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8 Times Your Mom Was Right And You Can’t Deny Them Now

8 Times Your Mom Was Right And You Can’t Deny Them Now

You remember the days when you thought you knew it all and your mother was nothing but a nag. Don’t get me wrong, you loved her, but she needed to get off your back. She’d just always carry on these longwinded, nonsense conversations, clearly not understanding you at all… And then one day, you grow up, and realize she was right all along.

1. “You Can Make a Meal Out of Anything”

Money was tight growing up, so we had a lot of ‘concoctions’, as my mother called them. 20 years later, my sister and I still make fun of this one meal in particular that she made. A curious mixture of things to say the least! All I can recall is an orange broth, dumplings and corn mixed together. Although it appeared totally gross, my mom insisted her concoctions were still worthy of being a good meal. She was right though, it was good enough to fill our belly. Now that I’m a busy mom of four, I find myself making a lot of concoctions from leftovers too.

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2. “The Older You Get, the Less You Care”

We all remember those periods of our lives, especially during our teenage and high school years, when everything seemed so important and so significant. We were young and didn’t experience life enough yet to know what really mattered most. My mom would always tell me, “the older you get, the less you care.” That advice didn’t matter much to me then. I was 15 years old, and the way that girl looked at me was a huge deal! Sure, I can laugh about it now… Now that I’m old enough to know that mom was right; I don’t care about that dumb stuff anymore.

3. “Learning to Swim Is Good for You”

When I was younger, our public pool gave free swim lessons, and my mom wasn’t going to pass up the opportunity for us to learn how to swim (especially since it was free!). I admit it though, I hated to swim. I was afraid of the water, and yes, I was one of “those” kids. I managed to have a mysterious stomachache every morning before lessons. I would never let go of the side of the pool. Put my head under water?! Umm… No way! Luckily, my mother didn’t fall for my fake illness and made me take the lessons anyways. It’s what mom’s do to help keep us safe.

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4. “Hold the Door”

Like most moms, my mother taught us to be polite, use our manners, and say “hello”. She was big on little gestures of kindness. If another vehicle on the road let me turn first, I should wave a ‘thank you.’ If someone was walking out behind me, I should always hold the door. Sometimes it’s the little things that matter.

5. “Change Your Socks and Underwear”

Let’s face it; kids don’t give a darn about dirty clothes. They will go days on end in the same clothes, and it won’t even occur to them until mom starts yelling about it. Good hygiene is an essential part of life, so I can’t image where I’d be right now without all the longwinded lectures about it. Dirty underwear when I went into labor? No thank you! How about the time I injured my calf at the gym and the hunky instructor came over to inspect what could have been an unshaved leg?! Yes, you were right mom. Thank you for the good hygiene lectures.

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6. “We Didn’t Have Much, but We Survived”

Sure, we had a family car to get around in, but it wasn’t one us kids would want to be seen in. Yeah, I had new clothes; new from the thrift store. My siblings and I had bicycles, but my brother’s was a pink ‘Huffy’. We owned our own house, but not one I’d want the kids on the school bus to see me being picked up in front of. Now that all us kids are adults, we can look back on my mom’s famous words, “we didn’t have much, but we survived,” and be grateful for how that helped mold us into who we are. Children and teens worry about materialistic things. Adults worry about family, love, and experiencing life.

7. “Don’t Judge Others”

“Kids will be kids”, they say. Sad but true, they have ‘cliques’. They tease. They bully. And yes, I was a culprit of it at some point. I think we all were. As the saying goes through, “don’t judge someone until you’ve walked in their shoes.” Mom always made sure we were open to and accepting of others.

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8. “Hard Work Will Pay Off”

Kids only see a mean mom that yells all the time. She’s too strict and bedtimes are dumb. Mom’s always nag about doing chores and getting homework done. However, schedules, deadlines, routines, and hard work are necessary to succeed in the adult world. Mom wasn’t being a nag; she was setting a strong foundation for our future. Moms just want us to be smart and make good, healthy decisions.

It usually takes us becoming adults or parents ourselves before we see the true meaning behind our mother’s teachings. We may not see it as children, but as adults, we are thankful for it!

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Published on May 21, 2021

Bedtimes For Kids At Different Ages (Your Go-To Guide)

Bedtimes For Kids At Different Ages (Your Go-To Guide)

Bedtimes for kids might be one of the most challenging parts of the day. Parents are tired and ready to relax, while kids of all ages seem to find extra energy and want nothing to do with sleep. One more story, one more trip to the bathroom, and one more question quickly make for a late-night, and no one gets the rest they need.

If this happens often, you might start wondering if you and your child are getting the proper amount of sleep and how to make bedtime easier. Why is it so crucial for your child to get enough sleep? What does sleep deprivation look like? How do you improve bedtimes for kids?

How Sleep Impacts Your Child’s Health

Whether young or old, sleep is a vital part of staying healthy. There are many benefits to getting the right amount of sleep while not getting enough can have negative consequences. How does it impact your child?[1]

  • Brain Function – Sleep is linked to certain brain functions such as concentration, productivity, and cognition. These all impact a child’s behavior and academic success.
  • Weight – Sleep patterns affect the hormones responsible for appetite. A lack of sleep interferes with the ability to regulate food intake, making overeating more likely.
  • Physical Performance – Sleep impacts a person’s physical abilities. Proper rest means better performance, concentration, energy, mental clarity, and faster speed.
  • Physical Health – There are many ways sleep promotes health. Sleep heals the body but also helps prevent disease and health issues. Getting proper rest will regulate blood pressure, help prevent heart disease, reduce chances of sleep apnea, reduce inflammation, boost immune system, and lower risk of weight gain.
  • Improve Mental Health – A lack of sleep has a negative impact on mood and social and emotional intelligence. A child not getting proper sleep is more likely to experience depression, lack empathy and be unaware of other people’s emotions and reactions.

Sleep, Risky Behavior, and Teens

Studies found that teens were more likely to engage in risky behavior when they are sleep-deprived. They’ll have problems regulating their mood, making them more short-tempered, aggressive, and impulsive. Their inability to self-regulate can even look like the symptoms of ADHD.[2]

Sleep deprivation becomes hazardous when teens are driving. The impulsiveness and risk-taking, along with exhaustion, put them at a higher risk for accidents. In fact, driving tired is comparable to driving with a blood alcohol content of .08.[3]

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You can see why sleep is so essential to everyone’s health, but how much is needed? What do pediatricians recommend? Is it the same for all ages?

Sleep Recommendations From Pediatricians

Sleep requirements vary by age. It won’t be the same for every individual. Some people find that they need more sleep than others.

Here is a basic guideline of what pediatricians now recommend:[4]

  • Ages 4-12 months: 12-16 hours (including naps)
  • Ages 1-2 years: 11-14 hours (including naps)
  • Ages 3-5 years: 10-13 hours (including naps)
  • Age 6-12 years: 9-12 hours
  • Age 13-18 years: 8-10 hours

Increase the amount of sleep if your child isn’t thriving on the recommended amount.

Signs Your Child Isn’t Getting Enough Sleep

There are ways to tell if your child is getting adequate sleep beyond the usual grumpiness. Here are specific things to watch out for:[5]

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  • Excessive sleepiness during the day
  • Difficulty waking up on time
  • Hyperactivity
  • Depression
  • Inattention
  • Mood swings
  • Aggressive behavior
  • Irritability
  • Impatience
  • Impulse control

As you can see, prolonged lack of sleep can cause relational problems and hinder your child’s ability to do well in school. What can you do if you realize your child is not getting enough sleep? How can you improve bedtimes for your kids?

How to Set Up a Bedtime Routine

Sleep hygiene or a bedtime schedule will help your child fall asleep faster. It will also improve the quality of sleep. You will need to adjust to what works for your family, but the following suggestions can help everyone have a more pleasant bedtime.

For Babies

Most people think they have to let their baby “cry it out” at bedtime. However, there are ways you can teach a baby to sleep without tears, making the experience more pleasant for everyone. In fact, studies show the faded bedtime method—or gentle sleep training—is just as effective as leaving a baby to cry but without the stress.[6] What is gentle sleep training?

Gentle Sleep Training

This method eases babies and young children into falling asleep on their own. There are two ways to do this:

1. Positive Routines With Faded Bedtime

Kids learn to fall asleep easily by using comforting, quiet, and predictable rituals, up to twenty minutes long. The key is to choose a bedtime that’s not too early. A child that isn’t tired will only fight sleep.

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Start the process when your baby or child is sleepy, even if it’s later than you’d prefer. You’ll notice a pattern and quickly discover the time they naturally start winding down. Make this their bedtime for now. They will learn to associate sleep with the routine, and you’ll be able to start fifteen to twenty minutes earlier to slowly adjust their schedule.

2. Sleep With Parental Presence

With this method, you lie down with your baby or child until they fall asleep. Over time, you pay less attention to your child, gradually sitting up, then sitting in a chair. Eventually, your child will be able to sleep without you. A study showed that using this method helped infants sleep longer and wake up less.[7]

Both of these ways take time but are effective and less traumatic than leaving an infant or young child to cry.

More Tips to Help Your Baby Sleep Better

You want to build a routine, but how? What are practical things you can do to help your baby get ready for bed?

Here are tips for a soothing and calm bedtime:[8]

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  • Help set their “internal clock” by exposing them to natural daylight, daytime activities, and the calmness of evening.
  • Block blue light exposure.
  • Make the hour up to bedtime calm, peaceful, and pleasant.
  • Learn how to keep stress minimal for you and your baby.
  • Don’t force sleep. It will increase anxiety and make rest more difficult.
  • Avoid late afternoon naps
  • Prolong the time between nap and bedtime.
  • Feed baby right before bed.
  • Avoid intervening too soon if the baby starts to wake up. Give your child a chance to fall back asleep without your help.

For Elementary-Aged Children

It’s easier to follow a routine if you start young, but it’s never too late to begin. The good news is it only takes a few nights to notice an improvement in your child’s sleep.

These ideas will help you set up a schedule that will encourage your child to fall asleep easier, faster, and for a more extended period.[9]

  • Offer them a nutritious snack.
  • Bathe them.
  • Brush their teeth and go to the bathroom.
  • Read them a story.
  • Sing them a song.
  • Cuddle or massage them.
  • Talk about the day.

For best results, choose a handful of activities and do them in the same order each night. Dim the lights and keep activity minimal to help everyone slow down.

For Teens

They might fight the idea of getting more sleep, but teens will benefit from a routine, too. They’re usually capable of overseeing their bedtime, but a little structure and oversight can help them get the sleep they need. By implementing the following tips, your teen can get better rest.[10]

  • Avoid caffeine in the evening.
  • Limit screen time.
  • Avoid late-night binging.
  • Exercise, ideally sixty minutes a day.
  • Keep the bedroom dark, cool, and quiet.
  • Talk through problems.

Quality Sleep for a Healthy Life

Bedtimes for kids can be an enjoyable part of the day with proper sleep hygiene in place. Not only can it be quality time with your child, but it can also set them on the road to good health and high performance. By implementing these tips, you can ensure proper rest for the whole family and better bedtimes for kids.

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Featured photo credit: Igordoon Primus via unsplash.com

Reference

[1] Medical News Today: Why Sleep Is Essential For Health
[2] Child Mind Institute: Teens And Sleep: The Cost Of Sleep Deprivation
[3] Depart of Health: Drowsy Driving Prevention, Teens Ages 16 To 19
[4] AAP publications: AAP Endorses New Recommendations On Sleep Times
[5] Journal of Excellence in Nursing Leadership: Sleep Deprivation In Children A Growing Public Health Concern
[6] Parenting Science: Gentle Infant Sleep Training
[7] BetterHealth: Solutions to sleep concerns (11) – babies 6 to 12 months
[8] Parenting Science: 15 Evidence-Based Baby Sleep Tips
[9] Sleep Foundation: Bedtime Routines For Children
[10] NHS: Sleep Tips For Teenagers

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