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11 Things All Strong Women Have In Common

11 Things All Strong Women Have In Common

They constantly look for growth

They know that the only thing that stands between them and their success are their micro-movements. Consequently, they keep taking small steps. They keep moving, even if it is slow. Whatever they do, they do no stop growing and improving who they are.

They treat themselves well

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    In modern day society women are bombarded with the message that they just aren’t good enough unless they subscribe to a horde of mindless advertising standards. Strong women know who they are.

    Even though they may not always set out loving themselves at first, they learn along the way that by paying attention to and getting to know themselves really well, they discover all sorts of secret strengths and superpowers they would never have guessed they had.

    They learn to trust their own judgment. As in any relationship that is built on trust, their relationship with themselves grows stronger as time passes.

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    They never settle for less than they deserve

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      They know that you get what you settle for. This lesson usually takes a little while to hit home during their early 20s, but once they grasp the magnitude of its meaning, they realize that settling for less is such a waste of precious time. They save themselves a whole load of heartache and time by aiming higher.

      They eliminate toxic people from their lives actively

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        This includes people who gossip, naysayers and drama queens. Learning to implement healthy boundaries is a huge part of living a life free of emotional baggage.

        They forgive, but never forget

        They work at forgiveness constantly. They know that forgiveness is not a gift that you give your perpetrator or the person who hurt you, but it is rather a gift to themselves.

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        They know that forgiveness is the key you need to free themselves from the prison of anger. Without this, they remain captive, bitter and twisted. This leads to unhappiness. They learn from their mistakes by not making hem more than twice.

        They believe what they do is powerful, then that becomes real

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          They feel a strong motivation to achieve their goals. They don’t waste their time on outcomes they do not believe in. It has to make sense for them to pursue a certain avenue.

          They don’t worry much about what others think

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            They avoid the comparison game. They know their happiness is dependent on this. They don’t as for permission as they realize they have to take responsibility for their own choices. They do not blame people for their mistakes.

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            This makes the opinions of those who don’t have the necessary expertise needed to guide any particular process obsolete. One should only really share opinions if an invitation to do so is given.

            They accept themselves for who they are

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              They realize that at the end of the day life is too short and too fabulous to sit around feeling sorry for who they are not. They find mentors who they can learn from and mold themselves to their own expectations.

              They know they aren’t perfect, but that’s alright

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                They accept that nobody is perfect. Women who have the power to accept themselves (the good and bad)are highly adaptive. They that ultimately adapting allows them to live a truly exceptional life.

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                They respect themselves and won’t do anything that is unfair to themselves

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                  They are more aware of their own worth than women who haven’t reached this stage. The path to discovering their real worth is different for every woman and it only ever becomes really evident once she has had her back to the wall.

                  Many women who are known to be strong will tell you that they weren’t necessarily always that way. They usually only discover their true strength in really difficult situations. Usually, after they have no tears left to cry and nowhere left to turn, other than towards themselves. That is when the magic starts happening.

                  They build strong personal support systems

                  Often strong women weave really strong webs of interpersonal relationships between each other that become phenomenal personal support systems. This means that most solutions are a phone call away because they have each other’s backs. Sometimes the greatest strength comes in recognizing that you cannot do things alone.

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                  Last Updated on May 21, 2019

                  How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

                  How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

                  For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

                  If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

                  Example 1

                  You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

                  You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

                  In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

                  Example 2

                  You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

                  People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

                  You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

                  Example 3

                  You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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                  The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

                  Example 4

                  You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

                  Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

                  If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

                  Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

                  • Understand your own communication style
                  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
                  • Communicate with precision and care
                  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

                  1. Understand Your Communication Style

                  To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

                  In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

                  Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

                  2. Learn Others Communication Styles

                  Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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                  If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

                  “How do you prefer to receive information?”

                  This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

                  To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

                  3. Exercise Precision and Care

                  A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

                  On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

                  Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

                  I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

                  I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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                  In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

                  The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

                  Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

                  4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

                  Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

                  In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

                  “Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

                  Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

                  Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

                  It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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                  It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

                  It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

                  Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

                  Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

                  The Bottom Line

                  When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

                  I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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