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On Average People Can Only Withstand 25 Seconds Of Direct Questioning On Their Life Plans

On Average People Can Only Withstand 25 Seconds Of Direct Questioning On Their Life Plans

Picture those moments when you have been directly questioned about your life goals. You have a plan, you have a vivid idea in mind of where you are setting out to be, you are confident in your plan, and you are ready to proceed with determination.

But are there things you have forgotten? Are there parts of your plan, structural parts, that first need work, so that if, or when, you come into such lines of questioning, you can confidently withstand them and feel just as determined with the success of your idea afterward? There may be some reasons that we feel the pressure when confronted by questions of our life plans.

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Define your goals

Studies show that most people, when thinking about their goals or life plans, can only withstand a number of seconds of questioning before they trail off into evasiveness, silence, or mumbling self doubt. What this indicates is that there has not been a strong plan, or a strategy put in place to achieve their goals.

Studies also show that most times it is the question “How will you fund this idea?” or “Where will you find the money for this venture?” that unravels the confidence in the person’s idea. This is the point where, upon further thought, the realisation dawns that there needs to be a powerful strategic breakdown for the plan in order to achieve the goals. The problem here is that many people mistake goals for strategies, when they are not the same thing. In order to achieve our goals we first need to define them.

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Support your goals

We then need to find ways to support those goals. This is called strategy. Without this in place we cannot clearly understand the progress of our goals, or tweak them as is necessary on the journey to achieving them. When you differentiate between goal and strategy, you begin to understand that strategy is a form of problem solving. The problem being that we are trying to work out how to reach the goal.

Unfortunately, some people think that they have defined a good strategy, when really they are listing tactics and ideas for how the proposed goal will be met. However if these tactics are not strongly proactive in achievement, they are merely activities, and not strategies at all.

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A strategy needs to be a direct, firm plan of attack that can be carried out and tested along the way to ensure its success. Strategy is action. Further goals can then be added to the plan of attack to ensure that progress is made.

Succeed with your goals

Many people are also privy to social proof bias. This is when we enlist an idea, or continue down a certain route with an idea, because this is what other people think or do. We are contoured by the actions of others and how we think we should proceed, and so we might now know exactly what it is we want to achieve because we have automatically linked our ideas to those of others.

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Instead we should evaluate the plan based on our own ideas and desires. We should approach our goals with our own values in mind, and use a strategic system whilst using our own ideas to get the desired result we truly want. Use the ‘5 whys’ and continue to ask yourself why you want this, why this is your life plan, why you thought of it, why you will continue to endeavor with it, why you will succeed at it, personally and for your own good reasons.

Strip back the idea until you have found the root cause, the reason you wish to create both goal and strategy, and formulate your ideas surrounding this interrogation. Should you then be asked about your life goals, nobody will be able to shake your progress or fundamental idea.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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