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11 Things All Strong Women Have In Common

11 Things All Strong Women Have In Common

They constantly look for growth

They know that the only thing that stands between them and their success are their micro-movements. Consequently, they keep taking small steps. They keep moving, even if it is slow. Whatever they do, they do no stop growing and improving who they are.

They treat themselves well

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    In modern day society women are bombarded with the message that they just aren’t good enough unless they subscribe to a horde of mindless advertising standards. Strong women know who they are.

    Even though they may not always set out loving themselves at first, they learn along the way that by paying attention to and getting to know themselves really well, they discover all sorts of secret strengths and superpowers they would never have guessed they had.

    They learn to trust their own judgment. As in any relationship that is built on trust, their relationship with themselves grows stronger as time passes.

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    They never settle for less than they deserve

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      They know that you get what you settle for. This lesson usually takes a little while to hit home during their early 20s, but once they grasp the magnitude of its meaning, they realize that settling for less is such a waste of precious time. They save themselves a whole load of heartache and time by aiming higher.

      They eliminate toxic people from their lives actively

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        This includes people who gossip, naysayers and drama queens. Learning to implement healthy boundaries is a huge part of living a life free of emotional baggage.

        They forgive, but never forget

        They work at forgiveness constantly. They know that forgiveness is not a gift that you give your perpetrator or the person who hurt you, but it is rather a gift to themselves.

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        They know that forgiveness is the key you need to free themselves from the prison of anger. Without this, they remain captive, bitter and twisted. This leads to unhappiness. They learn from their mistakes by not making hem more than twice.

        They believe what they do is powerful, then that becomes real

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          They feel a strong motivation to achieve their goals. They don’t waste their time on outcomes they do not believe in. It has to make sense for them to pursue a certain avenue.

          They don’t worry much about what others think

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            They avoid the comparison game. They know their happiness is dependent on this. They don’t as for permission as they realize they have to take responsibility for their own choices. They do not blame people for their mistakes.

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            This makes the opinions of those who don’t have the necessary expertise needed to guide any particular process obsolete. One should only really share opinions if an invitation to do so is given.

            They accept themselves for who they are

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              They realize that at the end of the day life is too short and too fabulous to sit around feeling sorry for who they are not. They find mentors who they can learn from and mold themselves to their own expectations.

              They know they aren’t perfect, but that’s alright

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                They accept that nobody is perfect. Women who have the power to accept themselves (the good and bad)are highly adaptive. They that ultimately adapting allows them to live a truly exceptional life.

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                They respect themselves and won’t do anything that is unfair to themselves

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                  They are more aware of their own worth than women who haven’t reached this stage. The path to discovering their real worth is different for every woman and it only ever becomes really evident once she has had her back to the wall.

                  Many women who are known to be strong will tell you that they weren’t necessarily always that way. They usually only discover their true strength in really difficult situations. Usually, after they have no tears left to cry and nowhere left to turn, other than towards themselves. That is when the magic starts happening.

                  They build strong personal support systems

                  Often strong women weave really strong webs of interpersonal relationships between each other that become phenomenal personal support systems. This means that most solutions are a phone call away because they have each other’s backs. Sometimes the greatest strength comes in recognizing that you cannot do things alone.

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                  Last Updated on October 14, 2020

                  Had a Bad Day? 7 Ways to Rebound From It and Feel Good Again

                  Had a Bad Day? 7 Ways to Rebound From It and Feel Good Again

                  Today didn’t turn out as you planned, but it doesn’t mean you’re weak. It simply means that you’re human, and you’re not bad just because you had a bad day.

                  “Not everyday is a good day but there is something good in every day.” -Alice Morse Earle

                  It’s not the end of the world when you find yourself thinking “I had a bad day,” but it can feel like it. You may have had plans that fell apart, experiences that set you back, and interactions that only did harm.

                  You may have started the day thinking you could take on it all, only to find you could hardly get out of bed. When you have a bad day, you can forget to look at the good.

                  Sometimes, self-care helps us to remember why we are worth it. It helps us to recharge and reset our mindset. It helps us to know that there are still options and that the day isn’t over yet.

                  Love yourself today, no matter how hard it’s been. That’s the way to find yourself amidst the hardships you have. That’s how you center yourself and regain focus and live a more meaningful life. Give yourself some credit and compassion.

                  Here are 7 ways to rebound from a bad day using self-compassion as a tool. If you had a bad day, these are for you!

                  1. Make a Gratitude List

                  In a study on gratitude, psychologists Dr. Robert A Emmons and Dr. Michael E. McCullough conducted an experiment where one group of people wrote out gratitude lists for ten weeks while another group wrote about irritations. The study found that the group that wrote about gratitude reported more optimistic mindsets in their lives[1].

                  Overall, having a gratitude list improved well-being and made one truly grateful by counting the blessings in their lives.

                  Write a list of what you are grateful for if you had a bad day. Make it as long as you like, but also remember to note why you’re grateful for each thing you write.

                  What has given you the most joy? What has set you up for better days? Keep a tally of triumphs in mind, especially when you do have the bad days.

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                  The day doesn’t define you, and you still have things of value that surround you. These could be material things, spiritual connections and experiences, relationships, basic needs, emotional and mental well-being, physical health, progress towards hopes and dreams, or simply being alive.

                  Here are some other simple ways to practice gratitude.

                  2. Write in a Journal

                  Journaling affects your overall mental health, which also affects physical health and aids in the management of stress, depression, anxiety, and more[2].

                  All you need is a pen and paper, or you could do an online, password-protected journal such as Penzu. The key is to get started and not pressure yourself on how polished or perfect it is. You don’t need to have prior experience to start journal writing. Just start.

                  Write out everything that is bothering you for 15 minutes. This helps with rumination, processing problems, and can even aid with brainstorming solutions.

                  However you approach it, you can find patterns of thinking that no longer serve you and start to transform your overall mental state. This will impact all areas of your life and is a great coping skill.

                  3. Meditate

                  Meditation can help you overcome negative thought patterns, worrying about the future, dwelling on the past, or struggling to overcome a bad day[3]. It shifts your mentality and helps you focus on the present or any one thing you truly want to focus on.

                  Here is an example of a meditation you can do:

                  Get into a comfortable position. Close your eyes. Rest your body, release tension, and unclench your jaw. Tighten and release each muscle group in a body scan for progressive muscle relaxation.

                  Focus on your breath, taking a few deep breaths. Let your belly expand when you breathe in for diaphragmatic breathing. Empty yourself completely of air, then return to normal breathing.

                  Next, focus on the idea of self-love and let it erase negative thoughts. Think about the ways you’ve been judging yourself, with the narratives coming up that your mind may create.

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                  Give yourself unconditional love and release judgment. Take your time meditating on this because you matter. This is particularly important if you had a bad day.

                  Check out this article for more on how to get started with a meditation practice.

                  4. Do Child’s Pose

                  Yoga Outlet says:

                  “Child’s Pose is a simple way to calm your mind, slow your breath, and restore a feeling of peace and safety. Practicing the pose before bedtime can help to release the worries of the day. Practicing in the morning can you help transition from sleeping to waking.”[4]

                  When you do Child’s Pose, it can be between difficult positions in yoga, or it can be anytime you feel you need a rest. It helps you recover from difficulties and relax the mind.

                  It also has the physical health benefits of elongating your back, opening your hips, and helping with digestion[5].

                  To do Child’s Pose, rest your buttocks back on your feet, knees on the floor. Elongate your body over your knees with both arms extended or tucked back, with head and neck resting on the floor[6].

                  Had a bad day? Try Child's Pose.

                     

                    Do this pose as a gift to yourself. You are allowing yourself to heal, rest, get time for yourself, recover, and recharge. When you’ve had a bad day, it’s there waiting for you.

                    5. Try Positive Self-Talk

                    Engage in positive self-talk. This is essentially choosing your thoughts.

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                    When you have a negative thought, such as “I can’t do this,” replace it consciously with the thought “I can do this.” Give yourself positive affirmations to help with this.

                    Negative self-talk fits into four general categories: personalizing or blaming yourself, magnifying or only focusing on the negative, catastrophizing or expecting the worst to happen, and polarizing or only seeing back and white[7].

                    When you stop blaming yourself for everything and start focusing on the positive, expecting things to work out, and seeing the areas of grey in life, you reverse these negative mindsets and engage in positive self-talk.

                    When you speak words of kindness to yourself, your brain responds with a more positive attitude. That attitude will affect everything you do. It’s how you take care of yourself if you had a bad day.

                    Check in with yourself to know when you are having negative self-talk. Are you seeing patterns? When did they start to become a problem? Are you able to turn these thoughts around?

                    6. Use Coping Skills and Take a Break

                    Use your coping skills. This means not letting your thoughts take control of yourself.

                    You can distract yourself and escape a bit. Do things you love. You can exercise, listen to music, dance, volunteer or help someone, be in nature, or read a book.

                    It isn’t about repression. It’s about redirection. You can’t stay in thoughts that are no longer working for you.

                    Sometimes, it’s okay to get out of your own way. Give yourself a break from the things going on in your head. You can always come back to a problem later. This may even help you figure out the best course of action as sometimes stepping away is the only way to see the solution.

                    If you had a bad day, you may not feel like addressing what went wrong. You may need a break, so take one.

                    7. If a Bad Day Turns Into Bad Days

                    “I believe depression is legitimate. But I also believe that if you don’t exercise, eat nutritious food, get sunlight, get enough sleep, consume positive material, surround yourself with support, then you aren’t giving yourself a fighting chance.” –Jim Carrey

                    If you’ve been feeling out of control, depressed, or unstable for more than a few weeks, it’s time to call a mental health professional. This is not because you have failed in any way. It’s because you are human, and you simply need help.

                    You may not be able to quickly rebound from a bad day, and that’s fine. Feel what you feel, but don’t let it consume you.

                    When you talk to a professional, share the techniques that you have already tried here and whether they were helpful. They may tell you additional ideas or gain insights from your struggles of not being able to rebound from a series of bad days.

                    If you’re having more than just a bad day, they will want to know. If you don’t have the answers, that’s okay, too. You just need to try these tools and figure out how you’re feeling. That’s all that’s required of you.

                    Keep taking care of yourself. Any progress is progress, no matter how small. Give yourself a chance to get better by reaching out.

                    Final Thoughts

                    If you had a bad day, don’t let it stop you.

                    Know this: It’s okay not to be okay. You have a right to feel what you feel. But there is something you can do about it.

                    You can invest in yourself via self-care.

                    You are not alone in this. Everyone has bad days from time to time. You just need to know that you are the positive things you tell yourself.

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