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52 Amazing Ways to Give People What They Want

52 Amazing Ways to Give People What They Want

Admit it. You’re sick of being invisible with no clue how to grab attention. You’d prefer people hate you, because at least then people would notice, but the worst is when you’re ignored.

How do you stand out in a noisy world with limitless choices? The answer is easy; provide value. The way to do it is shockingly simple: Give people what they want. Catapult your value game with these 52 phenomenal tips.

1. Admit your mistakes.

If you’ve ever been in a relationship with a person who can’t admit they’re wrong, you know the frustration. No one’s perfect. Humility builds trust. Be quick to apologize and take responsibility.

2. Learn from others’ mistakes.

I grew up in the ghetto and watched people throw their lives away through drug addiction and other vices. I didn’t need to smoke crack to know it was a boneheaded move. Avoid other people’s pitfalls, and shorten the learning curve. It’s the quickest path to success.

3. Combine things.

Books and coffee, cookies and cream, sandwich meat and bread, flowers and chocolates, go well together. Amazing combinations can be obvious or unusual. When you combine great things, you create synergy and opportunities for exponential value growth.

4. Simplify.

As an author, I’ve learned efficient speech and straightforward plots are preferable to redundant words and confusing storylines. Stephen King agrees in his epic masterpiece On Writing.

The concept is the same in life. People want simplicity. Fancy features and limitless choices confuse and frustrate. Find ways to remove the clutter, and you’ll save people time and effort.

5. Give business away to your competitors.

Refer people to others when it’s a better fit. If you lack the expertise or ability to provide value, refer people to someone who can. It will engender goodwill from industry leaders and trust with future clients.

6. Surround yourself with successful people.

If you spend time with value experts, it will rub off. If you hang out with unmotivated losers, ditto.

7. Keep the focus on them.

Ever had a dinner date who wouldn’t stop talking about themselves? How did you feel?

Too much focus on your desires cripples your awareness of those around you. Don’t convince others of your greatness. Instead, learn what you can do for them.

8. Ask them.

Do you remember a day when everything went wrong? I’m talking epic bad day, one when you spilled coffee on yourself and hit all the lights on the way to work. You were certain nothing could change it. Then, something happened.

Someone noticed the frustration on your face. You didn’t have to tell them. They simply asked: Is there anything I can do? With those few words, they disarmed you. They were sincere, and you knew it.

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Learn to ask. You may not get the complete picture, but it’s a starting point. From there, you can maneuver to find the right path.

9. Listen.

Ever poured your heart and soul to someone only to discover they weren’t paying attention? You wanted their advice, but ended up frustrated and forced to repeat yourself.

Don’t just hear what people have to say, actively listen. Better yet, write it down. Keep track of what people say most often. You will gain a clearer picture of what they want and how you can provide value.

10. Dig deeper.

As Simon Sinek would say, Start With The Why. Why do they do what they do? What’s the desire that burns in their heart? We all have the same underlying emotions. We seek love, security, and acceptance. We have passion but are often stymied by fear. Behavior is a reaction to that emotion.

Discover the why, and you can service that need. Unveil the real reason behind people’s actions, and you can fulfill their desires.

11. Ask other people.

People often lie to themselves and tell you what you want to hear. If you’ve ever been told how great you look in a dreadful outfit you get the idea.

Ask someone’s friends to get a better picture. The principle is the same in business. Don’t know how to fulfill a need? Ask someone with insight. People aren’t always aware of what issue they want resolved, but experts can reveal what plagues the user.

12. Reflect.

Create a frequent sounding board for input. Reflection crystallizes the truth and minimizes self-deceit. Make reflection a regular part of business and relationships.

13. Accept gifts.

Ever see a kid’s face light up after you gave them the perfect gift? Didn’t it feel great? Don’t be a Scrooge. Promote a sense of joy and connection. Accept gifts, and create opportunities for others to do the same.

14. Tell them.

Sometimes people need handholding. State how they’ll benefit. Don’t overdo it; just be honest and concise. That’s effective marketing.

15. Be honest.

Honesty is hard, but so are most things that matter. Break through the fear barrier and tell the truth. You’ll create trust and provide actionable advice. Your bravery will establish respect and a loyal following.

16. Research.

Discover if your idea is already being used and how many people you can help. What’s required to launch your product, and what’s the best pricing strategy? Research can direct you to other ideas you might have overlooked. A little research goes a long way.

17. Ask for help.

Don’t be afraid to involve other people when your grand idea hits a snag in execution. Visionary brilliance is the foresight to share the load and forgo the desire to micromanage every minute detail of an operation.

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Delegation is a priceless trait of successful people. Ask for help when you’re stuck and allow humility to increase your value.

18. What’s bothering you?

If you’ve ever experienced a frustration and wondered why someone didn’t handle a problem that seemed simple enough to fix, you’ve stumbled on a potential way to add value. This is especially powerful when you have expertise in that specific field.

Don’t let your frustrations go to waste. Use those obstacles as opportunities to give people what they want.

19. Eliminate problems.

Once you find problems, uncover ways to fix them. Don’t sell yourself short and assume someone’s already taken action. In relationships, it’s all about problem-solving. The more you solve, the more you’ll look like a guru.

20. Anticipate.

What new problems will products create? What issues lie down the road? Anticipate them, and you’ll create more opportunities to provide value.

If you’re great at anticipation, you can create solutions and services to your own pipeline of products. Printer ink is the perfect example. With no printer, there’s little need for ink. Same goes for software and computers or apps and smartphones. Don’t leave anything to chance; be one step ahead, and create the need.

21. What are other people doing?

What are successful people doing now to give people what they want? What about those in healthy relationships? Talk to people who’ve been together for decades and ask them their secret.

22. What’s working now?

Discover what’s hot, and you’ll glimpse how to give people what they want. You can’t chase every trend, but popular products reveal surprising insights and can steer you in the right direction.

23. Execute great service.

People want amazing service, so give it to them. Customer service has steadily declined, and that’s a frequent event in new businesses. If you want to reveal ways to increase value, enhance your service. You can even charge more without losing loyal customers.

24. Learn from failure.

Failure is life’s great teacher. Be smart and learn from those failures. Reflect on why they occurred and what you can do to improve in the future.

25. Smile.

Happiness is contagious. Always make an effort to smile.

26. Say thank you.

Be gracious. A simple thank you demands respect.

27. Write it down.

Record what works. Failure to keep track of what people like will transform your successes into tragic losses.

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28. Repeat your successes.

It’s a no-brainer, but you’d be surprised how many people don’t bother to capitalize on past triumphs. Avoid the temptation of shiny objects in the distance. If someone liked something the first go-round, chances are they’ll like it the second.

29. Say no.

You can’t say yes to everything. Don’t be afraid to say no when it’s not an ideal fit. Select wisely so you can give people more of what they want.

30. Cut the cord.

Some relationships become counter-productive. Cut the cord and move on when you can’t add value. It will save everyone valuable energy.

31. Mentor.

Take Jack Canfield’s advice in The Success Principles, and supercharge your legacy. Help someone else avoid your mistakes and build on your successes. You’ll both gain tremendous benefit.

32. Look for ways to improve.

Avoid complacency, especially in exceptional times. Take the opportunity to analyze your delivery, cost, quality, and features. What can you improve? What problems still exist?

In relationships, seek ways to be creative. Push yourself beyond your comfort zone. Leverage your successes or you’ll get crushed when the wind shifts.

33. Think before you speak.

Before you hit send on that text or email, before you open your mouth to destroy someone who just insulted you, think about the impact of your words. Be the better person. Be specific about how they can improve, and do it without being destructive, or keep quiet until you can.

34. Think before you act.

Don’t behave in a way you’ll regret later. If you’re upset, tired, or otherwise compromised, remove yourself from the situation. Return the next day with fresh eyes. You’ll thank yourself later.

35. Test.

Don’t let impatience keep you from testing the waters. Before you spend a boatload of resources, test out your idea in a small way. What doesn’t work on a tiny scale has little chance on a larger one.

36. Be punctual.

Don’t expect people to believe you value their time if you’re late. You don’t want your time wasted, so treat them with the same respect.

37. Slow down.

Added thought and reflection provides more value. Don’t rush.

38. Pay attention to detail.

When you respect the little things, people will marvel at your extraordinary work.

39. Give your best effort.

When you do your best, you’ll have the best opportunity to give people what they want. They’ll also be more inclined to forgive you when you screw up.

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40. Eliminate fears.

Research common objections. Eliminate the problems, and communicate the solutions. Fear elimination provides its own value, but it also disarms and creates opportunities.

41. Get personal.

Doesn’t it feel fantastic when someone calls you by your name? Show a personal touch, and you’ll be rewarded.

42. Drop an occasional note.

Create a regular system of thank-you and greeting cards to friends and clients. Mail them out on holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries. Sometimes it will be the only note they receive.

43. Don’t over-promise.

Promise less. Follow Scotty’s lead in the original Star Trek, who always told Captain Kirk it would take longer than it would to fix the problem. People will be pleasantly surprised when you over-deliver.

44. Keep your promises.

Once you promise, keep your word. Reliability is a must.

45. Be consistent.

Ever cut your hair at a salon with a different result each time? Did you keep returning? Customers want consistency. Don’t expect to stay in business if you aren’t predictable or reliable.

46. Use systems.

Michael Gerber’s The E-Myth Revisited explains how systems prevent overwork, maintain quality and consistency, and allow for expansion. Effective use of systems creates maximum value. Ignore them at your peril.

47. Pay attention.

Has the blur of life distracted you? Ever broken free from that routine and woken up to dramatic change? Stay relevant and dialed into the needs of others. Pay attention to the subtle signs before they leave you behind.

48. Be flexible.

Adapt or become obsolete. Be like the blade of grass instead of the stiff branch. Give people what they want not what you want. Squash your ego. Be effective, and embrace the change.

49. Keep learning.

Flexibility requires learning. Everything requires learning. Transform your wasted time into opportunities for growth. Become a lifelong learner and you will help more people.

50. Set the example.

People are always watching, so model the action you want people to follow. Strive to behave like those you seek to emulate, and people will benefit from your example.

51. Don’t give up.

You’re guaranteed to fail if you don’t try, so don’t give up. When you persevere through the pain, you’ll transform and grow. Eventually, you’ll reveal the hidden path to added value.

52. Demonstrate integrity.

Trust creation is essential in any healthy relationship. Develop trust through principles of integrity: Honesty, fidelity, discipline, and excellence. Integrity will raise your game to the next level.

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If you truly want to give people what they want, step up and take control. Don’t go back to your same old ways. The ball is in your court. Make the change. Bury your fear, and take action.

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The Importance of Reminders (And How to Make a Reminder Work)

The Importance of Reminders (And How to Make a Reminder Work)

No matter how well you set up your todo list and calendar, you aren’t going to get things done unless you have a reliable way of reminding yourself to actually do them.

Anyone who’s spent an hour writing up the perfect grocery list only to realize at the store that they forgot to bring the list understands the importance of reminders.

Reminders of some sort or another are what turn a collection of paper goods or web services into what David Allen calls a “trusted system.”[1]

A lot of people resist getting better organized. No matter what kind of chaotic mess, their lives are on a day-to-day basis because they know themselves well enough to know that there’s after all that work they’ll probably forget to take their lists with them when it matters most.

Fortunately, there are ways to make sure we remember to check our lists — and to remember to do the things we need to do, whether they’re on a list or not.

In most cases, we need a lot of pushing at first, for example by making a reminder, but eventually we build up enough momentum that doing what needs doing becomes a habit — not an exception.

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From Creating Reminders to Building Habits

A habit is any act we engage in automatically without thinking about it.

For example, when you brush your teeth, you don’t have to think about every single step from start to finish; once you stagger up to the sink, habit takes over (and, really, habit got you to the sink in the first place) and you find yourself putting toothpaste on your toothbrush, putting the toothbrush in your mouth (and never your ear!), spitting, rinsing, and so on without any conscious effort at all.

This is a good thing because if you’re anything like me, you’re not even capable of conscious thought when you’re brushing your teeth.

The good news is you already have a whole set of productivity habits you’ve built up over the course of your life. The bad news is, a lot of them aren’t very good habits.

That quick game Frogger to “loosen you up” before you get working, that always ends up being 6 hours of Frogger –– that’s a habit. And as you know, habits like that can be hard to break — which is one of the reasons why habits are so important in the first place.

Once you’ve replaced an unproductive habit with a more productive one, the new habit will be just as hard to break as the old one was. Getting there, though, can be a chore!

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The old saw about anything you do for 21 days becoming a habit has been pretty much discredited, but there is a kernel of truth there — anything you do long enough becomes an ingrained behavior, a habit. Some people pick up habits quickly, others over a longer time span, but eventually, the behaviors become automatic.

Building productive habits, then, is a matter of repeating a desired behavior over a long enough period of time that you start doing it without thinking.

But how do you remember to do that? And what about the things that don’t need to be habits — the one-off events, like taking your paycheck stubs to your mortgage banker or making a particular phone call?

The trick to reminding yourself often enough for something to become a habit, or just that one time that you need to do something, is to interrupt yourself in some way in a way that triggers the desired behavior.

The Wonderful Thing About Triggers — Reminders

A trigger is anything that you put “in your way” to remind you to do something. The best triggers are related in some way to the behavior you want to produce.

For instance, if you want to remember to take something to work that you wouldn’t normally take, you might place it in front of the door so you have to pick it up to get out of your house.

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But anything that catches your attention and reminds you to do something can be a trigger. An alarm clock or kitchen timer is a perfect example — when the bell rings, you know to wake up or take the quiche out of the oven. (Hopefully you remember which trigger goes with which behavior!)

If you want to instill a habit, the thing to do is to place a trigger in your path to remind you to do whatever it is you’re trying to make into a habit — and keep it there until you realize that you’ve already done the thing it’s supposed to remind you of.

For instance, a post-it saying “count your calories” placed on the refrigerator door (or maybe on your favorite sugary snack itself)  can help you remember that you’re supposed to be cutting back — until one day you realize that you don’t need to be reminded anymore.

These triggers all require a lot of forethought, though — you have to remember that you need to remember something in the first place.

For a lot of tasks, the best reminder is one that’s completely automated — you set it up and then forget about it, trusting the trigger to pop up when you need it.

How to Make a Reminder Works for You

Computers and ubiquity of mobile Internet-connected devices make it possible to set up automatic triggers for just about anything.

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Desktop software like Outlook will pop up reminders on your desktop screen, and most online services go an extra step and send reminders via email or SMS text message — just the thing to keep you on track. Sandy, for example, just does automatic reminders.

Automated reminders can help you build habits — but it can also help you remember things that are too important to be trusted even to habit. Diabetics who need to take their insulin, HIV patients whose medication must be taken at an exact time in a precise order, phone calls that have to be made exactly on time, and other crucial events require triggers even when the habit is already in place.

My advice is to set reminders for just about everything — have them sent to your mobile phone in some way (either through a built-in calendar or an online service that sends updates) so you never have to think about it — and never have to worry about forgetting.

Your weekly review is a good time to enter new reminders for the coming weeks or months. I simply don’t want to think about what I’m supposed to be doing; I want to be reminded so I can think just about actually doing it.

I tend to use my calendar for reminders, mostly, though I do like Sandy quite a bit.

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Reference

[1] Getting Things Done: Trusted System

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