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3 Simple Lists That Can Change Your Outlook On Life

3 Simple Lists That Can Change Your Outlook On Life

Life is busy, isn’t it? Pick up your pen and a notepad and get started with these 3 simple lists.

Watch how it transforms you!

1. List of things which you are grateful for

An example of a list you might make:

  • I have a very happy family. We can laugh together and be with each other through thick and thin.
  • My baby boy (or darling daughter) is the best thing in the world. I feel blessed to have my child in my life.
  • I look forward to doing my job every day.
  • My boss is really great.
  • I have financial stability in life. I don’t have to worry about money.
  • I have this possession which I particularly like – it’s my guitar (or my canvas stand, or my camera….). It lies away in a corner, but many-a-times it has saved me from emotional breakdown!
  • I have a loving wife (or husband). Few people are as happy as I am with my partner.
  • I am in touch with my parents.
  • I am usually inherently peaceful.
  • I had a good education.
  • I feel grateful for the presence of my aunt in my life. She was a friend to me throughout my childhood and made me what I am today.
  • I feel grateful for my high school Math teacher Mr. Francis. He helped shape me as a person.
  • I have a beautiful third-space where I can retire whenever I feel like, and get refreshed.
  • ……………………………….and so on.

There can be many more things in your list. Add them and elaborate!!

Spend a few minutes and make it as personal and detailed as you possibly can. When you answer something with a YES, just write one line as to how you satisfying it feels to have it in your life. You could write something like:

I feel blessed to have my daughter. The other day when I was back from the office, she hugged me and started complaining about everything under the sun. I felt like I had the world in my arms!

OR

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My boss is the best one that I could have hoped for! It’s such a relief after that old job of mine.

OR

Without my educational background, I would not be so well-settled by now.”

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    2. List of reasons why your partner is perfect for you

    Example of such a list (from a man’s point of view):

    • I love my wife. She is my woman! I could not live my life with anyone else.
    • We make up an awesome team! Where I lack, she steps ahead. Where she lacks, I compensate.
    • We have perfect intellectual compatibility. When I say something, she understands me.
    • We can laugh our heart out with everyone else watching us like mad people. Our sense of humor is perfectly compatible.
    • She is my wife, but she’s also as cute as my girl, and sometimes as dominating as a mother. I find a lot of personalities in her.
    • She is an independent woman. I respect her for her ethical strength.
    • I feel lucky to be loved by her. I have seen how relationships can reach a dead-end. That’s not the case with us.
    • I feel like she loves me even more than I love her.
    • We have complete faith in one another. Trust is one issue we never worry about.
    • She respects me for the person I am.
    • She is intelligent and very good at her job. She is appreciated by everyone at her work. I feel proud of her professionalism.
    • She has given me some very bright ideas about my decisions in life.
    • We travel like crazy and love every bit of it. That’s something which we look forward to doing every year.
    • We keep doing crazy stuff and it makes me feel younger! Last time, we decided to attempt a tough trek even though we had no experience!!
    • We are not bound by a responsibility. That’s something that came about naturally. It never felt like a burden to take care of her. Rather, I like it!
    • She is very broadminded.
    • ………………………………….and so on.

    Many of the above may be applicable to you whether you are a man or a woman, whether you are married or in a committed relationship, or living together for a while.

    Do not forget to elaborate on each point.

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    Simple lists

      3. List of people who are concerned about you

      Who thinks about you at least once every day?

      If you have one person on this list you are doing great! Most people have only one person. Anything more is fantastic!

      If you have more than three people in the world who think about you every day, you are a very lucky person!

      Why am I making these Simple Lists? Why spend time on such things?

      A man driving a Ferrari sees a chopper flying above, and wishes: “I should get myself one of those!

      The man driving a Chevy watches the Ferrari and wishes: “Hey, a fancy car! I could have that!

      A man on a motorcycle, passing by the Chevy, tells himself: “If I could buy a car, it would not be strenuous to ride to the office every day.

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      A young man on his bike watches the motorcycle and thinks: “That looks really cool!”

      A man working on a farm, walking his kid to school, watches the youth on the bike and thinks: “What if I had a bike for myself?

      Meanwhile, the pilot of that chopper looks down at the beautiful farm and thinks: “I wish I had a simple life where I could just walk my kid to school.”

      Simple lists to contemplate

        Life is often filled with complaints, filled with many things we want (small and big). There are hundreds of jobs we have to do every day and yet we do not get what we deserve. No matter how much they have, very few people are actually happy.

        Most of us run around every day forgetting that there are so many things we have that others do not. Relationships are often taken for granted.

        Take some time off. Contemplate.

        Realize that there are so many people around the world who would trade their right hand to be in your place. Making these simple lists above will help you realize what you really have.

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        Look at these lists when you feel down or unlucky in life.

        You will be amazed by the immense peace this realization brings.

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        How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

        How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

        You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.

        We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.

        The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.

        Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:

        1. Break Your Work into Little Steps

        Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.

        For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –

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        • (1) Research
        • (2) Deciding the topic
        • (3) Creating the outline
        • (4) Drafting the content
        • (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
        • (6) Revision
        • (7) etc.

        Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.

        2. Change Your Environment

        Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.

        One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.

        3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines

        Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.

        Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.

        My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.

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        Here’re more tips on setting deadlines: 22 Tips for Effective Deadlines

        4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops

        If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.

        Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.

        I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.

        5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action

        I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You

        Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.

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        As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.

        6. Get a Buddy

        Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.

        I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.

        7. Tell Others About Your Goals

        This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.

        For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.

        8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome

        What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.

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        9. Re-Clarify Your Goals

        If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.

        Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

        10. Stop Over-Complicating Things

        Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.

        Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.

        11. Get a Grip and Just Do It

        At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.

        Reality check:

        I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future.  Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.

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