“Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life.” – Amy Morin.
Mental strength then is something that can be cultivated. If you are someone who wants to cultivate this mental strength and become more mentally strong, consider these 5 things that mentally strong people would never do and apply it to your own life.
They’d never judge; they gather all the facts
They would never jump to conclusions, without having all the facts and a full understanding of a person and a specific situation. They understand that doing so, is not only stupid but reveals a character flaw. And as mentally strong people they have immensely strong characters that they actively look to improve on a daily basis. Not only that, but they are aware that doing so would be a total waste of time and energy, energy that could be channeled in a more positive way.
They’d never blame difficult people in their lives; they are responsible
“When you say that someone else caused you pain, you unwittingly hand over all of your power to that person.” – Julie Peterson, Learning Mind
They are in full control of their actions and understand that only they are to blame for what they do in their lives. Any decision they make and actions they take is on them. They deal with the consequences. They don’t make excuses for what has happened. They accept full responsibility for every single thing they do. Always.
Further, by blaming difficult people, they know that you are unwillingly handing that power over to that person. They understand that they are in control, of not only their emotions but also their own happiness. They are positive, they are opportunists, and see this as an opportunity for personal growth In their own lives. They understand that difficult people arm them with this knowledge and provide them with the realization of who they don’t want to be.
They’d never lose themselves for the sake of keeping someone.
Mentally strong people know who they are and the actively seek personal growth in their lives at all times. If someone enters their lives, makes them lose their way and compromises their values and what they stand for, they will not hesitate to eradicate that person out of their lives. They are not scared to let go of things and people that do not have a positive impact on their lives. e.g. toxic people are ruthlessly eradicated.
They’d never be afraid of change and growth; change is natural
They understand that change is unavoidable. It is a way of life. It is something that you very often cannot control. This applies to both people and experiences. Subsequently, they are not scared of change. They embrace it.Advertising
Furthermore, they actively seek out new experiences. This not only pushes them out of their comfort zones, providing an opportunity for growth, but causes them to become more adaptable, strengthening who they are as people. In the long run, this sets them up for any future changes that occur naturally within their lives. They understand that change is vitally important to their happiness, even if it’s painful at times.
They’d never be mean to people; each person is facing their own unique challenges
They are kind and nice to people at all times. They understand that each and every person has their own internal battles that they are dealing with. They are also fully aware that being mean is a sign of a person’s own insecurity. As people they are secure. They are strong. They portray this in every action and emotion.Advertising
Last Updated on February 13, 2019
10 Things Happy People Do Differently
Think being happy is something that happens as a result of luck, circumstance, having money, etc.? Think again.
Happiness is a mindset. And if you’re looking to improve your ability to find happiness, then check out these 10 things happy people do differently.
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. -Dalai Lama
1. Happy people find balance in their lives.
Folks who are happy have this in common: they’re content with what they have, and don’t waste a whole lot of time worrying and stressing over things they don’t. Unhappy people do the opposite: they spend too much time thinking about what they don’t have. Happy people lead balanced lives. This means they make time for all the things that are important to them, whether it’s family, friends, career, health, religion, etc.
2. Happy people abide by the golden rule.
You know that saying you heard when you were a kid, “Do unto others as you would have them do to you.” Well, happy people truly embody this principle. They treat others with respect. They’re sensitive to the thoughts and feelings of other people. They’re compassionate. And they get treated this way (most of the time) in return.
3. Happy people don’t sweat the small stuff.
One of the biggest things happy people do differently compared to unhappy people is they let stuff go. Bad things happen to good people sometimes. Happy people realize this, are able to take things in stride, and move on. Unhappy people tend to dwell on minor inconveniences and issues, which can perpetuate feelings of sadness, guilt, resentment, greed, and anger.
4. Happy people take responsibility for their actions.
Happy people aren’t perfect, and they’re well aware of that. When they screw up, they admit it. They recognize their faults and work to improve on them. Unhappy people tend to blame others and always find an excuse why things aren’t going their way. Happy people, on the other hand, live by the mantra:
“There are two types of people in the world: those that do and those that make excuses why they don’t.”
5. Happy people surround themselves with other happy people.
One defining characteristic of happy people is they tend to hang out with other happy people. Misery loves company, and unhappy people gravitate toward others who share their negative sentiments. If you’re struggling with a bout of sadness, depression, worry, or anger, spend more time with your happiest friends or family members. Chances are, you’ll find that their positive attitude rubs off on you.
6. Happy people are honest with themselves and others.
People who are happy often exhibit the virtues of honesty and trustworthiness. They would rather give you candid feedback, even when the truth hurts, and they expect the same in return. Happy people respect people who give them an honest opinion.
7. Happy people show signs of happiness.
This one may sound obvious but it’s a key differentiator between happy and unhappy people. Think about your happiest friends. Chances are, the mental image you form is of them smiling, laughing, and appearing genuinely happy. On the flip side, those who aren’t happy tend to look the part. Their posture may be slouched and you may perceive a lack of confidence.
8. Happy people are passionate.
Another thing happy people have in common is their ability to find their passions in life and pursue those passions to the fullest. Happy people have found what they’re looking for, and they spend their time doing what they love.
9. Happy people see challenges as opportunities.
Folks who are happy accept challenges and use them as opportunities to learn and grow. They turn negatives into positives and make the best out of seemingly bad situations. They don’t dwell on things that are out of their control; rather, they seek solutions and creative ways of overcoming obstacles.
10. Happy people live in the present.
While unhappy people tend to dwell on the past and worry about the future, happy people live in the moment. They are grateful for “the now” and focus their efforts on living life to the fullest in the present. Their philosophy is:
There’s a reason it’s called “the present.” Because life is a gift.
So if you’d like to bring a little more happiness into your life, think about the 10 principles above and how you can use them to make yourself better.