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8 Precious Things People Raised By Strong Mothers Can Learn

8 Precious Things People Raised By Strong Mothers Can Learn

As a teenager I struggled to appreciate my mom fully, but my feelings changed as I grew older and became more independent and responsible. I became more aware of everything that my mom had done for me and my sister, and I started to properly appreciate her as a person. I realized that I have a strong mother, who tirelessly fought for us and loved us unconditionally. A strong mother will teach her children important life skills, and she will make sure that her children always feel safe and happy.

Now I know that I learned my most important life lessons from my mom. Here are 8 things all people raised by strong mothers learn during their childhood.

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1. You Learn The Meaning Of Unconditional Love

A strong mother teaches her children the meaning of unconditional love. You saw your mother sacrifice her time, money, health and youth to look after you and you siblings, but she has never resented that – instead, she is proud to give everything she can to you. This taught you how to love someone selflessly and unconditionally.

2. You Learn To Be Responsible

Responsibility may seem boring when we are young, but as we grow older it is an important tool of self-reliance. Strong moms teach their children how to clean up after themselves, and how to do the right thing. They teach their children to say sorry for the things they feel bad about, and they teach their children to be responsible with money.

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3. You Learn About Loving Others

When you are raised by a loving, strong mother, you quickly learn how to treat other people. She taught you to treat other people with respect and love, and she taught you not to judge other people. This made you a more understanding and tolerant person, and as an adult you express love in a healthy, happy way.

4. You Learn About Inner Strength

One of the most important things a strong mom teaches their child about is inner strength. Your mom taught you to be optimistic even on the hardest day. She taught you to have faith in yourself, and she taught you that you can achieve anything you put your mind to.

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5. You Learn To Love Yourself

Your strong mother taught you to love yourself, just like she loves herself. You knew that she wouldn’t put up with something that wasn’t meant for her, so you won’t put up with someone that isn’t meant for you. You learned to love your personality, and you learned that you aren’t defined by results, grades, money or failures.

6. You Learn That You Are Beautiful

In our society, beauty and appearance are very important, and people are always trying to make themselves more beautiful. Your mom taught you that you are perfect just the way you are, and that nothing needs to change. She taught you to be proud of the features that you like, and she taught you to accept your flaws without wanting to change them. You know that, to her, you are the most beautiful person in the world.

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7. You Learn To Be Honest

Your mom taught you to always be honest, even when it is difficult. You know that if you say something, you mean it, and you think that honesty is an important trait in others. You would never lie to other people, as you worry that they would struggle to trust you again. You know that trust is built with honesty, and it is easily broken with lies.

8. You Learn How To Be A Strong Mother

Your mother taught you how to be strong mother, too. She taught you how to take care of a family, and she taught you the value of hard work and honesty. You will pass these lessons down to your own children, because you know how important they are.

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

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No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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