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How Parents Grow While Raising Children

How Parents Grow While Raising Children

Parenthood is not for the faint of heart. You’re a nurturer, teacher, disciplinarian, cook, cleaner, taxi service, boo-boo fixer, counselor, laundress, and more. When that little bundle of pink or blue was placed in your arms, did you really know just how much your world would change? and for the better?

Having children forces us to change; it usually makes us better people. Here are some of the ways parents can and have grown themselves, while guiding their own children down the path of life.

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You become more caring

The instant you lay eyes on your newborn, you fall instantly head over heels in love. You didn’t know such an intense, powerful, all-consuming love could exist. But it does. When your baby grabs your finger, you don’t want him or her to ever let go. But they will, someday. Until then, embrace the softer side that being a parent brings out in you. Whether it’s burying a deceased fish in the backyard under the old oak tree for your tearful preschooler, or rubbing your miserable toddler’s back when she’s sick, you’ve developed a soft spot for this little person, and it spills out into how you relate to others. That’s a good thing.

You toughen up, too

Were you the type who vowed never to change a poopy diaper? Clean up vomit? Well, parenthood requires you to be tougher in some areas than you might have been before having children. Being spit on by your precious bundle of joy may be gross, but you deal with it. Diaper blow-outs? Disgusting, but it’s all a part of the package of parenthood. Sick little ones means teaching them to hit the toilet or garbage cans. And when they don’t, guess who cleans it up? You. But you can do it. Because you’re a parent now, and that’s just one of the many things you have to do.

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You are aware of the world

Maybe you didn’t grow up recycling, upcycling, conserving energy, or paying attention to the scary parts of the world. But now you’ve brought a little person into this world, and it’s your job to protect him or her. There’s no need to go overboard of course, but you want this world to be a better place for your child to grow up in. You now you find yourself sorting plastics and glass, maybe using cloth grocery bags, and even helping pick up trash at the park while on a playdate. You’re also more vigilant in crossing the street, staying safe in the parking lot, and you hold hands with your child- not only because it’s a show of affection, but it’s a way of keeping him or her safely close by.

You become a bit domesticated

Remember the endless bowls of ramen noodles you ate in order to survive in college? Now you have a little one solely dependent upon you for food. If you thought you couldn’t cook, well, you learn. You find yourself seeking out organic, all natural, locally grown, and other terms you never cared for. You maybe make homemade baby food, or only buy the best for your wee one. You also figure out how not to turn an entire load of laundry pink, and one of the biggest victories you’ll relish with fist pumps and whoops of joy, is when you successfully assemble a crib or complicated toy.

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You find your flaws and fix them

When you’re interacting with your children, helping them grow, you discover things about yourself that you really don’t want them mirroring. If you are teaching them manners, but realize you don’t say please or thank you very often, you can change that. You want to set a good example, and children look to their parents for guidance. One of the biggest shockers is when your adorable son or daughter spits out a swear word that he or she had heard you utter once or twice. Whoops! Time to check yourself.

You want to be healthier

One of the biggest punches to the gut when you’re a parent, is to create a will that establishes who will raise your child in the event that you and your significant other dies. Wait, didn’t you just give birth? Well this is all part of being a responsible parent, and it makes you realize that you’re no longer that invincible teen or college kid. You have bills and you have a child. Maybe it’s time to kick a bad habit, exercise during your lunch break, and start taking those vitamins. Even though the time available between work and parenthood is limited, you realize that you still need to take care of you, and be the healthiest parent you can be for your child.

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You are their first teacher

When you have a preschooler, you will be asked every question imaginable. It’s important that you respond to every question, and if you don’t know the answer, look it up. Your child is seeking interaction, support, and raw knowledge that you can offer him or her. However, once you begin tackling algebra and chemistry with your middle-schooler or high-schooler, Google searches will become your friend.

You are their No.1 fan

When people say time “flies by”, it’s the truth. In the blink of an eye, your child will grow from a tiny bundle of a joy to a high school senior preparing to head off to college. You will never stop being a parent, but you have just 18 years to make a huge impact, to help mold this child into an independent, caring, successful adult. Do not waste any of your time on the little things. Be present at school concerts, plays, ball games, and all the things that are important to your child. Sit down for a tea party, colour together and play catch in the yard. Let him or her know that they’re a priority in your life. Be their No.1 fan. Because someday, there won’t be piles of laundry, a sink full of dishes, or homework to do. So relish this time together.

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Published on November 7, 2018

How to Homeschool in the 21st Century (For All Types of Parents & Kids)

How to Homeschool in the 21st Century (For All Types of Parents & Kids)

In 2016, it was estimated that 1.7 million children were being homeschooled in the U.S, roughly 3.3% of all school-aged children.[1] Although this may not sound like a big portion of the population, the growth rate of homeschooling has been 7 to15% per year for the last two decades.

The burgeoning numbers are not a coincidence. There are tremendous benefits to homeschooling, including one-on-one teaching, adaptability to individual needs and learning styles, a safe learning environment, encouraging learning for knowledge rather than grades, and tailoring a curriculum to the child’s interests.

Is homeschooling something that you have been considering for your family? With all of the tools and resources available for homeschoolers in the 21st century, it may be easier than you think.

How to Homeschool (Getting Started)

After thinking it through, you’ve decided that homeschooling is the right step for you and your family. Now what? Here are the first things you should do to get your homeschooling journey started on the right track.

Figure Out the Laws

Homeschooling is regulated by the state, not the federal government. The first step is to find the current and accurate legal requirements mandated by your state in order to educate your child legally.[2]

The regulations can vary widely, from strict guidelines to no guidelines at all. However, don’t be overwhelmed by the legal jargon. There are many resources and local communities for homeschooling families that can help you figure out the logistics.

Decide on an Approach

Every child’s needs are different. This is your chance to choose the homeschooling style or combination of styles that best fits your child’s learning style and interests. A brief description of seven different homeschooling methods are listed below.

Supplies/Resources

Often times, purchasing a homeschooling curriculum is done too early in the planning process, resulting in buyer’s remorse.

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A curriculum is not always needed for homeschooling, and other types of free or less structured resources are readily available.

Find a Community

Getting connected with a community of homeschoolers is one of the most important parts of building a successful and thriving homeschool environment for your kids.

Look for communities online for virtual support or a local group that you and your kids can interact with. Partnering with others fosters better socialization skills for the students and provides opportunities for field trips, classes, and outings that wouldn’t have otherwise been a part of the homeschooling experience.

7 Different Homeschooling Methods

1. School-At-Home

Also known as Traditional homeschool, School-At-Home uses essentially the same curriculum as the local private or public school but at home.

The lessons can be completed independently, but more commonly, they are administered by a parent or a teacher-facilitated online school.

  • Benefits: formal standards, wide selection of curricula, same pace as peers, short-term friendly
  • Drawbacks: expensive, inflexible, time consuming, parent can get easily burnt out
  • Resources: K12, Time4Learning, Abeka

2. Classical

One of the most popular homeschooling methods used, it borrows educational practices from Ancient Greece and Rome. Subject areas are studied chronologically so that students can understand the consequence of ideas over time.

Socratic dialogue fosters effective discussions and debate to achieve beyond mere comprehension. There is often a strong emphasis on Great Books[3] as well as Greek and Latin.

3. Unit Studies

Rather than breaking up education into subjects, unit studies approach each topic as a whole, studying it from the perspective of each subject area.

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For example, a unit study about animals could include reading books about animals, learning about the classification of animals, figuring out which animals live on which continents, etc. This method is often used as a technique in other more comprehensive educational methodologies.

  • Benefits: promotes thinking about concepts as a whole, not monotonous or redundant, student-directed, bolsters weaker subject areas, beneficial for teaching multi-age students
  • Drawbacks: incomplete, knowledge gaps, curriculum-dependent
  • Resources: Unit Study, Unit Studies, Unit Studies Made Easy, Konos

4. Charlotte Mason

This Christian homeschooling style utilizes shorts periods of study (15-20 minute max for elementary, 45 minute max for high school), along with nature walks and history portfolios.

Students are encouraged to practice observation, memorization, and narration often. With a focus on “living books” (stories with heroes, life lessons, socio-ethical implications), reading plays a big role in this student-paced teaching style.

5. Montessori

Maria Montessori developed this method through working with special needs children in the early 20th century.

With a primary focus on the student setting the pace and indirect instruction from the teacher, this approach includes free movement, large unstructured time blocks (up to 3 hours), multi-grade classes, and individualized learning plans based on interests.

6. Unschooling

Unschooling is a learning model largely based on the work of John Holt.[4] The teaching style focuses mainly on the students’ interests, putting priority on experiential, activity-based, and learn as you go approaches.

For basic skills such as reading, writing, and math, a systematic technique is employed, but testing and evaluations are typically not utilized. Teachers, in general, play more of a facilitator role.

7. Eclectic/Relaxed

As the most popular method of homeschool, eclectic homeschooling is child-directed, resourceful, and non-curriculum based.

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Parents can sample any combination of homeschooling methods and styles or resources. One growing sector of eclectic homeschooling combines part homeschooling with part traditional schooling.

How to Facilitate Homeschooling with Technology

One of the reasons homeschooling is more feasible than ever before is due to the accessibility of tools and resources to enhance the learning process.

Email

Email is a tool that has really stood the test of time. Invented in 1972, it is still used today as a primary means of communicating on the Internet.

It is a great way to share assignments, links, and videos between parent and student.

Google Drive/Calendar

Google Drive offers a multitude of essential programs that can come in handy for homeschoolers, such as Docs, Sheets, Slides, and more.

With its sharing capabilities, easy accessibility, and auto-save ability, it’s easier than ever to organize and complete assignments. It will improve students’ writing and typing skills, as well as eliminate the need for paper.

Google Calendar is an excellent tool for tracking assignment due dates, planning field trips and activities, and developing time management skills.

Ebooks

Rather than invest in physical copies of books, ebooks are a wonderful option for saving money and space. There are plenty of places that offer a free or paid subscription to a wide selection of ebooks:

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E-Courses

When a structured curriculum is necessary for teaching a certain topic, an e-course is the way to go.

From watercolors to calculus, there are e-courses available about almost everything. Including different teaching styles that vary from the parents will encourage students to learn in different ways.

The visual and auditory stimulation will also be beneficial in helping students understand and retain the concepts being taught.

Some recommendations:

Youtube

Youtube is not just a platform for music videos and cats doing funny things. There are a number of Youtube channels that produce quality educational videos, free of charge.

Creating a playlist of videos for various topics is a great way to supplement a homeschool education.

Some recommendations:

Final Thoughts

Homeschooling in the current age looks much different than it did ten years ago. There are more options and more flexibility when it comes to educating kids at home.

Don’t be overwhelmed by the idea of homeschooling your children if it could make a positive impact on your family.

Featured photo credit: Hal Gatewood via unsplash.com

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