpet teacher was a man of discipline, and there was no doubt he had talent. What stood to me was his work ethic. He had to be one of the hardest working mentors that I had the privilege of working with.

One afternoon, I was in his office getting ready for my weekly trumpet lesson. As I was preparing, my eyes scanned the room and saw that there were quotes all over his office. My eyes rested on one quote that forever changed my thinking about my playing. It was a quote from my high school basketball coach Tim Notke that would become popular through professional athletes Kevin Durant and Tim Tebow:

“Hard work beats talent when talent fails to work hard.”

Hard work trumps talent. The key to success is not found in your talent or ability. Talent and ability are necessary, but they are not the primary factors. They are supporting roles in the story you are writing.

Ultimately, hard work is the key to your success. A good work ethic creates the momentum that propels you forward towards your goals.

Motivation Is Not the Answer

How many times have you seen someone go to a conference, get inspired, and then come home and do nothing?

If motivation were the answer, the world would have transformed hundreds of times over. Yet, when we look out our doors or turn on the news, we do not see a utopian society.

We have thousands of people who become inspired but lack the work ethic to apply anything they have learned. Time and time again frustration creeps in. We are so motivated and inspired by what we see but fail to put in place the things that would change our lives.

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Frustration happens when the gap between what you expect to be true and what is true gets bigger. Motivation tends to create an expectation that is not rooted in reality. We want to take on the world but cannot get off Netflix long enough to do so.

Motivation is not the answer, but working hard is. Good habits and routines that produce success are the byproducts of a strong work ethic. The habits and routines we create and follow are the foundation on which we build a winning life.

How to Work Hard by Working Smarter

Here are 4 routines that will help you learn how to work hard and achieve your short term and long term goals.

1. Define What a Win Looks Like

In football, a player that crosses into the end zone gain points. In soccer, a player kicks the ball into the net to score. Hockey, lacrosse, and basketball are all the same. The player takes the object and moves it into the designated area to gain points. The team with the most points wins the game.

Why is it that we can define what a win looks like in sports, but we fail to do so in our leadership, our businesses, or our homes?

Learning how to work hard without setting a target is futile. It is insanity to work hard without having a clear direction to place your energy. I would argue that defining a win is one of the most important routines that a leader can have. Defining a win separates superficial activity from meaningful activity.

When I define a win, I know the goal line I have to cross[1]. Knowing where the goal line is informs me of the activity I have to engage in to cross it. Without a clear direction, I am spinning my wheels hoping that I will get to a destination I haven’t defined. It is like asking a GPS for directions but failing to input the destination.

4 Steps to Define a Win
  • Know the outcome you desire.
  • Declare the outcome in specific, meaningful terms.
  • Write the outcome down.
  • Set your activity list to only do that which will complete your goals.

Let me give you an example. 15 years ago, I started speaking professionally. As a young and naïve speaker, I thought winning meant that I had to get a reaction from the audience. If they cheered, smiled, or cried, I considered myself a winner. The problem was my lack of understanding of what a win looked like. As a seasoned speaker, my wins look different.

As of today, when I speak, I am not looking for any emotional reactions from the audience. I win if, and only if, I clearly communicated my point so that anyone hearing the talk can take it and apply it to their lives that day. That is how I define a win when I speak now.

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Create a habit of declaring a win. When you do, you will see your productivity soar and your encouragement increase. Pairing a hard work ethic with wise decisions creates victory. Stop being a mouse on a wheel that goes nowhere, and start being the captain of your fleet.

2. Evaluate Your Activity

Not all activity is equal. There are things you must do, things you need to do, and things we can either give away or delete. The greatest challenge of a leader is understanding the difference. Understanding what activity is busywork and what activity is mission work is pivotal.

Not only do we need to learn how to evaluate our activity, but we must make this a core routine in our arsenal of success. Stop working so hard on everything and start learning how to work hard on the right things.

Not every activity will move the needle forward for you. In fact, you were never meant to do everything yourself! Once we stop trying to be a martyr in our leadership, we can start looking at how to take things off our plates through delegation.

Based on the Eisenhower box, there are 4 things that we look at when deciding on which activities are important:

  • Do now
  • Plan to do it later
  • Delegate to someone else
  • Delete it

Powerful questions are the way you discover if the activity is right or not:

  • Does this activity move me towards or away from my goals?
  • Do I have to do this activity or can I give this activity away to someone else?
  • Does this activity have to be now right now or can it be scheduled for later dates?
  • Does this activity have to be done at all?

Evaluating the type of activity you engage in should be a routine that you do daily. Learning how to work hard should create progress. Having a system of evaluation and a routine to do it will help.

3. Prioritize Your Calendar

If you were to show me your calendar, I could show you why you are not further along. When you lack the routine of placing things on your calendar, two things happen.

First, what does not make it on your calendar does not get done.

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It is a simple truth that is often overlooked. Your calendar contains the power to change your life. Yet, we don’t use our calendars to their fullest potential.

“You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.” -John C. Maxwell

Also, if you don’t mark you activities on your calendar, you are leaving it open to other’s priorities.

“The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.” -Stephen Covey

Having a routine in your life where you place things on your calendar is pivotal to your success. This is not a routine one should overlook.

It’s time to take your leadership and business to the next level. It’s time to start putting your daily routines on your calendar, along with your priorities.

4. Reflect on Your Day and Plan the Next

We are all about the morning routine. Whatever that looks like for you, there should be a routine in the morning that sets you up for success.

Hard work starts when your feet hit the ground in the morning. Creating the habit of winning starts with the first thing you accomplish that morning. If you win your morning, you will win your day.

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Best Morning Routine to Prepare to Work Hard

    But how often have you heard people talk about an evening routine? Tomorrow is won the day before it happens. When you fail to plan your day, you may put your effort toward in the wrong things. Route replaces routine. Indecision replaces decisiveness. Losses replace wins. The discouragement will deflate your momentum and increases the chances of procrastination. That is why we set our schedule the night before.

    “Every battle is won or lost before it is ever fought.” -Sun Tzu

    Working hard doesn’t have to be hard work. It shouldn’t take much out of you learn how to work hard as long as you work smart. Having a time where you reflect on the day and set your priorities is the difference-maker.

    Use these questions to reflect on your day:

    • What went well?
    • What didn’t go well?
    • What can I change?
    • What do I need to start doing?
    • What do I need to stop doing?

    The Bottom Line

    Navigating through life is hard work. Yet, the work doesn’t have to be hard when you work smarter. When you create routines that support your mission, you create wins. Working hard, the smart way will tip the balance in our favor.

    Boxing legend Joe Frazier said:

    “Champions aren’t made in the ring; they are merely recognized there.”

    Champions put in the hard work behind the scenes. The world recognized them as a champion when they saw the results of the hard work. Right now, you are doing the work of creating a champion in yourself.

    That work is setting your routines in order because you now know that success flows from your daily routines. If you are not experiencing the success you desire, then it is time to change things up.

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    Reference

    [1] The Balance Careers: Interview Question: “How Do You Define Success?”

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