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On Average People Can Only Withstand 25 Seconds Of Direct Questioning On Their Life Plans

On Average People Can Only Withstand 25 Seconds Of Direct Questioning On Their Life Plans

Picture those moments when you have been directly questioned about your life goals. You have a plan, you have a vivid idea in mind of where you are setting out to be, you are confident in your plan, and you are ready to proceed with determination.

But are there things you have forgotten? Are there parts of your plan, structural parts, that first need work, so that if, or when, you come into such lines of questioning, you can confidently withstand them and feel just as determined with the success of your idea afterward? There may be some reasons that we feel the pressure when confronted by questions of our life plans.

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Define your goals

Studies show that most people, when thinking about their goals or life plans, can only withstand a number of seconds of questioning before they trail off into evasiveness, silence, or mumbling self doubt. What this indicates is that there has not been a strong plan, or a strategy put in place to achieve their goals.

Studies also show that most times it is the question “How will you fund this idea?” or “Where will you find the money for this venture?” that unravels the confidence in the person’s idea. This is the point where, upon further thought, the realisation dawns that there needs to be a powerful strategic breakdown for the plan in order to achieve the goals. The problem here is that many people mistake goals for strategies, when they are not the same thing. In order to achieve our goals we first need to define them.

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Support your goals

We then need to find ways to support those goals. This is called strategy. Without this in place we cannot clearly understand the progress of our goals, or tweak them as is necessary on the journey to achieving them. When you differentiate between goal and strategy, you begin to understand that strategy is a form of problem solving. The problem being that we are trying to work out how to reach the goal.

Unfortunately, some people think that they have defined a good strategy, when really they are listing tactics and ideas for how the proposed goal will be met. However if these tactics are not strongly proactive in achievement, they are merely activities, and not strategies at all.

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A strategy needs to be a direct, firm plan of attack that can be carried out and tested along the way to ensure its success. Strategy is action. Further goals can then be added to the plan of attack to ensure that progress is made.

Succeed with your goals

Many people are also privy to social proof bias. This is when we enlist an idea, or continue down a certain route with an idea, because this is what other people think or do. We are contoured by the actions of others and how we think we should proceed, and so we might now know exactly what it is we want to achieve because we have automatically linked our ideas to those of others.

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Instead we should evaluate the plan based on our own ideas and desires. We should approach our goals with our own values in mind, and use a strategic system whilst using our own ideas to get the desired result we truly want. Use the ‘5 whys’ and continue to ask yourself why you want this, why this is your life plan, why you thought of it, why you will continue to endeavor with it, why you will succeed at it, personally and for your own good reasons.

Strip back the idea until you have found the root cause, the reason you wish to create both goal and strategy, and formulate your ideas surrounding this interrogation. Should you then be asked about your life goals, nobody will be able to shake your progress or fundamental idea.

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Last Updated on June 26, 2020

10 Things To Remember When Everything Goes Wrong

10 Things To Remember When Everything Goes Wrong

Problems and heartaches in life are inevitable. However, there are some things to remember when you’re right in the thick of it that can help you get through it. When everything seems to be going wrong, practice telling yourself these things.

1. This Too Shall Pass

Sometimes life’s rough patches feel like they’re going to last forever. Whether you’re dealing with work-related issues, family problems, or stressful situations, very few problems last for a lifetime. So remind yourself, that things won’t be this bad forever.

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2. Some Things are Going Right

When things are going wrong, it’s hard to recognize what is going right. It’s easy to screen out the good things and only focus on the bad things. Remind yourself that some things are going right. Purposely look for the positive, even if it is something very small.

3. I Have Some Control

One of the most most important things to remember is that you have some control of the situation. Even if you aren’t in complete control of the situation, one thing you can always control is your attitude and reaction. Focus on managing what is within your control.

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4. I Can Ask for Help

Asking for help can be hard sometimes. However, it’s one of the best ways to deal with tough situations. Tell people what you need specifically if they offer to help. Don’t be afraid to call on friends and family and ask them for help, whether you need financial assistance, emotional support, or practical help.

5. Much of This Won’t Matter in a Few Years

Most of the problems we worry about today won’t actually matter five years from now. Remind yourself that whatever is going wrong now is only a small percentage of your actual life. Even if you’re dealing with a major problem, like a loved one’s illness, remember that a lot of good things are likely to happen in the course of a year or two as well.

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6. I Can Handle This

A lack of confidence in handling tough times can add to stress. One of the best things to remember is that you can handle tough situations. Even though you might feel angry, hurt, disappointed, or sad, it won’t kill you. You can get through it.

7. Something Good Will Come Out of This

No matter how bad a situation is, it’s almost certain that something good will come out of it. At the very least, it’s likely that you will learn a life lesson. Perhaps you learn not to repeat the same mistake in the future or maybe you move on from a bad situation and find something better. Look for the one good thing that can result when bad things happen.

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8. I Can Accept What’s Out of my Control

There are many things that aren’t within your control. You can’t change the past, another person’s behavior, or a loved one’s health issues. Don’t waste time trying to force others to change or trying to make things be different if it isn’t within your control. Investing time and energy into trying to things you can’t will cause you to feel helpless and exhausted. Acceptance is one of the best way to establish resilience.

9. I Have Overcome Past Difficulties

One of the things to remember when you’re facing difficulties, is that you’ve handled problems in the past. Don’t overlook past difficulties that you’ve dealt with successfully. Remind yourself of all the past problems you’ve overcome and you’ll gain confidence in dealing with the current issues.

10. I Need to Take Care of Myself

When everything seems to be going wrong, take care of yourself. Get plenty of rest, get some exercise, eat healthy, and spend some time doing leisure activities. When you’re taking better care of yourself you’ll be better equipped to deal with your problems.

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