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55 Men’s Fashion Mistakes You Need To Stop Committing

55 Men’s Fashion Mistakes You Need To Stop Committing

Throughout a man’s growth from boy to man, he learns small lessons on how to look good- even amazing. However, sometimes good taste in style is not a man’s strong point.

Between everything a man does everyday, from school, work, or watching his favorite sports team, it can be hard to keep up with every fashion fad and avoid committing the following fashion crimes. With this in mind, I have compiled an exhaustive list of some of men’s style mistakes that I see a lot of men committing, especially when attempting to transcend to the title of “stylish” or fashionable.

Now before I start, it is important to address the “why” as some of you might be asking yourselves. Why should you invest time and money into improving your appearance? The following are formidable reasons to persuade you. Some might find these to be common sense, but I’m sure most of you will find them eye-awakening.

Reason #1 : Getting any job is easier when you look good

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    Reason #2 : Attracting the opposite sex

    Some of you might want to improve your fashion sense to impress the girl that caught your eye rather than trying to impress a manager to get a job. This is a perfect excuse to improve your appearance. Looking like you got your clothes from the Lost and Found won’t improve your chances of impressing your “soul-mate”.

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      Reason #3 : Confidence

      Did you know that looking great improves your confidence? Just try it out if you haven’t noticed it yet. Go out wearing average clothes and see how you feel, and the next day, wear the best clothes you have, and do the same. You will notice a big difference!

      These are the simplest reasons for why you should improve your style. Now it’s time for the ultimate list of men’s style mistakes that you should avoid.

      55 Fashion Mistakes By Men You Need To Avoid:

      1. Wearing worn out and beaten down shoes:

      I don’t care how good the other parts of your outfit look like, ultimately, if you fail to wear shoes that are clean and in good shape, then your whole outfit will be a mess.

      Solution: Spend the extra cash to buy quality shoes that last a long time.

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        2. Deep v-necks:

        Oh, how much I hate these t-shirts. Please for the sake of your fashion sense, and also humanity, don’t wear these.

        3. Reliance on branding:

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          Brands are not what make up your clothes, so if you are currently proud of simply buying clothes from any brand senseless of style, then you are wasting your precious money.

          Solution: Buy clothes based on how they fit, feel, and look, rather than the brand badge they carry.

          4. Leather pants, t-shirts and hats…:

          Any item of clothing that isn’t a leather jacket shouldn’t be leather. Simple as that- especially leather pants! Just buy regular jeans or khaki pants and you will look one hundred times more attractive.

          5. Socks with sandals:

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            It is simply ugly; I don’t have more to say about it. Sandals are meant to be worn with bare feet. If your feet are not parts of your body that you are comfortable showing, then avoid open toe shoes.

            6. Wearing sandals all the time:

            Sandals were designed to be worn on the beach and to pools. They are seasonal, so don’t make them your everyday wear.

            7. Leaving clothes around your house floor:

            Leaving clothes lying everywhere in your home will eat away their good condition, so take care of them.

            Solution: Hang your clothes in your wardrobe, and fold your t-shirts with other items neatly. This will help maintain their newness.

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            8. Wearing sunglasses inside:

            You might think you look cool and unstoppable, but you are completely wrong. Sunglasses are made for the sun, so please don’t wear them inside. Additionally, they will make you look much less approachable to both men and women than if you had chosen to show your entire face.

            9. White jeans:

            I used to see these a lot back when I lived in Germany; I believe they are more of a euro-fashion trend. However, if you currently live in the states, then I say STOP.

            Solution: When choosing jean colors, choose from the basic and dark colors like black, blue, dark blue, grey etc. They will help make you look classic.

            10. Yellow, red, pink, purple… Jeans:

            This relates to the above point. Don’t choose bright colors for your jeans; basic colors are enough to make you look sophisticated and attractive.

            11. Buying clothes that you think will fit you later on:

            It doesn’t matter how much muscle you think you will build in the next year, or how much fat you plan on losing- live in the now! Buy the clothes that fit you, so you don’t mentally torture yourself.

            Solution: After accomplishing your goal, reward yourself with buying new clothes.

            12. Mother shopping:

            Getting a little help from your mom or female friend is okay. However you are a man, and that should mean making your own choices and buying your clothes for yourself.

            13. The “I woke up and I don’t care” look:

            Wearing the same hoodies, sweatpants, and flip flops you lounge with inside but outside, will do much damage to your appearance. For your sake, don’t go out with the same clothing you wear at home lounging.

            14. The visible crack

            This is both funny and disgustingly unattractive. Please make sure that your clothing provides full coverage to your behind in order to avoid any unnecessary exposure during times of crouching, or bending.

            15. Sagging:

            Nobody wants to see the boxers you are wearing everywhere you go out, so please pull up your pants.

            16. White socks with black shoes:

            They simply don’t match, so avoid this style mistake unless you are trying to moonwalk.

            17. Wearing terrible-quality shirts:

            You have to invest in yourself to look amazing. Don’t devalue yourself by purchasing poor quality material.

            Solution: Spend the extra 10-15$, and buy a quality shirt online or at any respectable store. Buying high quality clothes is actually cheaper when you consider their life time. Sure a 5$ shirt is cheap and affordable, but it will never last! Check out the ultimate guide to t-shirts for expert advice.

            18. Wearing wife-beaters:

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              You are not Carl Johnson (CJ) from GTA San-Andreas, so cut out the act.

              19. Wearing over-sized ties:

              Don’t let your tie fall beyond your belt line, if you want to avoid looking immature.

              20. Extremely long jeans:

              Jeans are not meant to be worn in a way where your shoes trap them with every step. If you value your looks, jean quality, and money, avoid buying jeans that are beyond your pant-length.

              21. Large pocket jeans:

              I don’t understand why these types of jeans were created, perhaps they were originally meant for blue-collared workers who needed the extra space for equipment. Unless you fit that category, do not wear these.

              22. Mismatching colors between shoes and belts:

              Don’t wear brown belts with black shoes and vice versa.

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              Solution: Belts and shoes must be the same color, and if you can, match the material too.

              23. Decorated and embellished jeans:

              You are not a fairy, so avoid the sparkling jeans. In your attempt to be cool, you achieve the opposite when choosing to endorse this style no-no.

              24. Humorous pieces:

              Don’t be the person who wears a funny shirt just to catch people’s attention. The attention is not usually positive, and you will definitely scare the ladies away.

              25. Fur coats:

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                I have very important advice for these: light a fire and burn the fur coat- or simply avoid spending the money to buy one.

                26. Baggy dress shirts:

                Dress shirts are meant to fit your body as snugly as possible, while also allowing free movement. Do not buy dress shirts that hang like rectangular boxes on your upper body.

                Solution: Buy a smaller size that fits properly. If you suffer from any body disproportions, then get your dress shirts tailored.

                27. Tighty-whitey underpants:

                Avoid scaring your girlfriend, and purchase yourself quality underwear. A popular brand to help with your underwear choices would be Calvin Klein, however there are plenty of quality brands out there to choose from.

                28. Tilted baseball hats:

                There is nothing more immature than wearing baseball hats, never mind tilting them to one side in attempt to make yourself look “cooler”.

                29. Excessive jewelry:

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                  Unless you’re being featured on a gangster rap music video with Young Thug, please avoid large jewelry and limit the pieces to 1-2 in total.

                  30. Too much facial grooming:

                  Unless you are a male model, threading or plucking your eyebrows and giving yourself an overly-groomed or refined appearance will definitely take away from your manhood. You don’t want the ladies to feel like you’re competing with them.

                  31. Wearing the wrong undershirt with your dress shirt:

                  Instead of wearing crew neck t-shirts under your dress shirts, opt for a v-neck that will accentuate your dress shirt style. You don’t want a crew neck filling in the gap between your dress shirt and your upper chest.

                  32. Wearing sport jerseys everywhere you go:

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                    Jerseys are meant to be worn when you are going to a sports game or when you are at home. They aren’t applicable on a daily basis.

                    33. Wearing clothes that are not appropriate for the climate:

                    There is no need for you to wear a raincoat when it is 80 degrees outside. The same goes for the cold weather. Adapt your clothing to the climate.

                    34. Wearing too many colors at once:

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                      Don’t wear yellow jeans, a blue shirt, a red hat and white shoes all at once. Keep the contrast to 2-3 times at most to prevent your attire from looking like a costume.

                      35. Tucking in t-shirts:

                      Tucking in your t-shirts will give you the middle-aged father look. For the sake of your style sense, don’t tuck your shirts in.

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                      Solution: Get them tailored or invest some money and buy shirts that fit your body perfectly.

                      36. Wearing the most ridiculous sunglasses:

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                        You are not competing in a cycling race, are you? So drop those sport shades right now.

                        Solution: If you want sunglasses, buy quality sunglasses like Ray Bans, Tom Ford, Topman’s… rather than getting cheap immature sunglasses. Sunglasses are just an addition so if you are low on money, I suggest you invest in the other more important pieces of your outfit.

                        37. Sneakers with dress pants

                        This makes me cringe every time I see it. I remember back during my high school graduation, a kid wore Jordan’s with his navy suit and graduation coat. As he walked on the stage in front of a 2000+ audience, everyone’s face was like “really?” If you think wearing dress shoes is not cool, then good luck at every job interview you ever hope to attend (Spoiler Alert: you probably won’t get the job).

                        Solution: Have one or two dress shoes ready when something important, like a job interview, comes up.

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                          38. Popping up your collars:

                          Again, you are not being featured in a music video, so fold that collar back in its place. It’s that simple.

                          39. Baggy boxers:

                          These are usually paired with baggy jeans. Sagging really takes away from your perceived sophistication.

                          Solution: Don’t buy saggy or baggy boxers.

                          40. Wearing skinny jeans while overweight:

                          Wearing skinny jeans while you are overweight will likely attract more attention to the fact, and it will most likely bring down your self-esteem.

                          Solution: buy yourself a pair of jeans that will flatter your body.

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                            41. Over washing:

                            Every time an item of clothing is washed, it loses some of its quality and condition.

                            Solution: Take care of your clothing before it gets dirty, otherwise you will have to wash it, and if that keeps up, the quality of your item deteriorates. Better prevent than cure. Also, only dry clean your suits when they really need it.

                            42. Wearing jean shorts:

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                              There is nothing more unflattering than jean shorts in my eyes. Unless you are John Cena, opt for a good pair of chino shorts.

                              43. Flame shirts:

                              Do not wear t-shirts that have the same flame designs as the t-shirts you wore when you were 12. Avoid these unnecessary designs, and opt for classier prints.

                              44. Excessive hair product:

                              Too much hair product will make your hair look unintentionally greasy and over the top.

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                                45. Logos and designer t-shirts:

                                You don’t work for that brand, so why are you wearing these? Most importantly, why are you spending more money on these than regular, better looking t-shirts?

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                                46. Worn out socks:

                                Socks are the cheapest items on the market, so don’t wait until yours are in horrible shape.

                                Solution: Get yourself some new socks; socks don’t have to be from a popular brand, you can buy them for a fair price at any clothing store.

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                                  47. Pants that are too short:

                                  If you can clearly see your socks below you dress pants’ hemline, than they are too small for you. Make sure you’re pants fit your leg length.

                                  48. Being fooled by “quality” mall brands:

                                  You may think wearing a popular quality brand logo on your shirt qualifies you into being fashionable and stylish, but you are only ripping yourself off. Some brands are perceived as “quality” even though they are overly-priced, poor quality garments, stamped with cliché branding.

                                  Solution: You are better off choosing attire based on their fit and quality rather than on their popular reputations. You will save money and look better. Learning to differentiate between popular brands and quality brands is a very valuable skill.

                                  49. Cargo shorts:

                                  Never ever wear these. There is no occasion for them to be worn either. Like I said before, substitute cargo and jean shorts with fashionable chino ones.

                                  50. Not tucking in your dress shirts:

                                  Dress shirts- unlike t-shirts- are meant to be tucked. If you really are the type who never tucks anything in, then at least make the shirt shorter, so that it doesn’t hang too low.

                                  51. Blindly following trends:

                                  There is no need to follow trends all the time. Trends fade over time, you don’t want to purchase something that won’t be “in” later.

                                  Solution: Instead of wasting more money on trendy clothes, invest in high quality staple attire first. After that, you can spend money on trendy clothes.

                                  52. Short sleeved shirt with a tie:

                                  I don’t know where this fad originated from, but whoever started it should be ashamed.

                                  53. Square toe shoes:

                                  These types of shoes were never acceptable. They will completely destroy your fashion sense. They are big, awkward and outdated, so do not wear them. Just the same, do not opt for shoes that are overly pointed, or that have the potential of making you look like an elf.

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                                    54. Not ironing your dress shirt:

                                    You should always take the time to iron your dress shirt. Don’t wear dress shirts that have been squashed or wrinkled. It only takes 10-15 minutes to iron, and your shirt will make you look 100% more stylish.

                                    55. Stained clothes:

                                    Don’t ever go out with a stain and expect people not to notice it. I know what you were thinking when you decided to wear that stained shirt. “No. The stain is too small, people won’t know that it is there.” I am here to ask you, why are you taking that chance? Trust me, most people will notice.

                                    Solution: Wash the item and get the stain off; stop wearing the item in public and get yourself new attire if you are unable to do this. This tip is straight forward, but nonetheless, a good reminder.

                                    What Next?

                                    If you want to take your fashion sense to the next level, then just knowing what to avoid is not enough; you must also know what to wear to look great. If you want more, check out the author bio below and be sure to check out Yohan’s other excellent articles.

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                                    How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind

                                    How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind

                                    Your mind is the most powerful tool you have for the creation of good in your life, but if not used correctly, can also be the most destructive force in your life.

                                    Your mind, more specifically, your thoughts, affect your perception and therefore, your interpretation of reality. (And here’s Why Your Perception Is Your Reality.)

                                    I have heard that the average person thinks around 70,000 thoughts a day. That’s a lot, especially if they are unproductive, self-abusive and just a general waste of energy.

                                    You can let your thoughts run amok, but why would you? It is your mind, your thoughts; isn’t it time to take your power back? Isn’t it time to take control?

                                    Choose to be the person who is actively, consciously thinking your thoughts. Become the master of your mind.

                                    When you change your thoughts, you will change your feelings as well, and you will also eliminate the triggers that set off those feelings. Both of these outcomes provide you with a greater level of peace in your mind.

                                    I currently have few thoughts that are not of my own choosing or a response from my reprogramming. I am the master of my mind, so now my mind is quite peaceful. Yours can be too!

                                    Who Is Thinking My Thoughts?

                                    Before you can become the master of your mind, you must recognize that you are currently at the mercy of several unwanted “squatters” living in your mind, and they are in charge of your thoughts. If you want to be the boss of them, you must know who they are and what their motivation is, and then you can take charge and evict them.

                                    Here are four of the “squatters” in your head that create the most unhealthy and unproductive thoughts:

                                    1. The Inner Critic

                                    This is your constant abuser who is often a conglomeration of:

                                    • Other people’s words; many times your parents.
                                    • Thoughts you have created based on your own or other peoples expectations.
                                    • Comparing yourself to other people, including those in the media.
                                    • The things you told yourself as a result of painful experiences such as betrayal and rejection. Your interpretation creates your self-doubt and self-blame, which are most likely undeserved in cases of rejection and betrayal.

                                    The Inner Critic is motivated by pain, low self-esteem, lack of self-acceptance and lack of self-love.

                                    Why else would this person abuse you? And since this person is actually you– why else would you abuse yourself? Why would you let anyone treat you this badly?

                                    2. The Worrier

                                    This person lives in the future; in the world of “what ifs.”

                                    The Worrier is motivated by fear which is often irrational and with no basis for it. Occasionally, this person is motivated by fear that what happened in the past will happen again.

                                    3. The Reactor or Trouble-Maker

                                    This is the one that triggers anger, frustration and pain. These triggers stem from unhealed wounds of the past. Any experience that is even closely related to a past wound will set him off.

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                                    This person can be set off by words or feelings, and can even be set off by sounds and smells.

                                    The Reactor has no real motivation and has poor impulse control and is run by past programming that no longer serves you, if it ever did.

                                    4. The Sleep Depriver

                                    This can be a combination of any number of different squatters including the inner planner, the rehasher, and the ruminator, along with the inner critic and the worrier.

                                    The Sleep Depriver’s motivation can be:

                                    • As a reaction to silence, which he fights against
                                    • Taking care of the business you neglected during the day
                                    • Self-doubt, low self-esteem, insecurity and generalized anxiety
                                    • As listed above for the inner critic and worrier

                                    How can you control these squatters?

                                    How to Master Your Mind

                                    You are the thinker and the observer of your thoughts. You must pay attention to your thoughts so you can identify “who” is running the show; this will determine which technique you will want to use.

                                    Begin each day with the intention of paying attention to your thoughts and catching yourself when you are thinking undesirable thoughts.

                                    There are two ways to control your thoughts:

                                    • Technique A – Interrupt and replace them
                                    • Technique B – Eliminate them altogether

                                    This second option is what is known as peace of mind!

                                    The technique of interrupting and replacing is a means of reprogramming your subconscious mind. Eventually, the replacement thoughts will become the “go to” thoughts in the applicable situations.

                                    Use Technique A with the Inner Critic and Worrier; and Technique B with the Reactor and Sleep Depriver.

                                    For the Inner Critic

                                    When you catch yourself thinking something negative about yourself (calling yourself names, disrespecting yourself, or berating yourself), interrupt it.

                                    You can yell (in your mind), “Stop! No!” or, “Enough! I’m in control now.” Then, whatever your negative thought was about yourself, replace it with an opposite or counter thought or an affirmation that begins with “I am.”

                                    For example, if your thought is, “I’m such a loser,” you can replace it with, “I am a Divine Creation of the Universal Spirit. I am a perfect spiritual being learning to master the human experience. I am a being of energy, light, and matter. I am magnificent, brilliant, and beautiful. I love and approve of myself just as I am.”

                                    You can also have a dialogue with yourself with the intention of discrediting the ‘voice’ that created the thought, if you know whose voice it is:

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                                    “Just because so-and-so said I was a loser doesn’t make it true. It was his or her opinion, not a statement of fact. Or maybe they were joking and I took it seriously because I’m insecure.”

                                    If you recognize that you have recurring self-critical thoughts, you can write out or pre-plan your counter thoughts or affirmation so you can be ready. This is the first squatter you should evict, forcefully, if necessary:

                                    • They rile up the Worrier.
                                    • The names you call yourself become triggers when called those names by others, so he also maintains the presence of the Reactor.
                                    • They are often present when you try to fall asleep so he perpetuates the Sleep Depriver.
                                    • They are a bully and is verbally and emotionally abusive.
                                    • They are the destroyer of self-esteem. They convince you that you’re not worthy. They’re a liar! In the interest of your self-worth, get them out!

                                    Eliminate your worst critic and you will also diminish the presence of the other three squatters.

                                    Replace them with your new best friends who support, encourage, and enhance your life. This is a presence you want in your mind.

                                    For the Worrier

                                    Prolonged anxiety is mentally, emotionally and physically unhealthy. It can have long-term health implications.

                                    Fear initiates the fight or flight response, creates worry in the mind and creates anxiety in the body.

                                    You should be able to recognize a “worry thought” immediately by how you feel. The physiological signs that the fight or flight response of fear has kicked in are:

                                    • Increased heart rate, blood pressure, or surge of adrenaline
                                    • Shallow breathing or breathlessness
                                    • Muscles tense

                                    Use the above stated method to interrupt any thought of worry and then replace it. But this time you will replace your thoughts of worry with thoughts of gratitude for the outcome you wish for.

                                    If you believe in a higher power, this is the time to engage with it. Here is an example:

                                    Instead of worrying about my loved ones traveling in bad weather, I say the following (I call it a prayer):

                                    “Thank you great spirit for watching over _______. Thank you for watching over his/her car and keeping it safe, road-worthy, and free of maintenance issues without warning. Thank you for surrounding him/her with only safe, conscientious, and alert drivers. And thank you for keeping him/her safe, conscientious, and alert.”

                                    Smile when you think about it or say it aloud, and phrase it in the present tense; both of these will help you feel it and possibly even start to believe it.

                                    If you can visualize what you are praying for, the visualization will enhance the feeling so you will increase the impact in your vibrational field.

                                    Now take a calming breath, slowly in through your nose, and slowly out through the mouth. Take as many as you like!

                                    Replacing fearful thoughts with gratitude will decrease reactionary behavior, taking the steam out of the Reactor.

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                                    For example:

                                    If your child gets lost in the mall, the typical parental reaction that follows the fearful thoughts when finding them is to yell at them.

                                    “I told you never to leave my sight.” This reaction just adds to the child’s fear level from being lost in the first place. Plus, it also teaches them that mom and/or dad will get mad when he or she makes a mistake, which may make them lie to you or not tell you things in the future.

                                    Change those fearful thoughts when they happen:

                                    “Thank You (your choice of Higher Power) for watching over my child and keeping him safe. Thank you for helping me find him soon.”

                                    Then, when you see your child after this thought process, your only reaction will be gratitude, and that seems like a better alternative for all people involved.

                                    For the Trouble-Maker, Reactor or Over-Reactor

                                    Permanently eliminating this squatter will take a bit more attention and reflection after the fact to identify and heal the causes of the triggers; but until then, you can prevent the Reactor from getting out of control by initiating conscious breathing as soon as you recognize his presence.

                                    The Reactor’s thoughts or feelings activate the fight or flight response just like with the Worrier. The physiological signs of his presence will be the same. With a little attention, you should be able to tell the difference between anxiety, anger, frustration, or pain:

                                    • Increased heart rate and blood pressure; surge of adrenaline
                                    • Shallow breathing or breathlessness
                                    • Muscles tension

                                    I’m sure you’ve heard the suggestion to count to ten when you get angry—well, you can make those ten seconds much more productive if you are breathing consciously during that time.

                                    Conscious breathing is as simple as it sounds; just be conscious of your breathing. Pay attention to the air going in and coming out.

                                    Breathe in through your nose:

                                    • Feel the air entering your nostrils.
                                    • Feel your lungs filling and expanding.
                                    • Focus on your belly rising.

                                    Breathe out through your nose:

                                    • Feel your lungs emptying.
                                    • Focus on your belly falling.
                                    • Feel the air exiting your nostrils.

                                    Do this for as long as you like. Leave the situation if you want. This gives the adrenaline time to normalize.

                                    Now you can address the situation with a calmer, more rational perspective and avoid damaging behavior.

                                    One of the troubles this squatter causes is that it adds to the sleep depriver’s issues. By evicting, or at least controlling the Reactor, you will decrease reactionary behavior, which will decrease the need for the rehashing and ruminating that may keep you from falling asleep.

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                                    Master your mind and stop the Reactor from bringing stress to you and your relationships!

                                    For the Sleep Depriver

                                    (They’re made up of the Inner Planner, the Rehasher and the Ruminator, along with the Inner Critic and the Worrier.)

                                    I was plagued with a very common problem: not being able to turn off my mind at bedtime. This inability prevented me from falling asleep and thus, getting a restful and restorative night’s sleep.

                                    Here’s how I mastered my mind and evicted the Sleep Depriver and all his cronies.

                                    1. I started by focusing on my breathing—paying attention to the rise and fall of my belly—but that didn’t keep the thoughts out for long. (Actually, I now start with checking my at-rest mouth position to keep me from clenching.)
                                    2. Then I came up with replacement strategy that eliminated uncontrolled thinking—imagining the word in while breathing in and thinking the word out when breathing out. I would (and do) elongate the word to match the length of my breath.

                                    When I catch myself thinking, I shift back to in, out. With this technique, I am still thinking, sort of, but the wheels are no longer spinning out of control. I am in control of my mind and I choose quiet.

                                    From the first time I tried this method I started to yawn after only a few cycles and am usually asleep within ten minutes.

                                    For really difficult nights, I add an increase of attention by holding my eyes in a looking-up position (Closed, of course!). Sometimes I try to look toward my third eye but that really hurts my eyes.

                                    If you have trouble falling asleep because you can’t shut off your mind, I strongly recommend you try this technique. I still use it every night. You can start sleeping better tonight!

                                    You can also use this technique any time you want to:

                                    • Fall back to sleep if you wake up too soon.
                                    • Shut down your thinking.
                                    • Calm your feelings.
                                    • Simply focus on the present moment. 

                                    The Bottom Line

                                    Your mind is a tool, and like any other tool, it can be used for constructive purposes or for destructive purposes.

                                    You can allow your mind to be occupied by unwanted, undesirable and destructive tenants, or you can choose desirable tenants like peace, gratitude, compassion, love, and joy.

                                    Your mind can become your best friend, your biggest supporter, and someone you can count on to be there and encourage you. The choice is yours!

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