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5 Reasons Why The Universe Is Not Giving You What You Want in Life

5 Reasons Why The Universe Is Not Giving You What You Want in Life

When my life was a mess I would blame the Universe. Over and over I would say, “Why me? What have I done to deserve this? It’s not fair. Why does this happen to me all the time?”

Then I read THE SECRET. The Secret introduced me to the Law of Attraction and I believed that this was how I could get the Universe to work for me rather than against me. I didn’t know much about the Law of Attraction.  I didn’t really understand how it worked or how it was connected to the Universe. I thought the Universe was a space where if I sent out positive thoughts I would get positive results.

Famous people such as Oprah Winfrey had endorsed the Secret and they shared their stories of how the Law of Attraction changed their lives for the better. The Secret success was unbelievable.

I remember at the time thinking that if the Secret works for all these famous and successful people, surely it would work for me? I followed the Secret’s 3-step formula, Ask, Believe and Receive, and waited for the Law of Attraction to start working in my life.

During the time of reading the Secret I lost my job. I was devastated and I felt I was a failure. I was miserable and gave up reading the Secret or thinking about the Law of Attraction. Its funny though, when you feel your life is at rock bottom and you come to a point where you have a choice – do I continue on with this downward spiral or do I try and figure a way out of this?

The easier option is to do nothing but I chose to try and figure a way out. I decided to put the Law of Attraction and the teachings of the Secret to the test. I set out to manifest my perfect job according to how I thought it should be done.

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I did get a job but I took the job for all the wrong reasons. I knew this job was not for me the moment I went into the interview. I did not listen to my intuition.  I had made a deal with the Universe to using the 3 step formula from the Secret to manifest this perfect job into my life. This was the first job offer so this must be the one and I took it.

Three months later I lost the job. I found myself again, feeling like a big failure, zero self-esteem, zero confidence and very little self-belief. Again I had to pull myself out of this deep dark hole and start over. It was at this point that I realized that teachings of the Secret were not for me.

The question I asked myself was; “How could I get the Universe to listen and work for me rather than against me?”

I discovered that there were 5 reasons why the Universe was not listening to me. Once I understood these 5 reasons I was finally able to get the Universe working alongside me.

1. I had no idea what the Laws of Universe were or how they worked

There are 12 Universal Law that govern the physical, emotional, environmental and spiritual elements of the universe.  Of the 12 Universal Laws there are four laws that influence me the most. When I understood how these four laws worked, my relationship with the Universe improved dramatically.

  1. The Law of Action – action must be employed in order for us to get what we want in life. We must engage actions that support our thoughts, dreams, emotions and words. No action no results
  1. The Law of Cause and Effect – nothing happens by chance or outside of the Laws of the Universe – every action (including thought) has a reaction or consequence. Even if you choose to do nothing you still have a consequence. Procrastinate and there is a consequence. You cannot escape the law of cause and effect.
  1. The Law of Attraction – this law demonstrates how we create the things, events and people that come into our lives. Our thoughts feelings and words and actions produce energies, which in turn attract like energies. Negative attracts negative and positive attracts positive.
  1. The Law of Perpetual Transmutation of Energy – the law states that every person has the power within them to change the conditions of their lives through using our power of choice. Our power of choice is pivotal in regard to how we want to live our lives. The power of choice enables us to change the energies in our lives.

My relationship with the Universe now operates on these four laws – action, consequence, positive energy and the power of choice. Start working with the universal laws that resonate with you. You will find overtime that the Universe will respond and start working with you to achieve all that you desire in your life..

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2. I did not know the difference between setting goals and achieving goals

I read an article by John Assaraf where he said that the reason why it is difficult to attract what you want in life is because we don’t understand the difference between setting a goal and achieving a goal. When you set a goal you are operating on an imaginative and rational level. When you work to achieve a goal you are operating on a habitual and emotional level. The energies are very different.

The desire for a goal is “energy in motion” and unless you keep this desire strong it will quickly disappear and lose its strength. This was happening to me all the time, especially when it came to losing weight and getting fit! I always found it a battle. I would start of with a hiss and a roar however over time it all became too hard and I would give up.

Once I understood how to work with the different energies that are the essential elements of setting and achieving goals I felt more confident about my abilities and myself. I also found that I began to have more positive experiences in my life and my relationship with the Universe improved. Over time I stopped bargaining with the Universe and became more open to receiving from the universe.

3. I Would Take Action Before Aligning My Mind Body and Soul

John Assaraf believes that the reason why some people never achieve positive results is because their conscious thoughts which are positive are not aligned to their unconscious beliefs, habits and values. If you are not aligned in your mind, body and soul although your conscious mind desires greatness your subconscious will block it.

“Your conscious mind is your chooser and your subconscious mind your implementer” John Assaraf

To attract the positive things in my life I needed to work on getting my conscious and subconscious mind in sync. Once I got this figured out I became much better at managing all the emotions and thoughts that are essential to me setting and achieving my goals.

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4. I spent a lot of time trying to feel good but not dealing with what made me feel bad

I thought long and hard about including this reason as it is a complicated one. Why I wanted to share this reason is because I believe we are conditioned to think that we have to be positive and upbeat all the time and if we are not we will never achieve our dreams, be a success or live the life we desire.

Events can happen in our lives that are traumatic and painful. It is times like these that it becomes very hard to be positive and upbeat about life especially when you feel so bad. There are also times in our life where we just feel sad, scared or frustrated. I was spending too much time focusing on having to be positive and feeling good that I was not dealing with my feelings of sadness, grief, pain and fear.

I do agree that maintaining a positive attitude and outlook about life is powerful and you do have more energy and happiness in life. However ignoring your feelings of pain or sadness only results in you burying these feelings deep within you. These feelings are real. They will not stay buried for long and at some point they will surface.

When I lost my third job in 18 months I realized that something was not quite aligned in my life. I needed to sort it because I wanted to have more control back into my life. I didn’t know why these terrible things kept happening to me. Why wasn’t the Universe helping me?

It’s a fine balance to manage and process these feelings and not get drawn into the vortex of negativity. My advice is that you spend time acknowledging your feelings but then move quickly to finding more positive things to focus on in your life.

I found that by dealing with my feelings of sadness, pain and grief I became more self aware and more resilient. As a result my thoughts and energies were more aligned and thus my relationship with the Universe became stronger.

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 5. I spent too much time pursuing happiness that I missed the joy of the present

“Success and happiness are always missed by those who leave the present unattended to.”   Edmond Mbiaka

The Universe for a long time was telling me over and over  to enjoy these moments of happiness I was having right now in my life. I was so busy chasing my happiness in the future that I wasn’t listening. I kept blaming the Universe for all the bad in my life and as a result my relationship with the Universe languished.

The saying “stop and smell the roses” is so true about living life in the present. It also reminds us to be more aware of the practice of gratitude and appreciation. If we were truly living in the present we would be practicing appreciation and gratitude on a daily basis.

I now have a gratitude journal where I try every day to write down 5 things that I am grateful for. It is amazing how uplifting you feel when you read your gratitude journal. A smile is not far away when you consistently appreciate and are grateful for the good things that are present right now in your life.

Hanging out with your best friends, going for a walk, sitting in silence, reading a good book, helping out a friend in need or even a stranger are just a small number of examples of how we can live happy lives in the present.

If you address these 5 reasons I guarantee your relationship with the universe will flourish. You will find that you will become more resilient to the challenges that life throws at you and the best thing is , you will be a lot happier.

“The universe doesn’t give you what you ask for with your thoughts – it gives you what you demand with your actions.”  Steve Maraboli

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Last Updated on August 15, 2018

7 Amazing Things That Will Happen When You Do Plank Every Day

7 Amazing Things That Will Happen When You Do Plank Every Day

Bodyweight exercises are gaining ground in the fitness world due to the practicality and simplicity of getting in shape using your own body weight. Planks are one form of bodyweight exercises that will never go out of fashion. Planks are one of the most effective exercises you can do. Why? Because they require a small time investment on your part, and offer the chance to achieve substantial results in a relatively short span of time.

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Why is it important to train up our core strength?

There are numerous sites and blogs which detail ways to build your core muscles or core strength. Often though, these sites neglect to explain what your core muscles actually are, and why building them is important.

This is quite surprising, as core muscles are quite easy to explain. Your core muscles are a series of muscles in your midsection, and are used in most forms of movement. Though they aren’t housed in your arms or legs, your core muscles can help transfer force from one limb to another, or are used in addition to muscles in your arms or legs to increase their effectiveness. As such a strong core will make a big improvement on your ability to move and exercise further.

Also they are great for helping other muscles in your midsection such as your abdominal muscles. Your abdominal muscles are important for supporting your back and spinal column, and as such are important aids in preventing injuries. However for them to be most effective you need to spend a lot of time developing your core muscles.

In short, planking exercises can make a huge improvement in your muscles down your whole body. Making them a hugely effective exercise to perform.

One Exercise, multiple benefits

There are few forms of exercise as effective at building your core as planking exercises. However, planking exercises benefit far more than just your core strength.

By holding yourself in the position for a planking exercise, you’ll notice that your biceps, neck, and shoulder muscles are also being tested and strained. This this encouraging their buildup and development. This is great news if you like to do press ups, developed shoulder muscles will have a big impact on your press up performance.

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When planking, you are holding yourself up through your arms and biceps and so by holding a planking position, your arm muscles are being toned and developed. Making planking a great alternative exercise to other forms of bicep developing exercises.

Moving down your midsection, successful plank exercises actually develop the muscles in your butt! These muscles tend to be ignored by a lot of exercises, so this is another great benefit of plank exercises.

In much the same way as you develop your biceps and arm muscles, holding the planking position helps develop the muscles in your thighs too.

What is even better is that planking exercises don’t take much time at all. In fact you should probably only spend about ten minutes max per day in the planking exercise.

What will happen when you start doing planks every day

    1. You’ll improve core definition and performance: 

    Planks are an ideal exercise for the abdominal muscles exactly because they engage all major core muscle groups including the transverse abdominus, the rectus abdominusthe external oblique muscle, and the glutes. The importance of strengthening each muscle group cannot be underestimated either, for all of these groups serve their own purpose. If you strengthen these muscle groups you will notice:

    • Transverse abdominis: increased ability to lift heavier weights.
    • Rectus adbominis: improved sports performance, particularly with jumping. This muscle group is also responsible for giving you the renowned six pack look.
    • Oblique muscles: improved capacity for stable side-bending and waist-twisting
    • Glutes: a supported back and a strong, shapely booty.

    2. You’ll decrease your risk of injury in the back and spinal column

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      Doing planks is a type of exercise that allow you to build muscle while also making sure that you are not putting too much pressure on your spine or hips. According to the American Council on Exercise, doing planks regularly not only significantly reduces back pain but it also strengthens your muscles and ensures a strong support for your entire back, especially in the areas around your upper back.

      Check out this article if you would like to find out about how doing planks on different surfaces can impact the effectiveness of this exercise in strengthening your core.

      3. You’ll experience an increased boost to your overall metabolism

        Planking is an excellent way of challenging your entire body because doing them every day will burn more calories than other traditional abdominal exercises, such as crunches or sit-ups. The muscles you strengthen by doing this exercise on a day-to-day basis will ensure that you burn more energy even when sedentary. This is especially important if you are spending the majority of your day sitting in front of a computer. Also, making it a daily 10- to 1 minute home exercise before or after work will not only provide an enhanced metabolic rate but it will also ensure that that metabolic rate remains high all day long, (yes, even while you are asleep).

        4. You’ll significantly improve your posture

          Planking exercises have a great impact and improvement on your posture. This is great news as a strong posture brings with it a huge number of fantastic benefits .

          A good posture keeps your bones and joins in the correct alignment which means both your bones and joints will be better maintained and more healthy, but also means the overall effectiveness of your muscles will be improved.

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          A good posture will ensure your back or spine is in the correct position and so you will suffer less back pain.

          On top of everything, someone with good posture looks better, healthier, and more confident.

          5. You’ll improve overall balance

            Have you ever felt that when you tried standing on one leg, you couldn’t stand up straight for more than a couple of seconds? It’s not because you were drunk- unless you happened to be at the time!-  but rather, it’s because your abdominal muscles weren’t strong enough to give you the balance you needed. Through improving your balance by doing side planks and planks with extensions you will boost your performance in every kind of sporting activity.

            6. You’ll become more flexible than ever before

              Flexibility is a key benefit of doing planks regularly, for this form of exercise expands and stretches all your posterior muscle groups – shouldersshoulder blades, and collarbone – while also stretching your hamstrings, arches of your feet, and toes. With a side plank added in to the mix, you can also work on your oblique muscles. This will provide you with further benefits when it comes to hyper-extending your toes, a movement that is crucial for supporting your body’s weight.

              7. You’ll witness mental benefits

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                Plank exercises have a particular effect on our nerves, making them an excellent means of improving overall mood. How? Well, they stretch out muscle groups that contribute to stress and tension in the body. Just think about it: you are sitting in your chair, at home or at work, all day long; your thigh muscles get tight, your legs get heavy due to being bent for several hours; and tension develops in your shoulders due to being forced to slump forward all day. These are all circumstances that put too stress on the muscles and nerves. The good news is that planks not only calm your brain, but they can also treat anxiety and symptoms of depression– but only if you make it part of your daily routine.

                How to hold a plank position

                1. Get into pushup position on the floor.
                2. Now bend your elbows 90 degrees and rest your weight on your forearms.
                3. Keep your torso straight and rigid and your body in a straight line from ears to toes with no sagging or bending.
                4. Your head is relaxed and you should be looking at the floor.
                5. Hold the position for as long as you can.
                6. Remember to breathe. Inhale and exhale slowly and steadily.
                7. When your form begins to suffer, pull the plug. You’re only benefiting from the plank by actually doing the plank.

                Watch the video if you have any doubt!

                Here is a great infographic that shows the best plank variation exercises to evenly target all abdominal muscle groups:

                  How to improve your plank time gradually

                  1. Start with the easier variation if needed. You can start with a bent-knee plank if you can’t perform a regular plank yet. If you can hold a plank for more than two minutes with ease, you can move on to these tougher variations.
                  2. Practise every day. Space your planking exercise throughout the day and do 3-4 times every day. Try to hold the position 10 seconds longer each time.
                  3. Perform other body-weight exercises at the same time. Push-up and squat will improve your core strength too.

                  Are you ready to devote 5-10 minutes of your day, every day, to stay fit, healthy and, most importantly, strong as a bull? Then jump in and make doing plank exercises a part of your life.

                  Who Should Be Cautious Doing The Plank?

                  You need to be cautious doing Planking exercises if any of these risks apply to you:

                  • Prolapse
                  • After prolapse surgery
                  • Pelvic pain conditions
                  • Weak or poorly functioning pelvic floor muscles
                  • Previous childbirth
                  • Overweight

                  Choose an alternative pelvic floor abdominal exercise or consult your doctor before performing plank regularly.

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