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3 Simple Lists That Can Change Your Outlook On Life

3 Simple Lists That Can Change Your Outlook On Life

Life is busy, isn’t it? Pick up your pen and a notepad and get started with these 3 simple lists.

Watch how it transforms you!

1. List of things which you are grateful for

An example of a list you might make:

  • I have a very happy family. We can laugh together and be with each other through thick and thin.
  • My baby boy (or darling daughter) is the best thing in the world. I feel blessed to have my child in my life.
  • I look forward to doing my job every day.
  • My boss is really great.
  • I have financial stability in life. I don’t have to worry about money.
  • I have this possession which I particularly like – it’s my guitar (or my canvas stand, or my camera….). It lies away in a corner, but many-a-times it has saved me from emotional breakdown!
  • I have a loving wife (or husband). Few people are as happy as I am with my partner.
  • I am in touch with my parents.
  • I am usually inherently peaceful.
  • I had a good education.
  • I feel grateful for the presence of my aunt in my life. She was a friend to me throughout my childhood and made me what I am today.
  • I feel grateful for my high school Math teacher Mr. Francis. He helped shape me as a person.
  • I have a beautiful third-space where I can retire whenever I feel like, and get refreshed.
  • ……………………………….and so on.

There can be many more things in your list. Add them and elaborate!!

Spend a few minutes and make it as personal and detailed as you possibly can. When you answer something with a YES, just write one line as to how you satisfying it feels to have it in your life. You could write something like:

I feel blessed to have my daughter. The other day when I was back from the office, she hugged me and started complaining about everything under the sun. I felt like I had the world in my arms!

OR

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My boss is the best one that I could have hoped for! It’s such a relief after that old job of mine.

OR

Without my educational background, I would not be so well-settled by now.”

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    2. List of reasons why your partner is perfect for you

    Example of such a list (from a man’s point of view):

    • I love my wife. She is my woman! I could not live my life with anyone else.
    • We make up an awesome team! Where I lack, she steps ahead. Where she lacks, I compensate.
    • We have perfect intellectual compatibility. When I say something, she understands me.
    • We can laugh our heart out with everyone else watching us like mad people. Our sense of humor is perfectly compatible.
    • She is my wife, but she’s also as cute as my girl, and sometimes as dominating as a mother. I find a lot of personalities in her.
    • She is an independent woman. I respect her for her ethical strength.
    • I feel lucky to be loved by her. I have seen how relationships can reach a dead-end. That’s not the case with us.
    • I feel like she loves me even more than I love her.
    • We have complete faith in one another. Trust is one issue we never worry about.
    • She respects me for the person I am.
    • She is intelligent and very good at her job. She is appreciated by everyone at her work. I feel proud of her professionalism.
    • She has given me some very bright ideas about my decisions in life.
    • We travel like crazy and love every bit of it. That’s something which we look forward to doing every year.
    • We keep doing crazy stuff and it makes me feel younger! Last time, we decided to attempt a tough trek even though we had no experience!!
    • We are not bound by a responsibility. That’s something that came about naturally. It never felt like a burden to take care of her. Rather, I like it!
    • She is very broadminded.
    • ………………………………….and so on.

    Many of the above may be applicable to you whether you are a man or a woman, whether you are married or in a committed relationship, or living together for a while.

    Do not forget to elaborate on each point.

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    Simple lists

      3. List of people who are concerned about you

      Who thinks about you at least once every day?

      If you have one person on this list you are doing great! Most people have only one person. Anything more is fantastic!

      If you have more than three people in the world who think about you every day, you are a very lucky person!

      Why am I making these Simple Lists? Why spend time on such things?

      A man driving a Ferrari sees a chopper flying above, and wishes: “I should get myself one of those!

      The man driving a Chevy watches the Ferrari and wishes: “Hey, a fancy car! I could have that!

      A man on a motorcycle, passing by the Chevy, tells himself: “If I could buy a car, it would not be strenuous to ride to the office every day.

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      A young man on his bike watches the motorcycle and thinks: “That looks really cool!”

      A man working on a farm, walking his kid to school, watches the youth on the bike and thinks: “What if I had a bike for myself?

      Meanwhile, the pilot of that chopper looks down at the beautiful farm and thinks: “I wish I had a simple life where I could just walk my kid to school.”

      Simple lists to contemplate

        Life is often filled with complaints, filled with many things we want (small and big). There are hundreds of jobs we have to do every day and yet we do not get what we deserve. No matter how much they have, very few people are actually happy.

        Most of us run around every day forgetting that there are so many things we have that others do not. Relationships are often taken for granted.

        Take some time off. Contemplate.

        Realize that there are so many people around the world who would trade their right hand to be in your place. Making these simple lists above will help you realize what you really have.

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        Look at these lists when you feel down or unlucky in life.

        You will be amazed by the immense peace this realization brings.

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        Last Updated on September 28, 2020

        The Pros and Cons of Working from Home

        The Pros and Cons of Working from Home

        At the start of the year, if you had asked anyone if they could do their work from home, many would have said no. They would have cited the need for team meetings, a place to be able to sit down and get on with their work, the camaraderie of the office, and being able to meet customers and clients face to face.

        Almost ten months later, most of us have learned that we can do our work from home and in many ways, we have discovered working from home is a lot better than doing our work in a busy, bustling office environment where we are inundated with distractions and noise.

        One of the things the 2020 pandemic has reminded us is we humans are incredibly adaptable. It is one of the strengths of our kind. Yet we have been unknowingly practicing this for years. When we move house we go through enormous upheaval.

        When we change jobs, we not only change our work environment but we also change the surrounding people. Humans are adaptable and this adaptability gives us strength.

        So, what are the pros and cons of working from home? Below I will share some things I have discovered since I made the change to being predominantly a person who works from home.

        Pro #1: A More Relaxed Start to the Day

        This one I love. When I had to be at a place of work in the past, I would always set my alarm to give me just enough time to make coffee, take a shower, and change. Mornings always felt like a rush.

        Now, I can wake up a little later, make coffee and instead of rushing to get out of the door at a specific time, I can spend ten minutes writing in my journal, reviewing my plan for the day, and start the day in a more relaxed frame of mind.

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        When you start the day in a relaxed state, you begin more positively. You find you have more clarity and more focus and you are not wasting energy worrying about whether you will be late.

        Pro #2: More Quiet, Focused Time = Increased Productivity

        One of the biggest difficulties of working in an office is the noise and distractions. If a colleague or boss can see you sat at your desk, you are more approachable. It is easier for them to ask you questions or engage you in meaningless conversations.

        Working from home allows you to shut the door and get on with an hour or two of quiet focused work. If you close down your Slack and Email, you avoid the risk of being disturbed and it is amazing how much work you can get done.

        An experiment conducted in 2012 found that working from home increased a person’s productivity by 13%, and more recent studies also find significant increases in productivity.[1]

        When our productivity increases, the amount of time we need to perform our work decreases, and this means we can spend more time on activities that can bring us closer to our family and friends as well as improve our mental health.

        Pro #3: More Control Over Your Day

        Without bosses and colleagues watching over us all day, we have a lot more control over what we do. While some work will inevitably be more urgent than others, we still get a lot more choice about what we work on.

        We also get more control over where we work. I remember when working in an office, we were given a fixed workstation. Some of these workstations were pleasant with a lot of natural sunlight, but other areas were less pleasant. It was often the luck of the draw whether we find ourselves in a good place to work or not.

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        By working from home we can choose what work to work on and whether we want to face a window or not. We can get up and move to another place, and we can move from room to room. And if you have a garden, on nice days you could spend a few hours working outside.

        Pro #4: You Get to Choose Your Office Environment

        While many companies will provide you with a laptop or other equipment to do your work, others will give you an allowance to purchase your equipment. But with furniture such as your chair and desk, you have a lot of freedom.

        I have seen a lot of amazing home working spaces with wonderful sets up—better chairs, laptop stands that make working from a laptop much more ergonomic and therefore, better for your neck.

        You can also choose your wall art and the little nick-nacks on your desk or table. With all this freedom, you can create a very personal and excellent working environment that is a pleasure to work in. When you are happy doing your work, you will inevitably do better work.

        Con #1: We Move a Lot Less

        When we commute to a place of work, there is movement involved. Many people commute using public transport, which means walking to the bus stop or train station. Then, there is the movement at lunchtime when we go out to buy our lunch. Working in a place of work requires us to move more.

        Unfortunately, working from home naturally causes us to move less and this means we are not burning as many calories as we need to.

        Moving is essential to our health and if you are working from home you need to become much more aware of your movement. To ensure you are moving enough, make sure you take your lunch breaks. Get up from your desk and move. Go outside, if you can, and take a walk. And, of course, refrain from regular trips to the refrigerator.

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        Con #2: Less Human Interaction

        One of the nicest things about bringing a group of people together to work is the camaraderie and relationships that are built over time. Working from home takes us away from that human interaction and for many, this can cause a feeling of loss.

        Humans are a social species—we need to be with other people. Without that connection, we start to feel lonely and that can lead to mental health issues.

        Zoom and Microsoft Teams meeting cannot replace that interaction. Often, the interactions we get at our workplaces are spontaneous. But with video calls, there is nothing spontaneous—most of these calls are prearranged and that’s not spontaneous.

        This lack of spontaneous interaction can also reduce a team’s ability to develop creative solutions—there’s just something about a group of incredibly creative people coming together in a room to thrash out ideas together that lends itself to creativity.

        While video calls can be useful, they don’t match the connection between a group of people working on a solution together.

        Con #3: The Cost of Buying Home Office Equipment

        Not all companies are going to provide you with a nice allowance to buy expensive home office equipment. 100% remote companies such as Doist (the creators of Todoist and Twist) provide a $2,000 allowance to all their staff every two years to buy office equipment. Others are not so generous.

        This can prove to be expensive for many people to create their ideal work-from-home workspace. Many people must make do with what they already have, and that could mean unsuitable chairs that damage backs and necks.

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        For a future that will likely involve more flexible working arrangements, companies will need to support their staff in ways that will add additional costs to an already reduced bottom line.

        Con #4: Unique Distractions

        Not all people have the benefit of being able to afford childcare for young children, and this means they need to balance working and taking care of their kids.

        For many parents, being able to go to a workplace gives them time away from the noise and demands of a young family, so they could get on with their work. Working from home removes this and can make doing video calls almost impossible.

        To overcome this, where possible, you need to set some boundaries. I know this is not always possible, but it is something you need to try. You should do whatever you can to make sure you have some boundaries between your work life and home life.

        Final Thoughts

        Working from home can be hugely beneficial for many people, but it can also bring serious challenges to others.

        We are moving towards a new way of working. Therefore, companies need to look at both the pros and cons of working from home and be prepared to support their staff in making this transition. It will not be impossible, but a lot of thought will need to go into it.

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