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How Parents Grow While Raising Children

How Parents Grow While Raising Children

Parenthood is not for the faint of heart. You’re a nurturer, teacher, disciplinarian, cook, cleaner, taxi service, boo-boo fixer, counselor, laundress, and more. When that little bundle of pink or blue was placed in your arms, did you really know just how much your world would change? and for the better?

Having children forces us to change; it usually makes us better people. Here are some of the ways parents can and have grown themselves, while guiding their own children down the path of life.

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You become more caring

The instant you lay eyes on your newborn, you fall instantly head over heels in love. You didn’t know such an intense, powerful, all-consuming love could exist. But it does. When your baby grabs your finger, you don’t want him or her to ever let go. But they will, someday. Until then, embrace the softer side that being a parent brings out in you. Whether it’s burying a deceased fish in the backyard under the old oak tree for your tearful preschooler, or rubbing your miserable toddler’s back when she’s sick, you’ve developed a soft spot for this little person, and it spills out into how you relate to others. That’s a good thing.

You toughen up, too

Were you the type who vowed never to change a poopy diaper? Clean up vomit? Well, parenthood requires you to be tougher in some areas than you might have been before having children. Being spit on by your precious bundle of joy may be gross, but you deal with it. Diaper blow-outs? Disgusting, but it’s all a part of the package of parenthood. Sick little ones means teaching them to hit the toilet or garbage cans. And when they don’t, guess who cleans it up? You. But you can do it. Because you’re a parent now, and that’s just one of the many things you have to do.

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You are aware of the world

Maybe you didn’t grow up recycling, upcycling, conserving energy, or paying attention to the scary parts of the world. But now you’ve brought a little person into this world, and it’s your job to protect him or her. There’s no need to go overboard of course, but you want this world to be a better place for your child to grow up in. You now you find yourself sorting plastics and glass, maybe using cloth grocery bags, and even helping pick up trash at the park while on a playdate. You’re also more vigilant in crossing the street, staying safe in the parking lot, and you hold hands with your child- not only because it’s a show of affection, but it’s a way of keeping him or her safely close by.

You become a bit domesticated

Remember the endless bowls of ramen noodles you ate in order to survive in college? Now you have a little one solely dependent upon you for food. If you thought you couldn’t cook, well, you learn. You find yourself seeking out organic, all natural, locally grown, and other terms you never cared for. You maybe make homemade baby food, or only buy the best for your wee one. You also figure out how not to turn an entire load of laundry pink, and one of the biggest victories you’ll relish with fist pumps and whoops of joy, is when you successfully assemble a crib or complicated toy.

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You find your flaws and fix them

When you’re interacting with your children, helping them grow, you discover things about yourself that you really don’t want them mirroring. If you are teaching them manners, but realize you don’t say please or thank you very often, you can change that. You want to set a good example, and children look to their parents for guidance. One of the biggest shockers is when your adorable son or daughter spits out a swear word that he or she had heard you utter once or twice. Whoops! Time to check yourself.

You want to be healthier

One of the biggest punches to the gut when you’re a parent, is to create a will that establishes who will raise your child in the event that you and your significant other dies. Wait, didn’t you just give birth? Well this is all part of being a responsible parent, and it makes you realize that you’re no longer that invincible teen or college kid. You have bills and you have a child. Maybe it’s time to kick a bad habit, exercise during your lunch break, and start taking those vitamins. Even though the time available between work and parenthood is limited, you realize that you still need to take care of you, and be the healthiest parent you can be for your child.

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You are their first teacher

When you have a preschooler, you will be asked every question imaginable. It’s important that you respond to every question, and if you don’t know the answer, look it up. Your child is seeking interaction, support, and raw knowledge that you can offer him or her. However, once you begin tackling algebra and chemistry with your middle-schooler or high-schooler, Google searches will become your friend.

You are their No.1 fan

When people say time “flies by”, it’s the truth. In the blink of an eye, your child will grow from a tiny bundle of a joy to a high school senior preparing to head off to college. You will never stop being a parent, but you have just 18 years to make a huge impact, to help mold this child into an independent, caring, successful adult. Do not waste any of your time on the little things. Be present at school concerts, plays, ball games, and all the things that are important to your child. Sit down for a tea party, colour together and play catch in the yard. Let him or her know that they’re a priority in your life. Be their No.1 fan. Because someday, there won’t be piles of laundry, a sink full of dishes, or homework to do. So relish this time together.

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Published on April 9, 2021

50 Single Mom Quotes On Staying Strong And Loving

50 Single Mom Quotes On Staying Strong And Loving

Being a mom is not easy. Being a single mom is even more challenging. Having children means you are on the job 24/7. Even while you are sleeping, you are still ready to wake at the slightest peep because that is what moms do.

Moms, especially single moms, need more people cheering them on. Your love and care matter to your kids. You are their superhero. I think single moms are superheroes, too.

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The quotes below are words of encouragement for all of the single moms out there. Keep up the great work! Your hard work will pay off. Someday, they will be grown up and living on their own. Your job will never truly be done as a mom, but you can pat yourself on the back today and every day for doing mom duty day in and day out.

Here are 50 single mom quotes to encourage all the single moms out there.

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  1. “Being raised by a single mother, I learned to appreciate and value independent women.”—Kenny Conley
  2. “As a single mum you’ll discover inner strengths and capabilities you never knew you had.”—Emma-Louise Smith
  3. “One thing I know for sure – this motherhood thing is not for sissies.”—Jennifer Nettles
  4. “Mothers and their children are in a category all their own. There’s no bond so strong in the entire world. No love so instantaneous and forgiving.”—Gail Tsukiyama
  5. “And one day she discovered that she was fierce and strong, and full of fire and that not even she could hold herself back because her passion burned brighter than her fears.”—Mark Anthony
  6. “She never quite leaves her children at home, even when she doesn’t take them along.”—Margaret Culkin Banning
  7. “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”—Alice Walker
  8. “Everyone has inside of her a piece of good news. The good news is that you don’t know how great you can be, how much you can love, what you can accomplish, and what your potential is.”—Anne Frank
  9. “Doubt is a killer. You just have to know who you are and what you stand for.”—Jennifer Lopez
  10. “You are more powerful than you know; you are beautiful just as you are.”—Melissa Etheridge
  11. “Motherhood is the greatest thing and the hardest thing.”—Ricki Lake
  12. “You don’t take a class; you’re thrown into motherhood and learn from experience.”—Jennie Finch
  13. “If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more. If you look at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough.”—Oprah Winfrey
  14. “I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will.”—Charlotte Brontë
  15. “Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.”—Nora Ephron
  16. “When a woman becomes her own best friend life is easier.”—Diane Von Furstenberg
  17. “If you want something said, ask a man; if you want something done, ask a woman.”—Margaret Thatcher
  18. “Women have discovered that they cannot rely on men’s chivalry to give them justice.”—Helen Keller
  19. “Successful mothers are not the ones that have never struggled. They are the ones that never give up, despite the struggles.”—Sharon Jaynes
  20. “Success, they taught me, is built on the foundation of courage, hard work, and individual responsibility. Despite what some would have us believe, success is not built on resentment and fears.”—Susana Martinez
  21. “You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”—Maya Angelou
  22. “The question isn’t who’s going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.”—Ayn Rand
  23. “God could not be everywhere, and therefore he made mothers.”—Rudyard Kipling
  24. “The women whom I love and admire for their strength and grace did not get that way because stuff worked out. They got that way because stuff went wrong, and they handled it. They handled it in a thousand different ways on a thousand different days, but they handled it. Those women are my superheroes.”—Elizabeth Gilbert
  25. “There will be so many times you feel like you failed. But in the eyes, ears, and mind of your child, you are a SUPER MOM.”—Stephanie Precourt
  26. “Motherhood is the ultimate call to sacrifice.”—Wangechi Mutu
  27. “We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.”—Maya Angelou
  28. “A mother’s arms are more comforting than anyone else’s.”—Princess Diana
  29. “There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.”—Jill Churchill
  30. “There’s no doubt that motherhood is the best thing in my life. It’s all that really matters.”—Courtney Cox
  31. “I realized when you look at your mother, you are looking at the purest love you will ever know.”—Mitch Albom
  32. “I have found being a mother has made me emotionally raw in many situations. Your heart is beating outside your body when you have a baby.”—Kate Beckinsale
  33. “Single moms, you are a doctor, a teacher, a nurse, a maid, a cook, a referee, a heroine, a provider, a defender, a protector, a true Superwoman. Wear your cape proudly.”—Mandy Hale
  34. “I’m not really single. I mean, I am, but I have a son. Being a single mother is different from being a single woman.”—Kate Hudson
  35. “Being a single parent is twice the work, twice the stress, and twice the tears but also twice the hugs, twice the love, and twice the pride.”—Unknown
  36. “For me, motherhood is learning about the strengths I didn’t know I had, and dealing with the fears I didn’t know existed.”—Halle Berry
  37. “A single mom tries when things are hard. She never gives up. She believes in her family, even when things are tough. She knows that above all things… a mother’s love is more than enough.”—Denice Williams
  38. “You do the best you can. Some days you feel really good about yourself and some days you don’t.”—Katie Holmes
  39. “I would say to any single parent currently feeling the weight of stereotype or stigmatization that I am prouder of my years as a single mother than of any other part of my life.”JK Rowling
  40. “Just because I am a single mother doesn’t mean I cannot be a success.”—Yvonne Kaloki
  41. “I didn’t plan on being a single mom, but you have to deal with the cards you are dealt the best way you can.”—Tichina Arnold
  42. “Nothing you do for children is ever wasted.”—Garrison Keillor
  43. “A single mom tries when things are hard. She never gives up. She believes in her family, even when things are tough. She knows that above all things, a mother’s love is more than enough.”—Deniece Williams
  44. “Motherhood has a very humanizing effect. Everything gets reduced to essentials.”—Meryl Streep
  45. “Having kids—the responsibility of rearing good, kind, ethical, responsible human beings—is the biggest job anyone can embark on.”—Maria Shriver
  46. “Mother is a verb. It’s something you do. Not just who you are.”—Cheryl Lacey Donovan
  47. “A mother’s love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dates all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path.”—Agatha Christie
  48. “A mother’s arms are more comforting than anyone else’s.”—Princess Diana
  49. “The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world.”—W.R. Wallace
  50. “Being a mother is the greatest blessing and the hardest challenge in all of life.”—Dr. Magdalena Battles

Final Thoughts

Single moms are remarkable women. They are to be respected and honored for all that they do. If you know a single mom, then share this article with them. Tell them “you are doing a great job as a single mom.” They need our encouragement and support.

They may be parenting alone, but it is good to let them know that there are people in their life who care for them. We can all be there for the single moms out there. Even if it is just to say, “keep up the great work, you are an amazing woman!”

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If you are a single mom, keep up the good work! You are amazing, and your kids are lucky to have you!

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